#sex favorable

[redysetdare]

I need you guys to realize that "Favorable Aspecs tend to get ostracized from parts of the aspec community because of their favorability towards romance and sex making people claim that they are not really aspec." and "Repulsed Aspecs tend to get ostracised from parts of the aspec community because they are often conflated with being romance/sex negative and tend to get thrown under the bus when fighting against aphobic talking points" can COEXIST. one does NOT cancel out the other. both Favorable and Repulsed aspecs have their own troubles in and out of the community.

saying "nooo Favorable people can't be hurting repulsed people because it's actually repulsed people hurting favorable people" is just very black and white thinking and pretty naive. We can talk about how some Repulsed people attack favorable people and how some Favorable people attack repulsed people. like it's allowed for them both to be talked about. one existing doesn't mean the other magically doesn't exist. situations are more complex than there being one good side and one bad side. it's usually a mix of good and bad people on both sides and we need to understand that if we want any progress to be made. if we ignore one sides pain then we fix nothing.

#text #aspec #ace #aro #asexual #aromantic #aroace #sex repulsed #romance repulsed #sex favorable #romance favorable #acespec #arospec

[asphyxiatedredherring]

Hey, just so you know, it's ok for your feelings to fluctuate. It's ok to be sex or romance repulsed one day and not the next. It's ok to be indifferent one day and favorable the next. It's ok it you think you're sex repulsed and then realize maybe you're sex adverse. It's ok to be romance indifferent one moment and adverse the next. It's ok. Your experiences are valid.

#aspec #arospec #acespec #aromantic #asexual #ace #aro #aroace #sex repulsed #sex adverse #sex indifferent #sex favorable #romance repulsed #romance indifferent #romance favorable #romance adverse #aro positivity #ace positivity #lgbtq #pride #queerness

[positively-bi]

I want to talk about being aroallo for a little bit. Before I start, I want to make it abundently clear that there's nothing wrong with sex that doesn't involve emotional intimacy. There's nothing wrong with one-night-stands. There's nothing wrong with sex with strangers you're never gonna see again.

However, I guess I'm just feeling kind of bummed about how romantic love seems to be the only kind of love people are capable of associating with sex. Like either you're having no strings attached casual sex or you're having romantic sex and there's no inbetween which just isn't true for me. I lost my virginity to my best friend and it was deeply emotionally intimate and wonderful and I felt very close to them but it wasn't romantic. I'm aromantic. I care immensely about them but as a friend. The way I care about them affected the sex we had. It was emotional, it was personal, it was intimate. None of that is negated by the fact it wasn't romantic. I just wish this was talked about more idk.

Anyway, sorry if this was a bit rambling, I've just been thinking. Aroallos, you're incredible and awesome. Everybody else, go give your local aroallo £5

#/j on the £5 thing... unless?? #aromantic #aroallo #alloaro #aro bi #bi aro #aro pride #aromantic pride #aro #arospec #sex positivity #sex positive #sex favorable #lgbt #lgbtq #pride #lgbt+ #lgbt pride #aromantic positivity #aro positivity

[convolutedblasphemy]

Okay we're gonna try and settle this

Because I've seen so many people try and speak for the entirety of the ace community in regards to this discourse, I thought why not make a poll just to gauge out the general opinion

Disclaimer: This poll might not turn out entirely accurate given that there's always a possibility some people won't answer truthfully or throw this poll into an echo chamber with people who agree with them.

Disclaimer 2: I'm leaving reblogs open because I want the poll to reach more people but please for the love of god don't start a fight in the notes.

About Option 3: The distinction here is that you're fine with people portraying an asexual / aromantic character as anywhere on the ace / aro spectrum as long as they actually put in the effort to portray a sex-favorable ace or a romance-favorable ace and their experiences as opposed to just making the character allo.

#asexual #aromantic #fandom #aroace #ace #aro #aspec #arospec #asexuality #sex repulsed #sex favorable #ace community #poll #lgbtqia #tw: discourse #bojack horseman #hazbin hotel #alastor #hazbin hotel alastor #asexual alastor #ace alastor #aroace alastor

[dismemberment-on-a-tuesday-night]

#Asexual #Asexual spectrum #Sex repulsed #Sex neutral #Sex favorable #Asexuality

[aceoffangirls]

I just want to talk for a moment how little people understand about Asexuality and for that matter Aromanticism out side of the aspec community.

I was looking at the books in Kmart today and saw one to do with LGBTQ+ and wanted to see if they included Asexuality and what they said about only to see this.

Now I don’t know if I’m having a Karen moment but the way they define Asexuality was basically someone who “do not feel like having sex with others” instead of someone who experiences little to no sexual attraction. Asexuality is about the attraction aspect, not the action.

Asexuality is such a broad and expansive orientation not only for the micro labels including demi, flux/fluid, grey, litho, abro, ficto etc, but also the spectrum within that from being sex positive/favourable to neutral /indifferent to negative/repulsed. Adding on to this is the romantic orientation whether it be hetero, homo, Aro, Aro spec, bi, pan etc and the different types of attraction including alterous and queer platonic.

The idea that ace people are simply people who don’t desire sex is completely misunderstanding and misinterpreting what it means to be asexual and can lead discourse within the ace community especially to those who are sex favourable. You see this a lot in media with few of the asexual characters not being interested in sex and that is what makes them asexual instead of the lack of sexual attraction.

Sorry for my rant and Karen moment, just kinda got annoyed.

