#shunning

[dissentdisdain]

being shunned has destroyed me

and maybe...

the tears that moisten my notebook pages

the tears that get lost between my piano keys

the tears that drip off my fretboard

the constant pressure in my chest

my notebook filled with lyrics of grief

my gallery filled with undeleted photos

the times i torture myself by looking at them anyway, out of fear of forgetting what they all look like

the growing number of blades i have scattered about

my gradual obsession with sharp hunting knives

my frequent walks through the woods, imagining what tree branch would hold my homemade noose "just in case"

gripping the steering wheel as i drive over water

forcing my eyes to stay on the road as i drive over a bridge

afraid to take walks on a busy sidewalk, in fear of impulsively jumping in front of a vehicle

the lack of color present in my appearance

my entire wardrobe being black

only feeling like myself if i have jet black hair, no longer wanting to see my eyes without dark eyeliner obscuring them

the same songs about loss playing in my ear

the songs getting heavier and heavier, where you can hear the vocalist's pain, and the instruments scream in sync

the lack of energy to attend simple online therapy, only attending for a sense of friendship and support

feeling lost once again as soon as the meetings end

the anxiety that surfaces, having to introduce myself

the fear of being rejected again leading to self isolation

the sleep deprivation from forcing myself to stay awake

because i know i will dream of those i've lost

and wake up feeling torn apart and left for dead all over again

the shame exploding in my mind at the sight of me feeling anything besides it

the unpredictable anger outbursts where i break items

the lack of love and intimacy towards anyone

the indescribable urge to turn to drugs and alcohol

having to punch myself and cut my face to make the thoughts stop, to shock myself back into the moment

the never-ending self sabotaging and second guessing myself

...all of this will be enough to prove it?

#ex jehovah's witness #spilled thoughts #ex jw #shunning #fuck cults #it wasnt supposed to be like this #ex christian #writers on tumblr #poets and writers #the grief is never ending #exmo #ex mormon

[halltastic]

Salad Shunning

#fyp #youtube #lizards of tumblr #lizards #lizard #reptilesofinstagram #reptilelover #reptile owner #reptiles #reptile #bearded dragons #bearded dragon #youtubesubscribe #youtube shorts #youtube viral videos #shortvideo #shunning #pet store #pet lovers #pet of the day #small pets #pets #pet owners #pet life #pets of tumblr #petsoftiktok #petsofinstagram #pets of the week #petstagram #love pets

[conschintz]

if you are ex-religious/ex-cult and have been shunned by your family and/or community, please take a few minutes from your day to answer this survey! it took me less than two minutes to do, and is part of an amazing campaign to make shunning a crime!

#nicki.txt #ex jw #exjw #ex religious #ex cult #shunning

[religion-is-a-mental-illness]

"'Infidel' was the epithet, an insult that was thrown at me over and over again by family and former Muslim friends. It is a label that I now wear with pride and joy."

-- Ayaan Hirsi Ali

#Ayaan Hirsi Ali #islam #infidel #heretic #ex Muslim #ex Muslims #religion #apostasy #apostates #shunning #religion is a mental illness

[topoet]

Pure Attitude

Pure Attitude the room was pure until I entered it I didn’t know it was pure until I entered it until people looked up to glare at me <> their only motion was a limited reflex  that barely raised chins eyes before they flicked back to their accustomed immobility that was the extent of the acknowledgement <> but the room was no longer pure their air had been sullied by this…

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#227 Rules For Monks #crowds #movies #Ontario #photographs #sekhiyas #shunning #Toronto

[mattdobbins]

You Are Enough

Reflecting on it now, it seems rather astonishing that I was taught by a religion that we are inherently sinful and wicked, and that we need someone else to make us whole. This teaching emphasized our flaws and imperfections. It’s understandable why so many people feel unable to meet such incredibly unattainable standards. Just a reminder: you are amazing just as you are. You are enough. And you…

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#Autonomy #Critical thinking #happy #Kindness #life #Personal Growth #Psychological support #Religious Deconstruction #Self-compassion #Shunning #Support network

[divinum-pacis]

Escaping Jehovah's Witnesses | Four Corners

Former Jehovah's Witnesses are fighting back against a religion that failed them. They know they'll lose their loved ones for doing so.

