#stop hating ourselves

[cyber-neon-at-night]

Literally

I cannot get over just hoW GREAT HAZBIN HOTEL IS!!!!

(Spoilers for episode 4)

Can i just say how much I loved the "Loser Baby" song duet between Husk and Angel like omllll

I'm a loser, honey~

A schmoozer and a dummy~

Just some quick thoughts like, I loved how it was a subversion of the sort of disney-esque 'cheer-up' song if you get what i mean. It starts off all slow and clearly leading up to something and then BAM!

You've lost your way,

You think your life's been wrecked,

Well, let me just say you're

Correct~

Angel: *shocked pikachu face*

I also just really love the message behind it and how instead of it being some traditional message about simply realizing how Great Your Life Is, Actually, the song is about validating your feelings on how much your life *does* suck, but you don't have to go through it alone.

Actually I just realized the whole song is basically just "Stop thinking you're special". I get how some people see that as a bad message (at first) considering what Angel goes through, but like, him staying in that mindset of "No one knows what I'm going through, No one else knows what it's like to be me, etc." would not be good for him at all. Isolation is never the answer to your problems, just so you know.

I've already seen people be like, "Husk is calling Angel a crybaby and to just get over his trauma because its hell and everyone's life sucks" and they almost(?) get it, but the point just went and flew over their heads i guess.

To be clear, the point is that Husk calls Angel a loser bc people, especially very hurt people, need to break their cycle of self-loathing somehow. And sometimes, sometimes, people need to hear that they are, in fact, a loser.

But that's okay.

Because a lot of other people are too.

You just need to find the other losers out there and connect w/ them instead of sentencing yourself to isolation bc you think your pain is special and unique.

The message isn't "You're not special dickhead lmao" its actually "You're not alone in this."

#hazbin hotel #hazbin hotel spoilers #hazbin hotel husk #hazbin hotel angel dust #huskerdust #as someone who dealt/is still dealing with a self loathing cycle #we do need to hear this kinda stuff more often #No matter what your problem is #Connection is the key #*insert that Community quote here* #'Stop making our hatred of ourselves someone else's job and just stop hating ourselves.'

[ruhlare]

someone shoot me with a gun please

#i will pay you for killing me #thanks #today we are trying to not hate ourselves to the point where we just want to stop exising

[dyketubbo]

not to be a woman womaning all over the place but i feel like if you genuinely like. do not have friends that are women then you have something to work on. if you cant think of any female characters that you treat the same way you do male characters then you have something to work on. if you cant handle even seeing "i dont like being called a guy/bro/lad/etc because it doesnt feel gender neutral to me" but can understand when one of your masc besties is uncomfortable with being called girlie or sister then you have something to work on. if your default in regards to how you handle other people and even characters is to assume masculinity then you have something to work on. if you cant even let women and otherwise feminine people speak about our experiences without bringing up how you suffer too then you have something to work on.

it doesnt matter if youre queer or a poc or a minority in whatever which way, if you do not include women in your life and cant even stand a fucking inch of genuine feminism (and i dont mean terfs but god is it fucking agonizing that thats all you people can think of when you hear feminism anymore) where the point is to treat women, all women, equally then you have something to work on. listen to women, even the ones whose experiences completely dont align with yours (hell ESPECIALLY the ones whose experiences completely dont align with yours). just like how we all have to check ourselves for racism, ableism, queerphobia, we all have to check ourselves for misogyny too. stop acting like it got solved at some point. it still exists and it exists within you and you have to actually fucking work on that. "women should be included in your life and you should listen to them" shouldnt be a hard goddamn pill to swallow.

#mask mews #truly i dont think if you can call yourself a feminist then thats a red flag. actually. like legit #yes fuck terfs we all fucking hate terfs but if thats all you can think of when you hear feminism youre letting them win #youre lettin the misogynistic assholes who call people 'feminazis' win. the mras the pieces of shit who treat our rights like a debate topic #and no transmascs yall are not exempt from them just because youve experienced misogyny too #i see misogyny from queer men all the time and yall need to stop acting like being a minority #prevents you from being harmful to other minorities #black men often perpetuate misogynoir. trans men often perpetuate transmisogyny. gay men often perpetuate lesbophobia #just as women can perpetuate the harmful shit against all of those groups too #we're all being shit to each other and we all need to check ourselves and im tired of people acting #like its just okay to like. exclude women from shit #its exhausting and its misogynistic and i think especially in this fandom none of you ever moved on from thinking gaming is only for men #watch yourselves. watch how you talk about women. about femininity. #how when yall talk about the annoying cis white women #its clear which of yall are annoyed about the cis white parts. and which of yall are annoyed about the woman part

