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ace-exploring · 9 days
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PSA
Feeling sexual attraction for someone and wanting to have sex with someone are actually two completely different but very similar feelings, and don't let any allosexuals (for whom this feeling is largely the same and very difficult for them to differentiate) tell you any different.
As an asexual (I identify as greysexual), I rarely feel sexual attraction even to my husband, but I want to have sex with him because he is awesome 🥰.
I'm still ace and it's still completely valid.
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eli-zab3th · 2 years
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On the one hand I don't want labels, I just want to be me without always having to explain my labels and myself...
On the other hand, I like and am proud of my labels and need their vocabulary to make sense of myself and to share my experiences more easily with people...
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aromanticduck · 3 months
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blackfliesinbluesugar · 2 months
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Fics tagged like 'sex favourable asexual Alastor' and 'sex positive asexual Alastor' that are just pure pwp with zero reference to asexuality are so funny to me. Op, you can just write porn, it's ok, we know this is fanon, you don't have to pretend his asexuality was considered here. No one is going to chase and beat you with sticks I promise.
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confused-disaster32 · 2 months
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Hi! So you can call this a rant or a vent or whatever I don't rlly care - I just wanted to put some of my opinions out there bc it is eating me inside out to keep my opinions on Alastor's sexuality and all of the discourse about him being shipped to myself.
Also i'd like to state that I'm writing this as someone who is aroace but has no actual wish to be in a romantic relationship and actually struggles to so much as picture what that's be like for myself. I would also like to state how I'm not speaking for the whole community and others will have different opinions to myself.
Firstly - aroace is a spectrum (as someone who is on the aroace spectrum btw) and I completely agree with ppl who say that it is a spectrum and shipping has always existed and you can't rlly stop an entire fandom. My only problem is when ppl completely ignore that he is aroace while doing this, bc to me it seems like there's so much potential to having him have to go through those types of emotions and to write him off as if he's completely allo not only can make some people feel unseen but also just isn't as fun.
Also I kind of believe that he'd possibly date someone for the entertainment - like even if he didn't exactly feel romantic attraction maybe he'd be willing to be around someone closely bc he might like the reactions he'd be getting. (example: he might've stayed in a relationship with Vox maybe not out of pure attraction but if he found out that affection could make the TV short-circuit? He'd be interested)
Adding to that, I personally do not actually ship him with anyone romantically due to his character + the fact that I am projecting my own distaste for romance on him but you do you ig.
Also, on the note of nsfw around him - sometimes you cannot stop a fandom, rule 34 exists and some people who are asexual sometimes may want to have sex and all of that stuff. Personally I think he'd probably be sex-repulsed due to the fact that he canonically has issues with being touched.
ALSO, i personally think that way too many people are brushing over the idea of putting Alastor in a QPR - like that would literally be so awesome.
Alastor x Rosie? Cute af (to me Rosie gives of aro vibes too, but more romance - favourable) like they're already besties and honestly I think that Rosie would defo help him figure out about his identity considering that he's quite obviously not all that sure about slang and stuff.
Vox x Alastor - It has the potential to be SO FUCKING FUN like, you get to experiment with how they feel for each other, maybe what Alastor's got going on bc he died before being aroace was rlly a thing and he'd be confused about how he felt about Vox for sure.
Lucifer x Alastor - I quite like it, ik that Lucifer is supposed to be with Lillith but she did take an extremely long hiatus on her family up in heaven so i think it's okay. Plus the idea of them bonding and becoming close due to Charlie is wonderful.
Even angel and Alastor - maybe after Val Angel doesn't want a super sexual relationship - maybe he's not all that interested in something purely romantic either and though I love huskerdust this would still be pretty cool.
Really all I'm saying is; be considerate. Incorporate the fact that Alastor is Aroace, even if you do ship him - in or out of QPRs - and ofc sometimes writing someone who is part of a group ur not in is difficult (coming from someone who often struggles in writing especially when it comes to romance) but taking a crack at it might actually turn out to be rlly cool.
But please don't ignore his aroace-ness, there's not a huge amount of aroace characters out there and acting like someone isn't can be annoying for ppl who want to find rep around their identity, esp if they haven't seen much before (I can relate and he was one of the first aroace characters I was introduced to after I found out what it meant).
So yeah, that's my piece.
