#sex positivity

[throesofincreasingwonder]

You know what? I want a whole post for this:

Sex Repulsion is not the same thing as, or an excuse for, Sex Negativity

non-negotiable!

I am a sex-repulsed asexual. This means that I am uncomfortable and repulsed by the idea of engaging in sexual acts. This does not mean that I have an excuse to be repulsed by other people's sexual attraction or the right to police how other people engage in or express sexual acts or attraction.

Young queer people need to learn the difference between sex repulsion and sex negativity, and actively work to unlearn sex-negative attitudes. Asexuality, even sex-repulsed asexuality, is and should be fully compatible with sex positivity.

If you are uncomfortable with the idea of other people feeling sexual attraction or engaging in sexual acts that do not involve you in any way, that is not sex repulsion it is the cultural Christianity and you need to seriously work on that.

#we as asexual people have got to have a talk about this because the shit i have been seeing is NOT okay #asexuality #sex positivity #this is largely intracommunity allo people can engage w/ it but don't be clowns #original post #500 #1k #PLEASE STOP TAGGING THIS AS 'CULTS' YOU CAN CRITIQUE A RELIGION W/O CALLING IT A CULT I AM BITING YOU #this barely even mentions Christianity like someone does not need to be in a cult to be sex negative. and also not all religions are cults #please be normal #other than that y'all have actually been very normal abt this one so far thank you #2k #5k

[hellyeahscarleteen]

What sex positivity IS

Believing that sex is not inherently dirty, sinful, shameful, or oppressive, but instead is something to be embraced, enjoyed, and celebrated.

Understanding that, beyond very basic things like consent, there is no single, "right" way to be sexual because human sexuality and sexual behavior are incredibly diverse.

Accepting the fact that your sexual preferences might be very different from someone else's, and that's okay! Part of acknowledging the diversity of human sexuality is being comfortable with the fact that there are sexual things out there that are not for you (or may even gross you out), and that the people who do like those things aren't doing anything wrong.

Rejecting the stigma attached to things like BDSM or sex work.

What sex positivity is NOT

Believing everyone should have as much sex as possible

Thinking that people who don't want to have sex, for any reason, are bad or repressed.

Insisting that no one gets to have boundaries around what kinds of sexual things--including conversations about sex--they're comfortable engaging in.

Believing that sex cannot be bad or traumatic, or that anyone who has negative or complicated feelings about sex is in the wrong.

Replicating the male gaze.

(From Sam's response to Is sex positivity just another version of the male gaze?)

#sex positivity #feminism #sex ed

[positively-bi]

I want to talk about being aroallo for a little bit. Before I start, I want to make it abundently clear that there's nothing wrong with sex that doesn't involve emotional intimacy. There's nothing wrong with one-night-stands. There's nothing wrong with sex with strangers you're never gonna see again.

However, I guess I'm just feeling kind of bummed about how romantic love seems to be the only kind of love people are capable of associating with sex. Like either you're having no strings attached casual sex or you're having romantic sex and there's no inbetween which just isn't true for me. I lost my virginity to my best friend and it was deeply emotionally intimate and wonderful and I felt very close to them but it wasn't romantic. I'm aromantic. I care immensely about them but as a friend. The way I care about them affected the sex we had. It was emotional, it was personal, it was intimate. None of that is negated by the fact it wasn't romantic. I just wish this was talked about more idk.

Anyway, sorry if this was a bit rambling, I've just been thinking. Aroallos, you're incredible and awesome. Everybody else, go give your local aroallo £5

#/j on the £5 thing... unless?? #aromantic #aroallo #alloaro #aro bi #bi aro #aro pride #aromantic pride #aro #arospec #sex positivity #sex positive #sex favorable #lgbt #lgbtq #pride #lgbt+ #lgbt pride #aromantic positivity #aro positivity

[jellybeanium124]

So like, asexuality right. 1% of people are asexual. Many adults are asexual. I think a lot of people don't really understand what asexual means even if they can rattle off the dictionary definition.

