#system host

[noodles-in-the-sink]

Singlets think that being a system means you “have friends in your head!!”

WRONG!!

Being a system means you have five random people sitting in front and driving you insane by talking about “Philosophy Cunt” when you know they really mean Philomena Cunk

#Being a system is such an unreal experience #I can’t even tell if they’re serious or not at this point #system host #system #actually did #did #did osdd #cdid system #did system #endos dni #endos do not interact #osdd system #traumagenic system #system things #system stuff

[enchantingducktheorist]

To social alters that have had their hearts repeatedly crushed: you were not 'too trusting' others just failed to treat you with the care and kindness everyone deserves, you're still wanted, you're still loved, your system still needs you. Not wanting to socialise out of fear is not a failing.

You're wanted

You're loved

You're valid

And I see you

You are so strong and you deserve to heal from the pain other's have brought you

The fact that you still hold out your arms for friendships and relationships is incredible and I understand if you don't want to anymore.

It's not selfish to try and protect your soul

Not matter what you've been through, we will always be here for you and there is good people in the world

We love you and your system still needs and loves you <3

- a sentiment held by the entire conference hall collective

#mental health #dissociative identity disorder #did system #actually did #did alter #plural system #plurality #traumagenic did #endos dni #did osdd #dni endos #Dni non traumagenic #did stuff #did host #post traumatic stress disorder #system host #system problems #system stuff #dissociative system #traumagenic system #osdd system #system support #system positivity #osdd alter #plural blog #sysblr #didblr #did blog #actually mentally ill #actually multiple

[ancient-alienss]

Sometimes being in a system with alters who have crushes/partners is ANNOYING.

Like stop giggling and getting excited I don't love this person?! But I feel this emotion too cuz YOU'RE IN FRONT.

-Venus (Post idea by a friend we had a convo abt)

#did osdd #osddid #system #fictive #fictive heavy system #sysblr #did system #dissociative system #system host #system memes

[neon-vocalist]

things i used to do that hurt my headmates: a non-all-inclusive list, vecause i think it is important to acknowledge when we as hosts do things wrong, but also that mistakes are a part of learning you’re plural and everyone makes them.

1. joke that i didn’t want them there / give them a poor reception. my immediate reaction to “hi, i’m here” used to be “no the fuck you’re not.” they’d say “hi!” and i’d say “no.” especially if they were fictives. they’d give me their name, and i’d go “ohhhh, nooooo, i refuse to believe it,” and it was funny to me and to my friends, but it ended up severely impacting the way they felt around me.

2. see them for their jobs. for a long time, my headmates were more like co workers. i would say things to them that kind of just boiled them down to what they did, from “why are you here? we don’t need protecting” to “i don’t get why so-and-so split, they don’t do anything for me.” now i make an effort to see them for who they are, not what they do for me.

3. lock up our persecutors. i know many systems who’ve done this and many systems who say they will if they need to. i have been in spaces where people advertise “alter jail” and things like that, or give tips on how to create one. while our version of isolating our persecutor was putting him in a tupperware container and not a jail cell, it’s still imprisonment and i don’t think i need to explain why this one is harmful.

4. shit talk them behind their backs. i guess i still kind of do this. i panic and i take the side of whoever’s gossiping about them, and i usually end up saying things about them i would never actually believe. i need to get better at standing up for them.

5. give everyone info on them and their dirty laundry. i used to use my headmates as conversation points. “oh we split someone new btw, they’re x and y and do z,” or “oh, did i tell you about the drama with a and b?” when really the drama is none of my or my friend’s business, and they end up feeling betrayed that i’d tell someone about them like that.

6. act like i was The Valid One. i acted like i got to make the decisions, like everyone revolves around me, and that it was truly MY system— i would order them around, make them do shit i didn’t want to do, and hold myself higher than them. it was me and my alters, and i always got priority.

