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#so that they didn't end up leaking out as disapproval or castigation in the meeting - bc i made space for myself to express them
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#really intense advising meeting this morning
#i don't really want to process it on the internet (i made macky listen to a little tiny bit of processing)
#but sometimes i am good at my job & feel deeply that i am engaged in meaningful and purposeful work
#one thing that helped me prepare for this mtg was venting my frustrations in writing first - letting myself have the least generous reaction
#and then taking ten very very slow 'in for 4 - hold 4 - out for 8' breaths
#and then writing down my core values for engaging with students (to remind myself of how i want to be present with kids)
#and then writing down a list of three things that i thought were really important for us to grapple with in the meeting
#and then spending some time thinking about how i could bring the two lists together: the core values/practices of engaging students +
#the hard truths/helping the student take accountability
#and then i came up with a little exercise for us to do so that i wasn't lecturing the student but was asking questions
#and giving them lots of space to talk through it and arrive at an answer organically
#the impulse to lecture is strong especially when you feel like someone has really messed up a situation and you want to jump in
#and immediately tell them how to 'fix' it
#but i remind myself: that is not learning - that is just telling
#and also just my understanding of the situation or my assumptions about what's going on with the kid are often wrong or incomplete
#i want to record this because i think that method of preparing for the meeting was really helpful
#and the meeting itself was emotionally heavy but i think really helped us both understand the other better
#but yeah ok. what the preparing allowed me to do was
#to vent all the negative/frustrated/'why didn't this WORK' feelings first - expressing them instead of repressing them
#so that they didn't end up leaking out as disapproval or castigation in the meeting - bc i made space for myself to express them
#and then the breathing thing helped me create some separation between the angry brain and the calm compassionate brain
#reconnecting with & reminding myself of my core values for engaging with kids helped me not get stuck on the 'problem' we were meeting about
#but instead approach the meeting in a more holistic way - focused in empathetic listening & not assuming i know what's going on &
#on being an emotionally steady consistent non-punishing person in a kid's life
#and all of that combined with making the list of the tough love/hard truths we needed to address
#helped ground the compassion - or like helped me remember that
#compassionate teaching and mentoring isn't about 'letting kids off the hook' or communicating to them that choices don't have consequences
#but is actually about helping them understand and work through the consequences of any choice (positive and negative) in an empathetic way
#giving them space to make their own mistakes and then providing a safe/compassionate space for them to emotionally process failure &
#take accountability for their actions & reflect on what the experience has taught them
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