#support men

[mk-wizard]

Feminine Media: Manly men can be fans of it too

Now that I’m calmer, I want to explain myself a bit better because I am both a woman webcomic author and the mother of a son.

Women have been making opinions on men’s media for years and still are. We have even come to accept that a lot of these women are genuine fans of the medias like Transformers, He-Man, Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles, Robocop and more, so when they make an opinion now, it is heard out and respected. Yes, some sexist people still dismiss our words, but the norm is that we are allowed to say what we want about anything we want. Heck, even when we do run into sexist backlash, people defend us including other men.

Why do we not give men the grace and the same faith when they form opinion even negative ones about women’s media or when they feel put down by a media? When I was growing up, I was side by side with a lot of anime fans who adored shows like Sailor Moon because it made them laugh and they genuinely loved the characters and storytelling. And this also extends to North American media like the Disney princesses, Jem and Holograms, My Little Pony and Barbie when she’s animated. And not just because the girls were hot. In fact, that was secondary. It was because the media was fun to watch. Even now, a lot of boys like Minnie’s Bow-Toons because it’s fun, colourful and makes them laugh. Yes, it is clearly feminine, but so what? Batman’s blatant masculinity didn’t stop girls from enjoying his comics. And you know what else? So what if the boys find the fictional girls hot? Do we shame girls for finding fictional men like Vegita, Ryu, Superman or Solid Snake hot? No. It’s human and it doesn’t mean you don’t appreciate the character in the ways that matter.

With that said, men have every right to form an opinion on female media and that includes a negative one just as women have on male media. It’s not only a human right of theirs, but it is also essential in making the media better. Women bringing the sexism of male media of the past to the attention of creators helped make it better, so if give the same grace to men, I know we can make female media better because it is about equality and inclusion. I mean, just look at the opinions on the Barbie film. Yes, some of these opinions are really just sexist drabble, but a large majority of men are saying the same negative points about the movie that other women are. If anything, the fact that the opinions of both men and women match is a sign of not only how gender equal is society has progressed, but also how men have grown and have become better thanks to feminism.

A man who knows how the real Barbie should be, what she stands for and wants her characterization to be respected just as much as Superman’s, Batman’s or any other male hero’s is a social victory to me, but instead, these men are being told to keep their mouths closed while being accused of misogyny.

We keep claiming that fiction should be enjoyed by anyone regardless of gender, but when it comes to the subject of giving opinions, it seems that only girls have complete and total free speech without judgement. And this is wrong. This is not equality and this not feminism. If we girls can like boy stuff and be taken seriously for it, then so can boys for girl stuff and they should be taken just as seriously. Hear out the male fans. You would be very surprised at what they have to say and even pleasantly so when you come to realize that even their most negative opinions of feminine media have a great amount of love for women behind them.

In short, equality starts with letting boys and girls play nice together in any game or fiction of their choosing while being able to speak freely about it.

#equality #support women #support men #good men #feminism #feminism includes men #positive feminity #positive masculinity

[nakakabaliw]

trying to get through the day.

#artists on tumblr #baliwart #dungeon meshi senshi #senshi of izganda #dungeon meshi #delicious in dungeon #disco elysium kim #disco elysium #lieutenant kim kitsuragi #kim kitsuragi #emotional support fictional men

[langernameohnebedeutung]

ngl, I'm beginning to take issue with how in conversations about anti-intellectualism almost automatically, the face of girls and women will be slapped on the problem.

#'all those tiktok girls who only like marvel films and' - why do you always say girls and women? are the guys filling opera halls instead? #'women in their mid 20s who still only read YA novels' okay sure that's an example and relevant discussions can be had #but it reminds me of the mocking tone in which people speak of 'chick-lit' to use women's interest as an indicator of lower value #while in fact women are reading more than men in EVERY single genre of fiction. Women are doing a lot of (often unpaid) labour #supporting libaries supporting theatres supporting cultural events #meanwhile there is a pretty big overlap between toxic masculinity and anti-intellectualism #(especially misogyny and homophobia) #especially when it comes to things like ballet or opera or musical or generally dance #in fact it is often the female investment in specific things that makes them less 'valuable' in general consciousness #for thousands of years the theatre was well-respected and a high form of art - and now it's a 'wife-thing' #the father who will teach his son that theatre and dance are for girls - how is that never an example for anti-intellectualism

