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frick-it-all-to-hecc · a year ago
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This is??? So sweet??? Fuck that family tho tbh
Reddit AITA post by user CrackSnapYo. Title reads: "AITA For Not Baking Much For My Family". The post reads: "I [16M] started dating my girlfriend 2 years ago. I also got super super into baking around that time. I bake a lot. My girlfriend loves desserts. So I've given her a ton of stuff I bake, all kinds of different stuff. I often try to bake something new and then she gets to try something new. I honestly love baking way more than eating it. My girlfriend is the opposite.
Well recently she gave me a scrapbook she made. She had counted every thing I baked her apparently, and she gave me this scrapbook after I baked her, her 100th dessert. It was filled with a picture of every dessert I've baked and pictures of me baking and her eating. She wrote a paragraph about each item I baked. Each item was dated too. She had been working on this for 2 years. She also wrote a long letter on how proud she is of my baking hobby, thanking me for the sweets, and telling me how much she loves me. It was the sweetest gift I've ever gotten and I honestly cried.
I showed my mom and sister expecting them to think its cute but they were pissed. They were angry I've spent so much time baking for my girlfriend and not them. I just got into this habit and I loved making my girlfriend happy as well since she loves desserts."
The ruling is Not the A-hole.
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the-illuminated-witch · 14 days ago
I attempted to condense my YouTube video about how “queer is a slur” is TERF rhetoric into a two-minute version for those who don’t have the patience to watch a 20-minute video or read a pages-long article. Obviously, this is a HUGE oversimplification, but hopefully this breaks down the issue for those who aren’t familiar with the history. 
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spookygayferret · 10 days ago
There's this idea that only skinny white guys with fem features are allowed to be GNC. This just isn't true. Tall black men with beards can paint their nails and wear sundresses. Fat guys can wear eyeliner and lipstick and skirts. Literally anyone can be GNC. Wear whatever the fuck you want, kings.
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itsanotherloveblog · 7 months ago
femmes of color, youre so lovely and ethereal. you deserve love and protection. youre the definition of beauty and femininity, everyone else needs to start taking notes
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queerism1969 · a month ago
What stereotypes should I avoid when writing a trans woman? What should I take into account when writing them?
Obviously, don't make her entire existence or personality based around her gender, but be sure to actually represent it instead of pulling a J K Rowling and claiming she's trans without ever actually representing it.
Most trans people won't talk about being trans unless it's to discuss issues we face or if the subject is brought up. It's no different from writing a cisgender woman 😊
AVOID DEADNAMING HER. I see authors doing this quite a lot. Unless it's relevant to the plot in some way or the character was closeted/hadn't transitioned yet. TBH, the readers don't need to know that Kylie used to be a Kyle.
Avoid harmful tropes and stereotypes. There are SO many stories where the only queer characters end up dead or some other form of suffering. We rarely see queer and trans characters getting happy endings, so it would be really nice to see.
Research and understand methods of transitioning
Trans women are often stereotyped as predators, so try to avoid villainizing trans characters while also making sure you're not writing unrealistic characters with only positive traits as well.
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Another thing —— I'd really recommend is actually talking to trans women! Hearing trans people and listening to their stories is one of the most informational things you can do in this kind of situation. You could also look at how other people have written trans women in books and television, etc. but be sure to check that the characters are accurately written like POSE, EUPHORIA.
Terms to Know:
Trans: an inclusive term that includes all who are transgender, non-binary, or otherwise gender-nonconforming
Cis/Cisgender: someone who is not trans
AMAB: Assigned male at birth — someone who was marked as male on their original birth certificate
AFAB: Assigned female at birth — someone who was marked as female on their original birth certificate
Gender Binary: the one-or-the-other way that most societies view gender; one is either a girl, or a boy
Non-Binary: Someone who doesn’t identify as either male or female. They can identify as both, neither, fluctuating, or somewhere in between.
To Pass/Passing: Appearing outwardly as the gender one identifies with. This can include clothing, voice, and mannerisms, and it implies that any stranger who comes across them will see them as the gender they identify with without question.
Misgendering: Calling someone by the pronouns (he/she/they/etc) of the gender that they do not identify with. Most often, this is calling them by the pronouns generally used to refer to people of the gender they were assumed to be at birth — AFAB people called “she” and AMAB people called “he”.
Dead Name: Also known as birth name, this is the name one was assigned at birth. Offensive/incorrect terms for it include real name or legal name.
T-Slur: Tr*nny is an extremely offensive term that refers to AMAB trans people. It should not be used, ever, even to make a point, unless it is handled very carefully.
