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emeritus-fuckers · 1 year

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How do you do, fellow simps?

We are Nosferatu (also known as Mary, Elizabeth or Rat; they/she/he/it/ze/xey/fae/per/chaos/ghoul/blood/doll; main @nosferatu-inside-of-me), Nyx (she/her; main: @christie-r0ad), Zenith/Jasper (he/him; main @z-xmyers) and Death (she/they; main: @deaths-reign02) and we have decided to do write horny shit here. This sideblog will mostly include anything Ghost and Repugnant related. You can learn more about us here.

We also have a discord server for the Ghesties and Repugnant fans to chill and vibe together! You can join the server here.

We provide content fot the entire Emeritus bloodline and some personal favorites, which means we write for:

Papa Emeritus Zero/Papa Nihil (both young and old because we're filthy simps)

Papa Emeritus I/Primo

Papa Emeritus II/Secondo (biblically accurate because y'all forget he's a party animal)

Papa Emeritus III/Terzo (he/they)

Papa Emeritus IV/Cardinal Copia

Sister Imperator (both young and old because, as written above, we're filthy simps)

Mister Saltarian

The Director

Father Jim Defroque (because y'all are sleeping on daddy Jimmy fr)

Here you can find out more about our headcanons about their identities!

Multicharacter human masterlist (more than 3 characters) can be found here.

As well as all the Ghouls:

Fire Ghouls

Alpha (he/him)

Ifrit (he/him)

Sodo (NOT Dewdrop; he/him)

Blaze (Papa Nihil's Ghoul; he/him)

Water Ghouls

Chain (it/ghoul)

Lake (he/him)

River (they/them)

Cowbell (headcannoned by us as a water ghoul; they/it)

Mist (he/she)

Rain (he/she/ve)

Storm (Papa Nihil's Ghoul; they/he)

Earth Ghouls

Cliff/Big Earth (first Earth Ghoul; they/he)

Pebble (he/him)

Ivy (he/xe)

Mountain (he/him)

Quake (Papa Nihil's Ghoul, they/them)

Air Ghouls

Eurus (first Air Ghoul, they/she)

Zephyr/ChAir (they/he)

Cirrus (she/ze)

Cumulus (she/her)

Tornado (Papa Nihil's Ghoul, ze/zir)

Quintessence Ghouls

Omega (he/him)

Delta (transelemental Water-Quintessence; they/it)

Aether (he/him)

Phantom (he/they/xey/it)

Chaos (Papa Nihil's Ghoul; he/she/they/it)

Multi Ghouls

Swiss (he/it/xey)

Phil (he/him)

Sunshine (she/her)

Aurora (she/they/fae)

Here you can find out more about our headcanons about their identities! (Ghoulettes/Ghouls/Papa Nihil's Ghouls)

Ghouls masterlist can be found here.

Other Ghost headcanons (mostly world-building) can be found here.

We also make content for the following members of Repugnant:

Mary Goore (they/them. i will not answer anything where mary goore is regrded as a he/him.)

DD Sars (he/him)

G. Grotesque (he/him)

E. Forcas (he/him)

Tom Bones (he/him)

Here you can find out more about our headcanons about their identities!

Repugnant masterlist can be found here.

We provide both SFW and NSFW content in forms of headcanons and fics, big and small. We won't write anything that makes us uncomfortable, might post some small graphic edits, too. We're absolutely cool with LGBTQ+ stuff. This blog is a safe space for you, no matter your size, race, sexuality or identity and we promise to do our best to make you feel included, respected and comfortable. If anything we wrote or published makes you feel wrong, please do not hesitate to say so in the comments or to message Nosferatu about it.

If you do not specify that you want a oneshot/fic, we will most likely write your requests as headcanons since it's easier to read and write.

Our wonderful profile picture has been provided by the incredible @tasty-ribz. The beatiful Pride background was made by the amazing @mustluvecho.

CURRENT EVENTS:

Kinktober 2023 (it will be finished one day you just gotta believe.)