[inkskinned]

love when men cry about body hair bc "it's hygiene" and yet 15% of cis men leave the bathroom without washing their hands at all and an additional 35% only just wet their hands without using soap. that is nearly half of all men. that means statistically you have probably shaken hands with or been in direct contact with one of these people.

love when men say that women "only want money" when it turns out that even in equal-earning homes, women are actually adding caregiver burdens and housework from previous years, whereas men have been expanding leisure time and hobbies. in equal-earning households, men spend an average of 3.5 hours extra in leisure time per week, which is 182 hours per year - a little over a week of paid vacation time that the other partner does not receive. kinda sounds like he wants her money.

love that men have decided women are frail and weak and annoying when we scream in surprise but it turns out it's actually women who are more reliable in an emergency because men need to be convinced to actually take action and respond to the threat. like, actually, for-real: men experience such a strong sense of pride about their pre-supposed abilities that it gets them and their families killed. they are so used to dismissing women that it literally kills them.

love it. told my father this and he said there's lies, damned lies, and statistics. a year ago i tried to get him to evacuate the house during a flash flood. he ignored me and got injured. he has told me, laughing, that he never washes his hands. he has said in the last week that women are just happier when we're cooking or cleaning.

maybe i'm overly nostalgic. but it didn't used to feel so fucking bleak. it used to feel like at least a little shameful to consider women to be sheep. it just feels like the earth is round and we are still having conversations about it being flat - except these conversations are about the most obvious forms of patriarchy. like, we know about this stuff. we've known since well before the 50's.

recently andrew tate tried to justify cheating on his partner as being the "male prerogative." i don't know what the prerogative for the rest of us would be. just sitting at home, watching the slow erosion of our humanity.

#writeblr #warm up #ps edited so it is more clear where “half” of men is coming from: #15% literally don't even touch water #an ADDITIONAL 35% ''wash'' by just running their hands under water WITHOUT SOAP #15+35 =50% #like that is not washing ur hands. go back and use soap #btw the numbers for women are 4% never washing and 15% ''just water'' #which is still gross but like. sooo much better yikes #ps i know we're all gay on this site but watching ppl ''correct'' my math on this has been wild #i have a learning disability im genuinely bad at math so i check EVERY time someone corrects me #but no they're just confidently wrong..... #182 hours is a week babes. 182/24 (number of hours in a day) is ~7.6 #that's where i got that number from. also from rent we know there's 168 hours in a week. #ALSO btw if u read this and ur response is ''men are also struggling rn tho'' like babe you missed the point of it tho #this doesn't even make fun of men it's legit just pointing out that bigotry against women isn't founded #in anything men actually CARE about . like they don't actually CARE about ''being clean'' when they make fun of armpit hair #or they would be WASHING THEIR HANDS. #men pretend to be rollin' in cash and Apex Predators and instead they are trained to be lazy and unwilling to act in emergencies #i have never and will never make fun of men for asking for more support on important topics like DV and mental health. #this is so clearly not about men; it's about how common just being plainly misogynistic has become. #like they don't try to hide it anymore.

[stil-lindigo]

warmth.

a comic about not being alone.

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#to all the trans men and women and anyone who feels like they have to stifle themselves for their own safety #may you never feel like youre alone in this #this comic is one of my more grounded ones #it just felt right to not try to decorate this one in a lot of symbolic fanfare #sometimes i have to go above and beyond to fit the vision. this felt right being pretty understated. #i really did my best with this one and i hope it shows #you all deserve so much joy and so much love from your partners in life #and i hope you like this and if you dont thats okay too #thats all #thank you for your support #and as always #thank you for reading #comic art #lgbtqia+ #queer comics #hearteaters #stillindigo art #stillindigo comics

[astronomodome]

Sometimes a friend group is three middle aged arizonan dads and the random british man they packbonded with

#occasionally I am reminded of just how silly team zits is. love them #my emotional support old men #team zits #sillyposting #astro speaks

[thatonedudeinthecorner]

Sokka, trying to be more friendly to Zuko after becoming Aang’s firebending teacher: relax, guy, I like gay men

Zuko, sweating profusely: that’s nice but…I’m not gay

Sokka, who has been daydreaming about kissing him, KNOWING his fantasies were based off of some fact: [squinting] I don’t believe that

