hi hi hi. though new year is always associated with new beginnings, reflections, revision, goal setting, prepping and being excited about starting again, it can also be a moment of disappointment to those who didn't find peace and happiness as much this year. it's okay if you couldn't complete all that you had planned or didn't come out as the kind of person you aimed to be. look at you love, we made it at the end of 2022 and that's all that matters!! you don't have to punish yourself or “make up” for all the inconsistency by filling your schedule up to the brim on the beginning of jan. take it slow k? take a deep breath and whenever you are ready, focus on the things that matter. no matter how hopeless times can seem to be, i assure you you are safe and loved. i hope this new year brings you lots and lots of happy memories, new foods to try, new experiences which makes you smile later, people who'll love you unconditionally, creators who truly speak to you, books that makes you want to re read a hundred times and step forward to your dreams. ily ily ily ♡
take a breath
this is a safe place
to slow down
relax
take things easy
one by one
so you can order everything
arrange your thoughts chronologically
imagine a time
before the internet
when the default was to disconnect
and boredom wasn’t a bad word
when
you didn’t have to have an opinion
you didn’t have to be home by a time
you just had to know the position of the sun in the sky
let the street lights come on
in your mind
it’s time
to come home
arrange your thoughts
like your family at the dinner table
take a breath
and have a conversation
//take a breath By: alec prado//
June, it’s time to say goodbye already. But let me take this time at midnight to tell you that this year, you were what I needed you to be. You did not bring any significant joy and you did not bring any significant pain. The monsoon was late, my coffee is still iced, and my cheeks were barely stained. You gave me time to breathe. You gave me time to be. Thank you. Next time maybe I will be ready to have a more fuller June. But for now, I am going to send you off with silent gratitude.
OH! you like that character?? do tell!! that character is your f/o??? WICKED! here's mine!! they think it's cringe? who said their opinion mattered? last i checked, you aren't hurting anyone, we're just crushin on cutie and sexy characters!! who doesn't?? draw that character comforting you or you two in domestic bliss, oh!! or if it's that kind of story, battling with villains/monsters/whatever side by side!! solving a crime together, running down the halls of a fancy castle/school! and sometimes, just simple hugging, cuddling, or kissing is all you need. draw it, read it, write it! besides, our brains can't tell the difference, give it a break some time, okay?
I’m three years out of college and I think I’m doing fine. I’m nowhere near where I’d thought I’d be and I’m okay with that. I think a lot about how naive I was when setting my goals back when I graduated. But, that’s okay. I’m still at home, trying to save my money. There is no way I can buy a house right now and I help with the bills. I’ve noticed my parents’ mental health aren’t that great, mine isn’t either to be honest. We’ve lost a lot.
My brother asked me some advice before he went off to college, he’s leaving in the fall.
So my advice to the kids leaving home. Check on your parents, they worry more than you know. Make some friends, you have to spend more time into relationships as you get older. Put a day aside for yourself, where you do the things you like. Eat some veggies, they’re good for you.
One of the wildest parts about my mother and I having experienced the same abuse is that whenever she catches me giving trauma responses, she always smacks me upside the head with shit like this.
It's okay if you've been overthinking/stressing over something and now you're worrying also over the smallest thing. It happens: when we keep ourselves on the edge through continuos ruminating over matters, any other minor negative inconvenience that may happen can take a very big room in our life too. It's how anxiety works.
It grows anytime we give it power (by giving it attention and stressing) and inglobes everything it can.
According on your possibilities, try to reconnect with yourself by moving yourself (slowly) or laying, maybe hugging a blanket or anything comfortable, or using any of your senses like listening to a calming sound (if music works for you, you can prepare a spotify playlist for this type of situations, for example). But only go for things you find pleasant: being overwhelmed, chances are that your senses may be hightened as well, so be kind and only go for something that you like and can ease your mind/soothe you, and help you ground/come back to yourself and breath better at least a little.
Breath slowly, especially exhaling slowly is very important: take more time into exhaling than in inhaling if you feel like you cannot do both.
Even if it doesn't seem so, you got this. You got yourself. And ofc, if you cannot stop, ask for support. People are around us even when we think they are not. People care, even those you think that won't.