DNI AND GET TF OUT IF YOU ARE:

homophobic

transphobic

fatphobic

racist

a TERF

a pedophile

a zoophile

one of those disgusting anons who sent death threats to tasty-ribz

one of the anons bullying copias-girl

one of the assholes who spam Chris

one of the idiots invading Jutty and Liv's privacy

a Phantom/Aurora hater

As for minors: we are NOT your parents. It's your call if you read our content. We take no responsibility for it.

Our taglist can be found here.

Send an ask if you'd like to be added. Mention if for all or only specific characters. (these asks will not be published)

#ghost band #papa emeritus i #papa emeritus ii #papa emeritus iii #papa emeritus iv #primo #secondo #terzo #cardinal copia #sister imperator #father jim defroque #papa nihil #papa emeritus zero #x reader

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thestobingirlie · 6 months

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actually, it’s so fucking funny that so many ronancers saw that post that said “some ronance shippers have terfy vibes”, and their immediate defence was “actually i’m a man-hater!!! i hate disgusting men and i want them nowhere near my pure lesbian ship.” with zero sense of irony or awareness lmao

at the end of the day, you can be against terfs, while still regurgitating their ideology. that’s literally how they get you. it’s all about the slow introduction of gender bioessentialism, and that’s what so many of you are parroting when you talk about male and female friendships.

#anti ronance #stranger things #my post

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flugame-mp3 · 7 months

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no longer post limited :D

apotheosis (theo), he/ze/they/whatever, in my 20s

pronouns.cc / cohost

free palestine

tags + blinkies + more under the cut :)

blinkie/stamp IDs in alt! ^^

this is my main blog but it ends up mostly fall out boy and supernatural! known decaydance/bandom freak and stump club vice president, also enjoys things like spn, doctor who, ttrpg (incl. baldur's gate, just roll with it, etc.), the legend of zelda, and long walks on the beach

beware: i use suicide jokes and reclaimed slurs. ask me to trigger tag stuff with "cw thing" and i will

no dni i will just block you. however: terfs/radfems kys. zionists are not welcome here. wincest & waycest shippers, brendon urie apologists, mcr "fans" who are racist towards ray, and people who are weird about pete wentz + his writing get blocked on sight. also post-hiatus fob/MANIA haters youre weird and wrong.

previous urls include will0wpark, vengolorbraad, and raytorologist

mutuals pls ask for my discord! also feel free to dm me ab anything, im not the best about keeping up conversations but i enjoy talking to y'all :)

i have many tags that i use inconsistently. however here is a little metaphorical charcuterie board of stuff i use a lot

PERSONAL/BLOG STUFF theo.txt - my original posts n whatnot asks - exactly what it says on the tin cool art - pretty much any art i reblog important - useful, uplifting, life advice, etc. nsft - pretty much anything i wouldnt want my manager seeing if they glanced over my shoulder at work queer stuff - similar vein to my trans tag but wider umbrella trans tag - catchall tag for trans stuff art history stuff - catchall tag for things relating to art history (my field of study!! its me and dutch post-impressionist painter vincent van gogh against the world) me and queue setting in a honeymoon - queue tag. if u want that for some reason

FALL OUT BOY STUFF fob - fababoi tag :3 pstump - patrick tag pwentz - pete tag joe trohman - its so trohver (joe tag) andy hurley - andy tag p2 - exactly what it says on the tin. i got tired of typing out "half doomed and semi sweet" every time maniaposting - loveposting about the hit 7th studio album from american rock band fall out boy yayy !! ioh - im making an ioh tag but she's not done yet soul punk - ask me about debut solo studio album "soul punk" by american musician and national treasure patrick stump

MY CHEMICAL ROMANCE STUFF mcr - my chem tag ray toro - ray tag :) gerard way - gerard tag mikey way - michael romance real...? (mikey tag) frank iero - frank tag bullets - ibymbmlymblymblymyl tag :3 danger days - tangentially related to mcr, mostly killjoys fanart

i will generally tag other bands/artists that i like (e.g. thursday/geoff rickly, ricky montgomery, mitski)

