#self care isnt selfish

[ducklikewitch]

For my fellow #tarotnerds. A self-love spread for July

#witchblr #baby witch #i love you #cottage witch #green witch #cottagecore #witch magic #cozyvibes #note taking #witch stuff #tarot cards #tarot #tarot community #tarotblr #divination #divination witch #oracle cards #divining #self love #self care isnt selfish

[beelzebby]

Getting some much needed pampering in, massage yesterday, mani-pedi today, tattoo tomorrow, and then haircut and wax on Saturday ~

#self care isnt selfish #spa day #self care #tattoos #nails #manipedi #manicure

[readychilledwine]

✨️Liz Life Update✨️

I'm in a little bit of a funk right now as we are adjusting medication for PPD/A related things with my job becoming a bigger factor in my mental health than we imagined. Ya girl was made for the days when single job incomes could easily sustain a household, and women were able to make the choice between working and being a stay at home mom.

I'm trying to get through editing because I love you all and want to post, but right now, I'm needing a little more love and care from baby daddy and my family than we expected for how well things were going. We're taking a little mini vacation with our Sophia and my parents this weekend to see if getting into nature helps.

Thank you for staying through my struggle. I promise I'm trying to get better 💕

#elizabeths.updates #self care isnt selfish and im trying to learn that.

[zer0point5ive]

adam who knows the door is wide open, knows he could leave at any point, knows that lawrence wouldn’t stop him, couldn’t stop him and yet. and yet .. adam who looks at the fresh crimson stain on lawrence’s shirt collar, the red beneath his nails he hasn’t quite managed to scrub away yet and wonders if there’s any universe in which he’d run to the cops, to anyone. adam who knows there isn’t. lawrence wouldn’t stop him but adam wouldn’t run. adam who despises everything jigsaw stands for, tells lawrence as much, tells lawrence that he’s gonna be the first to dance on that bastards grave when he finally kicks it but who still stays with lawrence. despite it all. because he’s lawrence, because he’s adam’s. because they’re so inextricably intertwined that not having lawrence around now would kill him as surely as reaching inside and pulling out his own beating heart. he’s everywhere and he’s everything, living in the spaces between adam’s ribs and wrapped around his brain like a live wire. running would be suicide and besides, adam’s not gonna let him go, can’t. not now. adam who would absolve lawrence of just about anything as long as he’s by his side, as long as he keeps coming back, as long as he switches the light on when he gets home and cups adam’s face oh so gently in bloodstained hands

#lawrence who wishes he would. just a little #lawrence who looks at the smear of blood he leaves on adams cheekbone and asks why #adam who just shrugs and says ‘because’ which is simultaneously not enough & too much #youll never recover from that kind of devotion or whatever man who even cares. sound of me crying #thinking about codependent chainshipping in a way that feels like digging my own grave #i need to walk around for awhile #sorry adam being given a flashing neon sign that says exit here nd choosing to ignore it because lawrence isnt on the other side oh i am #Soo normal #its about being selfish in the most self destructive way possible #how can i make this about dog adam devoted to the point of no return #nevermind i already did apparently #chainshipping #adam faulkner stanheight #lawrence gordon #📹

[pienhime]

autistic people are expected to just... stop having symptoms For The Greater Good™️ all the time and get treated like bigots and warmongers if they dont magically stop being disabled to further a cause. some autistic people can do some things, some people cant do those so they do other things to help instead. but its considered "good" and "morally correct" in leftist circles online to harass MENTALLY DISABLED PEOPLE for not simply no longer dealing with what comes along w their disability when it damages others. sorry, not sorry but ill do everything that i can to support causes i care about, and the operative part of that statement is "THAT I CAN". other autistic ppl can do without their safe foods? great, i cant. other autistic people are good at taking social queues and understanding how to discuss sensitive topics? cool, most of us cant. weve become so "uwu are u also neurodivergent uwu?? heres my hyperfixationstimmingspecialinterestoverstimulationcore pronoun set!! self diagnosis from tiktok is valid" that weve forgotten autism is a serious mental disability that prevents most of us from working and lots of us from ever living on our own. get ur head out of ur ass and eat a bag of razor blades if you think disabled people owe you death and suffering. we are doing what we can.