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not-yet-asleep · 7 months
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Me (Aroace): *Trying to find a cute ship to hyperfixate on that doesn't have a shit load of horny fanart*
Jonny Sims: *Holds up Jon & Martin in his hands*
Jon: *Is asexual*
Me: :D
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steampunk-llama · 3 months
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Genuinely begging people to understand that sex favourability =/= sex positivity, and that sex repulsion =/= sex negativity
Also if we could please leave behind the mindset that asexuality (specifically repulsed aces) = Puritanism in 2024 that'd be wonderful thanks <3
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aroxbetchio · 7 months
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ppl like to make jokes abt straight ppl being in denial abt being gay and it’s typically used through bad examples. like aesthetic attraction, sexual draw, obsession, etc etc. thing is, i’ve experienced almost every example ppl use to make these jokes, and i turned out to be aromantic and asexual. romantic and even sexual attraction don’t tend to be something you can just tell. when i was 12, i started getting libido, sexual draw, and sexual fantasies. and for almost my whole life, i hyperfixated on people, and i deeply wanted to be friends with others. this isn’t meant to hate on any creators , and i’m not trying to make a big issue out of this, im js saying i always found it a bit weird. so often these jokes took experiences that were so similar to my own and twisted them to be romantic in nature. it took a long time for me to realize i was aromantic, and even longer to realize i was asexual. and apart of the reason was because i thought obsession and aesthetic attraction were romantic, so i spent a long time being in denial. so it feels kinda stupid to me sometimes idk
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asexual-society · 5 months
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i'm questioning if i'm aspec. i enjoy the idea of sex, but i don't feel sexual attraction. do you have any advice or ideas? thank you :)
Well you're in luck, not feeling sexual attraction is the literal definition of asexuality, so it sounds like you probably are indeed ace. You can enjoy the idea of sex, in theory or even in practice, and still be ace, and liking sex in whatever capacity doesn't make you any less asexual, not every asexual person is automatically sex repulsed.
I hope this helps
~ mod key
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lord-harley-beloved · 5 months
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We’re nearly a year out to ourselves and close friends as asexual. It’s been a journey. I’ve been saying I was on the asexual spectrum for three years now, but it was only January I believe that I sat down with myself and thought about what I actually felt and not what I wanted to feel. I’ll admit, it’s been difficult. There are people you have to keep that from, they wouldn’t understand and that would just end up hurting trying and failing to explain in a way they wouldn’t pity you. But when it comes down to it, I’m really proud of to asexual. It’s the best I’ve felt about my identity in a really long time. For once things make sense.
So to any questioning folks out there, you’ll get there. You’ll be happy. You’ll be able to be open with those that matter. You’ll be supported.
The asexual community welcomes you, anywhere on the spectrum, and even if that changes, we’re here however long you identify with us.
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forgottenflowers · 2 years
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you can identify with so many terms and they CAN be conflicting! I identify as aroace as well as bisexual! I'm non-binary and demigender and agender and gender fluid and cisgender. there's overlap in terms and sometimes a term means something similar to another term or you need an extra term to explain your identity fully.
I identify as aroace because I personally don't feel attraction in any form. I identify as bisexual because I'll date someone regardless of gender. I identify as non-binary because there are days I feel non-binary and I identify as cisgender because there are days I feel in line with having been afab. I identify as demigender because it encompasses those two things. I identify as agender because there are days I don't feel like I have a gender at all and I identify as gender fluid because, well, my gender is fluid. that's eight whole identities! and each of them fits an aspect of myself.
people often try to tell you you have to stick with some regimented identity, that you can't be a conflicting identity, that there's one right way to be lgbt, and they're wrong! there's a million and one ways to be lgbt and your experience is uniquely yours. fringe identities are valid, conflicting identities are valid, anything that accurately describes who you are is valid because it's describing your lived experience.
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ace-exploring · 3 months
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"You just have to find the right person."
I FOUND my person. I moved heaven and earth to marry him. We're still together after 17 years.
I'm still ace.
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greyro-problems · 1 year
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so...i'm asexual but im in a friend with benefits relationship with a friend of mind, i'm not sexual attracted to them but i like the feeling of sex...will my ace card be revoked for this?
On the contrary, we need the full spectrum of ace ppl for our eventual world domination plans. The more different perspectives the better it'll work out for everyone
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cabinetofotherthings · 2 months
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Something I've noticed about online aspec spaces is that there's sometimes a tendency to frame certain experiences or identities as more widely discussed or accepted within those communities — and there are definitely cases where that's accurate — but I also think part of it is just that a lot of people come into these spaces (myself included) looking for people who share their experiences because they don't know many (or any) other aspecs in real life, and so the posts that they don't relate to might stand out more because they're adding on to the pile of unrelatable experiences that they already encounter in every day life.
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nyanfaer · 3 months
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"allosexual celibates try to mimic asexuals"
Look as an asexual myself I would be deeply flattered to discover this was the case but I am also quite sure the average Catholic monk or nun in the 1400s or so had absolutely no concept of asexuality so idk about that one m8
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screampotato · 1 year
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It's an odd fact that my dislike for reading smutty fiction and my distaste for sex scenes seems to put me in a minority among the ace specs of Tumblr, but that I'm not even sex-repulsed. I'm really very sex-favourable. I just don't want to read or watch it.
I mean if I was sex-repulsed, I would put it down to that, and that would of course make me part of a smaller subset of the asexual spectrum. But it is not so neat.
Life is never so neat.
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