SUPERNATURAL STUFF spn - supernatural tag yay (ive entered my cas lover era be aware.) sammy - my love my light my sweet psychic mentally ill nerd antichrist girlfriend (sam tag) dean - eldest daughter (terminal diagnosis) ...but in a cool leather jacket (loving). cant express my heartfelt feelings if my arteries are clogged due to HAMBURGER (dean tag) cas - silly queer autism angel captivates me mind body and soul. more at 10:00. "but he murdered half of heaven" what do you want me to do about that. and he looked good doing it! (castiel tag) the brothers winchester - crying over Tragic Siblings (salmondean sam + dean tag) tfw - one ex-blood-junkie, one drop-out with six bucks to his name, and mr. comatose (sam + dean + cas/team free will tag) destiel - i can't stop thinking about those tragic little gay men /ref (dean x cas tag. why are they like that.) i do other spn tagging too, like sastiel, but mostly character names (like bobby or crowley), and also jackles/misha <3 (and jarpad mostly for filtering purposes. he gets on my damn nerves.) have fun!

MISC FANDOMS STUFF dw - doctor who tag (a lot of 9/10/15 and donna. and rose) loz - legend of zelda tag (specific games are also tagged) jrwi - just roll with it tag (bitb, riptide, fated, etc. are also tagged) bg3 - baldur's gate 3 posting (lots of karlach and astarion. and gale. astarion fans be normal challenge) ttrpg - d&d/pf2e/coc/vtm posting (i have separate tags for some of my characters and campaigns as well please please please please please talk to me about tabletop stuff it is my entire life outside of tumblr aughhhhhhhhh)

and the award for world's longest pinned post goes to...

#pinned #woe. tag list be upon ye #updated 4/24/24 #<- added my new pronouns.cc and cohost!

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ticklesmp · 5 months

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Hey y'all~

I'm Kai, I go by he/they (NO SHE OR YOU'LL GET FUCKING BLOCKED!) and I'll be your Tumblr parent if you want!!! UwU I am in a dedicated relationship with my S/O, Jax (@iloveitcklez). I am new to Tumblr, specifically the tickling side, and would love to interact with anyone who is willing!

DNI: Homophobic, ableist, zionist, racist, cishet (/srs IM BEING SO FUCKING SERIOUS), hate me or my partner (or anyone we kindate as), can't separate DSMP characters from the creators, strictly NSFW, pedos, kpop fan, Christians, hate Imagine Dragons, don't support bi/pan lesbians, TERF, doubles, celebrate Saint Patrick's Day and don't acknowledge its problematic history, kinkshamer, cowboy, misuse tone indicators (you are NOT fucking FUNNY!), vegan, cat hater, don't believe in reality shifting, your name is Naomi or Paxton, make fun of people for their hobbies or interests

BYF: I am a bisexual panromantic transmasc demiboy. I am a tickle blog. I kin and do not appreciate doubles at all. I am a neu-shipper. I have autism, bipolar disorder, PTSD, ADHD, and schizoaffective. I will not tag anything ever. I may be shy or awkward in DMs but once you get to know me, I'm kinda clingy UwU. I don't necessarily see tickling as a N.SFW fetish, I personally just see it in a SFW way. I mainly lean towards being a ler when it comes to tickling.

I am multifandom, but here are some of my main interests (below the cut):

TADC

Helluva Boss

DSMP

Baldi's Basics

GOBB

JJK

Genshin Impact

Finding Nemo

FNAF

MHA

Boyfriends the Webtoon

Lorax

Gotham

Willy's Wonderland

Angry Birds

Danganronpa

SBSP

Stranger Things

Trolls

Ensemble Stars

Lego Movie

Minecraft

Here is my kindating list! Doubles PLEASE DNI.

