#sorry i'm so out of it lately y'all. but i don't wanna force myself.

[sammiesonyourleft]

city lights - p.p.

pairing: peter parker x black best friend f!reader

summary: your best friend finds you in a strange place mourning your failed relationship

notes: dedicated to everyone who had a bad situationship) (dis my own canon)

word count: 906

"Y/N?"

"Oh hi, Peter," You say pausing your music, sitting up from your position.

"Don’t just ‘hI pEtEr’ me? What’re you doing up here dude? It's so late!"

"I needed to breathe. I hope you don't mind. What're you doing here?"

"This is where I come when I take breaks from night patrol. Is everything alright?"

Taking a deep breath in, "No Pete, they're not."

Y'all sit in uncomfortable silence before he asks "Do ya wanna talk about it?"

"I loved him but it wasn’t worth the heartache ya know. I lost myself trying to be what he wanted. I changed so much, and not to say those changes were bad… I made some pretty healthy ones. they were just for him. I adapted so that he’d be more comfortable… so he’d love me back… I realized that it was hella wrong. I shouldn’t be hiding parts of myself because he’s uncomfortable. I shouldn’t have to hold my tongue because he doesn’t like my response. I've spent many nights crying over the fact that he didn’t want to be with me and that I was trying to force something that was not there in the first place. I just wanted to see if he’d come around, ya know. that wasn’t my first mistake. my first mistake was not leaving when he told me he didn’t want a relationship when I told him I had feelings for him. my second mistake was staying."

He opens his mouth in disbelief, pausing before deciding his next words, "But you couldn’t have known that, y/n."

Shaking your head, "Peter, when a guy knows he loves you, he loves you. And he means it. no ifs, and, or buts about it. He will do anything to make you happy and keep you happy. I would know… I’ve seen it before. My grandfather… has dementia. He still goes out and buys my grandma flowers every week. I knew. I just wanted to see if he felt the same. Turns out he didn’t, and I'm difficult to deal with, and “I do too much”. Serves me right though… I knew this rel— whatever this was — had an expiration date, no matter how long I pretended it didn’t. I wasted my time." Sighing dramatically, you lay back down, covering your eyes as you finally come to terms with your feelings.

Peter rushes to lie down next to you, "No, you didn’t; This was a learning experience for you. Sometimes we go through stuff that we don’t want to. but it teaches us for the next time. so now if some guy comes to you now, you have the chance to set boundaries and make sure you're being intentional with who you're spending your time with. And if he takes off running then he’s not the one. If he stays and gets to know you, the real you, not the one that dirtbag tried to make you into, he could be the one."

"But how do I know that it’s not gonna end up the same way again? I’ve been in so many talking stages. I'm tired of learning what to do and what not to do to keep a guy. that was the longest one. and this one hurt the most. we had so many plans together. and now they’re all gone. because of me."

"Absolutely not. Wrong. Not because of you. Because of him. He couldn’t see past everything that’s inside you. He only saw what he wanted to see. He waited until you were fragile enough for him to break you over and over again. He decided he wanted to flirt with you after you told him you had feelings. He’s the one who stayed after you said I love you. He got into your head and convinced you that you were crazy. when you’re not. He had so many opportunities to say “hey I’m sorry, I know what you want but we don’t want the same things, so I think it’s best if we go our separate ways.”

"But he told me he wasn’t ready. I should have just listened."

No. Absolutely not. I’ve seen the text messages. He told you that after y'all bared your hearts to one another. Did you forget where he said he loved you back? Because I don't! That was a big thing. Y/N, Im so sorry he played with your feelings for months. You deserve so much better than that. I’m happy he’s gone."

"Well now you sound like MJ."

"Yea she kind of gave me the run down of what happened, but I knew I needed to talk to you. I don't regret any of my actions."

"What'd you do? Web him up in an alley?

His eyes get wide, and he pops up really fast, "Well well well, we have school tomorrow, why don't we get going?

"Peter Parker, what did you do?"

"Imayhavewebbedhimupandlefthiminthealleynearhisapartmentbuilding."

"YOU DID WHAt???"

"I had to do something! He hurt my best friend! So I dragged him out his sleep and he's currently handing above the dumpster behind his apartment building."

You scream, "PETE! He's HANGING???"

"Yea... Please don't be mad. I can go take him down if you'd like." He looks genuinely scared when he says this.

You laugh, pulling him in for a hug, "Thanks Pete, you're the best friend anybody could ask for. Now let's go. We have pictures to take with a certain boy.

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We be word vomiting. Please if you liked it this pic let me know. Any comments or advice will be greatly appreciated!

xo,

dai :)

#peter parker #spiderman #x black reader #x black fem reader #best friends #tom holland #tom holland spiderman

[wrotelovelytears]

Son... I'm home

Decided I wanna do a post on my current solar return (I'm slowly creeping up on my next one)

📟I mentioned this a while back but my whole chart flipped this year.

What that means is all the signs are in the opposite house they are normally in my Natal chart.

📟What that has been doing for me is not only forcing me to be more extroverted I'm also experiencing some discomfort with myself.

📟My Sun is in my third house (conjunct my IC) and its kinda funny how I've been talking and communicating a lot more with family. Like not only am I expressing myself more (at home) but I've been a lot more open in therapy.

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📟That leads to my next point, my Chiron is in 8th house. I've been doing so much growth in terms of fears and deep rooted things that I'm actually getting impatient with what is next. Since its in Pisces(not my normal Scorpio), I have also become even more aware of my habits, the deep rooted ones that is. And while I feel like I'm struggling a bit in terms of spirituality, I'm also learning a lot about my limits with it.

📟I'm kinda thankful for my Jupiter placement. Like y'all don't understand as someone who has chronic health issues that 6th house Jupiter is currently giving me a break from most things that make me really sick. I've also started to develop a less strict routine and it works out great for me. No need to feel the pressure to overachieve, just do what I can and not what I want.

📟Speaking of the 6th house, Saturn is also in there for me. That might be where more of my responsibility to self is coming from. And with Capricorn being there as well I feel like my growth can also be attributed to me implementing and controlling previously harmful behaviors.

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📟I was trying to figure out why the hell I kept attracting Venusians (besides my usual Plutonians). Turns out my NN is in Taurus. And my Venus is in the fifth house. So the attraction I have just makes sense (and they pretty 😔)

📟So my moon hasn't moved from the eighth house, which is great. I already know how to live with an eighth house moon, only thing is its in Pisces which has been making me... Emotional to say the least. Like I cried because I wanted one of my comfort foods. Ate it. Then cried because it was gone. That's not normal.

