Toxic Red Flags you do, to yourself. Aka; Self Destructive Behaviours
(FYI, I've done some of these myself. Again, I'm not perfect)
Pushing people away
Pushing your friends away
Pushing your own family away
Thinking you DON'T deserve love
Thinking you are a burden to everyone
Controlling other people; what they wear, how they talk, what friends they can have and even what relationships they have
Extremely independent; refusing help (even tho, you really need it), thinking you can do everything on your own
Keep making the same mistakes BUT NEVER learning from them
Blaming your behaviour onto someone else
Blaming your condition on your actions
Lying to therapists
Lying to your friends
Lying to your family
Having double standards
Ignoring your basic needs (i.e, brushing teeth, eating good, not taking a shower/bath once a week, brushing your hair etc)
Being a people pleaser, so you avoid conflict
You expect everyone to respect your boundaries, BUT you NEVER respect someone else's boundaries (same as, double standards)
Talking about your mental health is okay BUT it's bad when someone else is talking about theirs (same as, double standards)
Trauma dumping
Everything is a trauma, including an embarrassing story that you could laugh at years down the line (example; a haircut YOU wanted, ISN'T a trauma story).
NOT accepting consent
Blocking people with no warning (same as pushing people away)
Ignoring everyone around you
Making everyone happy BUT NEVER making yourself happy
Causing arguments
Fighting and having outbursts (this can hurt people. Emotionally and physically)
Thinking you deserve less than
Self medicated (i.e; alcohol use, taking too much medicine than what your doctor prescribed, taking drugs. Weed and CBD DOESN'T count)
Attacking the ones that you love (since you CAN'T express how you feel)
Causing drama in your friendship group
Causing drama in your family
Everything has to be evolved around you
You CAN'T say "no" (same as being a people pleaser and avoiding conflict)
Being childish and and acting in a child like manner
Keeping secrets, so you're worried of back lash
Self harm
Eating too much
Eating too little
Comfort eating
Restricting your diet
Thinking you DON'T deserve food
Thinking you DON'T deserve warmth
Thinking you DON'T deserve comfort
Locking yourself away from everyone around you
Keep putting yourself into dangerous situations
Gossiping about your friends BUT the minute your friend gossips about you, you're annoyed (same as double standards)
Giving advice BUT the minute someone gives you advise, you're annoyed (same as double standards)
Having a secret life that no one knows about
Keep dating abusive people and wondering where are going wrong
Having a rude tone to people BUT when someone is being rude to you, you're annoyed (same as double standards)
Falling out with everyone
Having that mentality where you think you are always the victim and you NEVER did anything wrong
Thinking you are perfect in everyway (NO ONE is perfect)
Thinking you CAN'T make mistakes
Telling someone's secrets to people BUT the minute when someone tells your secret, you're annoyed (same as double standards)
Putting blame on abuse survivors, thinking it's their fault.
When you judge someone's interests or hobbies it's okay BUT when someone judges your interests and hobbies, you get annoyed (same as, double standards)
When you vent to someone that's okay BUT when someone vents to you, you get annoyed or get 'triggered' (same as double standards)
It's okay for you to be annoyed at them BUT when someone is annoyed at you it's 'triggering you' (same as double standards)
It's okay when you make jokes at other people BUT when someone does it to you, you get 'triggered' (same as double standards. Example; Will Smith's wife, she's fine joking about her bald head but when someone does it back, oh no you can't do that. Again, it's that double standard)
Kink shaming
Thinking you are smarter than they are
Ignoring a situation and thinking it will all go away
Ghosting someone
NOT acknowledging that you're NOT doing okay and pretending to be okay
Hiding your true feelings
Being a door mat for everyone
NEVER voicing voicing your opinions (same as, being a people pleaser and avoiding conflict)
You force yourself to stay quiet in different situations (same as avoiding conflict. Example; someone is being rude to you and you stay quiet and just nod)
Putting someone down because they don't have the same qualifications as you
Gaslighting someone and putting them down (that's straight up bullying)
You preach about your religion BUT when someone has a different religion to you and they preach that to you... You get annoyed (same as, double standards)
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