#sex repulsion

[arofulboyfriend]

for the millionth time, sex repulsion (aversion) is the PERSONAL feeling of ick when discussing, seeing, or thinking about sex

sex negativity is shaming OTHER people for their sex lives, kinks, and/or sexual history

stop saying sex repulsion/aversion when you mean sex negative and stop saying sex negative when you mean repulsion/aversion! thanks!!

#asexual #actually asexual #acespec #sex repulsed #sex repulsion #sex averse #sex aversion #actually ace #sex negativity #seren yaps #saw a blog that was like “sex repulsed people can interact but ur on thin fucking ice” like hello??? #sex averse/repulsed ppl wouldnt interact with ur blog anyway weirdo

[traumasurvivors]

You aren’t dirty or wrong if your response to trauma is hypersexuality.

We often talk about sex repulsion in response to trauma where it might make you feel your response is wrong if that isn’t what it is. But you’re equally as valid whether you’re sex-repulsed or hypersexual.

It’s also valid to be both or switch between.

#my post #tw sex #hypersexuality #sex repulsion

[ace-aro-queerplatonic-positivity]

Credit: insta @/acedadadvice

[there was no image description on Instagram or Facebook, I would welcome if someone wrote one into a reblog]

Obviously these terms aren’t set in stone, these definitions aren’t gospel, use whatever definition/ term you are most comfortable with!

I’m sharing this because I went “oh hey, it me!” when I saw this.

I have made it a point to call myself averse to sex consistently and I will keep using sex-aversion to describe my views. It’s nice to see this info-graphic mention aegosexuality in context of that :)

Because yea, I’m a sex-averse aego-ace

EDIT FOR CLARIFICATION: Aegosexual as a sub- / micro-label for asexuality is not inherently connected to being sex-averse. The mention of aegosexuality in this context refers to an aego-ace being comfortable with the fantasy/ idea/ imagination of sex without necessarily wanting to participate in those sexual acts. Many aegosexuals use the label because we prefer sexual fantasies and things we can remove ourselves from (aego literally meaning “without self”). Not all aego-aces are sex-averse. Which is precisely why I said “mentioned in the context of that” since aegosexuality is not inherent to being sex-averse and sex-aversion is not inherent to aegosexuality.

Also, please keep in mind this is about personal feelings towards sex and towards participating in sex. Most asexuals are sex-positive which means we support that everyone has the right to have as much or as little sex, as vanilla or as kinky, as they want to have.

Sex is not shameful, sex is simply something people can do with their bodies. Sex is exactly as meaningful/ intimate as the people participating want it to be. A bodily activity or the most intimate act to share with your chosen partner – it’s as important as you make it out to be, nothing more, nothing less.

#about me #about the mod #sex averse #sex repulsion #sex repulsed #sex aversion #sex positive asexual #sex positivity #sex positive #we are kink positive here sir #kink mention #kink positive #kink ment #acedadadvice #aegosexual #id in alt text #id included #image described #image description in alt

[robertdownerjunior]

since people don't know about them, let's talk about sex-repulsed allosexual people.

first of all, asexuality is experiencing little to no sexual attraction. they can have a libido, read smut, and partake in kinky stuff. they just experience little to no attraction to people sexually.

with this logic, sex-repulsed allo people are just people who don't want to have sex. they can experience the attraction part, they just don't really want to partake in the sex part. this can also be caused by trauma stuff, but it could also just be people not wanting to have sex, even with the attraction.

just like how asexual people can be sex-favorable, allosexual people can be sex repulsed.

#sex repulsed allosexuals #sex repulsed #sex repulsion #allosexual #asexual #asexuality #virgil shut up challenge #i have seen the best of queue and the worst of queue and i choose both #1k

[celepom]

Sex Repulsion often leads to people limiting their exposure to sexual situations for their own well being. It's a personal responsibility.

