so normally i just ignore inflammatory things people send me because there’s no sound way to argue with someone who’s already contextualized you in their mind as being unsound, be that morally, psychologically, or what have you, but i do think it’s related to how we as a society talk about sex and what’s acceptable within that.
listen. it is perfectly fine to curate your own experiences and that absolutely should be done. it is perfectly okay to block/unfollow/etc. and be wholly uninvolved with content to whatever degree you need to be.
however, what i’ve found in my experience, is that people will swoop in on that mighty, mighty high horse of theirs (weary after making the long, arduous trek on the moral high ground for so long, of course) and start dropping accusations of bombardment and harassment despite having gone out of their way to come to me, and having ventured far enough into content that they deem “morally repugnant” despite it being clearly labeled at the top for what it is, and tagged using well-known, identifiable tags that describe the content it deals with.
someone @ed me a bit ago about misusing the word “purity culture” and while there are many more things written by people more qualified to talk about why it’s an appropriate term to use with respect to the “anti/fanpol movement”, and who are far more eloquent when they do talk about it, this screenshot right here, to me, feels like a good example.
usually, the first bit of resistance i get when people want to argue with me about portrayals of kinks, and more often than that, paraphilias specifically is that they jump to the “it’s just wrong and icky” argument. not only is it a depiction of sex but it’s a depiction of sex that falls outside the scope of what they’re comfortable with. it’s fine to think things are wrong and icky -- but just because one person doesn’t like it, doesn’t mean the whole thing is morally reprehensible.
what’s morally good and okay is inherently subjective -- there is no universal moral good, so it’s our job in a society with laws to decide where we draw that line -- it’s our job as people who live in a community that has and will continue to have established social norms, to decide where we draw that line.
you disliking something just because you find it icky, or don’t know about it, or are afraid to like it are not where the line gets drawn. what doesn’t hurt people is where most have decided to set that line.
while people might make the argument that this content is harmful -- keeping it to audiences who consent to seeing it is how we keep it safe. setting clear boundaries and respecting those boundaries is how we keep the community safe. people who go out on witch hunts and harass others for the “sake of boundaries” are all about paying lip service without even understanding what it means or takes to have and keep a safe community.
moreover, there is no purely fictional content that is directly and solely harmful to anyone. the fictional component of this makes sure of it. insensitive? sure. does it perhaps have the potential to make bad waves? absolutely -- but that requires at least a modicum of accountability and responsibility on the consumer’s part -- something that really seems to scare antis.
deciding to draw a line somewhere just because you think “finding it icky” gives you some moral authority is similar rhetoric used by purity culture to perpetuate other harmful sentiments, much like the homophobic and transphobic sentiments the lgbt community is subjected to.
to be perfectly clear -- i’m not comparing the fuck ass tumblr discourse surrounding kink to the systemic oppression and marginalization of the lgbt community, but i don’t think they’re entirely unrelated (and i’m not just referring specifically to the history/origin of kink though i think this history is married to ideas of censorship, progress, and purity culture.) .
but if someone can take up a legitimate platform to condemn kink (a means of sexual expression) as being morally wrong off the context of it being “icky” then what sort of precedent does that set for other things? what kinds of people and in what contexts have traditionally been considered “deranged” or “insane” with respect to sexuality and expressions of sexuality? (not to mention how ableist undertones in this sort of talk) and does the mass condemnation perhaps have -- gasp! -- real consequences that impact peoples’ lives?
there’s a reason there’s an instinct to shut down censorship at low levels, such as not being allowed to read certain books in school or why we like our government to keep their hands off what media we’re allowed to consume by and large, and that’s because we all have an understanding of how these smaller, seemingly trivial instances relate to bigger, more pressing components of our life, like who we’re allowed to legally marry, what we’re allowed to do for a living, what we have access to in our education, be it formal or informal, and who we choose, or even if we choose who represents us and continues to have major influence over these major components of our life, depending on the collective noise we make as people living under the unified concept of a community.
what pisses you off the most about the fandom? spill the tea, queen 🍵 i have my own list and i’d be down to share
anyway, 1. antis/performative activists. usually inexperienced people who don't actually know what they're talking about and replaced actual critical thinking with a "hot take" they read on tumblr that they enjoy to parrot out to others. also, ironically enough, ppl who claim to be victims of being "bombarded with disgusting, immoral content" because they barrel right through tags that give content warnings, and then proceed to bombard artists and writers with death threats, groundless lectures, and insults.
2. sticklers of canon. i don't care if you like canon -- go wild. you can do what you want, but if you come onto my blog like "whY wOUld yOU dO thAt? In cAnOn It's--" then let me stop you right there -- i don't care. you're annoying. bug off.
3. country gatekeepers. "well, i'm actually german, so my takes on germany are--" shut up lol, literally no one cares. you're probably also someone who shits on americans constantly and condemns us all as gun toting morons because we "don't do research."
yeah, you're damned right i'm writing this pwp anal fisting fic with ludwig without getting my PhD in german history.
4. people who always have china and japan bottoming, especially when with white partners. you guys are sus as hell. stop telling me "you just feel it".
on a side note with respect to fandom, and especially the kpop and anime fandoms -- stop telling me how "interested you are in the beauty of asian culture." if you knew anything about "the culture" you'd know that asia isn't a monolith.
