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soulinspiredlivingproject · 4 years

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Where are you now and how did you get here?

It’s that time of the year when we think about what we want to accomplish next year. What issues do we want to overcome? What goals we want to achieve? Where we want to be in 3 months, 6 months, this time next year? But we often miss a couple of steps before planning out next years goals.

We plan without considering where we are now and what actually went wrong in our year as well as what has actually went right.

We must start there first. We must look at what went on this year before planning the next. So grab a pen and paper and lets have a Goal Setting Session right here, right now!

What goals did you create and why did you create those goals?

What went wrong this year?

Write out all the things that you wanted to achieve, attempted to accomplish but you just couldn’t seem to make it come to fruition. If you have a hard time remembering, you can look at your previous goals if you wrote them down, or think back month by month to come up with your answers.

What went right this year?

In the same fashion as the first question, write out all the things that you actually did achieve, all the things you set out to accomplish and did accomplish. If you have a hard time remembering, you can look at your previous goals if you wrote them down, or think back month by month to come up with your answers.

Did you have to pivot? If so what did you pivot in and why?

(ex. You started out with the Keto diet but decided a more plant based lifestyle was more agreeable and easier for you to maintain and still allowed you to accomplish your health goals. Or maybe you decided to start a youtube channel but realized you didn’t have enough lighting at the time of day you needed to film and found that you didn’t have to consider any of those things to podcast-so you found a pivot to podcasting the best thing to do, to allow you to be consistent and share content)

What accomplishment did you enjoy the most and why?

What failure made you feel like shit a little bit and why?

How did your wins/losses impact other areas of your life?

What do you wish would have gone differently?

Now that you’ve had a look at what happened last year, It’s time to use The Process to do a deeper look at why all the things happened last year.

But first

What is The Process?

The Process is an adaptation of a coaching model created by Brooke Castillo. For me I look at her method as a combination of The Law of Attraction, A Course In Miracles and The Work-so for me, I truly get it.

I’ve adapted her coaching model with a heavier Feelings Based approached because that’s my background as a student of knowledge in the area of Old World Crafts and Women’s Lost Empowerment Methods and I truly believe it’s what is needed for women to create the home and life they desire.

Break Down of The Process

The Process consists of 5 important layers or steps for you to evaluate

Your Situation

Your Thoughts

Your Feelings

Your Action or Inaction

Your Results

Each layer has dependency or a rope tied back to the layer that precedes it. Here’s what that looks like-

The results you achieve or don’t achieve are because of the actions or inactions taken

The actions or inactions taken are driven by the feelings you experience

The feelings you experience are created from the thoughts you have

The thoughts you have are about the situation you find yourself in

You understand? Let’s go over it one more time. Just take in each layer slowly so you connect them. Write them out if you need to see it on paper.

Let’s go again-

The results you achieve or don’t achieve are because of the actions or inactions taken

The actions or inactions taken are driven by the feelings you experience

The feelings you experience are created from the thoughts you have

The thoughts you have are about the situation you find yourself in

You can also look at it this way-

You have thoughts about the situation you find yourself in

Those thoughts create feelings-negative or positive

The feelings you experience drive your actions or in many cases inaction

The action or inaction you take creates the results you see

Whether you look at The Process from start to finish or from end to beginning the flow is still the same.

Where do I start-

Honestly, you can start on any layer in The Process, it will always lead you to the next layer, but I find it to be easier for my clients to start on the Feelings layer.

The reason for starting with your feelings is because it’s SO super easy to point out how you’re feeling or don’t want to feel. For whatever reason, negative feelings are easy to spot and articulate than talking about the positive feelings you want to experience.

So we start with your feelings. Let’s do that. Grab your pen and paper or if you’re driving, you can simply listen and work it out that way, but you’ll definitely want to take this process to pen and paper!

How do you feel about your situation? In the decluttering world, the most used feelings based word I hear is-Overwhelmed.

People feel overwhelmed about their clutter for many different reasons. It could be that-

It’s just too much stuff to contend with

Or I don’t know where to start

It could be that you don’t know what to keep or what to throw out

Well, here’s the truth in all of that-

Your feelings of Overwhelm are coming from your thoughts. Not the situation. The situation is actually not doing a damn thing-it’s your mind and the thoughts your mind is conjuring up about the situation that are creating the thoughts.

Your thoughts are-

It’s just too much stuff to contend with

Or I don’t know where to start

I don’t know what to keep or what to throw out

Those are thoughts

Those thoughts (which are about the situation) are what are making you feel overwhelmed!

This is an important truth for you to understand and agree with, within yourself because as I’ve said, each layer is dependent upon the other-from end to beginning or start to finish-whichever way you look at it-the layers are tied, they are steps-up or down!

The reason I need for you to get that layer is because the next step is regarding the oh so important action that you take.

All of your actions are feelings based. All of them. We only take action based on the feelings we have and the feelings we have come from our thoughts!

If you’re not taking action its purely because of the feelings you are experiencing.

If you are taking action it’s purely because of the feelings you are experiencing

If you look at any movie, you’ll see that ANY action taken by anyone in the movie, is totally driven by their feelings. You can see The Process in every movie, show, documentary you watch! You can see the total flow of The Process.

Think about the last show or movie you’ve watched. What happened in it? And why? You can follow The Process in the movie. Break it down for yourself. If you can do that, then you can do that for your own life! It may be a harder break down, but you can do it!!

When you break it all down, you’ll see the outcome or the result that came from the action or inaction.