📟I hate where the hell my Neptune sitting right now. I got one more "I wanna be in a relationship so bad" type of dream foe I lose it. There's no reason I should be dreaming about romance this fucking much. I love love and whatever and no one told it to bother me in my sleep too- 7th house

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📟Kinda jealous of folks who naturally have a Libra Mercury right now. Like the way I've been able to put my thoughts in to words and understand so much more is kinda pissing me off. Like why can't I always balance out what needs to be said and what dont. People also understand me a lot better (Scorpio Mercury apparently softens or mutes my voice a bit so yeah)

📟This might be TMI but don't care, didn't ask... My libido has been CRAZY. Whoever naturally has Eros conjunct Pluto (especially in the 5th house). I just know you live on incognito mode.

📟So funny story Lilith (I only use h13 sorry bout it), is currently in my 10th house. I don't like it. I'm sorry, but the way people look at me funny or even the way I'm (a lot) more conscious of how I appear is not sitting right with me.

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📟Speaking of 10th house, Taurus is currently sitting there. I've been feeling very pretty lately. Like gas myself up type pretty. Besides outward appearances, I have been trying to comfort myself a lot more openly. I'm not as shy to put my comfort and needs first.

📟If Taurus is my 10th then Scorpio is my 4th. This is one of the big flips I was mentioning before that has me bent. I'm so much more... observant in private spaces and more ditzy in public. I'm probably giving off bimbo vibes to folks who meet me on the street, while my family and close friends trying to figure out why I'm not talking as much.

📟Sedna (Rx) is also in my 10th (conjunct that damn Lilith). Yeah, I've been a lot more concerned with finances, and how I can not only grow them but comfort myself with it. Like normally I'm like damn I need money... Anyways, yet now I'm like I need money so I can buy the cute little frog hats because frogs make me hap- then I start crying :")

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📟Sappho actually hasnt moved for me (in terms of houses). The difference is that my writing (and flirting) kinda and organized mess (like my room :)). Like normally I'm real charismatic (or whatever), now I'm like a nervous ass highschooler. Like hello not with all the Libra in my chart. I will say I have made more drafts of writing this year than I have my entire life so yeah, my writing a bit less up to my standards than usual.

📟I think another reason why I'm like ehh in terms of spirituality (religion in my personal case) is because Aries in my 9th with a Rx Uranus. Like some days I'm super in tune with myself and beliefs other days idk. Idgaf. I'm alive dats it. Until something sparks and interest then I care again.

📳I wouldn't go as far to say I'm questioning my belief system (imma Muslim), I just don't have the energy to be overzealous or even care about what others say.

📟Lmao guise my Hygiea is in Virgo. I feel like that is yet another reason why my health hasn't been running laps. I've also gotten diagnosed with ADHD this year (always had "add had", they just didn't care to test me), which helped me further put words to my feelings.

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📟This one of the first times I've had an empty 12th house. Like ain't nothing in there and just like that emptiness there, my head empty too. Idk why but having a Cancer 12th seems taxing. I feel like this is another reason why I'll burst out in tears or experience a strong mood swing then be fine. Like hello? What's going on in there? Also doubling down on need for comfort. And and and to make it worse i want physical contact 🤢

📟My 11th house is also empty. Which again isn't normal for me. Also with it being in Gemini, I have found myself surrounded with folks younger than me. Normally its people around my age or off by a year or so.

📟I'm really bottom heavy this year, which would explain why I'm going over my younger years in more detail. Almost like I'm doing a lot of healing work and opening myself up more to go forward instead of being stuck in the past.

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📟Being a Sag Venus kinda gross to me. Like why am I getting bored so fast. I never got bored with folks like this before. (I WONT TOLERATE ANY SCORPIO VENUS SLANDER, ARGUE WITH YA MAMA BOUT IT) Someone can stop talking to me and I would be like um chile anyways. While thats kinda good, it also means folks who keep talking to me scare me. Which is what is pissing off my Neptune (and natal Venus).

📟I know Saturn and Capricorn are supposed to represent restrictions... But why am I'm having IBS flare ups a lot. I almost went to the hospital because my stomach decided it wanted to hate me one day and give me bruises because "tummy no want to do it job"

📟I have multiple 18° in my chart (including my Psyche, which is important for what I'm bout to say). I'll be honest some days my mental health does tank really bad and I do get those really bad thoughts. I don't know why we can't accept that sometimes the negative aspects of astrology placements exist. Like yes my mental health is doing better AND I still have those no good horrible terrible bad days. I'm not going to skirt around it because others want to, a bitch go through it at times.

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📟That being said there is also a ton (even more than 18°) 2° found in my chart. I'll just say I've been noticed a lot more and good things do exist.

📟This may seem like a huh?? Type of observation and I've been more invested in homemaking and plants. I think its all the Earth energy combined with the Venusian one. Like I've been doing things that are seen as traditionally "woman" like and experiencing so much joy from them.

This year's persona notes

Venus

Yes I did start off with venus, fight me for it.

📟So my rising is a Libra (my natal venus persona chart rising is a taurus, so still a hot girl just different vibes), with the moon placed in it. I have been *trying* to put my heart on my arm. Haven't made it that far yet and I am a lot more open in terms of self expression.

📟Looking back at my previous note about Sag Venus, my sun is in Sag. And I hate that for me lmao. Yes it's in a Taurus degree AND I don't like the nonchalant attitude had.

📟Another Rising note, its in a Cancer degree which makes a lot of sense in terms of emotions displayed and feelings around love. And I did say Cancer is currently my 12th house which can link it back to the constant dreams about relationships.

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📟Lololol my chart ruler is in the third (communicating seems to be my biggest theme this year). I feel like I'm being pushed to communicate my feelings and wants more, that's something I personally struggle with. Especially with romantic partners, so maybe that's why I'm still single 🤔 I haven't reached my max communication skill yet.

📟Me still being Venusian (persona wise), isn't completely surprising since I'm still going with what makes me comfortable and feel pretty just in a different way.

📳Previously I had worn a lot of skirts and dresses, now I'm more a whatever matches completely and makes me feel cute type of person.

📟I think I'm learning the lesson of making myself available and being comfortable with myself. Like I shouldn't be one extreme or the other.

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📟I also realized this year I thrive in relationships. That be friendship, partnership... Shit working with others. Being around people helps me gain more knowledge about myself and strengthen the connections I have to my fellow humans- NN in 8th

📟I've also been talking about "the self" and beauty a lot more. Like personally I never cared much to speak on it, just would think about it then keep it pushing but now I'm making whole posts about beauty standards, astrology n beauty and various aspects of beauty/self.

Saturn

📟Can someone explain to me why my Saturn chart is Capricorn heavy

📟Why is it also Gemini heavy? Like how much more communication do I have to go through?? There's multiple Gemini degrees. Like too many.. Way too many

📟In this chart there happens to be a lot of right hemisphere energy. Like tew much

📟I know see why I'm so health and work focused, I have the Virgo/Pisces axis for my MC/IC. It just happens to sit at 0 degrees so this is something relatively new for me.

📟My SN is conjunct my Vertex (also my Moon conjuncts my Vertex), that would explain why the past is so connected to my current thoughts and actions. I have been having so many dreams about school and people i knew (especially highschool and elementary). The impacts they had on me and the impacts I had on them.

