Whatever i'm doing 5 years from now, i just hope i'm happy. 🌼
I'm not sure if this will come out right but:
Being loved is NOT a reward for being beneficial or useful in any way. You don't become less deserving of being loved if you aren't productive for a day or if you have a bad day and can't get out of bed.
I promise. Being loved has nothing to do with how you "help" the world or those around you.
Things that did wonders for my mental health:
having enough sleep and a fixed sleeping and waking time ( at least on the weekdays)
starting my day with gratitude (things to be grateful for: being alive, having a body, a mind, a soul, health, family, friends, food and water, safety, a roof over your head, your education, your job, your free time... seriously there is so much to be grateful for) and praying for my family’s wellbeing
any type of movement - it can be as light or as intense as you’d like it to be: stretch in bed, hop on your yoga mat, go for a walk, go to the gym...
showering = instant rebirth
diligently doing your skincare routine
nourishing your body. no counting calories/ no restricting. feeding your body all the nutrients it needs to function
making a to-do list in the morning
journaling at night
reading before bed
doing a monthly habit tracker
having enough time to get ready in the morning and not rushing
checking in with your loved ones weekly
listening to podcasts - especially motivational and uplifting ones
learning something new everyday - never underestimate the power of those 4- 8 minutes educational videos on youtube
allowing myself to make mistakes
You’re most powerful when you honor your own rhythm. If your circadian rhythm is nocturnal, don’t follow those “waking up at 4 am changed my life” routines because they’re not for you. If you function best when you focus on a single task, single job, single goal, then working half a dozen sidehustles may not be for you. Honor your own rhythm, work with it instead of against it, and you will achieve so much more than if you blindly follow what’s considered “correct” by social conventions of the time.
Set Aside 6 Months
Set aside 6 months for you. Let me tell ya, focusing and working on yourself is so addictinggg! Cooking yourself nourishing meals, doing things outside of your comfort zone, learning, spending time alone, doing the hobbies you enjoy, finding new hobbies you enjoy, meditating, celebrating your body by moving it in some way daily, taking yourself out on dates, self care, re-parenting yourself, allll of it!
Ever since I embarked on this journey I have grown so much and am so proud of myself! All of my friends are telling me I’m glowing, I’m 1000x more confident, I’m 10x hotter - mentally and physically, I’m setting boundaries and not taking any sh*t, immediately leaving when my needs aren’t being met, let me tell you this journey overall feels so good!!
There are of course times where it doesn’t feel so good because when you elevate, whoo chile let me tell you, the mess comes out. People you thought would be in your life forever leave because you’re vibrating on different frequencies, it gets lonely because you’re setting boundaries and not settling for less, you meet people who bring out darker sides of you in order to heal but trust when I say it is always for your higher good and it is so worth it.
Ladies, the best thing we can do for ourselves is embark on a journey of self care and self love. It will be the best decision you’ve ever made. Set aside at least 6 months for just YOU. Where all you do is focus on yourself and your journey. Whatever that means for you!
Love and being in a relationship is great but if you don’t have a solid foundation within yourself, any connection you try to build will eventually fall because half of the foundation isn’t stable. But don’t do this just for love, do this for you.
The longest relationship we will ever have is with ourselves. The longest home we’ll ever live in is our body.