[aurillio-thoughts]

a complex sirius who loves his family, especially his mom, is so much more tragic and nuanced and interesting than a sirius who flat out hates his family and i will die on that hill

#it’s more realistic too honestly #when you experience consistent emotional abuse from your family usually a big part of it is gaslighting #and no matter how much we hate it we can’t make ourselves stop loving our parents #a sirius who silently cries in the middle of the night because he misses his mom is so much more real #he hates them and loves them and wants to escape them but doesn’t know how to live without them #i will die on this hill #you can’t tell me i’m wrong #sirius #sirius black #walburga black #black family #noble and most ancient house of black #orion black #regulus black #marauders #marauders era #aurillio rambles

[tortellinigirl]

I feel like recently, ADHD has kind of become shorthand for “a person who is annoying online and has no real problems,” and I don’t really think that’s awesome news, given the context that ADHD has a long history of being disregarded as a made up disorder that’s just an excuse for poor/obnoxious behavior, no matter how much scientific research proves otherwise. ADHD is not by any means the only disorder that has people making a thousand misleading tiktoks about it, so perhaps do some critical thinking about why specifically ADHD has become the poster child for that behavior. There are certainly valid criticisms to be made of the way we discuss mental health online, but maybe use your brain and determine why this disorder in particular is the one that’s easiest to point at for being “annoying” and “not that big of a deal.”

#idk maybe if u actually watched a couple of the tiktoks u might learn that the lack of focus thing is reall not the main issue #its just what the people around us are most likely to notice and be bothered by #not saying it doesnt get obnoxious seeing people say the same thing over and over #and yes some people are like purposely vague and disingenuous about the symptoms to get views from people thinking they have it now #but i see that with everything. like autism PTSD depression OCD anxiety #im always getting tiktoks saying that im a lesbian or i have repressed memories or “x normal thing is a symptom of y disorder!!” #and yes its annoying but its probably somewhat helpful to people who actually are dealing w those things #and also like. if u simply stop treating ur for you page like a crystal ball that sees into your soul and reflects it back #and realize its just an algorithm designed to make u interact whether thats bc u like what u saw or fucking hated it #then u will not be as bothered ! #but yes our generation seems to have a habit of constantly trying to find the right box to out ourselves in so we can be like. “marketable” #like people seem to want to design their personality like an movie character or something #but its so shitty that we’re dog piling all that on ADHD as if our specific disorder has anything to do with it #also personally i think its kind of normal to be really focused on a particular aspect of your identity when u just discovered it #and it usually evens out and just becomes part of the background of your identity #but yes there’s often a problem with pathologizing normal things #but i think its important to recognize that lots of things that are normal occasionally are pathological in excess. like thats how it works #like we’ve all been through how being sad sometimes is not the same as depression #why cant we grasp that occasionally going into a room and forgetting why you’re there isnt the same as ADHD #my posts

[somuchbetterthanthat]

truly feel like after a certain age at the VERY LEAST Anxiety should disappear. Like, okay, you've been anxious and depressed since you were oh, right, 13 is that it? more or less. So that means your sentence is over. Welcome to the fun 30s. No more of that!

and yet

#personal #i truly believed that for like. the two months leading up to my 30th birthday #i was so at ease with turning 30 #and then yknow. anxiety attack on your birthday party; then another year of waves of depression and anxiety in turn #and now i'm here #god i hate being here #the lies we tell ourselves about progress mmh. #but really tho. yeah your knees are going to hurt even MORE but hey! no constant diffused anxiety about everything that stops you #from being a normal human being #win/win!

[thediktatortot]

It sucks how a fairly large demographic of Gen Z that makes up the online community they have are REALLY just falling into the same emotional patterns as Boomers usually do in every day life.

Asking for help isn't a childish thing. It's okay to ask for help, it's GOOD to ask for help if you need it. Not asking for help isn't an 'adult' thing to do, that's just plain ol setting yourself up for failure.

Let's do away with the Boot Strap theory and start accepting help and helping each other in our communities.

