There are largely 2 ways people look at the world. One is from the perspective of survival, and one is from the perspective of the spiritual.
When your primary concern is to survive, compete, achieve, and win; you cannot achieve it being a loving person. Loving, caring, and forgiving people cannot be competent. To survive and thrive you need to draw boundaries, you need to put up limitations, you need to fight and strive. You need to be aggressive, violent, impatient, restless, and full of desire. You need to always take from life more than what you need and ensure the other does not get what he can’t achieve and simply dies away. This is not cruelty, this is simply how nature is. Cells compete against each other for domination, resources, and continuity. The ones who cannot win simply do not get to continue. When you function from here, you have to believe that the world is a bad place that’s out there to get you and your job is to take advantage of and exploit everything and everyone.
There is a secondary perspective, that of the spiritual. Here, the primary concern is not survival, it is beauty and blissfulness. This perspective has a realisation that has arisen out of awareness of the primal nature, out of awareness of the limitations, the boundaries, and the fights and ugliness thereof. To the man of survival, the spiritual man will always look like an utter fool - The spiritual man is nice, he is welcoming, he is open, he gives, he feeds the animals, he forgives, he allows, he is patient, he is restful, he is meditative; what kind of an idiot is he anyway? Yes, he is an idiot of sorts because he is no more involved in Life. He has taken a step into the beyond. For him, what matters the most is the stillness of his mind and his appreciation of life. His happiness is no more important, he is happy when you are. His suffering is no more existent, his suffering is only seeing your helplessness. His desires are no more for himself, but for the greater good of all Life and to uphold natural balance and Dharma.