Anyways this post is probably going to share too much about me but I want to explain my personal experience as an asexual adult. Tumblr necessary piss on the poor disclaimer: I am not every asexual adult, and the experiences I write about reflect only my own experiences.

Anyways, what is that dictionary definition of asexuality again? Asexuality refers to a person who experiences little to no sexual attraction. What is sexual attraction? Based on what I have gleaned it's really really really wanting to have sex with a particular person. It's a feeling inside you and you know it when you have it. I emphasize "particular" because you can be horny without experiencing sexual attraction. You can want sex without experiencing sexual attraction. You can have/want sex with someone without experiencing sexual attraction to them. Horny art can make you feel horny without sexual attraction being involved. These are all experiences I have had.

The point I'm trying to make here is, is that allosexuality is not a prerequisite to horniness, engaging in sexual activity, engaging in kink/having a kink. The idea that asexuals would be opposed to any of these things is ludicrous. Hell! You can have a nonexistent libido, be sex repulsed, and never dip your toes into kink and still not be opposed to those things existing!! Asexuality is not even remotely linked to sex negativity. They are independent of each other. Stop using me as a prop in your puritanical war. I love horny art. I've sought it out, and I've created it!

#nina rambles #asexuality #sex positivity

[polyamzeal]

#not exaxtly polyam #but still felt like it belonged #sex positivity

[ace-aro-queerplatonic-positivity]

Credit: insta @/acedadadvice

[there was no image description on Instagram or Facebook, I would welcome if someone wrote one into a reblog]

Obviously these terms aren’t set in stone, these definitions aren’t gospel, use whatever definition/ term you are most comfortable with!

I’m sharing this because I went “oh hey, it me!” when I saw this.

I have made it a point to call myself averse to sex consistently and I will keep using sex-aversion to describe my views. It’s nice to see this info-graphic mention aegosexuality in context of that :)

Because yea, I’m a sex-averse aego-ace

EDIT FOR CLARIFICATION: Aegosexual as a sub- / micro-label for asexuality is not inherently connected to being sex-averse. The mention of aegosexuality in this context refers to an aego-ace being comfortable with the fantasy/ idea/ imagination of sex without necessarily wanting to participate in those sexual acts. Many aegosexuals use the label because we prefer sexual fantasies and things we can remove ourselves from (aego literally meaning “without self”). Not all aego-aces are sex-averse. Which is precisely why I said “mentioned in the context of that” since aegosexuality is not inherent to being sex-averse and sex-aversion is not inherent to aegosexuality.

Also, please keep in mind this is about personal feelings towards sex and towards participating in sex. Most asexuals are sex-positive which means we support that everyone has the right to have as much or as little sex, as vanilla or as kinky, as they want to have.

Sex is not shameful, sex is simply something people can do with their bodies. Sex is exactly as meaningful/ intimate as the people participating want it to be. A bodily activity or the most intimate act to share with your chosen partner – it’s as important as you make it out to be, nothing more, nothing less.

#about me #about the mod #sex averse #sex repulsion #sex repulsed #sex aversion #sex positive asexual #sex positivity #sex positive #we are kink positive here sir #kink mention #kink positive #kink ment #acedadadvice #aegosexual #id in alt text #id included #image described #image description in alt

[redysetdare]

Stop using romance/sex repulsed and romance/sex negative interchangably

Stop using romance/sex favorable and romance/sex positive interchangable.

One of these things is a personal stance and identity (repulsed/favorable) while the other is a political stance (positive/negative)

By using these two interchangably you are adding to the idea that repulsed people can't support sex positivity and must be sex negative. You are adding to the idea that favorable people are all sex positive when they to can be sex negative.

Please STOP USING THESE TERMS INTERCHANGABLY.