#I just saw a post where a trans man in the comments was going off about how 'he never asks for help because he isn't a child' #and he doesn't like to associate with other trans/queer people because he hates the fact that he's trans and he hates that everyone else #has a different experience than him that he can't relate too and thusly never wants to ask for help because all it will do is make him feel #bad about himself for not being the right kind of trans man #MY DUDE #THIS IS WHY YOU NEED COMMUNITY #THIS IS WHY WE ALL NEED COMMUNITY #WE ARE OSTRACIZING OURSELVES BY INFIGHTING AND MAKING QUEER HAVE CHECKMARKS WE HAVE TO HAVE BEFORE WE ARE DOING IT RIGHT #Jesus fuck #Like don't get me wrong that guy has some things he needs to work through because I feel really bad that he wont even associate with other #trans people for the fear of 'getting advice' #but this is why we need to stop telling people how to be queer #Queer just is #You are either Queer or you are not #and there is no right or wrong way to be Queer

[chubs-deuce]

Gotta love (sarcasm) how discord servers will be like "hey here's several roadblocks and systems we put into place to prevent minors from getting into the adult spaces, we want to be a safe space for everyone and tightly moderate those specific areas for good reason" and yet there will still be 15yos going out of their way to try and infiltrate those exact spaces anyways.

#chubs rambles #hate that this is the second time we caught someone red handed #like why can't you just let adults have things for themselves oh my god #you're not the only one we're trying to keep safe we're also protecting ourselves and our privacy with that #yet kids keep and keep working hard to trick us and lie to us and skip all the hurdles we put in their path #not once stopping to wonder why we implemented that to begin with

[amazingmsme]

Uh, yeah I’ll give you one better

Works better than any tag system ever could! 😊

#ashy rambles #tfb community #this was literally my first thought when i saw that comment #like yeah it pissed me off & made me feel shitty but making this made me giggle #i guess i fucking deserve this because i got lazy & stopped tagging as thoroughly #but jesus christ #this is like the 3rd or 4th person in like a month to pull this shit #i just feel so fucking tired #& honestly they make me feel so ashamed of myself & sometimes i hate the fact i’m like this & even have this blog #but then i look through & see fics with hundreds of notes #& i think about all y’all & how you might feel the same way #& damnit we need to support each other & give ourselves reassurance #we’re not the fucking freaks they think we are #for anyone else who feels like fucking around & finding out #i feel like those farmers hanging up a dead coyote on their fence lmaooo

[ssreeder]

Hey!! I just wanted to say thanks for all your hard work <3<3

I had been a little down when it came to creating more content or being involved in Zukka side of the fandom but seeing your update reminded me to just have fun. And okay this is going to sound bad but I swear I mean this as a compliment; I thought I was wasting my time working for months and years on the stuff I made, but then I realized your fic series brings me so much joy and I'd never, ever judge you for the amount of effort you put into your writing. Seeing it's actually inspiring, to see that someone holds that much passion and creativity and you are sharing it all for FREE. That a person could take all this time to intricately weave together a story, create memorable OCs, breathe new life and make the ATLA world so much bigger than it ever was in canon.

So thanks for accidentally giving me a kick in the butt to stop being judgy about my own work and making me realize you and every fan creator is AWESOME.

I hope you have a wonderful day, your writing is a blessing.

awwww I wanted to say thank you for sending me this ask! I know it’s not easy to put yourself out there, even on anon, so I think it’s cool you felt confident enough to come here and tell me about how you’re feeling.

I don;t think what you’re saying is bad at all haha, because honestly, I feel the same way. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve wondered why the fuck am I still doing this? What’s the point? Do people even still care? What if it’s not good enough? What if people discover I have no fucking idea what I’m doing? Why am i spending so much of my time and effort doing this?? I mean… the self doubt is super real, and shiiiiiit let me discover one person that feeds into my self doubt and I’m full on spiraling haha. (Be nice to creators damn it! we are doing our damn best lol)

I’m really glad you think my fic is awesome, and if it weren’t people like you reminding me, I probably would have given up a long time ago haha. I do give my fic a lot of effort, and I hope you continue to give your creations the same amount of love and effort! I’m sure you’re amazing, and seriously don’t give up! I care about your creations and if I don’t get to stop neither do you! WOHOOO!!