#memes #avatar #avatar the last airbender #atla #sokka #zuko #zukka #zukka memes #I just love this audio it’s so funny #relax I like gay men #Zuko aka mr gay gayman the gay man #im not gay #NO ONE IS GOING TO BELIEVE THAT ZUKO #I like to think that Sokka has like #cringey middle school anime drawings of him and Zuko kissing #he doodles in the middle of aangs bending lessons #in between hassling Zuko and being a general nuisance #he needs his hobbies #and I support them 100%

[fakemichaelsheen]

-give me coffee-

nina: hey, whilst we're on the subject, I know someone who would be perfect for your friend

aziraphale, nearly chokes on his coffee: what?

nina, shrugs: well, you're not together, are you?

aziraphale, hesitates: well, no-

nina, drumming her fingers: and, you know, my friend thinks he's attractive

aziraphale, scoffs: crowley is attractive

nina, pulls a face: really? I don't see it

aziraphale, incredulous: excuse me? I understand you prefer women, nina, but you'd have to be blind not to see crowley's beauty. his eyes, the way he walks, his voice, his kindness, his warmth

nina, holds up her hand: i'm gonna stop you there because I've got customers to deal with *stands from their table* ask him out or I swear I will go and find a gay friend to seduce him *goes to the counter* next!

aziraphale: ...

#crowley: do you even know any men? / maggie: pfft. yeah. loads. all gay. all into mr fell / crowley: do they have a support group? #ineffable husbands #aziracrow #good omens #good omens 2 #ineffable chatfics

[shivvroys]

saw someone on twitter say shiv looked happier when she was with nate. NO!! the only time shiv has ever looked happy was that split second where tom suggested she fuck a woman

#succession #the way her face lights up #shiv roy #delusion aside i h8 nate he is so boring like girl if you’re gonna date men at least choose some interesting ones!!!! #i hope he’s just there for like a second to harp on her for her family supporting menken and then fucks off into the ether

[wordwovencackle]

My mom's got cancer (her treatment will ensure the tumours more or less remain in stasis - she's stable and okay) and she meets many women in the similar positions.

She met a woman. Bit older than herself and with a more aggressive type of cancer. They chatted and she told my mom about her husband and two adult sons who do nothing for her.

She still does all the domestic labour and grocery shopping. She still has to cook. If she comes home from her cancer treatment and is too ill and tired to cook, she ends up eating leftover bread. They won't even heat soup for her.

And she talked to my mom, all worried. Because her doctor told her to eat healthier, and she doesn't know how to manage that on top of everything else.

And this is such a common story. In practice, those marriage vows are for the wives only.

#radical feminism #female seperatism #I'm so mad so so mad #they can't even support the person they supposedly love the most #and her sons. i hope no woman gives them a second of her time #men will be good for a few years and make a 180° - don't risk it or if you feel you must please remain independent so you can leave whenever

[canisalbus]

A friend of mine sent me your latest post and I couldn't stop thinking about how perfectly Vasco would fit into the role of a coat of arms supporter. It got to the point that I just sat down and made a mock-up of the idea; turns out actually, both of them do a great job at it, together. Literally made this account to share the discovery (Extra funny points for them fitting the original colour scheme)

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#I was having a late night snack and almost inhaled my pizza when I received this #glorious #Vasco is excited to be there he's taking his new coat of arms supporter role very seriously #hey stop fiddling with the mantle Machete leave it be #I had to look this up but this is apparently the royal coat of arms of united kingdom #and in the original the characters are a lion and an unicorn #which fits these two oddly well #I love the fig leaf censorship very classy very tasteful #thank you for going through the trouble of making an account just to send me this it's priceless #gift art #peaceofbreadcake #Vasco #Machete #own characters #teamwork ✨ #the weird thing is how it almost works #if you didn't look closely enough you might not notice that the heraldic beasts are naked dog men

[hootenanie]

can't get any of my friends to agree with me that dueling scars (early 20th century practice among upper class college boys of semi-intentionally getting a minor facial scar from fencing) are fun and flirty despite half of them having had gender affirming surgery and tattoos which are basically the same thing. hell on earth

#everyone is “supportive of body autonomy' and 'thinks sadomasochism is cool' 'welcomes kink at pride' #till you want to get scarred in an intimate duel with a rival #then all of a suden 'men are so stupid' #and 'thats much weirder jackaro'

[knifearo]

this year my challenge for everyone is to unlearn the association between love and morality. love is not something that is inherently morally good, and the absence of love is not something that is inherently bad. sex without love isn't morally bankrupt, it's just an action. people without love aren't less kind or less good, they're just people. when we can get past this false (and often unnoticed) dichotomy of good love/evil lovelessness then i think we are going to be able to take leaps and bounds in sex positivity, aro advocacy, certain discussions of mental health...