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Sorry for the rambling! Hope this helps. Most trans people are very open to questions like these, so if you have any questions, I'm sure someone will be willing to answer them. 😊❤️
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lunar-femme · 11 months ago
Lesbians who still sleep with plushies are the backbone of society
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candyflosskid · 18 days ago
please don't date anyone on a different maturity plane than you I beg of you stay safe please
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matchawithsoy · 23 days ago
I believe that trans women are women and trans men are men. And I believe in fighting for the rights of trans women (who are women. not crossdressers or men trying to invade our spaces) and for the rights of trans men (who are men. not confused women or class traitors.) And I believe that the transphobia in your “feminist” beliefs does absolutely nothing for us as a group of people working towards a better society. Transphobia as a pillar of feminism is not a pillar of feminism at all. It is one pillar of the many that support the patriarchy that we are all subjected to as marginalized people-- why are you working so hard to uphold it?
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lovewounds · a month ago
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Happy international lesbian day 💝 here’s a redraw of a picture I drew last year
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what-we-fight-for · a month ago
Taking a stand against TERFs and radfem/separatist/exclusionist ideology MUST include taking a stand against misandry. Both as it affects trans people, AND cis men. If your stance amounts to "only trans people/trans women are *valid* enough to be considered victimized in radfem and exclusionist spaces," you are not a good ally and/or you are failing hard at intersectionality.
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proshipjunko · 3 months ago
Not so friendly reminder to not fucking follow or interact with me if you follow or reblog from TERFs
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thetinyraccoon · a month ago
well, it would appear that Margaret Atwood has outed herself as a transphobe.
Earlier today, she shared on twitter a column from the Toronto Star called “Why can’t we say ‘woman’ anymore?”. The article is however behind a paywall, and since I refuse to pay for that shit, I found it on the Wayback Machine. 
Here’s the link, and under the cut will be the article copy-pasted in case the link doesnt work.
I have to say, I am both disappointed and confused, especially considering how adamant Atwood has been about respecting trans and nb people’s identities in the past.
“You Make Me Feel Like a Natural Person with a Vagina.”
“Man! I Feel Like a Person who Menstruates”
“Oh, Pretty Person with a Cervix”
Apologies to Aretha Franklin, Shania Twain and Roy Orbison, but this appears to be where we’re heading if language radicals get their way.
And they’re getting it, tying everybody up in linguistic knots so as not to offend or get clobbered by the social media mob.
The inclusive objective is worthy.
The erasure of women is not.
“Woman” is in danger of becoming a dirty word … struck from the lexicon of officialdom, eradicated from medical vocabulary and expunged from conversation.
Which is a bitchy thing to do to half the world’s population.
It shouldn’t leave well-meaning people tongue-tied, lest they be attacked as transphobic or otherwise insensitive to the increasingly complex constructs of gender.
“The Lancet,” the prestigious and highly influential British medical journal, put “Bodies with Vaginas” on the cover of its latest issue, referring to an article inside, entitled “Periods on Display,” a review of an exhibit about the history of menstruation at the Vagina Museum in London.
Maybe the editors, who tweeted the piece, were just looking for clickbait, with a pullquote on the cover teasing that “Historically, the anatomy and physiology of such bodies have been neglected” — this although the author had used the phrase “bodies with vaginas,” only once and “women” four times.
A hell-storm broke out, quite rightly, with readers indignant over the wording. As one, an author of books on childbirth and women’s bodies, wrote: “You’re telling us that you’ve noticed that, for hundreds of years, you’ve neglected and overlooked women, and, then, in the same breath, you are unable to name those people you’ve been ignoring.”
The magazine’s editor-in-chief apologized hastily.
This isn’t an argument against gender self-identification. Surely we’re well past that. It’s more about an infelicitous evolution of language, which is fundamentally about communicating clearly. Even if making the argument ends up aligning uncomfortably with reactionaries and regressives with whom I have no truck.
In one fell swoop, “The Lancet” — remember, this is a medical publication! — reduced womanhood, biological or metaphysical, to purely anatomical parts, a gross reversal of the century-long campaign to, not only achieve equal rights, but for women to be seen as more than their biological and rampantly objectified, sexualized packaging. This is fundamental to feminism and humanism. Further, we are seeing, in, for example, legislation passed or coming down the pike in U.S. to severely restrict abortions, basically undoing Roe vs. Wade, how fragile these gains can be.
“That Lancet” episode was not an over-woke outlier.