Neptune

📟Since I mentioned dreams in the Saturn persona notes, I wanted to go over Neptune because brain being strange.

📟The dreams about relationships and the past happening because my stupid ass NN and SN are on not only the Taurus/Scorpio axis but the 3rd/9th house one too.

📟Since the beginning of my Solar return, I've literally just been hit with things from my younger years and school related issues. It got so bad I started panicking before going to bed and had to talk to my mom (she is amazing with dream interpretation)

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📟Going back to spirituality and the finicky connection I currently have, I'm not surprised to see my 6th house holding Neptune itself. If something isn't done everyday,the connection to it waivers. What I do every day is have dreams so thats a large connection there, however I don't do things like practicing my other skills unless I'm absolutely called to do so.

📟However when I do it works out really well for me. Like I haven't been off in terms of larger scale things or personal based things. I'm still shaky with collective things only because I don't like doing them so it doesn't come as easy.

📟Convinced Venus loves the fifth house... This is yet another chart that has it there and also explains why I suddenly wanted to start working with kids (young ones... I'm sorry but teenagers 😐), again.

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📟The Gemini moon can explain why I tend to write about spiritual matters a lot more, also just communicate them with others. It does lead to me trying to intellectualize some things and honestly, we can't know everything.

📟I'm going to interpret the Gemini PoF as younger people having a profound impact on me. Not just my younger years and people I knew but those who are younger than me and I can learn from them. Also being around youth can boost my sense of self as well as my aspirations.

📟With a Pisces Chiron (in 7th house), relationships help and hurt my views. I've been in a cut people off if our values don't align energy. Like I'm not going to try to argue with no one with different values (not views), than me. Its not worth my time and energy, however it makes me question if I will always stand by my values and their importance to me.

This has been my solar update. Don't think I'll do another like this until after my next one pasts.

(If you learned something new or would just like to support me you can leave a wittle tip via the tip button or one of the links in my masterlist. You can also purchase a reading from me via my masterlist as well🧸)

#astro tumblr #astrology #astroblr #astro notes #astrology observations #astro observations #astrology tumblr #nymph writes astrology #solar return #persona charts #saturn persona #neptune persona #venus persona

[simpformoonkight]

Hello, this is my first time ever doing an ask, but I saw you did someone’s dsmp match and I really wanted to see mine! If you don’t wanna do it, you can totally just ignore this, I was just curious how you would see me :)

(dsmp match btw)

Name: Nova

Pronouns: She/he/they

MBT: Infj-t

Personality: I’m a very chill person who honestly changes everyday. Some days, I wanna go out and be one with nature and go to museums and go to cute cafes, and the next I want to dress in all black and bake all day. I’m very tired all the time but I can be energetic when I’m really happy! I love talking about things I’m passionate about, but I love listening a lot more. I’m very touch starved and I love physical touch, but I’m way too anxious to initiate it. I am super nervous about standing up for myself, but I would fight any day for my friends and family. I’m very perseverant, and I care a lot about others! I’m a very picky eater, yet I cope by making tons of food, by baking and cooking. I’m very lazy unless I’m in the mood to do things, and no one could every force me to do anything I don’t want to do. I try to be calm but would totally beat someones ass if needed lmao (sorry if this is a lot)

Likes: Mythology (specifically norsk and greek) zodiac signs, the Mcu, the heat, ramen and ravioli, huge hoodies, hugs and cuddles, Tangled, period piece movies, history!!!, fashion and historical fashion, flowers, candles, sleeping in, showers

Dislikes: The cold, many many foods, school, stress and anxiety, the color orange, lizards, being angry, being forced to do something I don’t wanna do, and the snow. (I honestly couldn’t think of anything else, I don’t like hating on things much)

Sorry if I did anything wrong! I hope you have an amazing day!!!

I'M SO SO SORRY FOR BEING LATE (I forgot the inbox exist 🤦🏻 again I'm so sorry)

I pair you up with. Karlnap!!

Karl would definitely like to go out with you especially to the Cafe or museums

Sapnap would too but I don't think he is into going to museums much

And if you decided to stay in and bake

They are both down to do it

But be prepared for a flour war to break out

And you 3 have to play rock, paper, scissors to sort it out

Sapnap loses the most, you didn't hear it from me

If you are tiring yourself they will make go to bed especially Karl

He will cuddle you to sleep then sapnap would join with y'all

They love your baking but are concerned when you say something like

“This is my baking, now enjoy my misery, and don't forget to tell me how it tastes”

”Nova, love are you ok????”

“you can talk to us”

And when you fight someone/they see you fighting someone

Sapnap will cheer you on being ayo that is my S/o over there >:D

And Karl just trying to break the fight

They are both will be more than happy if you just ramble about Norsk/greek mythology even if they don't understand

They both love you a lot and they will do anything for you

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I'm so sorry for replying late😭😭

I hope you have a nice day too!!

#mcyt #writing #headcanons #dsmp #scenarios #match up #Sapnap #Karl #Karlnap #sapnap mcyt #karl mcyt #quotes #Dream smp #karl dsmp #sapnap dsmp

[sludgeware]

About the Bi Lesbian post: it's harmful since it operates off of the misinformation that "lesbian" as a label is an umbrella term referring to all women attracted to women instead of ONLY attracted to women. This leaves lesbians without a term (and therefore without a community) where men are not a part of their sexuality. A major part of the oppression of lesbians is from trying to force them to date men, so it's important to be able to discuss a lack of attraction to men. Lesbian was only an umbrella term before the bi community came to be more recognized, so saying lesbian is an umbrella term now also erases bi people with gender preferences. I hope this helped? Sorry for it being so long.

it's getting a little late for me so this isn't gonna be a real eloquent response but like. I very much get where you're coming from. I'm not a lesbian myself as I've said I am a Dude a Fella a Guy complete with Gay Boyfriend and I will never pretend to know the lesbian experience I don't wanna step on y'all. I am (pretty sure) I'm mspec with a gender preference but I don't .? see how other people using a certain label erased other people using a different label???? because they're still there???? lol. and I don't see how a woman who identifies as a lesbian that is attracted to multiple genders would be unable to discuss not liking men or how it'd stop other lesbians who just like women from discussing not liking men? tbh someone had linked me a doc about the whole thang and once it reminded me that there are more than 2 genders out there and infinity mix n match combinations and like five hundred million reasons to identify as a bi lesbian it sorta clicked in my brain lol. thanks for taking the time to try to help me understand tho!!!!! :]

#im kinda jjst tired of policing peoples labels. unless its some ''''minor attracted people'''' shit #its none a my business if a lady likes dudes n chicks but wants to just date chicks or if her sexuality is fluid or whatever #i do not in any way mean to be dismissive btw. i am try to be niceys

[setternine-a]

level of emotional: my mother sent me a video of a puppy getting pets and i cried.