#this is about multiple situations going on rn #people will hear a mentally disabled persone xpress that they cant contribute in one way #and ask how they can help in others #and be called selfish and told to kill themselves #'its easy to boycott XYZ' #'its easy to be more sensitive about xyz' #to YOU. #i have a real and serious mental disability that prevents me from basic functioning #when autistic people ask for understanding we dont mean #'self identify as neurospicy uwu because u have anxiety' #or 'use tone tags in ur memes and scream at people with puzzle piece liscense plates' #we mean understand that we are disabled #and that we cannot do what you can. #my inability to support causes i care about in the same ways as you doesnt negate that im human #a disabled person not being able to protest as hard as you isnt an invitation to preach borderline eugenics

[clownprince]

Mfw I have my heart set on addressing Joker's aspd in this fic but the entire field of psychology is so horrifically ableist against cluster b personality disorders there are next to no resources on what aspd recovery looks like because the general consensus is that it isn't possible

#girl help #ofc I had to choose aspd and cptsd. one disorder that's so ridiculously stigmatized and another that's so new it isnt recognized in the dsm #am I partially motivated to write this purely to spite the idea that aspd is untreatable? perhaps #but also bc I want to see joker get better but in a way that doesn't force him into neurotypicality #throwing cptsd at him purely for selfish reasons (i <3 projecting on fictional characters) #the entire premise of this fic is so self indulgent NDHJFJFJ #it's literally just an excuse to combine my two biggest hyperfixations 😭 #but hey! I have a very specific Vision for what recovery could look like for joker and bats #and I haven't found a fic that caters to that niche (understandably$ #so I am being forced to take matters into my own hands. be the change you want to see in the world god bless #also cptsd recovery is like notoriously brutal and I want to put joker through that <3 #I want to see him crying his little heart out on the bathroom floor #he has bpd too btw. if you even care

[softly-mossy]

life really fucking sucks right now

#teddy situation has undone probably a year of recovering haha i fuckig hate landlords #basically told us we need to get rid of ted because 'he is a liability' #THE DAY BEFOREBTHANKSGIVING #and i was expected to be chipper and happy at family dinner. #naw man. i havent really left the house because i wana spend time with ted hahahaha #he's going to live at my sister's place but still. i dont want him to have to go #selfharmed as in nearly scraped the skin off the entire back of my left hand #WAS HIT WITH 'I HONESTLY FIGURED/EXPECTED YOU TO (SELF HARM' LIKE DAMN HAHA #idk. i want to be hit by a fucking car. or anything else that will blast me away. #had another prospective friend end up being just a dumbfuck that wanted an easy lay #dad's been home all week #its just a lot man. and losing all that progress i worked hard for its another kick to the teeth #and its like. why should i go see my therapist again. im gonna tell her whats wrong. im gonna cry. she oretends to care. i come home #i just dont want to be here anymore. i dont. i keep hoping for things to get better because thats what im told to do and things get worse #i cannot live the rest of my life like this. im allowed to be selfish and say it isnt fair to me. and nobody should be stucj dealing with me #im not gonna have a happy ending like all my friends did. im gonna be lonely and suicidal until i finally get thr balls to just fucking doit #local idiot sad

[crowdsourcedloner]

How does your OC/WoL deal with burnout?

Nailah deals with burnout the same way she does most personal problems: either by pushing on until it blows up in her face or running off into the wilderness to cool off. She trends towards the former more often than not, especially when she's caught up in Warrior of Light business.

When she's forced to address it, she still falls back on running off to be alone. She'll drift in a lake for a while or make a secluded camp to stargaze and decompress. But she won't be happy about it.

#answered asks #thank you for the ask! #oc: hrothwol #she sees her own self care as selfishness so she's a dweeb about it #she *eventually* gets a little better about it but its a sticking point for most of the story #and any self care that isnt 'run away and hide' needs time to grow on her

[lavendorii]

I cannot make it clear enough that I really dont like getting pointless messages like "hello" or small talk like... like cut to the chase and if there isnt one then I dont really want to participate because I don't like talking to people when theres no substance

#this sounds mean i know. i also don't care at all #I'm not a very social person and i don't want to talk to people unless its actually about something #i like talking to people but not when its vapid inconsequential nothingness that i will never remember happens #like im... not getting anything out of this. it isnt fun to me. and i just think expecting someone to continue an interaction that they #aren't enjoying and is interely inconsequential is selfish #idk #im very autistic and very self sufficient #txt #personal

[readychilledwine]

I am in a different funk myself and I know you know this but do take your time. In case you needed to hear that from someone else. We will be here when you return ❤️

Life is so difficult, and carving out time for self care can be rough. I hope you find what you are needing in time, too anon!

