#stares politely

[chlorenw]

meow

Moo

#ask #stares politely

[rinneverse]

sunday likes control huh ....

#oakie rambles #stares politely #heheh . . .. hehehehhehehe .. .. .

[dailymanners]

Always use "excuse me" if you have to get into someone else's personal space.

Someone at the store is standing in front of the shelf where there's a can you want to grab? Don't just reach into their personal space without warning, say "excuse me" or "pardon my reach" first so that they at least have a warning that someone is about to reach into their personal space, and most importantly, so that they have a chance to move before you get into their space.

Or if someone is standing on a walkway or in a doorway you need to get through, don't just silently shove past them or squeeze past them, say "excuse me" so that they have a warning that a someone is about to squeeze or shove into their personal space, and they have a chance to move out of the way before you do you.

People deserve a fair warning if someone is about to squeeze or shove or reach into their personal space. A lot of people are not okay with having someone, but especially a stranger, randomly shove or squeeze or reach into their personal space without warning. They also deserve a chance to move out of the way first for the sake of their comfort.

Try to avoid just staring at people who are in your way and expecting them to read your mind that you want them to move. Most people cannot, in fact, read minds, so having someone stand in front of them and stare at them often only leads to making them feel uncomfortable and frustrated.

But also more importantly, if you are standing somewhere someone needs to get to, and they say excuse me, you should move aside for them even if just temporarily, so they can avoid the discomfort of having to reach into your personal space or squeeze past you.

If someone is saying "excuse me" it's because they would like you to move because they don't want to have to get into your personal space, whether it's out of respect for you, or just because they themselves are not comfortable getting in your personal space.

All of this goes double for people with trauma and/or people who are neurodivergent. If someone has trauma related to abuse or assault they may find it more upsetting or possibly triggering to suddenly have someone shoving or reaching in their personal space without warning.

Or, many types of neurodivergence can make it especially disturbing and unpleasant to have someone else in your personal space, especially without warning.

You can never be 100% sure who is and isn't traumatized and/or neurodivergent, so always practice respecting other's personal space by giving them a fair warning with "excuse me" or "pardon my reach" before getting in their personal space, and moving aside when you hear those magic words. Or, even if someone isn't traumatized nor neurodivergent, it's still fair to not like someone in your personal space without warning and not being given the opportunity to move first.

#manners #politeness #courtesy #good manners #etiquette #I'm so sorry I really tried to make this one shorter I really did #I trimmed the fat as much as I could but this was as short as I could bring myself to make it #Where I live most people will just shove into your personal space without saying anything #or just stare at you until you get the hint and move #and I hate it so much #Especially because I am both neurodivergent and have PTSD so I really hate people staring at me and/or shoving in my personal space

[simplenefelibata]

as much as i love sam knowing about destiel before dean does, there's something about "i mean yeah my brother and his angel best friend are really weird about each other, live together, co-parent a kid, nearly kill themselves every time the other is gone, stand too close and stare at the other's mouth while they talk, but i mean to each their own i guess??" that's so special to me

#it's just so funny #and when it finally clics he's like #OH #that... explains a lot actually #he's so committed to believe dean's heterosexual act #and you know what i respect sam for it #if the dude says he's straight then it doesn't matter he stares at men lusting! he's STRAIGHT. #i'm sam btw #i had a friend who told me for 6 months he was straights while he performed in my face Telephone by Lady Gaga #and also knew the entire loona lore #but he said he was STRAIGHT okay #i had the audacity (or the politeness ig) to act surprised when he came out #i'm rambling #sorry #destiel #dean winchester #castiel #supernatural #spn #casdean #sam winchester

[vaguely-concerned]

sisko: *sigh* against my will and for complicated political reasons I am sent to save your sorry cardassian ass yet again. just get in the fucking car already pls

gul dukat: there's a hidden meaning in that! the usurper of terok nor obviously desires me carnally