I am Ragatha and my S/O is Jax! I am Blitzo and my S/O is Stolas! I am C!George and my S/O is C!Dream! I am Baldi and my S/O is Principal! I am Jumbo Josh and my S/O is BanBan! I am Geto and my S/O is Gojo! I am Childe and my S/O is Zhongli! I am Marlin and my S/O is Gill! I am Glamrock Freddy and my S/O is Glamrock Bonnie! I am Deku and my S/O is Bakugo. I am Nerd and my S/O is Goth! I am Onceler and my S/O is Greedler! I am Edward and my S/O is Oswald. I am Willy and my S/O is Sara! I am Mighty Eagle and my S/O is Red! I am Phone Guy and my S/O is Purple Guy! I am Kokichi and my S/O is Nagito! I am Spongebob and my S/O is Squidward! I am Steve and my S/O is Eddie! I am Poppy and my S/O is Branch! I am Shu and my S/O is Mika! I am Emmett and my S/O is Wildstyle! I am Axel and my S/O is Olivia! I am Venti and my S/O is Xiao!

Thank you so much for reading all this way! Bye bye~

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izukumidoriyaofficial · 3 months

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Hi! :)

I’m Izuku Midoriya! It’s great to meet you!

And I’m Em, I keep everything in check behind the scenes. Izuku is very excited to be here, and therefore his self preservation has gone out the window. I will be here to make sure he makes his boundaries known. Use your big boy voice, Izuku. ♡

Rules and Regulations!!

Izuku is 15 years old, and I think we know where this is going. Please, no NSFW, he can barely handle light flirting without freaking out. Poor bean isn’t ready for adult content.

Izuku is very busy sleeping and eating and whatnot, so although he’d love to sit by the computer until 5:00 am answering asks every day, I must drag him to bed. Please don’t be upset with him.

Izuku would love to see your OCs, he is very excited to meet new people. Don’t be afraid to ask, he wants everyone to be comfortable.

Izuku is perfectly fine with ships, as long as this doesn’t step over a boundary. I’m sure we all know what boundary that is. You can ask him questions like that.

Izuku gets tired, and sometimes he isn’t acting like himself. Feel free to tell him, this just means I was right and he was wrong, and I must tuck him into bed right away.

Izuku loves everyone, and it makes him sad to see bigotry. All homophobes, terfs, transphobes, xenophobes, racists, sexists, and haters of any kind will be blocked. This is a blog safe for everyone.

I think that’s enough for now… just have fun. I might update the rules as time passes, but I feel like I made everything pretty clear.

Tags!!

#deku answers!!

#deku speaks!!

#deku is interested!!

#deku laughed!!!

#em steps in

#em responds

#deku speaks!!#em steps in #izuku midoriya #midoriya izuku #izuku #mha roleplay #mha #bnha #bnha deku #boku no hero academia #my hero academia

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transandgaybutworse · 8 months

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Welcome to the Circus!

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Hello! I'm your locally hated circus act, You can call me Alastor or Al the Clown, whichever you prefer!

I use He/they pronouns mostly, but if you wanna have some fun, here are my neopronouns!

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I don't have a super unique DNI list but I thought it might be useful to state it anyways!

Do Not Interact:

☆ Homophobic, transphobic, ect.

★ Racists, White supremacists ect.

☆ Pedo, MAP, MAP supporter ect.

★ Lesbian separationists, transmeds, exclusionists, anti-neopronouns ect.

☆ Against gender nonconforming people, especially GNC trans people.

★ Misogynists, man-haters, people who say “kill all men”, radfems, TERFs, ect.

☆ Proshippers, discourse blogs, ect.

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Fandom's I'm currently in! I rotate between these ones the most often and if you wanna talk about them through asks I'd love it!

☆ Fnaf

★ The World of Mr. Plant

☆ Sanders Sides

★ Helluva Boss

☆ Hazbin Hotel

★ Shadow & Sonic the hedgehog (the characters specifically)

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I'm not sure if anyone is interested but here are my Side blogs!