#probably eating cheese ╱ lulu. #this is what happens #when i'm not in contact with animals for too long #pictures no longer help dfhjgfs #i just.. wanna cuddle them... feed them... make them happy... #i guess it explains why my life spiraled after i stopped riding /and/ fostering animals #......... ANYWAY HHHHHHHHHNHGHHHHHH #i might spend a bit more time on discord later tonight #maybe? idkkk. #sorry i'm so out of it lately y'all. but i don't wanna force myself. #hopefully it'll get better next month as i can fix some things w my life <3 #thank you sm for waiting. i love u! #new bloggo is still coming this weekend #i will post a few drafts and bounce

[pocfansmatter]

Okay I said before I was going to get more in depth with blood quantum eventually so now is as better time than any I guess. Mind you I'm speaking as a Native American meaning an Indigenous person from America. Specifically from 2 southern California tribes. I cannot speak for all Native or Indigenous people. I can only speak for myself, I can’t even speak for my tribe. However most Natives tend to have the same view when it comes to the blood quantum debate. From this point on blood quantum will be shortened to BQ & Native American to Native(s).

Originally this was gonna be a reply to another comment but decided to make it it's own post so I don't associate my blog with that anti Indigenous one. Please try to read the whole post before clicking the articles. I screenshotted the main parts to keep the discussion going. Feel free to click on all the articles because they are good & most of them are from Native run news websites.

I was gonna do this with a read more tag but my laptop doesn't want to work. I'm literally getting anyther one on Thanksgiving but my old one doesn't cooperate sorry so y'all are gonna get a long post. 😕

So let's start with the basics. What is blood quantum?

"Blood quantum laws or Indian blood laws are laws in the United States and the former Thirteen colonies that define Native American identity by percentages of ancestry. ... For instance, a person who has one parent who is a full-blood Native American and one who has no Native ancestry has a blood quantum of 1/2."

In case that was confusing if one person is "full blood native" they are considered 4/4. Meaning they have no relatives who are of any other race or ethnicity. If the "full blood native" has a child with a non Native person the child would have a BQ of 1/2 Native blood. If that child has a child with a non Native that child will be considered 1/4. This will continue to get lower & lower unless the child has a baby with another Native. Then the BQ raises or stays the same depending on the other parents BQ.

Now that the definition is out of the way lets get into the issue with this.

This is a good article that narrowed down an issue with Pharrell wearing a headdress. I wanna focus on one part of the article though.

"... deeply connected to their Native culture & live it every day."

"Having Native American ancestors doesn't get you off the hook if you don't bother to do the homework."

So I mentioned before that a lot of Natives don't consider BQ as a proper way of measuring your culture. Being Native isn't something you can pull out when it's convenient like for a photoshoot. Its every single day. It's in the words we speak, in the clothes we wear & in the food we cook. Same as any other culture.

Asian people don't wake up not Asian. Black people don't wake up not Black.

So why is do some people pull out the Native card when it is convenient? Like Pharrell did or Elizabeth Warren claims.

This article sums it up well but I wanna focus on the last 2 paragraphs.

Link to the full article:

There's similarities in both articles by 2 different Native authors from 2 different news websites.

They both speak about connections to our culture. A DNA test cannot measure ones Indigenous Ancestry because being Indigenous is much more than something in your blood.

I made a post asking some questions that might help understand if one is Indigenous or not. Now I'm not saying these are all the questions nor that I'm the expert on this. These are just STARTER questions to help people understand what it means to be Native.

Does the tribe you claim, claim you?

Have you been to the reservation?

Do you participate in the community?

Have you met your family from the tribe?

Do you know your history, traditions, anything about the tribe you claim?

The big one is are you claimed. You cannot claim a tribe that doesn't claim you. Now I'm not saying the entirety of the tribe has to know you personally. I'm not even saying you have to stand in front of the tribal council & ask them if they claim you. A claim can be made as little as just your family saying "this person is one of us".

The reason I bring this up is because multiple tribes have in the past & continue the practice of "adopting" a person into their tribe. There's many examples of this. Some can be adopted because they married into a tribe. Non Natives & Natives of other tribes alike have been adopted into tribes. There can be legal adoptions like adopting a child. And countless other examples.

A lot of the time biologically those members aren't apart of the tribe & cannot be enrolled but are still viewed as a member by the community.

For personal example, my sister has been adopted by my tribe. She's actually an enrolled member from another tribe & technically my cousin but was taking away by CPS & my family took her in. She grew up & still lives on my reservation. She is from another reservation. Although her tribe still claims her as a member my tribe also does. People in my community know her as a member of my family & have grown up with her. She knows many of our traditions & practices some ceremonies with us that are specific to my tribe. No one in our tribe has expressed any issue with this so far & even if they did they would have a stern talking to. We are even in the process of organizing her to be buried on our tribal land instead of hers. Her choice & we are okay with it.

Now I want to point out another way people can be considered Native even if they aren't enrolled or cannot answer those questions properly.

Let's look at something called "reconnecting Natives".

What is a reconnecting Native?

A reconnecting Native is someone of Native Ancestry who for whatever reason has been removed from their culture, family, reservation, etc so they do not know them & are actively trying to learn those things so they can reclaim their Native roots.

So, how does this happen? This is actually a very common issue in the community.

One of the main ways a Native might become disconnected is through the process of Residential Schools or Indian Boarding Schools. What is that? Here's a snippet of an article to help explain.

Of course here is the link:

The official motto of these schools was "kill the Indian, save the man” and if you think it sounds awful I promise you, it was much worse than you could imagine.

There's a movie on Netflix called Indian Horse which I have not watched yet but is based off a novel by an Indigenous author that looks at these Boarding Schools if you wish to check that out.

The goals of these schools were to strip Indigenous children of their culture. They were beaten, starved, punished of things as simple as speaking in their languages. A lot of them didn't even speak English. It was illegal to keep your kids from this school & often times tribal children went to these schools and never returned to their family. Natives who attended these schools or are children of children who attended these schools more often than not stop practicing their culture or forget it. In that way they become "disconnected".

Those members can if chosen too began the process of reconnecting.

I found this really good article going a little more in depth on the do's & don't's of reconnecting.

But here's a screenshot of important parts.

Granted this is a long process. Lifelong. Every journey to reconnect is difficult & very different from others. It depends on your tribe & community. Some of them make it easier & some make it harder. It's up to the individual to put in the work.

Now I don't want to make it like being a connected Native is easy. Yes it's easier but connected Natives also put in work to live their culture everyday.

Now what does this have to do with blood quantum? As you can see none of these articles about being Native or even a reconnecting Native mention blood quantum or DNA being a requirement.

If one is Japanese & someone asks "how are you Japanese?" What would the answer be?

"Because I just am. Because my parents are Japanese."

If someone is white & has kids those kids are white, correct?

So if it's so easy to explain for other cultures why does mine require math? Why are some of my family members not enrolled members despite having Native parents & growing up on the reservation? Why do my people have to actively think about the DNA results of our children if we choose to have them?