7. force them to speak. i would make them introduce themselves to everyone we talked to and put introductions in our journal and private server. it didn’t matter if they didn’t want to be known, to me it was essential that all our friends had all the information. even at the expense of my headmates’ comfort.

i don’t do this stuff anymore, and i know it’s fucked up. there’s also things i’ve seen other hosts do that are harmful, and i do my best to call them on it (gently, of course). but i think it’s important to acknowledge that we fuck up and we’ve moved on instead of pretending it never happened and we were always perfect.

#system host #osddid #actually did #actually plural #system things #plurality

[criminalprobs]

He's so disappointed in me :) -Teddy 🧸

#did #did system #osdd #plural #plurality #system #udd #new system #system host #system memes

[whoopsie-collective]

singlets pls don't vote :))

#plural #system #pluralgang #plurality #endo safe #pro endo #system host

[raindropssys]

when an alter fronts for the first time in a while:

"okay, what's the host's new hyperfixation this time?"

#endos dni #did osdd #osddid #did system #osdd system #cdd system #complex dissociative disorder #dissociative alters #dissociative system #did community #osdd community #cdd #did #dissociative identity disorder #system host #host alter #system memes #did memes #raindrops.sys

[multiplicity-positivity]

Here’s some positivity for struggling hosts!

System hosts often have a lot to deal with, between fronting most of the time, managing their system’s daily life, and taking care of their basic needs! Certainly, the role of host is not an easy burden to bear, and it makes sense that often system hosts will face more difficulties than the rest of their system or fail to effectively manage their systems while taking care of themselves properly. This post goes out to all the struggling hosts out there!

❤️ Shoutout to hosts who are also trauma holders, symptom holders, or have some other role that makes functioning a challenge!

🧡 Shoutout to hosts who are frontstuck, are unable to access a headspace or inner world, or who want to leave the front, but can’t!

💛 Shoutout to hosts who have to deal with chronic exhaustion or fatigue due to fronting most of the time!

💚 Shoutout to those who are struggling due to being temporary hosts or new to hosting!

💙 Shoutout to hosts who are having difficulties coming to terms with the fact that they’re part of a system!

💜 Shoutout to hosts who have to rely on help from their system’s caretakers, protectors, or other members in order to take care of themselves!

💕 Shoutout to those who don’t like being a host and wish they could switch roles with another member of their system!

❤️ Shoutout to hosts who have trouble speaking, walking, listening, performing basic tasks, or doing anything else that’s often required of system hosts!

🧡 Shoutout to those who love being the host of their system, even if they’re often struggling!

💛 Shoutout to hosts who struggle to communicate with, or often feel misunderstood by the rest of their system!

💚 Shoutout to hosts who have to grapple with amnesia, headaches, loss of time, derealization, depersonalization, identity confusion, or other harrowing symptoms that come from dealing with a dissociative disorder!

💙 Shoutout to hosts who often feel foggy, blurry, or like they don’t know who they are!

💜 Shoutout to hosts who seriously need a break, whether from fronting, work, school, social obligations, taking care of the body, or any other task they regularly have to complete!

Being the host of a system is not always an easy job, and it makes sense that many system members will face incredible challenges when it comes to being the main fronter of their system! Even though it may be a lonely task sometimes, we want to reassure you that you’re not as alone as you may think! There are lots of struggling hosts out there, and hopefully that fact can help you or the host of your system feel less isolated.

We want you to know that we believe in you, we see your efforts and how hard you work for your system, and we’re adamantly rooting for you!! We are so proud of you and recognize all that you do to keep your system healthy, safe, and functioning. Your efforts are not for nothing and they don’t go unnoticed! Please try to treat yourself with kindness and remember to take breaks every once in a while. And as always, thanks for reading and take care!

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#multiplicity #pluralgang #plurality #actuallyplural #system positivity #plural positivity #plural pride #system pride #host #system host

[the-habitat-sysblog]

shout out to pwCDDs whose system structure is complex, unknowable, overwhelming, multifaceted, hard to explain or otherwise difficult to keep track of. layers, subsystems, sidesystems, clusters, or a custom term for your specific structure(s) - it gets complicated! shout out to y'all.