★ Incorrect sanders sides quotes - @randomtssincorrectquotes

☆ Lovecore blog - @lovecore-loverboy

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Fun facts about me because why not!

★ I make object heads out of cardboard as a hobby! That's actually how I found out about TWOMP!

☆ I own 2 purses that go with a pair of earrings! 1 is a red spotted mushroom and the other is a jack-o-lantern!

★ My favorite flower is tulips, especially lilac tulips!

☆ I'll dress up as a clown on occasion with a little party hat!

★ I write poems about all kinds of things, but usually about love or how I'm feeling!

☆ I've made a bunch of kandi and have made a few of my own earrings including some out of mini uno cards!

★ I absolutely love deer, they're my favorite animal!

Thank you to anyone who read this full thing, Have a fun filled day! Also feel free to send asks anytime, I love answering those!

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#intro post #blog intro #introduction #pinned intro #introductory post #dni #dni list #intro #do not interact #do not interact list #pinned post #blog info #long post

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osmanthusoolong · 11 months

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I’m not linking directly to the article about how “Puritanism took over online fandom — and then came for the rest of the internet”, because it’s very very stupid, though it’s easy to find, but my goodness, does it repeatedly touch on some genuine problems while getting the causes absolutely backassward and not realizing that the world in fact exists outside of fandom.

“Though this may sound like a niche fandom issue, this modern puritanism has spread far into the wider culture, intersecting with both a broader media illiteracy and a moral panic that crosses the political spectrum.”

Yeah, it’s almost like we’re living in a period of fascist backlash that’s been building for decades and is more or less mainstream in the overwhelmingly US-dominated spaces being discussed. Glad you noticed once it soaked into the Voltron shipping world.

“The Tumblr culture of the early 2010s rapidly shifted an entire generation of social media users toward the left. That shift started not on Tumblr, but on LiveJournal, thanks to a widespread, year-long conversation about racism in geek culture in 2009 that became known as RaceFail.”

Huh, yeah, I’m sure these cultural shifts came entirely from LJ and early tumblr, I really remember that well. I think there might have been some other stuff with like the stock market around then, maybe a couple of people got really mad about an election, something about wars and some financial street being occupied, but really, that was all LJ.

There’s an absolutely constant incredulity at the idea of fandom ship wars being a thing that people get worked up about, which like. That phenomenon is old enough to have grandkids, Lmao. (I am not a fandom person, but I am a person with a long interest in fandom and culture.) There’s a constant claim that people using leftist language as a means of attacking, bad-jacketing and kicking others out for personal reasons is a zoomer invention, which at least proves that the author hasn’t much knowledge of leftist history.

“It’s not a coincidence that anti-fandom discourse, which has single-handedly reframed decades of sex positivity in fandom, has also coincided with a broader crackdown on sex positivity across the internet.”

I don’t know how to tell you that fandom is actually not that important, and horrid infighting on a dying social media site that has never been profitable, is not actually shaping the world’s sexual politics. It is influenced by them. It’s not “coinciding”, it’s a “direct result of”.

“FOSTA seems to have weakened the natural resistance of fandom and internet culture at large to the US’s broader puritanical, anti-sex culture. The purity movement formally began in the ’90s within evangelical culture as a way of normalizing an abstinence-only approach to sex, especially among teens. In the modern era, the language of this movement has converged with that of trans-exclusionary radical feminists (TERFs), who enact a regressive approach to sex and gender expression.”

You are literally acknowledging that this is a larger cultural thing and not a group of socially reactionary teenagers on tumblr dot com. There is also something about the use of a term referring to religious abuse that starts in early childhood being applied to even very terrible fandom politics? And yes, the terves have been the architects of the sex-negative movement since the 80s, of course their fingerprints are all over it, especially since they’ve been working openly with the Christian Right.

