#side b christian

[i-used-to-be-an-anti-feminist]

I see so many well intentioned women talking about how modesty is important when it comes to men's objectification of them. Like, they will condemn men's lust, but say, "but we have to do our part too." I just need you guys to understand that there is literally no amount of clothing you can wear to keep men from sexualizing you. It sucks, but it's true.

I dress very modestly by the typical conservative Christian standard... Loose clothing, long dresses/skirts, nothing low cut, etc. Usually the only skin I expose is my forearms, neck, and face... But I am not exempt from being sexualized. I can't tell you how many times I've heard stuff like, "it's so hot when women leave things up to the imagination" and "I love your librarian/teacher vibe, it's so sexy." Men sexualize nuns and muslim women, who are completely covered. No woman is exempt from this.

Why is this important? So you can stop blaming yourself for men treating you like sexual potential instead of a person and hold men accountable for their own willful inability to control themselves.

To the Christian women, you are not responsible for men choosing to lust after you. Lust is a choice. I am same-sex attracted, and when I find myself attracted to a woman, I simply choose not to fantasize and lust after her. Men are capable of the same, they just like to shift blame.

As a Christian, I dress modestly as an act of humility more than anything else, but I know there is nothing I can do to control the sinful actions of men. Please stop blaming yourselves.

#hold men accountable #feminism #christian feminism #modesty #femininity #wwnf #my post #womanhood #church #christian lesbian #dress code #dress code violation #trad #traditional femininity #christian woman #Christian womanhood #side b lesbian #side b christian #side b #modest clothing #toxic masculinity #biblical womanhood

[side-b-bumblebi]

I think one of the hardest things about discussions involving groups of people is that you start to see people as [arbitrary concept] and not as... people. You'll talk trash on people because you think that nobody in your friend group is one of *those* people.

But the kid who's struggling with their sexuality hears you when you say that gay people are going to hell.

The kid who came out on the other side of childhood trauma and abuse hears you when you use their circumstances to justify abortion, essentially implying you'd be better off dead.

The person who's trying not to self-harm in your circles and hasn't found the guts to ask for help yet hears you when you call cutters attention seekers or crazy.

People are far more than [insert group]. They're not 2D representations of a group they're a part of. They're living, human beings. Remember that when you use your words.

#side b catholic #side b christian #side b lgbt #catholicism #christianity #ssa catholic #ssa christian #pro life #anti abortion #consistent life ethic

[aceinsearchofspace]

One great thing about being a Christian aroace is that Valentine's Day will not exist to me this year due to it being the same day as Ash Wednesday. I can't be bothered by romance when I'm worshipping the Lord.

#asexual #aroace #aromantic #asexuality #aromantism #christianity #asexual christian #christian ace #side b christian #ash wednesday

[harpidiem]

𝕵𝖚𝖘𝖙 𝖑𝖎𝖐𝖊 𝖞𝖔𝖚, 𝖑𝖊𝖙 𝖒𝖊 𝖇𝖑𝖊𝖊𝖉 𝖚𝖓𝖙𝖎𝖑 𝖍𝖊𝖆𝖛𝖊𝖓 𝖙𝖔𝖚𝖈𝖍𝖊𝖘 𝕰𝖆𝖗𝖙𝖍

#bride month #side b #side b artists #side b christian #artists on tumblr #art #drawing #artists on instagram #illustrators on tumblr

[the-silver-stone]

everyone stop what you're doing we need to bring this back ASAP

#source: tvtropes #the article actually went on to talk about how modern forms of “bromance” #are a continuation of this trope. but like. #nah bruh. modern dudebro air hugs could never #people are too scared of being labeled gay or whatever #and i think a big problem is people of all genders have sectioned off #certain parts of their capacity for love and affection as #“only for use in partnerships leading to sex and sex-adjacent expression” #side b #side b christian #just celibacy things #i guess

[morepopcornplease]

What do you say to the Christians who tell you to “give your homosexuality up to God”? That He’ll take it away if you love and trust him enough? I’m a side b Catholic. I know that my relationship with God is pretty good (though of course it’ll never be perfect unless I get to Heaven), and I feel like He’s not going to take away my SSA anytime soon, if ever. People keep telling me that they know people who’ve had SSA put God had delivered them from it, and that if I trust Him more that the same will happen with me… I just don’t know how to respond to it. Logically I know that everyone’s spiritual journey is different, but these comments have kinda been getting to me…

Sorry to just dump all of this, but you’re pretty much the only approachable side b person I know and I would appreciate whatever advice you may or may not have.

Hey 🐝 nonnie!!

