#sit with it

[thepeacefulgarden]

#sit with it #feel your feelings #your feelings are valid #your pain is valid #your trauma is valid #feelings #emotions #grief #mindfulness #coping #cry it out #self care #mental health #healing

[poetrybyonur]

You can talk about or write about certain emotions. But there are emotions that you cannot. Some emotions can only be felt. They need to be felt. Feel them. Sit with them. Understand where they come from and why you feel them. Then, let them go.

Music by Blank & Jones

#poets on tumblr #love quotes #love poetry #romantic poetry #love poem #romantic writer #onurtaskiran poetry #poets and writers #gentleman poet #love #poetrybyonur #spilled ink #spilled thoughts #writers on tumblr #feelings #emotions #quote of the day #feel it #sit with it

[dcrthvcder]

aegon is a rapist btw

so is every other man in a song of ice and fire universe so where do we get from there

#anti team black #anti hotd #anti targaryen #anti house of the dragon #aegon ii targaryen #you dumb bitches bring this argument as a gotcha moment for a series that is inspired by 16th century england where the church saw women+ #+as their husband’s property #i assume you are team black aka targaryen stan so i have a surprise for you #every single targaryen you worship is either a rapist or rape apologist and that includes daenerys #so you don’t get to tell me aegon is rapist. maybe he got that from his targaryen side of the family😋😋😋 #think about it #sit with it #also yall have daemon on your side. you don’t get to use the word rape! #the person rhae got her ‘power’ from is also a rapist! #do you want me to go on? #i seriously hate yall so much yall even make got stans look like angels #mailbox #aegon ii #team green

[franks2022]

Gotta learn to be okay with people hating you. If you do good things, bad people are not gonna like you. Its okay

#good vs bad #hated #uncomfortable #sit with it

[mymidwestheart]

#always be cautious with those who believe in logic over emotions #the goal is balance #sit with it #emotions #they are natural and real #they also pass

[mykaxxvii]

Sometimes, all you want to do is sit with sadness and let it drown you.

#shakespeare #william shakespere #jk rowling #typography #thoughts #sit with it #sit with sadness #sad thoughts #sadgirl #sad quotes

[huhiuc]

At this point, death is enjoying my misery from afar.

#ghibli movie #life lessons #not strong enough #teenagers #grave of the fireflies #poetry #thoughts #sit with it #overthinking #tw self destructive behavior #life #this is what makes us girls

[lousydrawingsforgoodpeople]

#stay curious #eating disorder recovery #sit with it #ed recovery #doodles #bad art #lousy drawings #doodle #positivity #self love #healing #recovery

[scotland-wolves]

#sit with it

[thepeacefulgarden]

#feelings #emotions #your pain is valid #your trauma is valid #your feelings are valid #sit with it #feel your feelings #it's okay to not be okay #self compassion #mental health #trauma #grief #healing #recovery

[malbecmusings]

Sit with it, huh? 🙄 Well. That works for a bit, but then you better apply a little forward motion cuz you can sit with it until the second coming but healing doesn’t happen without action.

#I don’t know who needs to hear it #sit with it #think about it #feel it #but get your ass up and do something about it #or nothing will change #def drank it and fucked it away #ran from it for years #worked for a bit #until it didn’t #and he showed up and said wtf are you doing

[feralchaton]

Sit with it

#drrebeccaray #Rebecca Ray #Sit with it #feel your feelings #let them come so you can let it go #I've shoved years down - now I have to sit with it #once i do and let the feelings come they are able to go #healing is a process

[dystopiandramaqueen]

Endgame

I'm gonna say something that may be unpopular, but I think it's important.

I've sat with it for a couple weeks and I'm pretty certain that June genuinely loves Luke AND Nick.

June is polyamorous.

Her heart can hold love for more than one person at a time.

It's actually very feminist and progressive and modern of the show to depict a polyamorous female- to allow her to have real feelings for two (2) different humans at the same time.

Traditionally- in many cultures- women were property.

Literally bought and sold. Exchanged for dowries. Traded between fathers and husbands.

"Love" wasn't part of any of it.

If women had sexual intercourse with men other than their husbands- they were shamed and punished.

As long as stories have been passed down, "cheating" women have been vilified.

In The Bible, Adultery is listed In the 10 commandments from the same (male) Judeo-Christian God who watched and said nothing as King David seduced the wife of another man, sending him to his death at the Battle front so he could "have" her.

In the Scarlett Letter, she literally had to wear a visible symbol on her chest for the whole town to see. Permenant, public slut shaming for having felt love for a man other than her husband. HOW DARE SHE!

The Trojan War- depicted in The Odyssey- happens because Helen of Troy takes a lover and leaves her husband. All the nations go to war because a woman chose to take a lover outside her marriage.

Isolde's affair with Tristan and Gwenivere's affair with Lancelot? Forbidden! Their love had to be kept secret from King Mark and King Arthur. When it was discovered, the husbands were devastated. The kingdoms were destroyed. Again, literal death and destruction. She had to choose. She couldn't have both. Her happiness? Not acceptable.

Romeo and Juliet Die bc her family didn't approve of her choice of lover.

Traditional folk songs are full of stories about killing an errant woman. "Mama's in the graveyard, papa's in the penitentiary" "I thought I was her daddy, but she had three more." "I shot that bad bitch down."

The list goes on. You get my point.

I use the past tense... but everything Atwood depicts in The Handmaid's Tale exists in the real world. The oppression in this story isn't fiction, it's history. She did that on purpose.

Atwood wrote The Handmaid's Tale so that modern women wouldn't take the hard-won freedoms we enjoy for granted.