#text #aro #ace #aromantic #asexual #aroace #aspec #sex repulsed #sex positivity #romance repulsed #romance favorable #sex favorable

[usagichanp]

we really gotta stop shaming people who have sex for sex's sake, not as some big declaration of love or connection or whatever.

like if you only have sex when there's a deep emotional connection that's totally fine– for some people, sex is a sacred thing! but for others its just a pleasurable act and thats it. sex done out of love is not more 'morally pure' than sex done for physical pleasure.

#ok to reblog #amatonormativity #sex positivity #alloaro #shut the fuck up usagi

[queerism1969]

#lgbtq community #lgbtqia #lgbt pride #lesbian #lgbtq #nonbinary #sapphic #queer #nonbinary lesbian #gay girls #queer artist #queer ns/fw #pride #queer community #queer nsft #non binary #coming out #queer rights #sexuality #sex positivity #queerness #heteronormativity #gender stuff #heterosexuality

[hellyeahscarleteen]

"I want to acknowledge that some people have had bad experiences with sex positivity, often in the shape of partners telling them they're "sex negative" for setting boundaries around sex (or not wanting sex at all). Or by being told that because they aren't interested in (insert sexual activity here) they're repressed. Given the actual purpose of sex positivity, those statements are in many ways the opposite of what it's meant to be. But that doesn't mean people won't use it in crummy ways.

One of the more depressing realities of life is that people who want something from you will use whatever language or ideas they think will work to get it from you. Let's say there's a scenario where your partner wants to open the relationship up, but you're not comfortable doing so. If they know you're someone who values science and logic, they might say, "But evidence shows humans didn't evolve to be monogamous."  If they know you put a lot of value on being loving, they might go for, "Well, if you really loved me you'd let me do this." And if they know sex positivity is important to you, they might decide on, "If you don't agree to this, you're a shame-filled prude."  That doesn't happen because sex positivity is inherently coercive or misogynistic; it happens because that person is a manipulative jerk."

(From Sam's response to Is sex positivity just another version of the male gaze?)

#sex positivity #relationships #sex ed

[pansyboybloom]

the year is 2023 it's time to admit stretch marks are hot. not the "I love your body despite all the ~imperfections~" kind of hot, I mean mouth wateringly hot, i mean i want rip those jeans off you and touch them hot, i mean i want to kiss your sides and thighs and everywhere else they are hot. stretch marks are hot yall, it's time to say it!!

#using mlm tags bc im gay but this applies for literally everyone #mlm #nblm #mlm and nblm #mlm thoughts #mlm yearning #mlm longing #nblm thoughts #nblm yearning #nblm longing #body positivity #fat positivity #sex positivity

[the-blanket-fort]

psa

some age regressors are also adult babies

some age regressors are also ageplayers

some age regressors are also pet players

some age regressors are also diaper lovers

some age regressors are also cg/l

some age regressors are also babyfurs

some age regressors are also kinky

some age regressors are also sexual

You are perfect how you are. Whether we are little, middle, or big at a certain moment, we all have diverse interests and lives that include many identities. We are all healing, loving, learning, and living to our own needs. We are all complex, and our experiences are unique. Whatever you do in the appropriate space is your business, and should be respected and honored for its importance to you.

Age regressors are not monolithic, we are all different, all valid, and all loved.

#big bleats #source not for littles #adult subject matter #age regression #agere #little space #proship #profic #anti harassment #petre #pro kink #mental health #sex positivity #the birds and the bees #sex ed

[noise-misato-3-twink-eater]

I really put all this face on to go get tested. You should go get tested btw, staying on top of your sexual health is extremely attractive to me.

#my space #sex positivity

[klavierpanda]

Sex positivity is about the right to engage or not engage in sex and sexuality however and in what frequency you choose without judgement. This inherently includes the right not to participate at all and to not enjoy sex. It includes supporting sex repulsed people

#making my own post because I still want the sentiment to be on my blog #besides this is more succinct #sex positivity #asexual #ace #acespec #queer #sexuality #sex repulsed #panda's post