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#suppressing emotions
itsbansheebitch · 2 months
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I tried rewriting this post so many times. I'm going to try bullet points instead.
I think all of these are good/true:
From my experience as an afab person raised similarly to a boy due to my father wanting a boy, I can confidently say that the emotional suppression that men and boys experience on a daily basis is frankly, inhumane.
Parents shouldn't speculate their kid(s) gender/sexuality/etc just because their kid is showing certain behaviors/having certain interests that aren't stereotypical for their assigned gender.
Parents should allow kids space to explore gender/sexuality, but make sure not to push them into anything.
Parents should allow their kids space to explore gender/sexuality, but make sure that their kid is first and foremost SAFE and HAPPY.
Emotional suppression is expected of men/boys, but science agrees that emotional suppression is in short, BAD FOR YOU.
"Be a man" is often used as a slap in the face to keep men/boys in line. You can imagine this isn't ideal if a boy is reporting bullying in school or a man is trying to bring up unsafe working conditions.
A lot of women have trauma about men (including myself), but this doesn't mean that a whole marginalized group should be excluded from sports (We're not going to re-segregate sports just because some people have trauma related to black people, are we?)
Men & boys' emotions should not only be accepted but ENCOURAGED!
Black men's emotions have been demonized for CENTURIES. Make sure to raise an eyebrow when you hear a black man experiencing anger described as "animalistic" or described with any other dehumanizing language.
Stop expecting men to do things you don't expect women to do! If you don't expect women to chase CEO positions, don't ask why a man isn't a CEO yet! Just like how you shouldn't expect a woman to be a wife and mother by 25 if that's not what you're expecting of men. And if you are having those kinds of standards then maybe lower them because both sides and both genders are extremely unrealistic!
Men aren't given the tools to describe their emotions! If you are wondering what a man thinks about a topic, a decision, etc, give them time to respond and let them know they have time to think! Give them time to think about their answer. If they want (ASK) you can offer an Emotion Wheel or a few (metaphorical) Mad Libs for them to start their answer with.
Alexithymia (also known as emotional colorblindness) is a phenomenon when someone has trouble describing their emotions. They feel all their emotions normally, but they struggle describing them or giving them detail.
Normative Male Alexithymia is a type of Alexithymia. It is called "Normative Male..." because in a lot of cultures (specifically western cultures) it is normal for men to suppress their emotions to the point of having trouble recalling names of emotions or describing them in detail when asked.
Alexithymia/Normative Male Alexithymia is a BIG reason why a lot of men struggle in therapy. It is also the reason why I, myself struggled (to communicate my thoughts) in therapy. Because I was raised to suppress my emotions and not communicate my thoughts.
I truly believe that if my upbringing was even a HINT a SLICE a BREATH a WHISPER a TINY BIT of what the average boy's upbringing is like, then our collective, societal treatment of men and boys is inhumane and inexcusable.
I know any boy or man that makes a post even hinting something like this would be attacked. This isn't me being a pick-me, this is me telling you that my dad was prepared to raise boys, he got girls, and I got a VERY different perspective because of it. I'm telling you right now that if how I was treated was even a hint of what the average boy gets growing up, then we owe men an apology. I'm not joking. This is not satire.
People talk about intersectionality, but rarely actually NAME boys and men as being a part of the discussion (unless they're the "villain"). I think we should do so more often. They are ALSO getting the short end of the stick. (Expecting to be part of an "Atom Family" and work ALL DAY??? NO THANKS)
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unwelcome-ozian · 2 years
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silentromance · 1 year
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cripplingmind · 2 years
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I just want someone to see past this fake front I put on about being an open and talkative person and realize it’s how I disguise my guarded walls
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grouchydairy · 6 months
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This was honestly more freeing than the inhibition arms race of simply thinking better, ignoring harder. It taught me more about myself through something I was told to simply pretend not to have. In fact, it connected me more with the people who made me feel that way in the first place. After all, we had the same goal and are just at different points in our lives of getting it. They may have some tips on how to get on the same journey. (They may not, which is okay too, because of their reminder of what we might have pretended not to want.)
lucy dan
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monkey-d-ezekiel · 9 months
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being in touch with your emotions, understanding and using them wisely is nowhere near the same thing as being at their whim, or considering all of them as urges of paramount importance that must immediately be acted upon, or worshipped as truth. you don't have to be a genius to know that some emotions arise from a negative place, and that you must use your judgement to discern what feelings are worth facilitating with your actions. there's a difference between suppressing feelings, and understand that some feelings are not worth considering as wholly truthful and good guides.
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eggwhiteswithspinach · 9 months
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This was honestly more freeing than the inhibition arms race of simply thinking better, ignoring harder. It taught me more about myself through something I was told to simply pretend not to have. In fact, it connected me more with the people who made me feel that way in the first place. After all, we had the same goal and are just at different points in our lives of getting it. They may have some tips on how to get on the same journey. (They may not, which is okay too, because of their reminder of what we might have pretended not to want.)
lucy dan
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maudiemoods · 7 months
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I told myself I wouldn't but my hand slipped
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I was rewatching Steven universe and couldn't help myself aararraar
No full au djjwjd just doodles and ideas djsjjdsj
After leaving home world, they both change their appearance. Idk to what exactly because that last doodle is just casual wear but they definitely have a set outfit they like. Moon's hair changes into a shaggy cut! He likes a more scrappy look. He keeps his hat of course jejsjsj
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hypogryffin · 14 days
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Erina and Sophie....
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erina and sophie..... perhaps even sophie and erina....
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faeriefully · 3 months
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girls really do be raging a war in their own head whilst sitting silent in their living room
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swedenis-h · 6 months
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jerseymuppet · 1 year
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Gerard Way - Life On The Murder Scene, 2005 // Drugstore Perfume - Gerard Way, Hesitant Alien, 2014 // Emily - My Chemical Romance, 2006 // Drowning Lessons - My Chemical Romance, 2002 // Gerard Way - 2004 // Gerard Way - 2023 // Drowning Lessons - My Chemical Romance, 2002 // It’s Not A Fashion Statement, It’s A Deathwish - My Chemical Romance, 2004 // Gerard Way For Boyzine, 2015 // Gerard Way, Twitter, 2015
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sbeliever · 2 years
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preacherboyd · 1 year
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Black Sails | XXXV.
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horrorshow · 1 month
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Your mom needs you right now. Go open that duffel bag, grab the salt gun. I gotta carry your mom out so if anything comes at us, you shoot it.
SUPERNATURAL 6.21 Let It Bleed
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beckkii · 8 months
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ok question for spamton fans: do y’all think he always had a voice glitch or did it only develop once he became insane
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