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csuitebitches · 11 months
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On Getting Rid of Your Inferiority Complex
You can take advice from everyone and every book you read, but no one can protect you proactively, unless you choose to protect yourself. Only you can do that for yourself. Your parents, friends, partner can support you emotionally but you need to stop relying so much on external validation.
When you’re making a choice that you know is going to be detrimental to your health, whether its physical, mental or emotional - such as going back to your ex, not taking the next steps for your career/ education - you need to think more about your (near) future self and make sure that she’s also comfortable. You need to think long term.
As we grow up, we often encounter situations that we’ve been in before to some degree, there’s somewhat a pattern to them. It’s time to start recognising them early and leave when you see the red flags waving.
By breaking your own word that you’ve made to yourself you’re making the inferiority complex worse. Because you’re showing to your subconscious mind that you don’t matter at all. Others do.
It could be something “small” such as going out clubbing with your friends because you couldn’t say no - and having an important presentation due the next day. It could be something “big” such as breaking off a difficult relationship, and still going back to them.
When we suffer from an inferiority complex, we idolise people around us and think they’re better than us in every way. We choose to see the best in them- just the way we choose to see the worst in ourselves.
At some point, we have had enough and decide to start improving ourselves. How do we do this? By improving ourselves in areas that you feel left out in.
Such as, seeing an influencer live your dream life. Now you’ll do everything you can to live like her because you think that once you achieve that, everything will be great. You try to improve in areas that have no direct relation to your inferiority complex.
You’ll try work on these things - while that can be in a way good because it’s alright to have a dream life and motivation for it, that doesn’t fix the inferiority issue.
Because the inferiority issue solely comes from lack of confidence and trust in yourself. Even if you get your ideal life like that influencer, that confidence won’t last long and you’ll find something else to panic about - you’ll compare yourself to your peers, or the anxiety of jobs after or the next shiny thing you want.
To actually combat inferiority issues you HAVE to build a connection with yourself. True confidence will only come when you connect with yourself with things that aren’t material things.
You need to cultivate a growth mindset and genuinely believe that you WILL get better with time, you WILL get smarter with time, you will improve your talent over time. You have to detach yourself from outcomes, whether positive or negative and just take it as life.
And this doesn’t happen overnight. It takes consistent effort to not feel fomo anymore or feel shitty.
You have to stop hesitating putting yourself first, putting your emotional needs first, standing up for yourself and saying a big fuck you to things that deserve it.
Not everything that you have today will be permanent in your life and that’s something you have to come to terms with.
But if your worth is fully dependent on other people, then you really need to sit down with yourself and start actually working on the relationship that matters the most - the one with yourself.
You’re intimidated by these influencers or the people who you want to be like, not because they wear designer bags, have cool outfits, vacations, boyfriends, girlfriends - but because they often have a very strong sense of identity.
They express what they like and don’t like. They don’t change themselves depending on the person in front of them. If there’s something they want, they go and get it. They pursue what makes them happy.
When do you plan on doing that for yourself?
So how do you do it?
You need to build a strong sense of self identity.
How? By dating yourself. Ask yourself questions that you would ask someone on a first date. What are your answers? These answers will not remain the same over time and they shouldn’t either. Here are some as a guide:
1. What do you like in general?
2. What do you dislike in general?
3. List all the things you like about yourself
4. List all the things you can improve about yourself
5. Where would you ideally want to be in 2 years?
6. What sort of a life do you wish you had right now?
Next step is continue dating yourself. Aim for one new experience a week. It doesn’t have to be major. It could be something simple such as a cooking a meal you’ve never made, solving crossword puzzles, trying to grow herbs, colouring books. With new experiences, you learn something about yourself, which allows you further build a connection with yourself. Literally date yourself.
Take care of yourself the way you would care for a partner. How do you want to be cared for? What makes you feel loved and appreciated? Show yourself the same things too.
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jaubaius · 1 year
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This is my hole, BITCH!
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angstflavoured · 9 months
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Inspired by @hanktalkin's fic Secure....
favourite thing currently is making fanart for fics without bothering to double check what positions they were in or what they were wearing LMAO
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officialscpfoundation · 2 months
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so I think one of the scps got out because there is some plague doctor on my lawn screaming that 'he is the cure' while holding a high heel, he looks mentally unstable and a bit deranged.
HE'S OUT AGAIN? Don't worry we'll bring him back with french cheese and wine just stay inside and don't be British.
Secure Contain Protect
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mymidwestheart · 4 months
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mrs-trophy-wife · 7 months
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“If you will stop looking where it isn't, and start feeling for it where it is, your doubt will go away.”
—Abraham Hicks
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glkr-xx · 3 months
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You deserve a love with no trauma attached to it
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poetrybyonur · 1 year
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Trust. It’s not just about telling the truth or not telling lies. It’s something much, much deeper than that. It’s being able to be comfortable with someone. It’s understanding and being understood. It means to have the certainty that a person will catch you if you fall, or that the person has your back even when you’re not there. It’s being able to give your heart and soul to someone knowing they will not break it. Trust is earned, not given freely. Once you have gained a person’s trust, don’t take that shit lightly. Because once it’s broken, it can never be mended.
An elfchen style poem I wrote around two years ago.
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My selfie game is too strong in my opinion … but I usually hate how I look 👀
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Embrace
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sweetm0ansblog · 1 year
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what do you MEAN the foundation has a tumblr presence
It's what most anomalies get revealed on, also great for recruitment
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My Father is Greater
My Father, who has given them to me, is greater than all, and no one is able to snatch them out of the Father’s hand. — John 10:29 | English Standard Version (ESV) The Holy Bible, English Standard Version. ESV® Text Edition: 2016. Copyright © 2001 by Crossway Bibles, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Cross References: John 10:28; John 10:30; John 14:28
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What does scp mean
SCP can mean different things, depending on the context. For example, in general it stands for Secure Contain Protect. However, in the case of documents, they may mean Special Containment Procedures.
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feralchaton · 6 months
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Insecure 'stirs up' muddying the water, making it difficult to see what is happening.
Secure 'does nothing' allowing things to settle in order to see things as they are, clearly.
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