One thing that most people don't know (or ignore) is that self care isn't just bubble baths and cute cupcakes. It isn't face masks and rom coms with a glass of wine.
Most of the time self care is forcing yourself to eat and drink water. Sitting through class with your phone off because an abusive ex keeps trying to contact you. Self care is working out (reasonably) and eating fruits and vegetables sometimes. Self care is crying on the bathroom floor too weak to stand and still getting up the next day.
Self care is keeping in touch with friends and family that care. Self care is listening to happy music when the world is going to shit. Self care is trying your best even when your best is maybe 1% because you know you'll get better.
Self care is loving yourself through the pain and the suffering. Self care taking care of yourself. Which is extremely hard. But we make progress. And we fall backwards. Sometimes all the way back down. Self care is putting that bottle down. The pills. The smokes. Self care is putting the needs of your body and mind first. It's picking yourself up and giving yourself hope. Which is so hard. Trust me I know.
And it never ends. There will never be a point in your life where everything is perfect and life is amazing. But you have to be there for yourself. Be there with bandages and water and aloe and a whole first aid kit. But you'll heal and get better and that is sometimes the only thing you have and that's ok. Go ahead and cry and scream and be angry but then when you have it out, look at yourself and focus on you.
You have this. You are amazing. Beautiful. Strong. You are inspirational and worth so much more. I promise. Just another hour. Just another 10 minutes. Just another day. We got this!!
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You’re most powerful when you honor your own rhythm. If your circadian rhythm is nocturnal, don’t follow those “waking up at 4 am changed my life” routines because they’re not for you. If you function best when you focus on a single task, single job, single goal, then working half a dozen sidehustles may not be for you. Honor your own rhythm, work with it instead of against it, and you will achieve so much more than if you blindly follow what’s considered “correct” by social conventions of the time.
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Things that did wonders for my mental health:
having enough sleep and a fixed sleeping and waking time ( at least on the weekdays)
starting my day with gratitude (things to be grateful for: being alive, having a body, a mind, a soul, health, family, friends, food and water, safety, a roof over your head, your education, your job, your free time... seriously there is so much to be grateful for) and praying for my family’s wellbeing
any type of movement - it can be as light or as intense as you’d like it to be: stretch in bed, hop on your yoga mat, go for a walk, go to the gym...
showering = instant rebirth
diligently doing your skincare routine
nourishing your body. no counting calories/ no restricting. feeding your body all the nutrients it needs to function
making a to-do list in the morning
journaling at night
reading before bed
doing a monthly habit tracker
having enough time to get ready in the morning and not rushing
checking in with your loved ones weekly
listening to podcasts - especially motivational and uplifting ones
learning something new everyday - never underestimate the power of those 4- 8 minutes educational videos on youtube
allowing myself to make mistakes
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