#elizabeths.updates #send asks #send anons #self care isnt selfish and im trying to learn that.

[modernghostfare]

this is fr why i love shepherd so much he is so unabashedly a horrible guy. as a horrible person, i like when people are horrible to others

#*this is not self derogatory this isnt like :( im bad its just true statement i try my best to be nice and accommodating to my friends #/others but explicitly i am human and im very selfish at that. so i like the freeing aspect of shepherd being so fucking garbage that with #him i would no longer have to care about any sort of social pretense i could just do whatever to him with no guilt.

[astrozuya]

☆ GOOD NIGHT — kang taehyun.

✦ content‎: ‎taehyun x gn!reader. fluff. 0.5k wc. summary: to you, home is kang taehyun. you don't see that ever changing.

you blink sleepily and open your eyes, warm and surrounded by soft blankets, your head resting comfortably on someone's chest.

you look up, and even in your dazed state you instantly know it's taehyun. he's more familiar to you than your own reflection, and even in the dimness of the room you know it's him, because you'd never feel this safe with anyone else.

the contentment and relief of having him with you gives way to frustration when you realise he's in the same position he was a few hours ago, when you first drifted off to sleep cuddled close to him.

"tyun," you whine, your voice a little hoarse from disuse. "i said i was fine, you didn't have to stay—"

"angel, you're sick." he sounds affronted at the very idea of leaving you alone, and you can make out a slight frown on his face through the dim, hazy illumination of the night light. "there's no way i'm leaving your side until morning."

you frown too, not backing down. "have you even moved since i went to sleep?"

"i have, don't worry." he places a bookmark into the paperback in his hands, before setting it down on the nightstand and taking off his glasses.

he carefully arranges the covers around you, making sure you're warm and comfortably tucked in, then places a hand gently against your cheek. "you're still running hotter than normal, you need rest."

"you're silly," you mumble. "i said 'm fine.. it's just a fever."

"i'm still gonna stay right here, sweetheart." his hand finds its way to your head and he strokes your hair gently, smiling when you relax and nuzzle into his touch.

"i just… don't want you to force yourself to be here." your words come out as a mumble, and taehyun frowns again.

"it's okay to be taken care of, y/n. i love taking care of you, baby, so please, let me be selfish and look after you for as long as i want."

"and how long would that be?"

he laughs softly. "who's silly now? forever, of course."

you feel tears prick at your eyes and quickly blink them away, blaming your sensitivity on your unwell state. taehyun is nothing short of perfect, and you know that, you've always known that, but his overwhelming tenderness still manages to take your breath away sometimes.

you hide your face in his chest and he wraps an arm around you, pulling you closer as he presses a kiss to your head.

"i'll make you some soup when you wake up, okay?"

you nod wordlessly, the exhaustion finally hitting your body, and cuddle closer to him, relishing in the warmth of his body and the safety of his presence as you let your eyes drift shut.

taehyun plays with your hair, adoration etched onto his features as he watches you fall asleep. the last thing you remember before sleep takes you is his whispered promise: "rest up and go to sleep, my darling. i'll be right here when you wake up. i love you."

notes: sick and twisted that i'm unwell but don't have a tyun to cuddle me rn ㅠ ㅠ when will the horrors end.. anyways this is painfully self indulgent but idc anymore cringe isnt real. i hope this was ok :)

#taehyun x reader #txt x reader #taehyun x male reader #taehyun x gn reader #txt x gn reader #txt x male reader #taehyun fluff #txt fluff #taehyun scenarios #taehyun soft hours #txt soft hours #txt soft thoughts #txt imagines #txt fanfic #taehyun imagines