But just like allergies if someone is informed of this situation and chooses to expose them to it as a "test" or a "joke" or because they don't believe it's that serious - they're a butthole.

On the flip-side, it's everywhere. Not everyone is negatively affected, lots of people quite enjoy it, and the world doesn't revolve around you. That's where the personal responsibility really comes in. Advocate for yourself, but don't force others to be like you when they are fundamentally different.

Read on: TAPAS | WEBTOON | TUMBLR

#My Art #Aces Wild #Asexual #Asexuality #Sex Repulsion #Sex Aversion #comic

[olivescales3]

Reminder that the owner of this account will not tolerate any jabs against people who are aroace. If someone has an aroace interpretation of something, please respect it.

TFLOC and the oliveScales3 account are a safe space for ace, aro and aroace people. If you're not happy with how I tackle partner relationships/couples in my story, then just turn away. I won't tolerate any passive jabs.

#asexuality #asexual #ace pride #ace #sex repulsed #sex repulsion #ace artist #asexual aromantic #aro #aromantism #aromantic #aroace #arospec #aspec #media literacy #legends of chima #lego chima #lego legends of chima

[baeddel-txt]

It’s all “support sex-repulsed asexuals” until we actually express anything about our sex repulsion then suddenly we’re a bunch of “stuck-up prudes” who need to get laid (be correctively raped) until we’re “normal”.

#quit equating not enjoying sex scenes in movies with being an anti-sex swerf #personally not wanting to engage in that stuff does not mean you think it shouldn’t exist at all #goddamn!!!!!!!! #asexual #asexuality #apothisexual #sex repulsed #sex repulsion #sex averse #rape mention

[vampire-meta-knight]

Aphobes: asExUAls aRe juST a BuNch oF vIrgINs

Sex-repulsed and sex-averse aces:

Sex-favorable aces:

#asexual memes #asexual #sex repulsion #sex averse #sex favorable #lgbt memes #queer #lgbtqia #lgbtq memes #ace positivity #ace #we support all kinds of asexuals here sir #mine #my meme

[saffigon]

Okay, I guess Tumblr needs a refresher on what (sex/romance/etc) repulsion actually is:

Repulsion is: - Feeling uncomfortable hearing people detail their relationships - Feeling uncomfortable around people performing PDA - Feeling uncomfortable reading romance/sex/etc - Feeling uncomfortable watching romance/sex/etc content in media - Feeling uncomfortable when someone is attracted to you in a romantic/sexual/etc way

Repulsion is NOT: - Being uncomfortable because a couple is visibly queer - Hating any and all sex/romance/etc

(and there are plenty other ways to experience repulsion and not everyone will feel repulsed in the same ways)

Repulsion itself is not homophobia; Repulsion itself is not sex/romance/etc negativity. Those things can sometimes coincide, but one does not equal the other. Being repulsed is not being homophobic; Being repulsed is not being negative.

Edit: You don't have to feel all of these things or feel them consistently to be repulsed. Repulsion is a fluid and varied thing. Also, you can feel repulsed by media and not repulsed by irl things or repulsed by irl things and not repulsed by things in media.

Repulsion is not the same from person to person and it's not always the same from day to day.

#the amount of fucking hate i got being like #well actually repulsion is homophobic :/ #is too fucking much jesus christ #aromantic #aro #arospec #asexual #ace #acespec #aspec #romance repulsed #sex repulsed #sex repulsion #romance repulsion

[evolvedclown]

i’m graysexual. and for me that means i usually do feel arousal and sexual attraction (usually) but i will sometimes become sex-repulsed. and the thought of someone else touching me or me touching someone else makes me want to peel my own skin off. very rarely do i ever want someone to touch me sexually, i prefer to do the touching but sometimes i can’t even do that. even if im ‘in the mood’, it makes me feel gross.

it took me a long time to figure this out and i hope that others out there can figure themselves out and maybe this can help some people.

i’ve never really heard anyone talk about asexuality past not feeling sexual attraction or desire and me often times feeling that attraction/desire but sometimes also being repulsed confused me so much, but finding graysexuality has helped me find something that makes me feel less lost.