#star trek #star trek ds9 #ds9 #benjamin sisko #gul dukat #'really captain this is quite pathetic -- you don't need to go to all this trouble to get my attention ;) just offer me my office back' #sisko stares into the camera with real but understated suffering b/c that's what happens to a person dealing with dukat #poor sisko. he's trying to have one (ONE) nice uninterrupted date with kasidy and he gets sent to bail dukat out AGAIN #nightmare assignment #gul dukat is the political cockroach of the alpha quadrant and now we all have to live with it for seven seasons

[ozymandien]

oh him? he's just a monk. no he doesn't harbor deep desires of greatness don't worry about it

#zhu my little bug (literally) #he's a praying mantis a cricket a cockroach... #i love her #AND HE HAS DIMPLES #i imagine she's the type to stare a lot at people. and it elicits an interesting reaction in them #with this polite yet knowing almost-smile and her piercing wide eyes #also i know she's described as ugly in the books and i respect that. but i want her to be just a bit alluring in a fucked up way. like #now. this took sooo long. for absolutely no reason #i redid it like 10000 times and still didn't feel 100% satisfied but today i decided to set it free #i hope you guys like it anyway! #:) #zhu chongba #zhu yuanzhang #she who became the sun #he who drowned the world #the radiant emperor #shelley parker chan #fanart #myart

[faunandfloraas]

#kim seungmin #lee know #lee minho #han jisung #bystay #createskz #stray kids #skz #skz gifs #stray kids gifs #not ordering a dessert and then staring politely yet pointedly... #the moments where seungmin being the baby of his family with an older sister jump out are so funny for me #this is one of those moments ^^

[unforth]

We are one Iowa caucus into the absolute shitshow that is going to be the US 2024 elections, and I'm already sick of seeing takes downplaying the risk that Trump and his fascist followers represent.

Look. Around 1900, my mother's grandparents immigrated to the Lower East Side of New York City. They brought with them children born in Europe (Poland? Ukraine? which country they were in depends on what year we're talking about) - we're not 100% sure they were THEIR children, even, but there were three, and they were young, and they came. But my great-grandparents had siblings, parents, cousins, uncles, aunts, huge families. And while my understanding is that an attempt was made to convince those folks to move to the US, none of them ultimately opted to.

They all kept in touch as they were able, exchanging letters and pictures, but through World War 1, through the 20s, through the Great Depression, through the worsening situation in Europe in the 1930s, my entire extended family who chose not to immigrate...continued to stay.

I think we all know how this story ends.

I have an entire family photo album of people whose names I will never know, because after every single one of them died in the Holocaust, my great-grandparents and grandparents couldn't bear to even label them. And they were PEOPLE, poor, vibrant, eager to maintain connections with their loved ones abroad. One was a Klezmer musician, and we have photos of him with all the different instruments he played. They're so real on the page, and they all ended in ashes.

And you know how that started? Fascism started with every inch allowed, with every well-intentioned moderate who tried to maintain a middle position even as the whole ground shifted right beneath their feet and even "middle" became extreme, every "no that change isn't coming fast enough, I want instant full improvement NOW" liberal who felt that doing nothing was better than accepting a slower improvement in the (truly awful!) post-World War 1 living situation in Germany.

Most of the members of my extended family also downplayed the risks. They never imagined that the worst could happen to them. They never fathomed how bad things could become.

And now I have their example always before me to know and to scream:

I KNOW HOW BAD THINGS CAN BECOME. I KNOW WHAT HAPPENED TO MY FAMILY THEN.

I WILL NOT LET THAT HAPPEN TO MY FAMILY NOW.

People look at me like I'm crazy when I say I've got our passports ready (and have had since before the 2020 election).

Look. I don't know what will happen if Trump is elected, but there's a very real possibility he will, and he's been extremely clear about saying what he'll do. He did a lot of the things he said he'd do last time. I expect he'll continue to do the things he says he'll do. And the things he say he'll do will lead to the deaths of more people than we can imagine - in the US, in Palestine, throughout the world.

Don't tell me there's a middle ground here. Don't tell me I'm over-reacting. Don't tell me the worst won't happen. Don't tell me the risk is mild. Don't tell me we're safe.

We. Are. Not. Safe.