[whomst-the-hell]

i have so many thoughts abt colin provolone gradually turning out to be a hero despite it all because it irrevocably changed the feeling of the campaign, at least to me. imo, if all the scrumptious scoundrels had been morally bankrupt and self serving to the end, it would have just been tone. if everything is bad, then really nothing is. karna kills without remorse for her own gain, deli is ambitious above all else, raphaniel is a fucked up little freak, and even amangeux, who is ostensibly the most sympathetic and the most compassionate, cares more for the few than the many. at least to me, these traits would all have had net zero moral impact because its sort of what i expected, based on the setting and the source material. but colin broke all that by being kind, by doing what he could for the banana kid and by leaving deli and by doubling back and by dedicating the rest of his life to tracking down the sanctus putris and destroying this small piece of evil from an overwhelmingly evil world. suddenly there was this strange bright spot in the narrative and suddenly everyone else was so very dark. before ep4 some part of me kind of thought that, in a lot of ways, the characters were doomed by the nature of their story — the setting, the tone, the fact that its a prequel. so many characters were dead from the beginning. destiny has been designed. — and because of that the main characters almost didnt have a choice but to be cruel. they had to be selfish and violent. its what the story demanded. and then it was kind of like colin fucking provolone looked at the camera and said fuck that, i choose to be kind in whatever way i can, i choose to help in whatever way i can, i choose to atone in whatever way i can. and i sort of felt like yelling ‘have you all been able to do that this whole goddamn time?’

also theres something abt the fact that his secret, the thing that brought him into this narrative, the reason that he is there at all, isnt even really about him. he says it himself -‘i dont think i even really did anything’. everyone else is being blackmailed by the skeletons in their closets. their own actions. karna killed the spymaster, raphaniel poisoned the king, amangeux had a bastard child then killed the father, deli was trying to fuck his aunt. truthfully, i dont think any of these things (except maybe raphaniel’s) make them bad people (karna and deli were both literal children, and amangeux was grieving then trying to protect her baby) but they are still Main Character Moments. colin provolone was just some guy, who had the misfortune of being born a fontina. and then he killed a god.

#the ravening war #colin provolone #can you tell that he was my favourite? #dimension 20 #d20 #honestly this is mostly me taking notes for future reference bc it felt so impactful

[ragingbullmode]

lol the improvement in art im seeing in just a few days of getting used to using my tablet again aaa

my dwarf killian !! shes actually a lotr oc but shes dungeoning for now LOL

shes very self-concious about her 'plain' looks & prefers to keep to herself. her shyness & top priority of keeping her private life to herself makes her come off as boring, careless, & rude (even though her private life is also quite plain... she enjoys reading romance stories & honing her swordsmanship.) she decided to begin dungeoning to try & bring more excitement into her life + prove she isnt some boring selfish dwarf (and also maybe find the love of her life lol)

before meeting their party, she was down in the dungeon looking for better weapons & ran into taipan down a corridor while they were in the midst of killing bounty hunters on the 3rd level. she was able to prove she didnt care about their reasons for being in the dungeon by killing a hunter that had managed to get grensalt up to the 2nd level (she initially joined out of pity & figuring shed leave once gren died but was impressed with his will to live & skill... they also became very fast friends)

she has a silly crush on namari that she doesnt intend to take any further (in a 'their cute but i have 0 interest in making it a reality bc its just for fun' kinda way), but has a very big (secret) crush on chilchucks daughter meijack that shes too scared to act upon bc 1) she feels mei is far out of her league & 2) chilchuck intimidates her but she cant place why... he just does lol

#my art #ocs #sorry for sm oc posting im on day 3 of 6 days in a row of working & i havent had the energy to put my brain power into reading manga lol...

[trannydurden]

this tag fucked with me. "some doms are just maiming people." Such a genuinely haunting sentence.

serious question for sadists in the room; you know the goal isnt to induce lasting damage right? you know how selfish and irresponsible that is, right?

i think there is a line we walk. its invisible, and the only navigation you have for it is our own morals.

this line is the only thing that seperates your average bdsm hobbyist from people like the toybox killer. that line is empathy.

to unempathetically beat, maim, scar someone is to do so without a purpose or a reason. it is a never ending spiral of insecurity, self doubt, and anger. to engage in sadism without caring about how your partner feels, even in the back of your mind, is irresponsible. the goal is not domination, pain, or fear. the goal is a simulacrum of these things. it is a preformance. The goal is self control.

knowing how far is exactly far enough for a sub. how far is too far. how to maximize the fear while minimizing actual damage. its hard, enduring work and it takes a lot of communication and prep beforehand.

neglecting that preparation is one of the worst things you can do.

this community has no space for legitimate predators. for people who actually want to, unthinkingly, cause harm and dont care at all to pick up the pieces afterwards. that is abuse. NOT KINK.