#sexuality #asexual #greysexual #graysexual #acespec #aroace #sex repulsed #sex repulsion

[natalinova]

I know no one's obligated to adjust their behaviour for my comfort but god sometimes I wish my allo friends would understand that I'm not comfortable hearing about their sexual/romantic experiences

#i've felt guilty about it for too long #now i'm owning it #do not talk to me about your sex life #even if we're friends i don't want to hear it #romance repulsion #sex repulsion #aromantic #asexual #asexuality #aroace #allonormativity

[jellyfishmakeoutparty]

another post for the sex-repulsed aces!! if you are uncomfortable talking about anything sexual, whether it be jokes or sexual advances from others/your partner(s) or even consuming sexual media, it’s okay that you’re uncomfortable with it! it doesn’t mean that you need to be fixed or force yourself into uncomfortable situations! it doesn’t mean that you’re not worth any interaction or love that you may have been given had you put yourself in those uncomfortable situations. you can be uncomfortable, you can tell others it makes you uncomfortable. you can set boundaries.

being uncomfortable talking about sex in any capacity does not make you childish. it does not make you a prude or a tease, it doesn’t make you immature. it doesn’t mean you’re not competent or that you’re unaware. you don’t need to provide a carefully crafted excuse to not talk about these things. if you are too tired or don’t have the energy to engage with sexual things (conversations, media, etc) then that’s okay! and if you only say things like that so you don’t have to say that you just truly do not want to talk about those things, then please know that you *can* say that. you can say “I’m uncomfortable talking about this, can we please change the subject” or “hey, I’d appreciate a heads up if you want to talk to me about this.” people who really care about you will listen.

you can set boundaries. you deserve to communicate, to be more comfortable and to be heard. you are not worth less because you are sex-repulsed. you are an aware, competent person. you are intelligent and your hobbies and interests matter. what makes you comfortable matters. you deserve as much love and support and comfort as anyone else.

#posting this also for myself bc I need some reassurance too y’know!! #asexual #ace #asexual pride #asexual positivity #asexual post #ace positivity #ace pride #asexual things #ace things #sex repulsed ace #sex repulsion #sex aversion #sex averse #friendship #relationships #communication #i love you #reassurance #<3

[leogoth21]

I think this is important to say but

If you post nsfw and hornyposting, that's fine. But please use nsfw and hornyposting as hashtags.

I filter those hashtags so that I have a warning before I see the complete post.

I often get posts like those without the hashtags on my feed and it makes me extremely uncomfortable.

I'm often very sex repulsed when it comes to other people (except my partner) or unexpected sexual stuff. This is something I can't do anything about.

The only thing I can do is avoid those posts but that isn't possible when I keep seeing them without warnings.

Please help some people like me out with simply hashtagging it.

#sex repulsed #ace #acespec #spreading awareness #arcsexual #asexual spectrum #sex repulsion

[stresshyperdeath]

I think one of the funnier things about sex repulsion is that, depending on what scale of aspec you are, you get to have days where you are having a good time, and nothing can stop you. You can reblog them bazoingers with intent.

And other days, the mere presence of a dick joke will make you wanna wade into the cruel grip of the sea

#aspec #aromantic #asexual #sex repulsion #I dunno what other tags to add onto this #But it really is like this lmao

[olivescales3]

There's something that I never understood about how the fandom perceived Chima, for a long time now. Some (I hope not) may say that it's a biased take due to me being aroace, but I just can't see romantic & sexual relationships— the way humans do— being a thing in Chima's society.

First of all, to avoid any misinterpretations (because I'm on Tumblr), please understand that Chima's society is not equal to ours. Their view of the world does not align with ours. They're animals, just sapient. See it in a more zoological sense :D

We know that Chima's tribes are made of animals, not humans, and we know that romantic relationships are exclusively a human thing.