The lives of dozens, hundreds, of members of family were lost in the 1940s amid the horrifying statistic "6,000,000 dead Jews."

I will not let my life (as a Jew), my wife's life (as a disabled woman), my son's life (as a biracial boy), my daughter's life (as a biracial trans girl), be part of the statistics that come from our a second Trump presidency.

If you won't vote like YOUR life depends on it, vote like someone ELSE'S life depends on it, because IT DOES.

And if you can't even do that much, at least shut the fuck up and stop spreading your poison around. You're wrong. The danger is real. Downplaying it now won't make your conscience feel any clearer when it actually happens, and comforting everyone else downplaying it will just make you that much more complicit.

#unforth rambles #politics #us politics #genocide #genocide tw #i don't know how to tag this #i wish the album was here instead of at my mom's #i want every one of you who think this doesn't matter #to stare at the smiling faces of my long-dead relatives #and see these people who were shot and stabbed and burned and raped and destroyed #who died in rebellion or despair in hopelessness or desperation #no matter how much or how little they fought #they're all ashes now and nothing will bring them back #i have no family in europe #not a single person survived #i won't let my family be the ones who stay too long because we don't take it seriously #and neither should you

[sneeperspoi]

Domestic Travel🚇

(PNG + sketch undercut)

#HE WANTS TO BE POLITE AND NOT STARE AT SPY 😭😭 #or like... not get too close (hence him holding the grab handles) #classic Mr.Grumpypants Spy #freckled and arm moled Sniper my beloved #also trekkie Sniper is very funny to me #this was supposed to just be a small doodle in class that became a whole finished piece. whoopsies #sniperspy #bloody suit #sniper tf2 #spy tf2 #meart

[skitskatdacat63]

Nando being silly in S2E2 of his doc 🥺

#well...i wrote tags for this and queued it and yet it didnt post at all and was back in my drafts w no tags #tumblr never ceases to amaze me! #i wrote tags at like 4 am so i have no memory #and i dont realtl wanna write them again so I hope this vid speaks for itself #tho i will say: #i guess i find it cute how soft spoken and polite and silly he is in all these #i think its funny to see a 'celebrity' experience the same awkwardness of covid times #like when hes just awkwardly standing there and staring as his bag gets disinfected #and like seeing him w service workers and he tries to be somewhat serious and then cant help but be silly #THE SINGING PART IS THE BEST OKAY. #f1 #formula 1 #fernando alonso #we do a little bit of f1 #fernando(show) #fernando s2e2

[mamawasatesttube]

i really want a story in which tim and lois get up to snoopery, sneakery, spying, and shenanigans together. i don't have a plot for this yet but i want it so bad. lois would be such an enabler to tim and i want to see it!!!! they're both nosy little bastards with an inability to stay in their own lanes (ha) or to sit idly by when they perceive they can do something about a problem!! i need them to get up to something together...

#my vision is that tim interns with lois for a semester or something and there's so much office gossip bc lois NEVER takes interns #they meet tim and he seems like a polite nice little guy. unassuming. what did lois make an exception for him for??? #and then toyman sends a small army of toy soldiers with real guns into a shopping mall and lois goes CMON TIM and tim. #instead of going YOU WANT TO RUN INTO THE MIDDLE OF IT??? #goes Let's take my car it'll get us there faster!!! #and cat grant and jimmy olsen just stare at each other over the coffeemaker for a minute and then (in very different tones of voice) #just say in unison ''oh boy. there's two of them...'' #rimi talks #tim #lois #ft. background kon and clark going hmm. two of them. yup there they go. should we--? yeah probably okay let's go

[bubblew0lf1]

There was this guy at a house party I was at, and somehow Star wars came up while he was flirting with me and I tried to run away at every given chance from the situation (I failed, obviously)

This is the Convo that played out

Guy: wow so are you a star wars fan?

Me: Yeah

Guy: But like, seriously? How many of the movies did you see?

Me: ??? All of them?? I also watched the series.

Guy: eh, those are okay. But like, that's so weird.

Me: weird how?