Few know the extreme nature of the beliefs of the Jehovah's Witnesses, a religious group which boasts eight million followers in multiple nations. They take a strict interpretation of the Bible and predicted the world would meet its ‘wicked end’ in 1914, 1925 and 1975.

A US-based Governing Body of eight men sits at the pinnacle of the Jehovah’s Witnesses organisation. Witnesses believe these men are anointed as the voice of God on Earth.

Former members reveal the secretive practices used to instil fear and maintain discipline among followers. With strict rules governing every aspect of their lives, these former Witnesses say the organisation is controlling and dangerous.

They say it's time to hold the Jehovah's Witnesses to account.

#religion #jehovah's witnesses #abuse #child abuse #sex abuse #suicide #homophobia #shunning #united kingdom #united states #australia #documentary #video #divinum-pacis

[influenczarscrew]

#influenczars crew #neurodiversity #intelligence #curse words #no cussing #shunning #rudeness #bifurcation #tongue bifurcation #logicalreasoning #respect

[minnesotadruids]

Does anyone in the druid order have the power to remove somebody like you without explanation saying you no longer can participate in any druid works and are banned for life?

When it comes to individual problematic members, usually of a Grove or Protogove, they absolutely can [and have been] banned from participating in that fellowship’s activities. If they return after being banned, then you have grounds to file harassment charges or trespass charges especially if someone is hosting events on their own property.

However when it comes to those who have been ordained to the RDNA priesthood, namely the Third Order or higher, then the question of defrocking comes into play. Defrocking in the RDNA was debated at length by the Council of Dalon Ap Landu in the 1970s, but the consensus was that once someone attains the Third Order, it’s temporally impossible to undo that moment in time.

An excerpt from A General History of Reformed Druidism in America, chapter 3 covers the sentiments of one member of the Council:

“If an ArchDruid found a prospective initiate too fanatical, or likely to turn Druidism into a personal cult-following, they could do little more than avoid ordaining her/him into the Third Order, within reason. The flaw was that once a "rogue" slipped into the Third Order, there was probably nothing you could do to defrock them or stop their propagation. To defrock them seems to be an un-Druidic thing to do, because you would be claiming to understand their soul better than they could themselves. It was hoped that the Grove members would eventually spot the rogues and leave them.”

And in another section outlining the reasons for RDNA Third Order priest Isaac Bonewits founding ADF as a separate order from the RDNA: 

“In the RDNA there was no known method for defrocking or excommunication officially available. Any action would have to be done by an "unofficial" shunning of the problematic person; i.e. not going to that Priest's rituals or everybody just avoiding that person. However, "officially," that person would still be entitled to retain their RDNA "priesthood"...”

And from the epistle “A Cup Filled to the Brim With Druidism” 12:9 in 1976, Gerre Goodman MacInnes quips “The power that is in me can do no other, I might as well try to keep the sun from setting” when musing on hypothetical defrocking attempts.

The best we can do is to direct such a person to form their own schism and to separate from the RDNA, and perhaps to urge others not to follow said priest. If they’re going to be problematic they may not gain many followers. The NRDNA and SDNA formed as result of a schism. They were both more neopagan than the RDNA, as the RDNA is much more universalist. Oddly these days the NRDNA is in decline despite neopaganism being on the rise. More people are coming directly to the RDNA as neopagans, but I suspect that might have to do with the fact that the RDNA is more original and already all-embracing, but I digress.

#defrocking #druids #reformed #druidry #druidism #shunning #priesthood #pagan #paganism #about druidry

[giannic]

Dear reader: I read this in the original French, in its entirety, when I was 21. I loved it. Little did I realise at the time that I loved it because I too, would be perceived, considered as a freak or a monster. Today, with my childhood memories freed from the depths of repression, I am recovering my humanity. Now I love this novel even more than ever, understanding it more, feeling it deeply. - sincerely, giannic

#the novel #the hunchback of notre dame #medieval #paris #français #freaks #monsters #disabilities #developmental disabilities #abnormalities #being shunned #shunning #exclusion #discrimination #Redemption #Youtube

[psalm40speakstome]

Any tips or tricks for being in the same room as your emotional abuser’s?