“One positive development is that Tumblr recently brought back, in a limited capacity, the ability to create NSFW content on the site. While this won’t restore the zany porn-for-all days of yesteryear, it might encourage the return of sex-positive communities to drown out the noisy, harassing fringe of haters.”

Yeah, that’s very optimistic of you.

“Then again, if anyone can creatively respond to a culture of increasingly absurd attacks on ingenuity and imagination, it’s an army of passionate deviants who’ve historically been vanguards of the weird, the queer, and the subversive. They’re sexual rebels and literary freedom fighters”

I thought they were silenced by accusations of Homestuck fandom, or have become sinister zoomers single-handedly shaping the culture war for the right?

There’s some good observations about the panopticon of social media, and ways that deeply unserious people weaponize political aesthetics, but it’s absolutely reversing cause and symptoms. Fandom is getting reactionary because everywhere is, if you think fandom is the source of all culture, grass-touching should be considered.

#long post #I have a migraine and am feeling uncharitable #but come on now

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neurodivenport · 1 year

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hiiii, i’m max! here’s my pinned <3

they/him, genderfluid, autistic. this blog mostly focuses on lab rats, but i also post some other disney/nick content from time to time.

chase davenport stan, marcus defender, donald davenport hater, skylar storm loverboy and autistic chase truther.

byf: terfs/transmeds dni, proship/davencest shippers dni. blank blogs (no bio, pfp or posts) will most likely be blocked.

sometimes i post nsfw content and headcanons. i always tag it as either #nsfw or #ns/fw, so it's easier to filter out.

gifs / pinterest / fake tweets / text posts / icons

top 30 lab rats characters series!!

unfortunately, this blog is pretty inactive because my hyperfixation died out. i’m really sad to go, but i will still occasionally reblog posts, and i’m still interacting with every friend i’ve made here! hopefully one day i’ll find love for lr again, but right now i’m in greener pastures. this means requests for anything are closed </3

if you want me to answer your ask privately, end it with 📨

i follow/interact from @lightningcrashes

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political-confetti · 8 months

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obligatory warning that terfs/”gender critical” folks and other transphobes are not allowed to debate me on this post. go watch fox news or something.

hi i’m going to be loudly and annoyingly transgender for a second about the whole “alternate treatments for gender dysphoria” thing.*

*a quick note: although this post describes gender dysphoria in relation to transness, i am not a transmedicalist and do not think that gender dysphoria is required to be trans. i support people’s right to self-identify how they see fit as long as it’s in good faith.

i’m a trans guy, pre-t and pre-op. i’ve identified as trans for about 3-4 years now and, although i still have questions about my identity, i’m very sure that being a guy is right for me, and makes me overwhelmingly happy.

a little while ago, a consistent and scary experience with some transphobes caused me to wonder whether being trans was right for me - not because i didn’t like being trans, but that these bad experiences couldn’t possibly be worth it, even to garner small joy from positive trans experiences.

so i started looking into TERF and “gender critical” stuff.

now, i won’t get into all of it, but those short experiences made me feel intense anxiety about my identity as a trans guy. i thought, for a bit, that i was “betraying womanhood,” or that i was just a “confused girl being tricked by the patriarchy,” or the rest of all those bullshit arguments. i tried detransition for a bit, personal and online detransition.

it made me fucking miserable.

every day was plagued by constant anxiety, fear, anger, depression, and overall mental anguish. every single time i looked in the mirror, i was wracked with dysphoria. i tried being a butch woman, because masculine clothes made me feel better, but being a butch woman didn’t feel right to me either. i was confused, scared, depressed, and anxious. even after a while, when i started becoming numb to the dysphoria - i was miserable. i stayed in bed for hours at a time. i wouldn’t shower for days because the stress and intense wrongness of seeing my body and calling it a woman’s body hurt so badly.

TERF and gender critical circles told me all women and girls felt this way. i talked to one of my friends about it. she’s a cis girl, a devout feminist and a loud and proud hater of the patriarchy, one of my coolest friends. she’s experienced misogyny in her life, as almost every woman and afab person has. i asked her whether she hated being a girl and if so, why. her response?