I've read headlines about "Honor Killings" in the middle east- where brothers or fathers kill an errant family member for shaming the family. Still. Happening. Today.

These are the stories we grew up on.

June grew up on those stories too. June feels shame when she's attracted to Nick. In the book, June thinks Luke is dead, but she STILL still feels guilt, and begs Luke's forgiveness in her mind for her "weakness" and "faithlessness."

The show writers depicted this beautifully in June's taped confession to Luke in S3. She admits shame and tells Luke he should also find comfort in another, like she has. She releases him from the bonds of monogamy.

Ok. SO.

A TRADITIONAL story would have one of the following ending options:

June confesses her "sin" to Luke, who would have every right to punish her- with shame or a slap to the face, or divorce.

June returns to Luke as his property, downplaying her affair with Nick. Revoking, forsaking it- to return to the safety of Luke's protection.

June revokes her marriage, saying its over, she doesn't love him anymore, "choosing" Nick. Hiding in the safety of HIS arms. This would undoubtedly provoke a man like Luke to violence. Like the trojan war. Like in the fucking bar in Toronto when Luke shoves Nick.

Luke or Nick die, making the decision for her.

But this is a feminist story, written by a woman. At the end of the Testaments, Atwood has both Luke AND Nick present in June's life.

June doesn't have to choose. She can love and be loved by both.

Our hearts can hold love for more than one person at a time.

It's not hurtful if everyone involved knows about each other.

Luke asks her to contact Nick to help with Hannah.

Nick is aware of and Glad for Luke's help from Toronto in sheltering June once she's out.

There are no secrets, no deception. Just love.

Polyamorous people can still feel jealousy, and hurt- it's not EASY to navigate- but when she's with Luke, she's with Luke. When she's with Nick, she's with Nick.

When she says "I love you" to one, she means it.

It isn't false because she also said it to someone else.

We see in Gilead- what it looks like when women are property. Named for their captors. Of-FRED. Of- Luke. Of-Nick. It is BAD and harmful. To be defined by your captor. To be owned by a man like property.

The Handmaid's Tale is healing and beautiful because June reclaims her freedom by reclaiming her sexual agency. By having sex with Nick "because it feels good" June frees herself, even while she is still a captive.

It's the point of the whole story.

So as we watch her tale play out in Season 6, let's remember that June doesn't have to choose between Luke and Nick. Spoiler alert: according to The Testaments, she won't.

This isn't Twilight. She doesn't have to forsake mortal life and become what Edward is, or lose Edward to be with Jacob.

If the writers were going to force a DEFINITIVE endgame with Nick, they could have killed Luke off twice now. Once while he was detained by border agents, and once when he was fighting the man who ran June over.

They didn't kill Luke off.

Luke will remain a part of June's life. He's the father of her child, and holds a special place in her heart. His love survived her absence, and is doing its best to adapt to her new post-trauma reality. He is growing with her now. Doing everything he can to help, just like Nick. Is Luke as savvy as Nick? As graceful and open? No. But he's from a different world. I'm open to Luke's growth as long as it allows for Nick, the same way Nick allows for Luke.

Nick is ok with June loving more than one person. It doesn't diminish his love for her. His love isn't possessive. He will never own June. She is NOT "his". That's cannon. Nick, depicted by Max Minghella, is impressed by Luke's love for June, and glad for it. He looks impressed when Tuello tells him the driver who injured June is in the ICU. Glad June has another protector, who is free to act in ways he can't.

June can have both.

She can love two men. Openly.

And that is pretty fuckin cool.

#polyamory #meta #nick x june #nick blaine #osblaine #when the discomfort rises #sit with it #and know that june's love for nick will never fail #no matter what obstacles they throw at it #love never fails #not looking for discussion #just needed to say it

[mytearsarethestars5]

Today I sat with my grief

When I felt it.

I recognized it as an old friend,

Instead of an intruder.

I welcomed it with open arms,

And held it close to me.

I comforted it,

Until there was nothing but calm,

And though it did not dissipate,

And will undoubtedly come again,

I will welcome it once more,

Instead of turning it away at the door.

I will see it when no one else has,

Recognize it no matter the pain,

And comfort it until it no longer aches,

And finds its place in what I call

My new normal.

Greeting Grief

- S.S.B

#i am not the woman I used to be #i am growing #i have grown #i am so proud #i am proud of me #grief writing #grief/mourning #griefandloss #coping #coping with loss #old friends #greetings #sit with me #sit with it #emotions #emotional #see yourself #feel your feelings #trust in the universe #trust the process #you will be okay #i’m proud of you #i see you #i hear you #i understand #poems of life #life is beautiful #yin and yang #loss and gain #healing poetry

[mykaxxvii]

Someone said to me, "I don't think yk the meaning of "hurt"..."

Even if I do know the meaning, what can I do? All my life, all I have done is feel it and exist alongside it, regardless.

It's been a while... what I want doesn't matter.

#meaning #yknow #life #regardless #it's been a while #doesn't matter #my post #mine #literature #leo tolstoy #lana del rey #rambles #sit with it #it doesn't matter #dostoevksy #dostoyevski #fyodor dostoevsky #writing dialogue #typography #jk rowling #shakespeare #william shakespere #books #book #thoughts

[dreaminginthedeepsouth]

[Paradoxical Phoenix]

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why some people be mad at me sometimes :: lucille clifton they ask me to remember but they want me to remember their memories and I keep on remembering mine

[via Alive On All Channels]

#cartoon #Paradoxical Phoenix #sit with it #Body Alive #feeling #poem #poetry #Lucille Clifton