Because of BQ. Its a tool created by colonizers that are forced upon us. If we do not abide by the rules & requirements the government sets in place we run the very big risk of

Losing our status of a Native American tribe.

Losing our land & land rights.

Losing funding from the federal government.

Losing our housing.

Losing Healthcare.

Losing our basic citizenship rights.

The thing about BQ is it's designed so that we fail. If we fail to keep a certain amount of enrolled tribal members in a tribe then the government can break treaties & take away our land & things that are rightfully ours.

BQ is a lose/lose situation all around for us as well as extremely racist.

Because of the BQ requirements Natives actively worry about who they have children with. Some don't date outside of the their culture in fear of their children not being seen as legally Native. The problem here is a lot of the tribe is related. The issue of inbreeding increases. How do we solve that problem? Well we can have children with Natives of another tribe. But there's a problem here too. Most tribes do not allow what we call dual enrollment. Both of my tribes for example don't allow this. Which means one would have to pick which tribe to enroll their child. That means one of the tribes will lose out on a member. So that's another way identities are erased using BQ.

Okay I think I'm going to end this here. There is so much more I could've added. I also could've expanded on residential schools, what it means to be Indigenous, & reconnecting Natives but I wanted to keep it focused on BQ. If you have anymore questions feel free to ask or research on your own. We're still here. We aren't stuck in the 1800's. We weren't all killed by cowboys but the government is still actively trying to erase us.

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Hey guys! Wow, I'm super late today, ain't I? It was a weird day, I'm sorry.

How's the week treating y'all though? I hope you're taking care, staying safe, healthy, hydrated. Make sure to eat something throughout the day ok? I know some days we just wanna lay in bed and be unbothered, but you need to look after yourself, alright? Great.

As I said, today was just weird. I woke up and I just felt unmotivated, uninspired, lazy. Yes, I do have those days too. Its been a crazy couple of months and before I knew it I was already back to work again. So many tracks, so many projects- Kicking my ass harder than the gym.

Instead of working myself to death, I decided to take it extra easy and skipped the gym.

I went out for my daily run, as always. Took me longer than usual, but that's ok. For some reason my legs are killing me, probably because I'm moving studios and I've been carrying heavy equipment, so my run was slow but steady. Sometimes you just can't force some things, uh? You need to move at your own pace, y'know? That's completely fine as long as you keep moving forward.

Didn't see lady kitten today, maybe she found a home already! I hope so. Anyhow, on the way back it started raining a little so I had to jog the last few blocks. I took a long, hot shower to help myself relax and then just chilled for a bit before getting dressed and leaving for work.

Bright side though! Once I left home sky was clear again and the lady from the fruit cart was back! So on the way to work I got myself some nice passion fruit mountain tea and then a fruit cup.

This is why I like walking to the studio so much, it had been so long since I last saw her! She said she was on vacations too, well deserved.

Anyway! I hope your Wednesday was good! I am currently still at the studio and will probably stay here till late if I don't leave now so take care, yeah?

If no one has told you today, I'm proud of you. I really am. And I'm extremely happy that you're still here. See you around!