Thanks for the ask anon sorry it took me so long to answer

#I am the kind of person who is like AWWWW NO ASKS… #then I get an ask and I’m like YAY ASK!!! #& then I;m like OH NO HOW DO I ANSWER THIS ASK!?!?!? #but then if I don’t get an ask in a while I assume everyone hates me and then the cycle starts over again when I get another ask #but seriously anon DON’T STOP CREATING!!!!! #I wish the voices in our head weren’t constantly trying to discredit us #I also think the pressure we put on ourselves to be good enough is fucking dumb #like who cares if people like reblog comment kudo all that stuff #but ugh we all care so much #I love that you see all my passion and creativity in LIAB because I do put a lot of effort into that stupid fic #and yeah it stresses me out but when I see that it brings people joy and its worth it #& its not even that it’s stressful to write #I fucking love writing it #but yeah don’t think you’re alone with the ‘what’s the point’ thoughts #I’m sure we’ve all been there #at least I know I have been there #and kind of still am in there hahaha #thanks for this ask anon I hope I didn’t ramble too much #I hope you show me when you create something new! I’d love to see it #LIAB #ask

[jet-apologistmybadhomies]

eid Mubarak 🫶🏼 lets not forget all the ppl suffering from urkiane ,palestine, congo ,sudan ,syria ,uyghurs and Muslims in China AND SO SO many to go

#eid mubarak #Ukraine #free palestine #stop terrorism #keep eyes on sudan #free congo #free syria #free uyghurs #i hate how this barely coverd most issues #but ofc we have to remind ourselves we cant fix or know everything but we can try to be better #ramadan2024

[villalunae]

stop 👏 telling 👏 lesbians 👏 to be 👏 attracted 👏 to 👏 MEN

stop 👏 telling 👏 lesbians 👏 to be 👏 attracted 👏 to 👏 MEN

stop 👏 telling 👏 lesbians 👏 to be 👏 attracted 👏 to 👏 MEN

stop 👏 telling 👏 lesbians 👏 to be 👏 attracted 👏 to 👏 MEN

stop 👏 telling 👏 lesbians 👏 to be 👏 attracted 👏 to 👏 MEN

stop 👏 telling 👏 lesbians 👏 to be 👏 attracted 👏 to 👏 MEN

#personal #SAW A POST. LOST MY MIND #''nothing changed u mistook a man for a butch and were attracted to them so really youre just small minded and should be okay with that #attraction bc clearly you hate yourself <3'' #This Is The Lesbophobia We Are Talking About When You Guys Pretend We Cant Have Boundaries #like ohhh ishould just love a man instead <3 i should change my sexuality for you <3 i should just fuck guys huh <3 #how fucking dismissive of our experiences. how deeply sick and disgusting of you. i hope ur an adult so i wont feel bad ripping ur hair out #like how dare you! how dare you tell me NOTHING changed. how dare you look me in the eye and tell me that its the same #its not! its not. sorry some people are comfortable with labels that assert boundaries xoxo to you but im a lesbian bc i like women. not bc #i have an aesthetic attraction to a person. if i see a butch i think oh! a butch! a fellow lesbian! and am attracted #turns out to be a guy? oh! not a butch! not a fellow lesbian! nevermind :) and omg i am so normal for that <333 #like god. GOD. what a fucking piece of shit to tell lesbians we should just Let ourselves be attracted to men bc we secretly do anyway #top ten reasons i hate associating with ppl who flout no labels like it works for you im glad but you keep shoving that down my throat #and im going to commit vehicular manslaughter #i have boundaries for a reason! i am attracted to women! i dont like men! WHAT IS SO HARD TO GET THROUGH YOUR HEAD #stop TELLING every lesbian theyre secretly bi but theyre repressing and too attached to the label i will FUCKING kill you #ANYWAY. IGNORE ME LMFAO

[eclaire-went-bam]

hiii:33!! friendly reminder that someone can enjoy a character that has done heinous things and not support said heinous things

usually when a character does Bad Things in a narrative (espec if they're not the protagonist) it is Portrayed As Bad so people who enjoy the character Likely Know They Are Bad

& either way harassing people over enjoying a fictional character is just really childish

if you don't like the character, that is perfectly valid. but there's never any reason to characterise everyone who likes said character as Evil, and/or imply they condone the character's negative actions.

also sometimes i look at internet discourse and it's like people want morally grey characters but then turn around when "morally grey" is not always "i have my own rules but i still make all the right choices !!" some of y'all just need to admit you just like good characters that's fine not everyone is into the spice it's ok to like that good protagonist energy

;;;not saying every character i'm referring to fits in that "morally grey" category, some are just evil villains, but even then i'm sorry 90% of ur stories wouldn't exist without them. they drive the plot.