Guy: Oh you know, it's just rare to see any girls... I mean people who are REAL star wars fans🙄

Me: "me with my jaw on the floor" ( did I just encounter an actual, real life SW incel??)

Just for a little bonus info, I literally have a mock Padawan braid too (which he did ask about later on to be fair)

#star wars #my god #the guy was literally staring at me from across the room for like half an hour before he came up to me as well #but he was a buddy of my friend so i felt like i had to play polite

[uths-ethnol-spam]

as far as i know now (s3), the only criteria to be chosen to serve an entity as an avatar seems to be "be cunty"

#i mean. they serve and are serving #staring v hard at jude perry right now #and at mike “i was trying so hard to be polite...” crew #and do i need to mention jon? #or (as far as i can tell) elias #and how to forget MICHAEL #literally the list goes on #tma memes #tma meme #the magnus archives memes #the magnus archives meme #jude perry #ethnol & tma

[coconut530]

A GOOD GIRL?!

#Nevermore #Nevermore Webtoon #Webtoon #THE GAYS WERE GAYYYING THIS EPISODE #DUKE STOP BEING SO BLOODTHIRSTY LIKE JEEZ #DANGIT LENORE CAN'T MAKE UP A COMEBACK #OHHHH LENORE AND DUKE SORTA FIGHTING OOOOFFFFFF #MONTRESOR SIR ARE YOU GOOD #ANNABEL PLEADING LIKE LOOK AT HER DUKE SHE'S INNOCENTTTTTTT DON'T PUSH HER OFFFFFFF #MONTY IS RIGHT TO BLAME FOR LIKE A LOT OF THINGS #PLUTO BEING SO POLITE AS HE'S DOING SOMETHING SO MEAN #SHE IS DEFENSELESS DUKE BUT LIKE YOU'RE ATTEMPTING TO DO WHAT SHE DID TO YOU DO YOU WANT THAT #THEM OFFERING TO TAKE THE GUILT OF IT LIKE AUGHHH AND TELLING LENORE TO DO NOTHING WHEN SHE ALWAYS WANTS TO DO SOMETHING GRRRRRRRR #SHE WAS ABOUT TO TELL THEM THE PLAN OMGGGGGGGGGG AND THEN ANNA WAS LIKE NOOOOOOO #KICKING PLUTO IN THE FACE OMG AND TAKING DUKE WITH HER OMGGGGG #JUST WENT STRAIGHT OFF THE BALCONY FOR HER YASSSSSS NOW THEY'RE ALL DANGLING OFF HAHAHHA #SHE SO INNOCENT WHEN SHE SAID “I promise” #GOOD GIRL OMG LENORE I'M BLUSHHHHHIIIINNNNGGGGG #OOOOHHH THAT MENACING STARE VERY INTENSE MMMM #GOOD EP GOOD EP FOR A GOOD DAY

[sol-lar-bink]

Your BEST friend...

Marx, suggested by @quikyu (x

#myart #marx #kirby #kirby art #kirby fanart #stares into your soul politely #totally not scheming anything

[tswwwit]

What are some ideas you have floating around that you don't have any plans on writing but like to entertain as a thought?

Many of them, in fact! Though they sort of vanish from my memory if I don't make a record of them, here's a few ones I jotted down when they came to mind.

For a domestic one: Bill thought he'd hate a lot of being married! Even though he loves Dipper, he thought he'd rebel against the chains of domesticity - and in some ways he still does - but one major benefit he's found is not having to be 'on' all the time.

No need to be perfectly performing all the time! No shoving around for social influence, no intimidation, or clever tricks. No commanding attention or taking up the room. Hell, there's surprisingly little upkeep! Bill can undo his tie and pick his nose and bitch about his day to someone who isn't bending over backwards to agree with him on everything. Someone who doesn't give him a weird look and sneer if he, god forbid, actually wants to sit down, read a book, drop the grin for an hour or two.