So I’ve seen and interacted with these folks myself, and have gone through some crises of faith because of them, too! Probably not what they had in mind 😂

Viewing it with charity, I’d like to say Offering it Up To God is in fact the correct response as a queer Christian. However, Side B people do this already, by assenting to the Christian tenets on marriage and sexual acts; it seems they think our offering Cainian, and they have the Able solution.

As such, there are some fundamental theological statements these people are often making when they charge queer folks to simply Pray the Gay Away, ones that they have not considered the full ramifications of:

God has promised to remove all temptations (gluttony, sloth, wrath, greed, pride, envy included) from our lives if we pray hard enough.

Offering up my sexual desires is only necessary for the non-hetero.

Temptation = sin.

One can only be “saved” if one is truly free from all temptation.

It is necessary to be straight to enter the Kingdom of Heaven.

Objections / Responses:

God has made no such promise. “My yoke is easy and my burden light” (Matthew 1:13) implies that there is still a burden to bear, a yoke to shackle, a cross to carry, to in order to follow Christ. “For just as the sufferings of Christ overflow to us, so also through Christ our comfort overflows.” (2 Corinthians 1:5)

Offering up sexual desires to God is not unique to queer folks. Consider the straight person who struggles with lust/pornography/erotica, the religious who has taken a vow of celibacy, the single person who is not in the confines of marriage, the married person who has desires outside the confines of marriage (or in our own Catholic faith, desires which are non-procreative and dis-unitive). All are required.

The Lord was tempted in the desert, and is still free from sin as True God and True Man. Temptation =/= sin. “For in that he himself hath suffered being tempted, he is able to succour them that are tempted.” (Hebrews 2:18)

While my knowledge of Protestant theology of salvific justification is limited, if one is saved by faith and not by works, ie repent and believe to be saved, “by faith the believer has Christ’s righteousness imputed to him or her once and for all and thereby is assured of God’s final favor even though he or she continues to be imperfect.” [source]

See objection the second.

On a personal theological level, I find the theology of atonement, ie the narrative of Christ’s Death and Resurrection, to be a far more coherent and compelling parallel to Side B theology than to Side X theology.

In the Christus Victor theory of Atonement, Christ undergoes death himself as a way to defeat Death, viewed as the ultimate price of the fall of Adam and Eve. There is no defiance of death / triumph of the resurrection without that physical, corporeal death on the cross!

And yet… evil still exists, even after Jesus’ resurrection.

St Paul encourages us:

“[T]o keep me from becoming conceited, I was given a thorn in my flesh, a messenger of Satan, to torment me. Three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me. But He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My power is perfected in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly in my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest on me. That is why, for the sake of Christ, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.” (2 Corinthians 12:7-10)

In other words, in order to be perfected, in order to give Christ that ultimate triumph over myself, I think it’s actually good for me to be pierced with this queercoded arrow. (St Sebastian, anyone?).

For God’s power, mercy, and goodness is not revealed through the creation of his perfect angels, but in the weakness of man being made perfect through Him.

#popcorn replies #side b #side b christian #side b Catholic #gay as the rainbow over noahs ark

[badsidebsuggestions]

As a queer Catholic, I’m used to being painfully stabbed in the chest by fellow Christians.

That’s why this Pride Month, I’m partnering with the Sacred Heart of Jesus

#bad side b suggestions #side b #side b christian #side b catholic #I’m sorry not sorry for the Catholic bent but that’s where my jokes are coming from rn #go with it

[celibate-hopeless-romantic]

Faith study leader, trying to lead into a point about the personal nature of God's love: When you have a crush on someone and you find out they like you back, how does that make you feel?

Me, queer: 😨😬😓 . . . good.

#side b christian

[bi-ace-bee]

Hello all! It’s been awhile since I’ve been able to work on this blog, but now that I’m actually getting it up and running, we should probably start with the basics.

So what exactly are “the sides”?

Well, a basic definition of this terminology would be to say that each side is a different theological view of sexual activity between two members of the same biological sex.

Side A:

Side A holds the belief that God blesses same sex relationships within certain boundaries, and any verses that appear to be condemning homosexuality are either mistranslated or misinterpreted.

Side B:

Side B holds to the traditional view of the church that homosexual relations are condemned by the scriptures, however attraction is not something one can control, and there is no issue with using language that reflects your experiences (IE, calling yourself Gay, Bi, Ace, etc.). Side B and Side A also both agree that seeking to change one’s sexuality (conversion therapy) not only isn’t required, it is in fact harmful and should be avoided.

Side Y:

Side Y shares many beliefs with Side B, however they believe using queer identifying terms would be identifying with sin, and prefer to use terms like “Same Sex Attracted” (SSA for short). While Side Y doesn’t generally support conversion therapy, they don’t always denounce it either.

