#that's their whole life

[disc80s]

#is being predisposed to having depression/general feeling of sadness through your whole life an actual thing? #or do I just have undiagnosed high functioning depression #txt

[blazeball]

i just rediscovered the pelican spider. give me 1-2 business days to stop laughing at how they're shaped and ill be normal again

#i have a skewed perspective on what makes a creature weird looking on account of being a bug fan #but this thing is so funny to look at its just so ridiculous #and it lives its whole life like this. that's awesome #quincy.txt #inverts

[fairycosmos]

love really DOES feel like an inside joke that everyone is in on but me

#thats exactly how to describe it. and it's ur whole life being like this too

[greelin]

people when trauma victims act traumatized especially in a way that is unpalatable to them because it involves lashing out and unpredictable moods and having boundary issues rather than just being demure, sad, and consumable

#the surprise at unpredictability is always so fucking baffling to me. this is someone who’s been under extreme stress/duress #for ages. Do you think you can just bounce back. regulate everything immediately. when you’ve been in Survival Mode your whole #fucking life. LOL #you don’t just fucking Know how to be a human being. magically. because you’re out of the situation now. like.

[cryptixotic]

Be real with me. You're sitting in a bar and a 𝔴𝔞𝔯𝔩𝔬𝔯𝔡 𝔬𝔣 𝔱𝔥𝔢 𝔰𝔢𝔞 with a massive sword rams into the door. Do you or do you not laugh

#one piece #dracule mihawk #one piece live action #i wasn't planning on posting this but a good old shitpost is always enjoyable in a while #can you believe i've been writing with a fountain pen my whole life yet i am the most mediocre calligrapher to bless this earth ?

[notherpuppet]

How the old timey prick got his pet

#FREE HUSK #i need to see the psychopathic freak go down for trapping husk #their dynamic is soooo fascinating to me #hazbin hotel #alastor #hazbin hotel spoilers #hazbin hotel fanart #husk is singing when you’re smiling the whole world smiles with you #headcanon that his voice saved his life but locked his fate #husk #husker #husker hazbin hotel #radiohusk #hc; alastor was hunting overlords and husk was next but then alastor saw his show #my doods #alastor…when i catch you alastor 👊🏽💥

[deimosatellite]

o yea bird guy

#that made me laugh so much ty luffy #imagine ur law and ur beefing w this guy your whole life and luffy goes ''o yea bird guy" #one piece #almost to dressrosa im on the last few eps of punk hazard now #monkey d luffy #trafalgar law #donquixote doflamingo

[vettely]

as someone who is starting a new uni at 23 but is blending in perfectly with the 18-year-olds i'm curious and i need to ask

feel free to reblog and tell me in the tags what age do you get mistaken for, and do you find that to be a bad or a good thing :))

#my whole life people thought i was younger then i really am #and it's honestly been kinda frustrating #but now i find it to be a blessing ngl #polls #tumblr polls

[applestruda]

The Earth

#HE HAS SO MANY PLANTS I ASSOCIATE WITH HIM #sunflowerss and lilacs and poppies and bamboo and cactus #this guy is a whole garden 2 me #goodtimeswithscar #gtws fanart #secret life smp #secret life #traffic smp #trafficblr #my art #secret life spoilers

[catmask]

with that said there are characters that a fat maybe not canonically but they are spiritually. to me. they may not be drawn that way but i know whats true. ive seen it like a sort of prophet

#serizawa. send post #he did NOT live his life as a shut in for almost a whole decade to be drawn SKINNY! not by me at least #also like so many characters over the age of 30. no more fit moms and dads GIVE them that divorce body fat NOW! #*strikes you down with the force of god* #but honestly alternative for serizawa that ive always liked is that he gains weight when he starts working for reigen #because he can now go out and eat new foods :D he has actually gained an appetite because he's moving around more #and isnt just eating like instant ramen or whatever his mom brings him #see how easy it is you can just believe it with your heart. you just have to find the ways to make true waht u know #scratchpost #txt

[wearenotjustnumbers2]

This was shot last year. It explains what life is like under the occupation in Palestine, especially the west bank. It's very important and informing about everyday life, please watch it and share it as much as possible.

An interview by Dena Takuri.

"700 children are arrested by Israel in the West Bank every year."

#please watch this from someone who's whole life has been under occupation #this is the reality for all of us #palestine #gaza #israel #important #current events #free palestine #ethnic cleansing #free gaza #gaza strip #gaza under attack #israel apartheid #israel is an apartheid state #israel is a terrorist state #the west bank #west bank #free palestine 🇵🇸

[anna-scribbles]

last one i promise(<—lie)

#let’s as a society think more about why adrien wanted to go to school #and what. perhaps. he thought school was #i think the way chloe describes it she really is just a beautiful rich girl with too much time on her hands #and no one at school is treating her accordingly. #abby got so mad at me today because she thinks it’s too cringe that i keep taking about adrien liking ohshc #which is like. how are you gonna know me my whole life and then be disappointed when i’m cringe. #i’ve never hidden who i am. it’s cringe all the way down #anyway #ml #my art #miraculous ladybug #adrien agreste #chloe bourgeois #ohshc #wait i am gonna tag this thirteen actually. just go with me #thirteen

[cosmosnout]

And in the end, Rouge was like, “You know what? Sure.”

#kinda makes me sad to think Roger might have been with rouge just so he could have a son #but hey if it was mutual then that’s so funny #(please have my baby) *rouge looks Roger over* (sure) #also roger literally spent his whole life surrounded by dudes. bro does not know how to talk to women #art #digital art #my art #fanart #drawing #one piece #portgas d rouge #gol d roger #sketchhh

[chloesimaginationthings]

Vanny has a FNAF game question for Michael..

#myart #chloesimagination #comic #michael afton #fnaf vanessa #fnaf vanny #fnaf #sister location #security breach #fnaf help wanted #fnaf fanart #five nights at freddy's #a very unserious comic idea that appeared in my head #Michael is just proving he’s THE GUY #must be weird for Vanny to learn about the whole Afton thing thru game development etc #and then meeting the guy it’s based off of #The pixel art was spot on to Michael carries his energy #idk how Michael feels about all the games about his life #he’s probably just past it like nothing he can do now 💀 #why not embrace his status BAHA

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[briviting]

womp womp

#looney tunes #bugs bunny #marvin the martian #art attag #comics #listen cartoon hares and rabbits can breed dw about it #I can't resist the chuck jones eyelashes <3 #can you tell I've only drawn bugs like Twice in my whole life his face is soo hard to get right #one of those deceptively simple cartoon character designs