#not really a rant #being in the hazbin hotel rdr2 and genshin fandoms just rlly makes me question people sometimes #maybe tumblr's fine? idk i've only gotten more active on tumblr suuuper recently. but i've definitely seen some rancid stuff on #**other platforms #fandom #there's also definitely gender bias in this let's not lie to ourselves. #there are some things a character can do that they'd forgive in a man but not a woman and vise-versa #generally speaking people who go “i know she did the same thing but He's So Babygirl” or “he did the same thing but She's Just A Girlboss” #rlly annoy me #it's fine to like one character over another even if they're pretty similar and use those terms to describe them #but ive seen soo many people criticise one character but then suddenly forgive the same crimes from another character on the basis of gender #it's seriously annoying #idrc if a character has done bad things but is more complex like dutch van der linde #or is simply evil just because they can be like the three vee's #just stop. no i don't like them to romanticise their crimes. especially if you put it into a realistic context #shocker !! il dottore enjoyers do not want kids to be experimented on #sometimes i'll even just Mention a character i like and someone will just go “i hate them they're so ugly die die” like bro i know. #r u done now. be normal. i know ur being silly but it's annoying that i can't talk abt anything because y'all gotta make VERY clear that #so&so is a bad person like yea no duh! #anyways oop long tags 💀💀💀 #maybe this was a rant after all. i've seen this moral purity with characters both online and in personal friend groups & i care abt my eps #but some of y'all gotta chill

[evilkitten3]

having some thoughts on itachi and radicalization and how people can do the most horrific shit imaginable while fully believing it's the right thing to do and police states

#naruto #naruto shippuden #uchiha itachi #i give itachi a lot of shit. which he very much deserves #but on the other hand. #idk itachi isn't a character i can really hate or stan i guess. i mostly just feel sorry for him #i feel sorry for a lot of the characters in that world really #here in this world we're all more or less on the same playing field #like there's ways to be privileged or disenfranchised sure but. no one can throw a meteor at your head for questioning the government #i feel like that's something that gets overlooked a lot in metas on why characters do things #like we can compare to ourselves all we want but we still live in a world where it's significantly more possible to speak out #and people STILL have a very hard time doing that #in the world of naruto.... you really can't #if your village is horrible too fucking bad none of the other villages care enough to do anything #if your village is awesome surprise no it isn't you've got awful shit going on and you just haven't noticed it yet #everybody seems to be running on ''well at least we're better than THOSE guys'' #and the people who actually DO want to make things better simply. don't have the know-how to do it #bc all the people who could've come up with the ideas we have here have either been brainwashed killed or scared into silence #it's a lose-lose situation for literally everybody and they all keep perpetuating it bc nobody knows how to stop #you can save the world. you can save the world a hundred thousand times and it will NEVER matter. bc you still can't save the people #it's an eternal tragedy and i love it

[aberooski]

If I take a second to breathe and think and 3 seconds into it someone calls me over the radio to come clean something they could do themselves again I'm going to actually scream

#like god I knkw I'm the only usher here rn cuz im the opening usher on saturdays but FUCK #give me a second tk fucking BREATHE #I HATE when I'm doing something and one of the managers calls and is like actually can you stop what you're doing even though what you're- #-doing is more important and come sweep up this like 3 cernal popcorn spill literally right next to us that we could get ourselves but won' #I hate this job so much I want to quit so bad #somebody else hire me right now so I can leave this shithole #and also have a real job that pays mlre than 10 bucks and hour so I can actually pretend to be a semi functional adult #I can't even pretend right now #I've been stuck in limbo for the last 2 years at least and I really don't know how I'll ever get out #I probably won't let's be honest because I wasn’t born into a world where that's possible anymore #and my mental health has only been slowly but surely deteriorating for even longer than that but it's really crashed and burned lately #but i'm trying #and I honestly don't want to try anymore #I'm so tired

[vamptastic]

mannnnnnn i am sick of lifelong skinny people who think they have the miracle cure for being fat that we're all just too lazy or stupid to try

#like i have PCOS it took taking metformin for me to stop continuously gaining weight and im so so happy being 250 pounds #compared to the extremely depressing process of continuing to steadily gain weight regardless of lifestyle #if you can't understand what its like to be literally starving or to be extremely physically active for periods of weeks to months #and then GAIN weight. then i do not wanna fucking hear it! i don't wanna hear it in general but especially not from you. #whatever lifestyle change you think fat people just haven't done yet is going to be a hell of a lot easier #if fat people weren't conditioned to hate our bodies and think of ourselves as inherently lesser for our size. #i have literally never lost weight in my entire life beyond fluctuations of 5 or less pounds