Monday is for lovers. And loving oneself is the foundation for extending our love outward. 

Gender affirmation looks different for everyone based on what is accessible and available, safe, and personally affirming to the individual. There is no right or wrong way to affirm gender, and while you’re here...you may find yourself empowered to start your own journey to thrive as your authentic self. 

Here’s what we know...

Trans people experience an unfair burden to affirm their gender to society in order to be seen as real or valid. 

Today, we’re going to shut out the noise.

📿Mindful Mondays📿 with our host Avery for Gender Affirming Meditation at 8am ET

About the class

Trans and nonbinary gender expression is an offering of love to the universe within you, and all around you. You are so worthy of happiness! You’re allowed to be soft, to rest, and feel all the things, including the sweet ones. To be honest with what you need and want. Your happiness nourishes the collective! There’s room for everyone in the journey towards gender justice and freedom to embrace our full selves. Folks who identify as genderqueer, trans, enby, gender nonconforming, and allies too are warmly welcomed to this relaxing, affirming guided meditation to explore the boundless space beyond the binary. 

Meet Avery

Avery Kalapa (they, them) (@yogawithavery) is a yoga teacher, community weaver, and queer and trans wellness advocate; CIYT, eRYT500, YACEP, BFA, with 20 years experience. Avery’s approach is rooted in anti-oppression: yoga for inner healing and collective liberation.

They love creating affirming healing spaces that don’t require assimilation. Celebrated for their enthusiasm, accessibility, and depth of technique, their teaching reflects deep gratitude for the Iyengar Lineage. They offer a vast knowledge of integrative functional anatomy, stability, and embody a philosophy that empowers their students to experience tangible positive transformation in body, mind, and consciousness.

Avery is involved in various yoga equity projects. They’re also a gardener, artist, and parent. Avery is a white, queer, trans, nonbinary settler grateful to live on unceded Tiwa land in Albuquerque, NM.

don’t apologise for being yourself.

don’t apologise for when you are sad, when you’re angry or otherwise upset. don’t apologise for crying no matter if it’s sad or happy tears. don’t apologise for getting confused and needing more clarification. don’t apologise for not liking or very much liking what majority likes. don’t apologise for wanting to go down a different career path than what’s expected of you. don’t apologise for not wanting kids. don’t apologise for not liking dogs or cats or bunnies. don’t apologise for planning everything out or just going with the flow. don’t apologise for not wanting to get married or just be in a relationship in general. don’t apologise if your dream is to have the biggest, fanciest wedding of all time.

don’t apologise for laughing out loud, for snoring up a storm, for “smelling bad” after a workout, for not knowing how to cook pasta, for not liking chocolate, for daydreaming a lot, for wearing high pigtails in your 40s, for getting lip filler or breast implants, for not shaving, for not drinking alcohol or not liking parties… don’t apologise for fighting anxiety or depression. don’t apologise for dealing with hallucinations or intrusive thoughts. don’t apologise for your sexuality or gender identity, for who and how you love. don’t apologise for the colour of your skin or the culture you have. don’t apologise for your belief system, be it religious or spiritual, or non-existent. don’t apologise for being fat or skinny or mega muscular. don’t apologise for needing a wheel chair. don’t apologise for having dyslexia, dyscalculia, dyspraxia, or dysgraphia.

don’t apologise for being who you are. cause it’s okay being you. it’s okay to live as you. of course, do your best to apologise when you hurt someone or if you’ve cause trouble somewhere like at home, at work. or in a friend group. educate yourself on different matters. keep growing as a person. but don’t apologise for being that very person, who’s still learning, realising and growing. ‘cause we all are.. nobody has reached the end station of know-it-all.

it’s okay to be you!

I always spread lots of positivity that you will succeed at what you’re trying to do, and that’s because it’s important to be positive and proved to help performance.

However, I want to remind you that if you failed it’s ok. If you had a dream, a goal, an idea and it didn’t work out? That’s okay. I am so proud of you for trying. You are not a failure. You are not lesser for failing at something. You are going to be okay.

With you, I want dreams I’ve never wanted with anyone before.

Its okay if you're unhappy with a decison you made yourself. That you're the one who made it, doesnt mean you can't be unhappy with it.

me: save money bc the twins will be here before we know it and it’s christmas time and bc you’re an adult with lots of debt

also me: princess, it’s monday and your growing belly hurts and you slept really well so keep it going you deserve this hot chocolate, babe

Thought of the Day

Imagine: You have 86,400 Dollar in your account every day.

Every day and each Cent at your disposal.

You can spend it completely.

And that's what you have to do.

Because at the end of the day everything is gone.

What would you do?

Would you spend this capital on things that harm you, burden you, cause you anger and disappointment?

Certainly not!

Now remember: You have 86,400 seconds of time each and every day.

Use them wisely.

Use them so that they are not lost.

Don't waste your life time on things or people that aren't worth it.

Always remember: Lifetime is precious time. Unique. It's not coming back.

Never.

Do you ever feel the need to ask someone if they actually still want you in their life because it always feels like they don’t really care?

Swimming takes a lot of energy, learn to float and your energy will be saved.

(❁´◡`❁) 6 DECEMEBER 2021

It's freezing outside , and it's raining here for almost 2 days now , the weather is gloomy and to be honest i dont feel like studying but i have classes to attend :) {unfortunately} . Usually in this type of weather , you want to chill and relax , watch movies or documentaries , make yourself cozy :,) but for me ......... its not possible ....................

TODAY'S GOALS ARE : 1. Attend my classes

2. make notes of biology

3. revise chemistry

4. complete organic chemistry backlog (>︿<)

Love u

Having a self care day today 💕(drink water)

It’s so painful to say goodbye to someone you don’t want to let go, but more painful to ask someone to stay when you know they want to leave.