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Nancy & Rio

Nancy: I can't believe you're going along with this craziness Nancy: Oh my god, Rio Rio: I know it's fast Rio: but really, what difference does it make Nancy: It's not just fast, it's rushed Nancy: Not to sound like my mother but he should literally be at school Rio: I did tell him to go back Rio: He just wants to help with all the mess here Nancy: By leaving to jet off and get married? Yeah okay Rio: Well, obviously that's different Rio: but that's for me Nancy: My parents are gonna kill him, you do know that, right? Rio: I know Rio: but like I said, everyone knew Rio: it wasn't just empty words, we were always going to go through with it Nancy: Jesus Nancy: When he'd graduated, sure Nancy: Not now Nancy: He's not even started uni yet Rio: Give him chance to see the world and change his mind Rio: I know that's what your family wants, it's alright Nancy: If you're thinking there's a chance of it too, don't marry him Nancy: You're already engaged, everyone knows he's with you Nancy: You don't need to prove he's locked down before freshers week, like Rio: That's not why we're doing this Rio: Or how I am Nancy: Explain it to me then, 'cause lord knows he hasn't Rio: It is getting a little old, like Rio: Because we want to be married Rio: How else is there to say it Nancy: But why can't you just wait? Rio: Why should we though? Nancy: There's only a million reasons Nancy: Namely you aren't kids anymore and know how to be mature about things Nancy: Everyone would wanna be there, not tacked on as an afterthought, like Nancy: He should want to not spend all my parents money on this and wait until he's earning his own Nancy: You don't even live together Nancy: Do I actually have to go on? Rio: No you don't Rio: none of you want to be there Rio: and your parents don't specify what he's gotta do with the ridiculous amount of money they throw at him so Rio: if they wanna now it's a bit late, isn't it Nancy: That's not true Nancy: You're being unfair Nancy: Give me some credit if not them, I've been nothing but supportive Rio: I'm not saying you've not accepted that it's happening Rio: most have but no one's happy about it and that's fine Rio: can't force it but why wouldn't we want to do it alone without the pressure and background thought of all your lots bullshit, you know Nancy: No, you're just saying I wouldn't wanna be there Nancy: I love you both Rio: We'll have another one Rio: Later, with everyone Nancy: That's not the same Nancy: That's just a party Rio: What, you're really invested in the religious ceremony now or the legality of it all? Rio: It'll be the same Nancy: You're gonna be a bitch to me right now, really? Nancy: Okay fine Rio: I'm not trying to be a bitch but really Rio: it isn't an argument, stick to your former points if you like Rio: but that ain't valid Nancy: Oh my god, Buster spends all this time acting like I don't care, basically telling me I don't and now when I'm trying to show that I do neither of you want it Rio: Because it only comes up whenever y'all want us to not do something Nancy: Don't lump me in with my parents Nancy: That's so rude Rio: Sorry Rio: We told you because you are different Rio: and we weren't going to just do it and give you no warning Nancy: But not different enough that you actually want me there Nancy: Or that you don't think I need to be warned like this is the worse news ever or something Rio: It's hardly personal, come on Rio: We don't want anyone there Nancy: It's personal to me Nancy: I've only got one brother Rio: He isn't dying Rio: This doesn't need to be the thing it's becoming Rio: plenty of couples do the official wedding before the reception and all that, it's not that different Nancy: Other couples don't matter to me Nancy: And I don't know how you don't get what a big deal this is, not only that you're getting married, which is one thing Nancy: But also that you're basically doing it in secret again Rio: It's not a secret Rio: it's just for us Rio: I want to do one thing for myself Rio: all due respect this isn't about any of you Nancy: I'm not trying to make you feel bad Nancy: Or take anything away from you Nancy: Honestly Nancy: I'm just trying to get my head around this Rio: Yeah Rio: It's okay Rio: I know it's sudden, like I said Nancy: I know he really wants this Nancy: I could tell Nancy: I just Nancy: Is anything ever gonna calm down with this family, or? Rio: Probably not Rio: Looking unlikely Nancy: If you're happy that's all I want Nancy: Oversimplified maybe but Rio: I know it's not going to make you happy Rio: I'm just trying to say Rio: do you have to be unhappy about it, like Rio: it's not the worst thing, yeah Nancy: I'm not unhappy, I was just shocked Nancy: This is my brother you're marrying, you know Nancy: It's not exactly typical of him Rio: I know Rio: I know it's weird, like I am aware Rio: but it just is, you know Nancy: I understand Nancy: You want what you want Nancy: You can't unwant it 'cause someone else tells you to or isn't happy about it Nancy: You shouldn't have to Nancy: You literally don't have to, like Rio: Yeah Rio: Pretty much Rio: I'm sorry Nancy: Don't apologize Nancy: I couldn't just not be gay when I was getting bullied for it Nancy: I'm glad I don't like boys, believe me Nancy: Buster's the happiest he's ever been, you did that. So don't be sorry Rio: I didn't mean for any of this to happen Rio: to like him, I just did Rio: but I can't live an apology when I don't feel it anymore Nancy: I know Nancy: You love each other, you don't get to control that Nancy: And its a good thing, even when it doesn't feel like it Nancy: Who wants to be alone? To fight against what they want? Nancy: You're happy so be it Rio: Thanks, Nance Rio: You know we love you too Nancy: I know you do Nancy: Jury's still out on him Rio: Nah Rio: He does Nancy: Today maybe Nancy: 'Cause I'm not gonna tell mum and ruin his life Rio: Least wait 'til we're outta the country Rio: wouldn't put it past her to get us on the no-fly list Nancy: I'm gonna let her see all his bragging on the socials instead Nancy: More fun that way Nancy: "Your classroom looks suspiciously tropical, Buster" Nancy: While Dad just hits him with "Cool pic" Rio: 😂 Rio: Gonna laugh whilst I can Nancy: Me too Nancy: On the plus side, I think you've taken the heat off me at least until I graduate, so thanks Rio: Easy Rio: if I live to cause more turmoil you're very welcome Rio: what are the hated daughter-in-laws for after-all Nancy: 😂 Nancy: Oh honey, once you're married in you're gonna wish she hated you Nancy: She's gonna get so invested in your life Nancy: Can't have you ruining his, after all Rio: I'll take it Rio: Didn't stick around for career's advice and I could do worse, like Nancy: True Nancy: I'm just basking in the joy of knowing it literally doesn't matter who I bring home Nancy: Oh the freedom Rio: 😏 Rio: Charming Nancy: You know what I mean Nancy: I could be fucking my therapist and it'd be sidelined by this Rio: Well Rio: are you Nancy: Gross Nancy: No Rio: That's alright then Nancy: But she constantly says I need to be single for a while, so she clearly wants me for herself Rio: Deffo Nancy: Like, excuse you, Diane, I've been single for 18 years near enough Nancy: 1 girlfriend, honey, we've talked about it, get with the program Rio: Basically a nun Rio: out here calling you a dirty jezzie Nancy: Yeah, I know Nancy: Thank god you're giving me time to find a date for the other wedding Nancy: Clearly I'll need it, or a new therapist Rio: If you're moving Diane in, then yeah Rio: Unprofessional Nancy: Lord Nancy: She is so not the one Nancy: I think I hate her? Is that meant to be a thing? Rio: Probably Rio: You're stubborn and she's essentially telling you what to do Nancy: It's even worse Nancy: She makes me tell myself 🙄 Rio: Yeah Rio: Smug, init Nancy: It really is Nancy: Ugh enough about me Nancy: When are you going? What are you wearing? Rio: Brazil Rio: and Christ knows, oddly I don't have a wedding dress just hanging about Rio: I'll find one there, I guess Nancy: The question was when, he told me where but he hadn't got that far Nancy: I think he thinks you're gonna call it off unless you've made it to the actual plane Nancy: Just don't get married in a white bikini, yeah? Rio: Oh, my bad Rio: Head is truly all over the place Rio: Well, I am that tacky Nancy: 😲 take that back right now Nancy: You are not Nancy: This isn't the mindset Rio: Do you wanna like, moodboard my shotgun wedding for me? 