The American Civil Liberties Union took detestable liberties by deliberately mauling the words of beloved and brilliant Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg in marking the one-year anniversary of her death. Reaching back to comments Ginsburg made during her confirmation hearings in 1980, wherein she spoke about the right of women to obtain an abortion, the ACLU unilaterally removed “woman,” replacing it with “person.”
It came out thusly: “The decision whether or not to bear a child is central to a (person’s) life, to (their) wellbeing and dignity …. When the government controls that decision for (people), (they are) being treated as less than a fully adult human and responsible for (their) own choices.”
Anthony Romero, executive director of the ACLU, also subsequently issued a grovelling mea culpa, promising he’d never again drastically alter quotes in the future.
But is that really a lesson that needed to be pounded into his head?
And still Romero tried to justify his interference by claiming that Ginsburg would have supported more inclusive language.
Maybe so. I would really like to know what she might have thought. But we don’t and can’t and it’s outrageous for anyone to mishmash the justice’s voice.
Women have abortions. Or, I suppose, in the tiniest of numbers, people born with female genitals who identify as male or fluid can terminate a pregnancy.
Women have babies. Or, in the tiniest of numbers, people born with female genitals who identify as male or fluid, can get pregnant.
Yet in 2016, the British Medical Association recommended staff use “pregnant people,” instead of pregnant women. A British hospital now instructs staff on its maternity ward to use “birthing people,” instead of pregnant women. The Biden administration’s proposed 2022 budget substituted “birth people” for mothers. Rep. Cori Bush has used that term, while her Congressional Squad teammate Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez has talked of “menstruating people.”
These are women I admire but they’ve jumped the shark.
All of this recalls the point bestselling author J.K. Rowling was trying to make, wryly, in a tweet that got her bludgeoned by the mob: “People who menstruate. I’m sure there used to be a word for those people. Wumben? Wimpund? Woomud?”
Rowling was branded a TERF — activists do like their neologisms — meaning trans exclusionary radical feminist. As if she was hostile to the trans movement, which she assuredly is not. Some bookstores removed her work from their shelves. Were she not a gazillion-selling author, Rowling could have lost her publisher.
In Britain, where roughly 680,000 people do not identify with the gender they were assigned at birth, according to government figures, midwives at Brighton and Sussex University Hospitals were told to start using terms such as “chest milk,” instead of breast milk. This, apparently, because some transgender men who give birth and nurse their babies were distressed at being reminded of what they were doing with those lactating female appendages. Although surely “breast” is a gender-neutral term, as both sexes have them and both can develop breast cancer.
This is all directly a phenomenon resulting from trans activism run amok.
I get the passion for recasting language, to improve gender and LGBT equity, to minimize the “cognitive mental salience” of males.
The movement has been spectacularly successful in the progressive West, although English isn’t as heavily gendered as, say, Italian or French. Truly, props for an undertaking that has given voice and power to a demographic historically oppressed, horribly shaped and disproportionately subjected to violence!
Merriam-Webster was the first dictionary to add gender-neutral pronouns “they” and “themself” to refer to a person whose “gender identity is non-binary.”
But these examples go far beyond insistence on neutral pronouns, into an outer orbit of linguistics where both women, as a gender, and “woman” as a noun are being blotted out.
There’s more than a whiff of misogyny to it. Why “woman” the no-speak word and not “man?” Why not “persons who urinate standing up” or “people who eject semen?”
Certainly there are words — they are slurs mostly — that are no longer acceptable. “Woman” shouldn’t be one of them.
The battleground of language has turned into a baffleground of agendas.
I am woman and I am roaring.
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irregularjohnnywiggins · 4 months ago
Here's two things that I can guaran-damn-tee are going to happen now that TERFdom's attempts at co-opting Terry Pratchett have failed:
Like Margaret Atwood before him, TERFs who previously claimed to love Pterry's work are now going to claim he's a bad writer, or his works are inherently scummy, and then go back to their second favourite past time, harassing people who take a second look at Harry Potter in light of Rowling's bufoonery for '#cancelling people for having different opinions'
Some enterprising shitheel is going to run a '#cancelTerryPratchett' thing, jumping on admittedly valid criticisms of Pratchett (a few bits of casual racism, a few moments of poorly-worded speech, if they're feeling really hypocritical a few instances of casual transphobia) and trying to use those to claim Pratchett is bad, actually, to get people to attack each other and distract from the TERFs making fools of themselves.
On the second point, it's important not to fall for it. Look, Pterry wasn't some perfect writer, he had his flaws, and if you don't like his work that's fine, but using genuine sentiment as a smokescreen for bigotry is what TERFs and those like them do, they're really good at it. Make this the time they fail.
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