#asexual #aromantic #aroace #lgbtqia #ace #asexuality #aromantic spectrum #acespec #demisexual #aspec #lgbtq+ #lgbtq community #greysexual #lithosexual #cupiosexual #fictosexual #abrosexual #sex favorable #sex repulsed #sex indifferent #asexual spectrum #asexual awareness #ace awareness #understanding asexually #sex repulsed ace #sex favorable ace #sex indifferent ace

[rotten-queer]

Labels are like silly putty and I can do whatever I want with them

#transgender #agender #agender man #aromantic #asexual #aromid #aroallo #aroace #cupiosexual #reciprosexual #sex favorable #romance repulsed

[aro-bird]

Liking or disliking sex and/or romance should never be the litmus test that determines someone's intellect, morality, and value. Liking or disliking sex and/or romance is simply a neutral thing and should not determine what your worth is as a person.

You are allowed to like or dislike sex and/or romance as long as you don't shame others who hold a different opinion and as long as you're not forcing these things on people who had not given you consent.

The ability to pursue any romantic and/or sexual activity and relationship is inseparable to the ability to create boundaries for your own safety and vice versa.

Your actions should not trample on the rights of others and that includes forcing romantic and sexual acts on someone as well as forcing romantic and sex negative resistance against another person.

#mayaposts #sex positive #sex favorable #sex repulsed #sex negative #romance positive #romance favorable #romance repulsed #romance negative #aromantic #asexual #arospec #acespec #aromantic asexual #aroace #aroacespec

[lovelessrage]

Some arospecs are way too comfortable posting sex negativity like they don't share spaces with aroallos, non-sams and other not strictly allo or ace aros who engage in sex, and sex-favourable aroaces that have to see that all the time in the tags. I need people to start addressing their internalized harmful ideas about sex right now because it is seriously a problem.

#arospec #aromantic #aro #aroallo #alloaro #sex favorable #aspec #scowl corner

[saffigon]

Repulsion descriptors are not exclusive to those on the aspectrum. Anyone can use them

Alloromantics can be romance repulsed just as aromantics can be romance favorable Allosexuals can be sex repulsed just as asexuals can be sex favorable Alloplatonics can be platonic repulsed just as aplatonics can be platonic favorable etc.

While most people who use them will be on the aspectrum, they are not exclusive and are open to anyone.

#aromantic #aro #arospec #asexual #ace #acespec #aplatonic #apl #aplspec #aspec #aspectrum #romance repulsed #sex repulsed #romance favorable #sex favorable

[redysetdare]

Stop using romance/sex repulsed and romance/sex negative interchangably

Stop using romance/sex favorable and romance/sex positive interchangable.

One of these things is a personal stance and identity (repulsed/favorable) while the other is a political stance (positive/negative)

By using these two interchangably you are adding to the idea that repulsed people can't support sex positivity and must be sex negative. You are adding to the idea that favorable people are all sex positive when they to can be sex negative.

Please STOP USING THESE TERMS INTERCHANGABLY.

#text #aro #ace #aromantic #asexual #aroace #aspec #sex repulsed #sex positivity #romance repulsed #romance favorable #sex favorable

[convolutedblasphemy]

What I mean when I say we're too nice to allos is that everytime I see aphobia, ace erasure, a complete disregard for our boundaries around sex & romance and hostility towards the fact that some of us need filters, tags and accomodations, there's aces and aros in the comments trying to appeal to the expectations of allos and seem likable to them. It's like people are subconsciously attempting to prove they're "one of the good ones". "I'm aro/ace but don't worry, I'm sex/romance-favorable and I'm not like the ones where you need to watch what you say so they don't get uncomfortable and I'll validate your lifestyle whenever I can."

And I don't fault them for it, it's an easy trap to fall into when you consider how shitty the alienation you have to deal with from allos already is, especially if you're sex-repulsed or romance-repulsed. You're already being excluded enough and it's easy to feel like every post you make about your experiences and struggles needs a sex-positivity disclaimer or an "aces / aros can have sex & date!!!" disclaimer so people will lower their pitchforks around you and acknowledge you're not trying to threaten the way other people live out their sexuality & relationships. It's easy to believe you're taking up too much space by wanting your boundaries to be respected in friend groups and public spaces that are supposed to be inclusive. I've been there.

But you're not and you deserve to feel comfortable as long as you respect the rules that other people put on their spaces. You deserve to be respected and you deserve to have your identity be respected. And you deserve to be mad when people repeatedly walk all over you and your struggles. And you don't have to get into a de-escalation mindset every time they do. You have nothing to prove. You have nothing to justify. You have nothing to apologize for just because you're aro/ace. And they're not gonna take us seriously if we keep acting like we do.

#asexual #asexuality #aroace #aromantic #aro #ace #sex repulsed #sex favorable #ace community #aphobia

[isabellascarlett1]

Happy Ace Week to:

- BIPOC Aces

- Neurodivergent Aces

- Sex repulsed Aces

- Sex favorable Aces

- Sex indifferent Aces

- Lesbian Aces

- Gay Aces

- AlloAces

- AroAces

- Aces who have sex

- Aces in Queerplatonic relationships

- Non-monogamous Aces

- Hypersexual Aces

- Mspec Aces

- Trans Aces

- Non-binary Aces

- All Aces 💗💗

#LGBTQIA #LGBTQI #LGBTQ #LGBT #Queer #Ace #Asexual #Asexuality #Asexual Spectrum #AceSpec #Aces #Asexuals #Aspec #Ace Week #Asexual Week #AroAce #Sex Repulsed #Sex Favorable #Sex Indifferent #Queer Liberation #Asexual Liberation #Ace Liberation #AroAces #AroAceSpec

[janesanderson]

I’m available for fun 🤩

#sex fun #sex favorable #sex for money #sex friend #sex flashbacks #sex from behind #sex fantasy