Side X:

Side X believes that any form of romantic or sexual attraction to a member of one’s own sex is inherently sinful, and that changing one’s orientation is a goal to strive for.

(You will generally see Side X people self identify as “Ex Gay”, however not everyone who uses that identification is actually Side X)

For more information on the sides as well as some history regarding the terms, I highly recommend you check out this article by the Life on Side B Podcast that goes far more in depth than I have.

#side b christian #Christian #christianity #lgbtq

[side-b-bumblebi]

Is it just me or does Side B Tumblr LOVE Trigun lol

#havent seen it yet but i want to!! #it feels like i see so many posts that are like headcanoning trigun characters as side b and such #this show just seems like side b catnip lol #side b catholic #side b christian #side b lgbt #trigun

[aceinsearchofspace]

Happy first day of Ace Week, everyone! As a Side B Christian, it is difficult to find Christian books about singleness that don’t cater to the “preparing for marriage” crowd. That is why I love this new devotional I found: Single and Not Sorry.

This devotional focuses on the benefits of singleness and how we can serve God as single women. We have more time, flexibility, resources than those married with a family. We are all called to be followers of God. Our relationship status does not affect our calling.

#asexual #asexuality #christianity #side b christian #devotional #bible #ace week

[i-used-to-be-an-anti-feminist]

side B is homophobia in a (very thin) veil ):

It sounds like you don't know what a side B Christian is. Allow me to elaborate. Side A and side B Christians are both part of the LGBT community, but each interprets the Bible in a different way. Side B Christians believe that acting on their same sex attraction is a sin, so they choose to remain celibate or act only on heterosexual/romantic attraction (in the case of bisexuals). Side B Christians do not believe the attraction they experience is a sin, but unlike side A Christians, they still choose not to act on it.

Homophobic Christians who are neither side A nor side B believe that same sex attraction in and of itself is a sin. They don't believe you can experience same sex attraction and be a Christian. They probably won't be friends with anyone who identifies as gay, and they show varying degrees of intolerance. This is what I grew up around, but it is not me.

My identity as a side B Christian affects my own behavior as it relates to my sexuality, but it is not something I desire to inflict on others. It is how I have interpreted Scripture and responded to that. It's not something that is relevant to me in relating to others who are not Christian or who even have a different interpretation.

Some side B Christians may exhibit homophobic behavior, but I would argue that the stance itself is not homophobic. It's just a personal choice relating to ones own sexuality. Many side B Christians still support gay marriage and the rights of others to live as they choose.

#ask box #anonymous #side b lesbian #side b #church #my post #side b christian #sexuality

[morepopcornplease]

What's your beef with ex-gays? What did they do?

…

So my immediate problem is the growing fundamental misunderstanding that Side B = Ex-Gay.

Side B was in fact formed, historically, specifically, in reaction to the ex-gay movement itself.

History lesson: the ex-gay movement, which you will likely recognize through its tangible theology-in-practice by its multiple conversion therapy camps and organizations (Exodus International is one of the most recognized, which closed in 2013 with an explicit apology for its treatment of queer folks and an acknowledgement that conversion therapy doesn’t work).

These camps, organizations, and ministries proved painful and disorienting to their attendees, leaving them particularly vulnerable to crises of faith (if God is supposed to cure me of homosexuality, and he doesn’t… iS there a God?), theologically unsound, ultimately ineffective on the whole, and indeed deadly.

In the wake of these ex-gay conversion therapy camps, queer Christians who attended and came out just as gay as before were met with a fundamental crises: what do we do??

Some decided that the church was wrong, and formed Side A for Affirming-Gay-Relationships within the Christian faith.

Others decided that the historical church teachings were correct and in line with natural theology—marriage is reserved for a unitive, procreative couple (ie 1 man 1 woman), but rejected the theology promoted by the ex-gay movement, ie that you can be converted into a heterosexual if you pray hard enough, and your journey to Heaven first and foremost involves this conversion of your orientation.

Side B therefore cannot involve people who wholeheartedly reject homosexuality as an orientation, or consider themselves “saved” from it.

In summation: I wish folks who align with the ex-gay movement would stop tagging their posts as #Side B here.

And in an attempt to plunge the deeper theological question at stake here: if conversion therapy work, if ex-gay theology true and practicable, if gay labels do not apply…why you would keep talking about your homosexuality here? Please, at the very least, stay the course on your own internalized logic.

We owe God and each other the Truth. That truth involves the fundamental, irreconcilable differences between ex-gay and side b theology, and honesty in our discussions, online and in person.

#popcorn replies #gay as the rainbow over noahs ark #side b #ex-gay #side x #history lesson #side b christian

[badsidebsuggestions]

I’m not American.

I identify as someone who struggles to live in this country.

#side b #bad side b suggestions #side b christian