Some may say that Chi made the animals human, to which I reply: no. It hasn't. Chi gave sapience to animals, but did not make them human; humans are never mentioned in the show— furthermore, those who created Chi were the Phoenixes, who are, in fact, not humans. It's also heavily implied that the Phoenix Tribe reproduces asexually through some kind of ritual. The entire point and motif of the show is each tribe being their own thing, own species, etc.

Others may argue that Reegull, alongside the relationship Lavertus & Crunket had, will contradict my claim, to which I reply: no. These cases are rare and scarce, and only mean that romantic/sexual relationships in Chima's society are an exception and affects the society differently than ours (which, I'll spare a few words: it affects negatively the society of Chima).

Lavertus did make some 'dating' jokes to Laval and Li'ella, but we know he's kind of kooky, so it doesn't disprove my claim.

In the games (Laval's Journey), Wilhurt makes fun of Laval by calling Eris his girlfriend.

The only 'sex joke' there is in Chima IIRC is Longtooth's funny bone joke, and even then, we know that Chima's society is different from ours, so the funny bone *for them* might mean any other kind of bone, or not have a phallic subtext.

We just don't have any substance to prove that romance and sex is a thing in Chima— it's also a lego theme for kids, which also gives another reason to why it's not a thing there.

My point is... Relationships in Chima would rarely be romantic and/or erotic in canon. It being heterosexual or homosexual does not matter here, as cases of same sex couples on nature happen frequently. I'm just saying that all relationships in Chima are kind of 'aroace' by nature due to how animals work in nature. They're couples, but not romantically involved, because romance is a human concept.

TL;DR: Animals in Chima, in canon, can't possibly make out or do human romance shenanigans because that's a human/dolphin thing. The maximum they can do is mate, or groom one another, typical animal behavior.

I hope I don't offend anyone with this take. /gen

#ace #asexual #media literacy #lego chima #lego legends of chima #legends of chima #aromantic #aromantism #asexuality #sex repulsion #speculative biology

[azpherambles]

Feel like I have something to say about how off it feels when people are like 'being ace doesnt mean you hate sex / are sex repulsed'

Like yeah, true! Being ace is not necessarily that.

But... no one ever seems to really, discuss sex repulsion outside of that. Which feels wierd. Sex repulsion makess me feel infinitely more queer and isolated than not experiencing sexual attraction, a thing I really just don't think about and rarely affects me.

But sex repulsion? Literally impossible to go a day without seeing a post mentioning something to do with sex. On a bad day, which are thankfully few, I simply cannot look at things, or even talk to people, without feeling like knives are jamming into all of my nerve endings.

And the thing no one ever, ever mentions is that sex repulsion does not mean unhorny. Do we even have a term for people who don't experience horniness? Asexuality as a spectrum seems to actually just be a filling bar between experiencing or not experiencing a single metric that isn't super relevant at all.

That's wierd right? Like, there are so many parts of sexuality that never seems to come up or even be searchable. There are infinite genders and searching sex repulsion is desolate, aside from 'its not asexuality' and 'do you need to be cured?'

There is nothing more isolating or queer in me than the seemingly lonesome experience of experiencing something that I desperately hate and yet cannot imagine being without. Its close to my experience of transness, but even that at least comes with a community and resources.

'I hate even the mention of sex, but I like it theoretically, I want to be able to like it, I don't know what to do about this' is just.

Empty.

#i dont really have a point to this #its just wierd #i wonder just how many ace people are either sex repulsed or dont experience horniness #it feels like so many ace experiences i find relatable have nothing to do with not experiencing attraction #this isnt a 'ace isnt real' thing obviously #more like its wierd how narrow the definition is #'ace isnt sex repulsion' but why not? i find it hard to believe someone who experiences attraction but is repulsed by sex is going to be an #less ace than someone who is fine with it but is disconnected from the desire for it #sex repulsion #asexuality