#amaranth🫁.txt #; #💬 #🤍 #[ #traumagenic system #system stuff #system #system host #did system #actually did #polyfrag #polyfrag system #polyfragmented #polyfrag did #complex did #cdid system #cdd #sysblr #]

[host-culture-is]

host culture is constantly dissociating. like wdym other alters can front are remember what they did while I am constantly forgetting everything. (I don't remember what happens when I'm fronting, I also don't remember what happens when I'm not fronting. Like a memory wipe every hour and I'm left with just enough information to survive the day and come across as a functioning human being)

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#host culture is #actually did #actually osdd #c did #did #osdd #osddid #cdd #pdid #system host

[y0han]

System ask game!

I got bored so here’s an ask game :3 feel free to ask your own questions too these are just some basis ones!

👥 - How many alters do we have?

🔥 - What does our inner world look like?

🥀 - Did we ever experience denial of being a system?

🌬️ - How many parts view themselves as something other than human and who?

🌟 - How did alters discover their names?

🌕 - Who has the strangest name in terms of English dialect?

💥 - What do you do when you need to calm down from rapid switching or a panic attack?

💐 - Has anyone ever switched in during something they shouldn’t have? Explain.

☘️ - How does everyone communicate?

🐁 - Does everyone have different speech patterns?

🦢 - Does everyone have different handwriting to each other?

🪱 - Are any alters in relationships? If so who?

🐝 - Can you list everyone? (Exceptions are allowed for those who can’t be revealed)

🦋 - Who has been fronting most often lately and for what reasons?

🐠 - Who has the strangest source?

🐳 - Does everyone have a different music taste?

🪰 - Who likes the strangest music?

🐴 - What does a rapid switch look like for us?

🦋 - What does switching look and feel like for us?

#actually did #actually dissociative #did #did system #dissociative identity disorder #plural system #system stuff #traumagenic system #did community #dissociative system #did host #traumagenic did #did alter #syshost #system host #sysblr #system things #traumagenic safe #actually traumagenic #did ask game

[enchantingducktheorist]

If a protector fronts when I'm talking to someone, it means you've fucked around and your about to find out

(Fyi only if the someone is being aggressive but I feel like that goes without saying)

#mental health #dissociative identity disorder #did system #actually did #did alter #endos dni #plural system #plurality #traumagenic did #did osdd #plural community #actually plural #system host #system problems #system stuff #dissociative system #system memes #traumagenic system #sysblur #sysblr #sys blog #pluralgang #plural stuff #plural memes #did humor #did host #did stuff #did memes #did plurality #did posting

[ancient-alienss]

Autistic System culture is:

Oh a new fictive! I wonder what source they have? It could be the movie I watched recently, it could be the game I recently finished, it could-

Total drama. (Again)

#did osdd #osddid #system #fictive #fictive heavy system #sysblr #did system #dissociative system #system host #system memes #autistic system

[thestudsystem]

Sometimes its really nice of the main fronter to give themself a break.

No, I'm not saying we're tired of Tee. At all. He's needed a break for such a long time, but always felt uncomfortable leaving front alone.

We also do really enjoy having a fluent front between more frequent Fronters. It's awesome for the front room to be so visible.

He's finally giving himself the break he needs today.

Big cheers for Tee today!!

#.loona #did #actually plural #pro endo #endo safe #dissociative identity disorder #plurality #plural #fictive #helluva boss fictive #sure. thats a right tag #why not #helluva boss introject #system positivity #dissociative system #system host #system stuff #did system #plural gang #plural system #endogenic safe #pro endogenic

[criminalprobs]

They were so proud of this too.

-Angel 🪽(The aforementioned gatekeeper)

#did #did system #plural #osdd #system #plurality #udd #new system #system host #system gatekeeper #system memes #relateable

[cynicalundead]

venom-esque

+ how it feels to be a subsystem

#system things #system art #traumagenic system #system #osdd system #plural system #plural things #plural community #pluralgang #plural #plurality #actually plural #alter art #headmates #subsystem #endo safe #pro endo #osdd host #system host #cyn's art #my art #i almost forgot my art tags