“i don’t hate being a girl - i like it, i like what it means for me. gender’s different for everyone and random for everyone, and what being a girl means to me is comfortable. i hate the way some people demean, infantilize, dislike or are just violent against me for being a girl, but i don’t hate being a girl. if we eradicated the patriarchy - which will take a long fucking time, but if i was alive when we did - i’d choose to be a girl over and over and over again.”

i understood, and i didn’t understand. i understood because that’s how i felt being a boy, being a man, and i didn’t understand because how could one love being a girl? i hated it, for reasons i couldn’t discern.

i thought about it again. i thought - i don’t think women feel like this. i looked at all my friends and family who are women, and i watched and experienced their ease with their gender, and i thought…why am i forcing myself into this? when i know, over and over and over again, that it doesn’t work for me? that i get angry and stressed and numb and depressed and feel so so bad?

the thing about gender dysphoria is that we don’t really have a concrete idea for why it happens. there’s theories, some more solid than others. it’s likely a mixture of a bunch of factors, from genetics to socialization to environment to a shit ton of other things. and the “gender critical”/TERF groups i looked at would cite that as a reason why we shouldn’t treat it or alleviate it.

as you can tell, from countless fucking studies and anecdotal evidence and experiences and medical professionals and the trans community advocating for it over and over and over again, it’s bullshit. it’s fucking bullshit. not knowing the concrete reason for why something happens is not a reason to ignore it, dismiss it, or make it worse.

there are plenty of complicated or difficult-to-explain things in the world. gender dysphoria is one of them. that doesn’t mean that it shouldn’t be alleviated. i fully support people with gender dysphoria who identify as cisgender and/or want to treat their own dysphoria with ways other than medical transition, provided they’re not being pressured into it. but forcing detransition and “alternate treatments” onto other people does not work. insisting that it’s something everyone needs to try or do does not work. discrediting the many studies that have been done and the medical professionals vouching for it as well as the experiences of people who have gone through it does not work.

but, obviously, these people don’t actually care about making people’s lives better, or healthier, or happier, or more comfortable. they just don’t like trans people and what we do with our bodies, no matter how small. from a 7 year old trans girl growing out her hair to a 35 year old trans man getting phalloplasty and testosterone, all of it is scary and predatory and strange and destructive and disgusting and wrong.

in my opinion? there is nothing more wrong than denying yourself comfort because other people find it bad.

and yes, being trans still hurts me sometimes. it hurts a lot for some people and doesn’t for others, but for me it can. i still get insecure and dysphoric about my voice, or my height, or my face shape. i still get emotionally drained and exhausted from meeting transphobic relatives. i still feel uncomfortable and frustrated when i get gendered incorrectly by strangers. i feel sad and numb when i see another dead trans person in the news, when i see people calling me and my community disgusting.

but all of that is outweighed by the joy. the joy of having friends like me, friends who understand my identity and are there for me. the joy of going to a pride parade or a queer cafe and meeting people like me. the joy of wearing clothes that i like and cutting my hair how i want and doing my makeup in a way that makes me feel good. the joy of looking in the mirror and knowing that, while some things still aren’t where they’re supposed to be, i still have my short messy hair and my hairy legs and my trans-taped chest. and i can love myself, in a way that makes me feel good. the joy of thinking about my future and seeing transformation instead of torture.

it still hurts sometimes, but it hurt so much more when i was trying to force myself to live in a body that wasn’t right for me, and doing nothing to alleviate it.

so i hope this post reaches someone out there, someone who’s going through the same thing i went through back then. you do not have to deny yourself comfort and happiness for other people. there is nothing wrong with who you are or how you’re living. you are allowed to exist in a way that makes you comfortable in your identity. and you are not responsible for molding yourself to fit other people’s expectations. you aren’t hurting anyone - you’re just trying to exist. trying to live.

and there is nothing wrong with that.

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