Right now, I sit here writing this and I am hungry!! LOL If am feeling physical hunger pains!! I want to make a distinction between Physical Feelings and Emotional Feelings-although one can be tempered by the other, for the purposes of The Process, we are only dealing with Emotion based Feelings.

If you have a physical feeling-like pain-that is not something covered under the guide of The Process. We are only talking Emotion Based Feelings. Got it? Good! I’m not going to tell not to pay attention to your physical needs. I can’t make that determination. Only you can decide what you’re going to push through. At this moment, I can push through my physical hunger pains, but I would have to stop to take some painkillers if I had a headache or toothache! I can’t push through those!

Whatever action or inaction you take, will show up in the results you see. If I don’t put my clothes where they belong when I get home from work and take them off, my lack of action will create a pile of clothes for me to deal with!!

If I do put my clothes where they belong when I get home from work when I take them off, my action will create less headache over having to deal with a pile of clothes, I’ll feel better about myself, it’ll give me more motivation to continue doing right by by myself.

Whatever action you take will show up in the results you see. And vice versa, whatever inaction you take will show up in the results you see.

The results you see always come from your action and they are also always tied back to your thought process. Whatever thoughts you are having are going to dictate the results you see.

Grab your pen and paper and jot down the results you manifested this year or didn’t manifest. Can you give an example of what you were probably thinking to produce the result? Share your results in the comments section.

Great. Keep working with these steps to have a look at each of the goals you accomplished and the goals you didn’t accomplish. Over the next few weeks, we’ll be looking at Change and Setting your 2020 for success using The process

All the best, A

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soulinspiredlivingproject · 4 years

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How do you create a kick ass decision making process?

If you want to create a decision making process that leaves you with unshakable confidence there are few things you have to consider.

#1 Are you goal setting in the right way?

As a woman, we are feelings based individuals. We’ve been “unlearned” how to use our feelings and emotions to the best of our ability. Reconnecting with your innate knowing is your first step. You are already a naturally connect being to the higher power of your understanding. So all you need to do is tap into that connection by coming up with your Soul Inspired Goals.

Yes, I talk a lot about Soul Inspired Goals because how you want to feel in your life is EVERYTHING! IT’S LIFE! So getting clear on that will allow you to naturally create your kick ass decision making process.

#2 Where’s your mindset?

The Soul Inspired Living Project is all about allowing your mindset to end the mess. Not just in your home but in your mind as well. Yes, there’s a lot of mess that needs to be cleaned up in your mind due to the teaching from your friends and family, pastors, rabbi’s and imams and society in general.

To start retraining your brain, using a strategy I call The Process is an epic move for you.

The Process focuses on you what your thoughts are about the things you need to make a decision on, how those thoughts are making you feel and the actions (or inaction) that is being driven from those feelings leading to great results or not so great results.

Putting It All Together:Using the tools above to create your kick ass decision making process

Now that you know a little about the two tools needed to create your confident decision making process, lets put them together to create it.

Get clear on how you want to feel. Come up with 3-5 feelings based words that describe how you want to feel everyday. When something comes up that you need to make a decision on think about if it will add to how you want to feel or taking away. Use The Process to further break down your thoughts if you can’t come up with a clear answer on if the “thing” will add or take away from how you want to feel.

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soulinspiredlivingproject · 4 years

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Re-accessing Your Goals

When do you decide to re-access your goals?

Let’s work through this:

#1 Consider how/why you created the current goals you have in the first place

Using the Soul Inspired Goals strategy is the best way to come up with the right goals for yourself because it allows you to take out the “middleman” which are “items” you think will make you feel good, instead of going for feeling good in the first place. Figuring out how you want to feel first opens the doors to many way more options to achieve your goals than going after a specific item.

Example: You set a goal to buy a BMW because that is a sign of success for you and it will make you feel successful to reach that goal. Well, going after a BMW isn’t exactly the problem. What I want you to focus on instead of the BMW as a means of feeling successful is to instead go straight for feeling Successful right now. In order to do that you’d have to ask yourself “What kind of things can I do to feel successful?” When you ask yourself a good question, you come up with good solutions.

Maybe a solution that comes up for you is that you can write a blog post that gets published on the website of someone you like. Then that leads to you getting more blog writing offers and even one from someone you admire and want to emulate. Then that leads to you joining an Online Summit about the topic you wrote on and you start getting known for that topic. Which leads to you coaching and making enough money to purchase that BMW.

>> Can you see that the BMW is just a by-product of the feelings of success that you already created, long before it even came along? <<

#2 Use The Process to figure out were your mindset is regarding your goal situation

The Process helps you break down the truth of why you aren’t actually achieving the goals ( it isn’t meant to actually help you create the right goals for yourself, so make sure you’re using The Process correctly) The Process goes like this-

Your Situation

Your Thoughts

Your Feelings

Your Actions

Your Results

Now lets break it down-

The situation is you not accomplishing your goals

Your thoughts are strictly about the situation, which is-you not accomplishing your goals.

Your feelings are created by the thoughts you have, in this case you may be feeling like a failure. Your feelings DO NOT come from the situation itself. Your feelings come from the THOUGHTS you have about the situation.

The actions you take are driven by the feelings you have. Your actions are always driven by your feelings and in this case, if you’re feeling like a failure then you’re probably not taking action or the right action.

Which affects the results you see with achieving your goals.

Got it? If you don’t, no need to worry, just practice looking at your thoughts and how they make you feel for the next couple of weeks, journal it and you’ll start to see how everything is connected!

When you’ve created your Soul Inspired Goals and use The Process to help you get over the challenges that will surely come up as you plan and implement strategies to achieve those goals, you’ll know if your truly need to re-access your goals.

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