😂 Rio: That's what I'm hearing here Nancy: UM YES Nancy: Get some Chanel and YSL involved, like Rio: Noted Rio: Whether that's the old or new depends how skint we're feeling once we're there, clearly Nancy: It's got to be classic or I'm disowning you Nancy: I'll allow you to save the real designer labels for the big day, bit of Vera or whoever but I can only budge so far, sorry Nancy: The silhouette is still everything even if he's the only one seeing it Rio: 😂 Rio: That's what I'm saying, stick with the bikini Rio: He'll be blown away Nancy: 🙄🙄 Nancy: That's so disgustingly true as well Nancy: Men Rio: Oh please Rio: Like you wouldn't wanna see your wifey like that Nancy: I'm not getting married ever but if I did, that woman better dress up for me Nancy: Whole 9 yards Nancy: Did you see my mother's wedding dress? Iconic Rio: Hmm Rio: Maybe you're right Rio: Great, now I gotta stress about that Rio: Thanks bitch 😜 Nancy: I would say sorry but I'm not Nancy: You can wear a bikini any time, you'll be going for like a week + Nancy: Besides, he's the kind of boy who actually appreciates clothes Nancy: Labels anyway Rio: I blame you entirely Nancy: Not sorry, again Rio: You can explain my sudden cold feet to him then Nancy: Gladly Nancy: Me and him haven't argued in so long Rio: 😑 Nancy: It would get something back to normal, that's all I'm saying Rio: Who wants normal? Nancy: Um Nancy: Me Rio: Nah Rio: Only 'cos you ain't had it Rio: No fun, trust Nancy: Alright, Diane 2.0 😏 Rio: Don't get ideas Rio: I know you love me but Nancy: 😂 Nancy: Are we gonna have time to do a hen before you go or are you literally flying out when you close this convo? Rio: Who? Me, you and Indie Rio: That would be interesting Nancy: Well, just me and you then Rio: I don't actually know, I'll have to check Rio: I know we were planning for asap but might've given himself a day to pack Rio: you know how it is Nancy: Tell him he can come to the spa too, he'll make time for that Rio: Yeah? Rio: Alright, prep us for the long ass flight Nancy: He loves a facial as much as I do, more probably Nancy: Not to mention a massage Rio: 😏 Rio: Know I'm meant to be mature and everything but Rio: lmao Nancy: DO NOT Nancy: So gross Rio: You said it! Rio: I can't help that Nancy: And you know exactly how I meant it 😒 Nancy: Just 'cause neither of us should be in white dresses no need to disgust me, thanks Rio: 😂 Rio: I'm not sorry Nancy: Well, please change your mind on that Nancy: 'Cause I'm too gay and too related for this, like Rio: That doesn't work getting you out of family functions, it's not gonna work now, babe Nancy: So mean Nancy: Okay fine I'm too single for this Rio: Aww Rio: I don't think we should go to that kinda spa Rio: too weird even for me Nancy: Oh god Nancy: 🙈🙉 Rio: What are hen parties for? Rio: I see why you're so keen now Nancy: I've never been to one Nancy: Thankfully Ro didn't get that far Rio: Shame Rio: I'd have loved to get her a stripper Nancy: 😂 Nancy: Librarian or something Rio: Sexy Rio: Drew probably would've done it Rio: the actual horror Nancy: I just choked on my coffee Nancy: and I'm this close to throwing up Nancy: But it's helped me think of the best stripper for her Nancy: Jesus himself Nancy: Sexily removes crown of thorns Rio: STOP Rio: Nothing hotter than blasphemy Nancy: I WISH I COULD Nancy: Help me actual Jesus Rio: He ain't gon' save you now Rio: fully looking the other way Nancy: Turning that chiseled jaw line 💔 Rio: Gutted Rio: Yeah, you gay, but you're a fellow ginge Rio: no loyalty Nancy: No way he was ginger Nancy: Or that he looked as much like a woman as he does in the art Rio: You should be living for femme Jesus Nancy: I didn't say I wasn't Nancy: Just that it's unlikely Rio: If you wanna chat theology, hit up your auntie fr Nancy: No thanks Nancy: I've done enough babysitting of them both recently Rio: Fun Rio: I just can't wait for the 2 month update when she tells us about all the things Astrid can do Rio: like, blink, cry, shit Nancy: Don't Nancy: There'll be a newsletter Nancy: Why do you think I wanna come to brazil? I'm planning to stay away until the christening is a distant memory Nancy: She's been planning it since before the baby came out, I swear Rio: Gotta get into heaven, mama Rio: the christening dress, good lord Rio: at least she's a girl, the poor baby boys Nancy: Right? Nancy: She wants to approve my outfit too Nancy: Excuse me, who am I? When have I ever made a faux pas Rio: 😂 Unlucky Rio: No showing your knees in church, bitch Nancy: 😒 Nancy: Poor Diane, it's all she's heard about 'cause I'm furious Nancy: Like, I'm not even joking I've had to send her links of what I'm going buy and she's said no to several looks Rio: The cheek Rio: you can't dress code a christening Nancy: Do you see Buster sending her pics of suits, no you do not Nancy: Golden boy could turn up topless in speedos and she wouldn't care Rio: Fresh from Ipanema Rio: She's gonna be 💔 about this wedding forreal Nancy: At least her and mum can bond over it Nancy: Break their silence Nancy: 🙄 Rio: Yeah? Rio: I knew my mum said it'd been pretty quiet Nancy: Better than them screaming at each other Nancy: Astrid doesn't need that Rio: I guess Rio: Was never going to be a joyous time was it Nancy: Not really Nancy: I don't blame you for wanting to leave Rio: Not like I'm allowed 'round that drama anyway Rio: got enough, still Nancy: Yeah Rio: Ah well Nancy: Feel free to join me in therapy Nancy: Buster won't Rio: You're good Rio: Wouldn't know where to begin, like Nancy: It's not as if I did either Nancy: I still don't Rio: Does it help? Nancy: I don't know Nancy: It doesn't, not help, if that makes sense Nancy: Like, I don't feel any worse Nancy: So maybe? Rio: It ain't hurting at least Nancy: Yeah Nancy: And I'll take that Nancy: It's weirdly nice to have someone to talk to, who's not too busy to really listen Rio: Yeah Rio: It makes sense Rio: and someone who odds on has a chance of knowing what they're chatting Nancy: It does make you feel less crazy when they don't look at you like 😲😲😲 Rio: Can't teach that poker face in Psych 101 Nancy: I thought I had a good one but she's taken it well and truly up a notch Rio: I think about the bad things too much as is though, never mind setting aside time for that shit Nancy: Me too Nancy: I could not feel more self indulgent, believe me Rio: Nah Rio: I think it's a good thing Rio: I just don't want to Nancy: I get it Nancy: Most days I don't want to, still Nancy: If she'd just let me text her I'd never go, like Rio: You just want her personal number, babe Nancy: 😂 Nancy: I told you, she's not the one Rio: Whatever you say, honey Nancy: Shush, bitch Rio: 😂 Nancy: I've text my brother about the spa, if I don't hear back I'll assume he's already got you in the air Nancy: Or, you know, he's being a prick Rio: 👍 Rio: I'll confirm either with a plane selfie Rio: or lack of, obvs Rio: Can you like Rio: just keep an eye on Indie when we are gone Rio: you don't have to do anything but she was a bit gutted so Rio: Everyone else will be too but yeah Nancy: Sure Nancy: Do you want me to text you updates spy style or do you want blissful ignorance? Rio: Put it this way Rio: Unless it's an emergency I can sort from Brazil Rio: I don't really want disturbing Rio: but you know the drill actual, keep an eye, tell the olders if she needs nagging into coming home for tea Nancy: Gross but fair Nancy: Okay Rio: Come on Rio: It's my honeymoon, what do you think gonna happen Nancy: I know what will I just don't need to think about my brother being the one doing it to you or with you Nancy: Thanks Rio: Don't be blowing up my phone then babe 😘 Nancy: You wish Rio: You know Rio: Forever holding out hope Nancy: It's fine, we don't need to make it competitive, I'm better Rio: 😂 Rio: That's the spirit Nancy: It's less of a brag more of a fact, really Nancy: Not saying you should dump him and marry me but Rio: Well if that's not what you're saying, why are you saying it at all? Nancy: I'm just saying if you did you know you wouldn't regret it, babe 😏 Rio: I would when you leave me high n dry and 💔 Nancy: Rude Nancy: I would never Rio: Sure 😏 Rio: Say that now Nancy: You're breaking my heart now! The love is real Rio: What can I say? Rio: Can't even hypothetically do him like that Nancy: So cute Rio: Yeah yeah Nancy: I better text him again to find out what he's planning to wear Nancy: Be awkward now if he didn't put the effort in, like Rio: You can bond over it Rio: you 🤓s Nancy: Like you're too cool to care, yeah? Nancy: You love to look good, too Rio: This? Rio: So effortless, naturally Nancy: You can fool him with that, but not me Rio: Rude Nancy: Now you know how the slander feels Nancy: I'm off to cry over the one that got away, obviously 😏 Nancy: Doubting my devotion Rio: Now I know why I don't go out with women Rio: fuck you knowing all my secrets, no thanks Rio: but okay then, see you getting a facial or not 😜 Nancy: Nobody knows all mine Nancy: Work on your excuses for why we can't be together before I see you next, yeah? Rio: Diane's working on it Nancy: She wishes Nancy: I'm not planning on seeing her every week for the rest of my life Rio: 💔 Nancy: That's my reputation, amongst other things so Rio: Gotta keep up appearances, babe Rio: Lord knows we're letting the side down Nancy: Anything for you, my love Rio: 💘 Nancy: You can invite Indie to the spa too, I promise not to seduce her in the sauna or anything Rio: I should hope the fuck not Rio: Not just jealousy talking Nancy: I should hope not Nancy: But I just mean, don't not invite her on my account, you know Rio: Of course Rio: I dunno what she'd make of it but I'll defs invite her Nancy: We might make a convert of her Nancy: The gay agenda Rio: Truly Rio: I just hope your brother is bringing back food she can eat Nancy: He's lived with you guys long enough Nancy: Must have a clue by now Nancy: I know he's a man but he's one with a brain Rio: And tastes that range beyond Maccas but Rio: he does his best, bless him Nancy: 😂 Nancy: I won't tell him if you don't Nancy: Big enough head, like Rio: That I can manage to keep from him, like Rio: Probably Nancy: You went from definitely to maybe so fast I didn't even get to challenge it Nancy: Disgustingly cute Rio: Progress from just plain disgusting Rio: I'll take it Nancy: I mean, you'll always be in hetero hell but Rio: 😏 Rio: I promise, it's not that bad Nancy: um okay sure Nancy: Unlikely story Rio: 😂 Rio: Not gonna make you try it, it's alright Nancy: You couldn't Nancy: We're over the age of sitting around getting dared to kiss Rio: Sure, you're saying that tonight Nancy: I'm saying that every night if you're offering me a man Rio: Suit yaself, butch Nancy: I will Nancy: Your taste is questionable, babe Nancy: Buster McKenna, of all people Rio: I've done considerably worse but that makes the bit less funny so Rio: go off Nancy: Thanks for letting me have my moment there Rio: Gotta get that best man material out somehow Nancy: Oh god Nancy: Am I gonna have to make a speech? Rio: Say what you like Rio: your brother would never hate you that much Nancy: I'll take that Rio: Though if you get pissed Rio: no stopping you Nancy: 🤐 Rio: I hope so, bitch Nancy: I'll have a date to impress/behave for, won't I? So Rio: Good luck 'cos doubt the rest will be on same orders Rio: dread to think 🙄 Nancy: Lord, don't put off the fictional lady before I've even properly thought her up Rio: My bad, my bad Rio: we're all totally sane and respectable Nancy: The numbers alone is intimidating without having to consider any of the personalities attached Nancy: Actually gonna die alone Rio: Not saying keeping it in the family is the way forward but at least I don't have to introduce him Nancy: I just loled Nancy: Won't be explaining that one to my barista Nancy: No offense Rio: Sure the town's already said it's piece on this one Nancy: Undoubtedly Nancy: School is even more fun now, like Rio: Soz Nancy: You really sound it, babe Nancy: I don't care, its not as if I have friends here anyway Nancy: Other than in the family Rio: Well, they'll find a reason to chat shit on us regardless Rio: Always have Nancy: Yeah Nancy: It's no different from my old school other than the accents they use when they slag you off Rio: Basically Rio: It's all the same shit Rio: why you think I left Nancy: I hope that wasn't the only reason Rio: Well no Rio: 'Course not Rio: There was just no reason to be there Nancy: Like Chlo Nancy: Did Buster tell you she left? Rio: Yeah Rio: I'm not secretly pregnant with a baby that's taking it's time though Rio: just FYI Nancy: Me either Nancy: I only kissed her, I swear Nancy: He must be so relieved she's gone though Rio: Yeah, seriously Nancy: I can't believe her and James haven't broken up yet Nancy: I bet he's glad he doesn't have to see as much of her too Rio: Must be a record, right? Rio: Way they all bedhop Rio: Be gladder when the baby's here and he ain't tied to it 24/7 Nancy: 100% they are both cheating Nancy: Well, if anyone will have them Rio: Probably a little hard to pull when you're clearly heavily preggo Nancy: I have no idea how far along she even is Nancy: But the morals in that friendship circle, it wouldn't surprise me if his friends were still hooking up with her Rio: I'm not totally sure myself Rio: bit over half way, I feel? Rio: It's actually gross Rio: like we've all had crossovers but never on purpose like Rio: it's like a weird badge of honour or something idk Rio: posh people love swinging, facts Nancy: But you two are the ones being incestuous, okay Nancy: Everything they do is way grosser Nancy: Buster is well out of it, so thanks Rio: If nothing else Rio: Stopped the likes of Millie Tillie being your sis in law Nancy: Yeah Nancy: He could've been the one having a baby with Chloe Nancy: Imagine Nancy: But don't, 'cause NO Rio: Easily Rio: I try not to, yeah Nancy: Making myself shudder in public Nancy: Thank god he isn't that stupid Rio: She didn't really give him a choice either way Rio: you know he was out of it Nancy: Obviously, but he would have used a condom though that's like muscle memory to him at this point the amount of girls he's been with Rio: If it were that simple no one'd be getting pregnant, babe Nancy: None of his conquests have Nancy: I'll give him that Rio: Shh Rio: Harshing my vibe, babe Nancy: Sorry Rio: S'all good Nancy: You seem happy Nancy: All things considered Rio: I am Rio: with him, like Nancy: And he is too Nancy: I know Rio: Good Rio: What more can I ask for, like Nancy: I'm sorry if I was being a judgey bitch before Nancy: I'm not trying to channel my auntie, honestly Rio: You weren't Rio: like, you were but in a valid way considering Nancy: I'm just trying to look out for you both Nancy: It's weird in the middle Nancy: I know if it was me instead of you, you would too Nancy: But I can't stand in the way, I know that Nancy: And I don't really want to if it's what you both want Nancy: Which obviously Rio: I know that, I swear Rio: You haven't done anything I wouldn't Rio: There's no way to prove this is the right thing but time so Nancy: You'd go way harder than me Nancy: But yeah Rio: Taking it as a compliment Rio: regardless of how it was intended Nancy: It was meant as one Nancy: You're a bad bitch, you know I love that about you Rio: 💘 Rio: You know how to win me 'round Nancy: I'd hope so Nancy: I've been around you long enough Rio: Yeah, no one's accusing me of being mysterious Nancy: Me either, don't worry Rio: Oh to be afforded the luxury Nancy: Let's call it overrated Rio: Seems like a suitably bad bitch thing to do Rio: I'm alright w it Nancy: Good to know Nancy: 'Cause it's a thing now Nancy: We're running with it Rio: Oh, Buster's back Nancy: Tell the prick to text me back Rio: Will do, I'll direct quote you Rio: Better go though, don't wanna let my food go cold Nancy: Thanks Nancy: Yeah sure that's the reason Nancy: I'm gay not blind Rio: You said it, sister 😍 Nancy: I'm not saying he's hot, I'm saying you think so Nancy: Before you go there Nancy: Anyway go Rio: 💋