#mental health #emotional health #trauma #trauma ask #emotional abuse #spiritual abuse #gaslighting #shunning #betrayal trauma

[changingpathsresources]

State funding removed from Norwegian JWs

In Norway, subject to rules about not being coercive or oppressive, all religious groups can apply for state funding. Due to the JWs’ practice of disfellowshipping and shunning people who leave, including children, the Norwegian government has removed their funding. Friendly Atheist: Norwegian court upholds ban on state funding of Jehovah’s Witnesses

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#disfellowshipping #escaping from cults #escaping fundamentalism #fundamentalism #high-control religions #JWs #leaving religion #Norway #shunning #spiritual abuse

[ostensiblynone]

While shunning of community members remains a central tenet of the Amish faith, forgiveness is also of critical importance. This was perhaps nowhere better illustrated than after the school shooting in 2006 at Nickel Mines in Lancaster, Pennsylvania, where Charles Roberts shot ten Amish girls (killing five and then himself) (Kraybill, Nolt, and Weaver-Zercher 2007).

The Amish’s ability to forgive was a hot topic of discussion and raised a myriad of questions about forgiveness and shunning in the Amish faith, because it seemed unbelievable to those outside the Amish community. Seen as an unconditional gift, however, Amish forgiveness is available whether or not a wrongdoer expresses remorse, apologizes, or even confesses. With this in mind, many outsiders wonder why it is possible for strangers to be forgiven, even after such a horrific tragedy, while other ex-Amish individuals may not be vis-à-vis shunning.

What is actually happening in such scenarios is that the ex-Amish are forgiven, but not pardoned. The difference between the treatment of non-Amish and Amish in this regard has to do with a promise made to the church. An ex-Amish person made a promise to be a part of the church for life when he or she is baptized, so the community does not pardon them because they did not live up to their commitment. Someone from outside of the Amish faith has not made that commitment to the church and community, and therefore, can be forgiven (Kraybill et al. 2007).

Thus, in situations in which outsiders harm an Amish person or community, church members are asked to “fuhgevva und fuhgessa (forgive and forget—or more precisely, pardon and forget),” although of course this is not an easy prospect and not necessarily always followed (Kraybill et al. 2007: 145). Conversely, the Amish rationalize their use of shunning and social avoidance of (former) community members as a concern for the deviant’s soul. This is seen as a necessary evil to bring wayward members back into the fold of the faith and procure their future in heaven. Without repentance through a confession and a promise to change their ways, the ex-Amish remain forgiven outsiders of their own community.

—A Recipe for Success in the ‘English World’: An Investigation of the Ex-Amish in Mainstream Society by Jessica R. Sullivan

#shunning

[the-overanalyst]

unmatched ship dynamic: "i've done terrible things in the past" x "all i care about is who you are in the present"

#ship #ship dynamics #romance tropes #redemption arc #books #booklr #tv series #tv shows #dark academia #the good place #eleanor shellstrop #chidi anagonye #cheleanor #saiki k #tdlosk #shun kaidou #aren kuboyasu #kubokai #music #hozier #work song #like real people do #didn't expect this post to blow up overnight #5k #10k

[de4thpunch]

#yakuza #akiyama shun #yakuza 4 #yakuza 5 #fanart #art #hana #yakuza hana #yakuza akiyama #yakuza art #old piece for a zine #rgg #rgg fanart

[scrymptious]

never drawing hairo & toritsuka ever again in my life Dude What the fuck.

#saiki k #saiki k fanart #saiki kusuo #teruhashi kokomi #kaidou shun #nendou riki #hairo kineshi #toritsuka reita #i didnt know who to put missing person as. sorry if it makes no sense. #saiki fa #nathe art