5. big accounts that cry about bigger accounts bullying them. "they're using their hetalia clout against me!!"
read that sentence again. hetalia what? we write fanfiction. nobody gives a fuck about us. i would sooner lie and tell my husband i was having an affair than have him read my russia x reader smut. we don't have clout. if anything, being a hetalia fan automatically gives us -100000000 clout. we're only in it to simp for the stupid country people.
that's all i can think of at the top of my head, but please feel free to add on or fight me or whatever.
hmmm okay. i get it. he’s “scary” and has 1000 different ways he could make me disappear.
i have a thousand different ways i imagine this man railing me. he’s probably my most consistent selfship.
all of them. he’s just doing his best
the paint it white movie when he was wearing that tank top. you know the one.
whenever he and alfred Have Words
that cute lil moment in the april fools ep when he’s shy about wearing that cute lil dress
Idea for a story
it’s all smut. and crime-y.
he and someone who’s TOTALLY not supposed to be me have a tumultuous relationship where they stay together even though they objectively make each other worse people. there are affairs and they both have drinking problems and commit white collar crimes and his wife has a love child (kitty ii) with her lover and they live in this big mansion full of erotic art, some of which they made -- canvases they’ve fucked on, sculptures of ass molds and coochie molds, a museum of their most notorious sex props, naked portraits. etc. in their foyer they have a painting of them riding naked on a bear lol.
he’s not just a big teddy bear. i mean he’s big and he’s a fantastic cuddler but i fully believe he’s as scary or even scarier than he believes himself to be, and i like him that way.
self ship rights. SPECIFICALLY me lol. rustea is my favorite ship ;)
i don’t know how canon this is, but just,, the extent of his emotional baggage? i think it’s massive.
idk, i've probably been reading too many russian classics but he gives me major pierre vibes from war and peace. i like to think he reads and writes on the human condition a lot. is endlessly seeking his purpose.
he maintains a constant level of inebriation all the time.
ONE MORE FUCKING PERSON uses the word “toxic” in this fandom and i’ll show up at their house and strangle them. like literally SHUT THE FUCK UP ITS A FUCKING DRAWING AND IM A DEPRESSED YOUNG GIRL WITH FAMILY TRAUMA LET ME HAVE MY FUCKING FUN WITH MY ANIME BOYS YOU SJW CUNT
lol yeah, i get so fucking tired of the “this ship is a little toxic/unhealthy/abusive” 🤔🤔🤔
they’re fictional. if you’re really concerned about what’s “”toxic”” and harmful in stories, why don’t you start with the entire murder mystery genre.
also, people don’t need trauma to enjoy or explore dark themes and subjects in fiction. fiction is a sandbox for everyone to play in.
sweet. dad friend. probably has a great house and an open door/couch policy. is a good listener.
is all of the above but he's also more playful and goofy. has a 'dumb ass' side the same way canada does. is more of an older brother friend than a dad friend.
i don't like writing for sweden bc ppl come for me in my inbox when i do.
he's gold in every frame with the nordics.
Idea for a story
hmm. i have a thing for vikings, so maybe something about his days like that. or else, something about what was going on internally during his adjustment to "mellowing out." maybe something with him and denmark.
i headcanon him as bi bc as a bi woman i will headcanon whoever the fuck i want as bi. it has no bearing on canon so leave me alone.
sweden x germany
anything involving him and wood working. i think he has a cabin stocked with the most beautiful, hand-crafted furniture. he sells his stuff locally and in small amounts, kind of like the amish do at auctions twice a year up where my grandpa lives.
Did you hear about what happened to frukmerunning/rayanne? :( I think I remember you mentioned that you guys were friends but idk if you heard about it yet.
Yeah, I did.
Honestly, no sympathy or forgiveness for people who “made a mistake” and “are sorry now.”
Congrats!! ✨✨Your actions have consequences. You bring that nasty purity-culture, anti-rhetoric shit in your bed, claiming some fake moral high ground on the internet because you’re too lazy to do something actually good and productive in your real life?
Congrats, you were an asshole, now go fucking live with it.
I don’t care if you “were mistaken.” If you felt it was your right and duty to treat someone that way as if it made you any less of a shitty person than what you accuse them to be — you were wrong! You are in fact a shitty person. Now go live on in your sucky irredeemability, like you expect all people on the internet who disagree with your shitty, fake virtue-signaling “””takes””””” to do.
FMR left this shithole fandom because it was exactly that, a shithole, and we made it that way.
god, what a pretentious fucking character. i still like it when he talks though. i hate him until i hear someone else also hate him, and then i like him and that's the hill i will die on, just to start an argument.
fandom's take on him is pretty broke "hue soft uwu book boy" or total rat -- there's no in-between. he hits me in my pretentious lit feelings and i low-key think he'd be fun to talk to. honestly, everyone harps on arthur for being uptight and elitist, and maybe i might also be that way so i can't really judge. punk england is pretty hot also.
HAHA whenever he's drunk. or any scene with he and francis.
Idea for a story
i'd like to write an introspective piece that explores his character more deeply than just "hehe he's a garbage man" or "stuffy bbc boyfriend." a big self-destructive spiral featuring arthur being torn apart by his loyalty to tradition and the system he's slaved away for, and how fucking repulsive he feels it's grown into.
he and francis can be soulmates while not being exclusive sexually and romantically.
also i think he does a lot of drugs.
self-shipping comes first and foremost to me always, so arthur x reader/arthur x oc (and they better be a mary-sue lol)
fruk is cool too i guess.
anything having to do with punk!arthur and his tattoos. or else, anything involving arthur in the regency era courting and pining for people like an austenian suitor.