#and also. not the direct focus. but love doesn't make things good. you can be in love and do terrible terrible things. #people do bad things in the name of love and in despite of love all the time. #but!! imagine a world where people could exist as people and not be demonized. #sex positivity means being cool about All sex. reexamine your internal systems of moral judgement. #this goes for sex workers. for aroallo people. especially aroallo men. for aro people in general who might enjoy sex. #and frankly i think it can easily bleed into discussions about mental health disorders around 'not feeling' certain things #especially demonizing ppl who don't feel as much empathy. i think there's definitely a correlation between that and the emphasis on love. #our support needs to go out to Everybody and i think these things are all structured together in one way or another!! #it might not be immediately obvious but when i tell you it all leads back to amatonormativity..... little bit wild.... large bit wild.... #anyway. horror movie psychopath 'oh he can't feel emotions or love' damn alright. well. let's take a closer look at that. #silly that there's an association between lack of love and Murdering. feel like that might affect some stuff. #love is just an emotion/a feeling it doesn't mean anything about you one way or another #same with empathy. you can feel it all you want but it doesn't inherently change the actions you choose to take #anyway. thesis statement. there is a socially constructed link between love and morality. unlearn that. #kiss kiss (<— lovelessly) #aromantic #aromanticism #arospec #talking #aroace #aspec #sex positivity

[demelly]

#jack is such a women supporter idk😭😭 #hes like ‘get rid of that boy marguerite we already have enough men in the house’! #JACK….. #re7 #resident evil 7 #resident evil biohazard #jack baker #re7 zoe baker #zoe baker

[whydoeseveryonehavetobelesbian]

i don't know if you guys have been keeping up with the women's world cup but this past sunday spain won against england. and you would think this would be the best moment of their careers and their lives but you wanna know what happened?

the spanish football federation's president non-consensually kissed one of the players, jenni hermoso, on the mouth when they were celebrating. this grown ass man took it upon himself to ruin the celebration for ALL the women who just achieved the thing they have been preparing for all their lives, literally the peak of a football player's career, they did it and he by himself ruined it.

and i say all the women because the other players, along 58 currently inactive and ex-players, stood up for jenni hermoso and have refused to play for the team until luis rubiales publicly apologizes and renounces his spot. now the rfef says they'll take legal action against the players and jenni for lying and because they have an obligation to play for the team.

do you remember how the men's world cup celebrations went? i do, im from argentina. no one said anything to any of the players, they were treated like kings for months and they are worshipped to this day. and rightfully so! they earned it i guess. but we do see the discrepancy?

how is it that we allow as a society for one man to sexually assault a woman right after achieving the thing another group of men got ceaselessly venerated for not even a year later? what do women have to do to earn respect? win the world cup? become the pride and joy of their country?

#im so fucking mad #literally WHAT IS IT what do we have to do #and also calling her a liar??? there's a fucking video do you have no shame #but also it makes me really happy all those women support jenni hermoso #they shouldn't need to none of this should've happened #but women ✊ #fuck luis rubiales fuck that guy i hope he dies #also some of the men from the argentinian football team turned out to be creeps after winning #no one said anything 🤣🤣🤣🤣 #jenni hermoso #luis rubiales #women world cup #wwc 2023 #football #feminism

[trans-androgyne]

If when you hear “trans man” you instantly treat it as “straight, white, abled, endosex, passing trans man” you need to reconsider some things. Especially if you’re cis.

#not that those trans men don’t deserve care & love & support — they do. #I love you men I love you trans men #I love you trans men with intersecting marginalized identities #trans men are not any one thing. they’re a diverse community connected by one complex thing #transness is complex. transness with never not be complex. #trans posting #transandrophobia #transmasc #trans men