The concept in question is Bill's very first moment of great surprise. That when he isn't being the most charming, terrifying, and exciting guy in the universe, and just chilling out for like, five minutes, Dipper comes over and snuggles up to him on the couch, or wraps his arms around his shoulders and kisses the top of his head. And when Bill asks 'what was that for?', Dipper shrugs and goes 'eh, just felt like it'. It's both baffling and extremely compelling.

A short where Reincarnated Dip is Definitely Sure he's Not Gay!!! Especially not for this Hot Demon Man who is getting so close and touchy with him with his big smile and horrible wiles. Yep. Just keeping an eye on him to make sure he's not up to something Nefarious ™.

A discussion between Dipper and Bill where Dipper insists that Bill should understand this, or not do that, because, like. Y'know, Bill's a guy! There are guy things! Making Bill stare at Dipper like he's an idiot. He proceeds to informs Dipper how that's stupid for multiple reasons! First, that Bill's Not Human to begin with, his gender can't be put into a little box! And frankly, he never filled out the paperwork for his original one, come to think of it. Sure, he/him's fine, but c'mon, sapling, thinking of the whole shebang like a binary is dumb as hell. Now Dipper has to do some mental readjustment re: his own issues with masculinity/gender.

#answers #None of this is very coherent I just saved this ask for a while and dumped some thoughts in #Though I do have like a whole scene in my head for the gender one #Probably it's Bill cajoling Dipper into wearing a dress for something. Which Dipper obviously rebels against. #Bill's very convincing but Dipper shoots back well. He's never seen *Bill* wear a dress. Thinking he's making a point #But Bill just gets the metaphorical equivalent of a lightbulb over his head. Hey! Good point kid it's been a while #Oh ho!!! I see! Pinching Dipper's cheek - you want us to *match!* Surprised to see any fashion sense outta you #Hold on a sec. Bill will whip up something in a jiffy. A real nice one #Now Dipper's spluttering. He thought it was a good counterargument but Bill didn't even *flinch* at the idea of wearing one himself #But like. C'mon Bill Guys Don't Wear Dresses!! You're a guy you shouldn't- #Bill stares at him like he's an idiot. DIpper shuts up. Dumb move actually now that he's thinking about it #Both because telling Bill he *shouldn't* do something absolutely means he's looking into doing it. If not already in the process #And second. Uh. Oh hell. Dipper remembers. That Bill's only wearing that body. Not human. Triangular so - Wait. Is he *not* a guy?? Uh. #Bill's perfectly fine with his human body and his pronouns. Even with the presumptions that his husband has made over the years #But Dipper having this idea that those mean Bill should STOP doing certain things annoys him a lot #Bill politely - for him anyway - reminds Dipper that he's very much *not* a guy. None of that crap applies! #As Dipper has seen! And hey the ideas Dipper's working with there are outdated even among *humans* what the hell #There's probably a mini-rant that's rather scathing but frankly that's Bill on easy mode for his husband #Dipper's well-intentioned and knows how things go but he struggles with masculinity especially regarding himself #Turns out being bullied and trying so hard to be Socially Acceptable means a lot of issues to unpack #Also re: the Domestic one #Dipper is present with Bill while he chills out for those five minutes. Just watching from across the room #Bill knows he's there. But he's not puffing up trying to be impressive. Not being dismissive. Just accepting. And now Dipper's *fascinated* #It's so rare to see Bill NOT 'on' that he couldn't help it. No big show. No big grin. Almost.... not 'vulnerable' he's terrifying always #But so so relatable. God does Dipper know the feeling of just wanting to find some peace and quiet after a hectic day. But for Bill. That's #Rare and strange and so - Dipper *knows* he's the Only Person who could ever ever see this. Being in Bill's presence for a full ten minutes #Without Bill flipping some internal switch to 'Impress or Intimidate'. This is Dipper's own little secret to watch and absorb and treasure #And. In a way. When Bill's not vibrating with potential energy for parties or violence he's even MORE handsome #He just HAS to kiss him. A little bit. On the cheek or on the top of the head. Maybe curl up next to him where it's warm and touch his ches #Bill spends hours afterward wondering where the hell that came from and WHY. And it'll take him *so much* time to figure it out