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hobidreams · 3 years
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A Story with Uncertain Results via /r/ADHD
A Story with Uncertain Results
Hey everybody, I’m new to this subreddit for a similar reason most new people around here are, which is that I was recently diagnosed with ADHD (age 18……. Better late than never I guess). I noticed a distinct lack of full stories on this subreddit, and I thought it would be interesting to talk about mine to compare.
I consider myself pretty smart. At least, that’s what I’ve always been told. I suppose I could be placed in that class of student who frustrates the “good students” by doing as well as them without studying or even paying attention. I never needed to. Elementary school is strange in that it is exceptionally boring from a schoolwork perspective for those even slightly above average in intelligence. I was the “smart kid” in elementary school, and American school systems do a pretty shitty job of identifying problems in students who aren’t failing. For you see, sustained attention problems do not present themselves when assignments take less than 10 minutes. Task switching is not a problem when you finish tasks so early you get a full 30 minutes between them. Emotional regulation problems aren’t considered when you are a boy (boys will be boys… ok boomer). Now, something that’s actually kind of funny about this is that I absolutely should have gotten lower grades than I did. There was a test I took in 3rd grade where I answered the correct letter for the previous question for the middle half of the test and skipped a question, and my teachers only counted the one I skipped incorrectly. According to them, I just went too fast and that was the only problem.
Fast forward to middle school, which I think is the point that a lot of undiagnosed kids crash for the first time. I bombed the second quarter of middle school with possibly more unsubmitted assignments than submitted ones. It took a ton of work to get back on track, but this wasn’t much of an issue either because, even though I had 30 assignments I needed to complete, none of them took more than 10 minutes and I had 3 weeks to do it. Now, had I been unassisted, they simply wouldn’t have happened, but my history teacher used her own class time to force me to complete my missing assignments for other classes and told my parents that it was just a “boy in middle school” thing. Apparently nobody bothered to note that this was not something that happened for literally any other middle school boy. I did fairly well in the rest of middle school, and now we reach the point in my life where all those emotional skills ADHD doesn’t come with kick in. I never had good friends. I’m sure you could’ve picked this up by now, but as a younger child I was extremely arrogant. In 8th grade though, I actually met some people with whom I spoke. Often. The most important person in this group to include in my story is my future girlfriend, and future future ex-girlfriend.
I was vaguely aware of her crush on me for a long time in 8th grade, but I am not a naturally emotionally available individual, and expressing feelings and physical touch made me extremely uncomfortable for a number of ADHD and non-ADHD related reasons. However, this girl was attached to me, and my lack of emotional tact steadily wore down on her emotional state. When I finally decided that I would actually date her in 9th grade, she had depression for reason both under and not under my control (her relationship with her parents was…. strange to say the least). Over time, it became difficult to talk to her and we both decided it would be better if we parted ways, but that started the long chain of persisting mental health problems that I struggle with today.
Low self esteem was a new experience for me, and anxiety wasn’t something I was used to either. They both hit pretty hard. Hard enough that I quickly also became depressed. My grades suffered, and so my mental state suffered, and so my grades suffered further. At the time, I attributed the grades dropping exclusively to my mental state. I barely ended that year without a C, ending with an A and 6 Bs. One B was a for a class in which I had 11 zero quiz grades throughout the year and a 44 test grade. In this class, we were expected to make 30-70 detailed notecards each unit for the subject we were on. Each one could take 5-10 minutes. And they were incredibly boring to write. Sounds like a great assignment for someone with ADHD. Ironically, I remember trying to force myself to write the notecard about ADHD (it was a psychology class, actually).
I struggled with depression off and on over the next two years and anxiety was a problem that just kept getting worse. Junior year went pretty well, and then Covid hit. I lost the ability to do anything. My anxiety prevented me from asking my teachers for help with anything, and I absolutely needed the help. The primary contributor to my anxiety was an inferiority complex developed through my math classes. I just could not do as well as my peers. I would carry our table through problems during units, but when we got to the test, I would do a good 10 points worse than anyone I thought I should be equal to or better than. I also worked to the time limit on every last one, frequently not finishing them.
My grades were shaky at best for every year of high school other than the first, and this wasn’t something anyone, including my parents had seen from me before. I was constantly bombarded by my parents’ assumption that I had just ceased to care and just didn’t want to do any work. It was destroying me. At one point near the end of sophomore year, I genuinely considered offing myself for about 5 minutes at midnight sitting on the couch of my pitch black living room. I didn’t, but it was closer than I’d like to admit.
Back to senior year, and my depression had mostly subsided. I’m dating again, a rather tomboyish girl who I love dearly (she’d cringe at that sentence). My anxiety ever worsened. I procrastinated asking for college recommendation letters long enough that I had to wait to apply regular decision because my teachers would only write recs if given that extra time, and I don’t even know why I couldn’t get myself to ask. Logically it would be a fear of rejection, but I have no idea why that would be as I’ve never really been rejected in a meaningful situation.
My grades have been ok in online school, but the more important part of this final year of the story is finally talking to my pediatrician about my anxiety…. at 18 years old. Some of the problems I mentioned were apparently inconsistent with anxiety, so I was also referred for a psych eval for neurodevelopmental disorders, but I immediately started therapy for anxiety and depression, which had been alright.
I was evaluated in mid-December, and on the 17th of January I had my telehealth appointment for the evaluation. Fuck. When asked by my therapist what I thought might be wrong with me, I responded “social anxiety and mild ADHD.” Boy was I understating. Apparently feeling as though you are far behind your true potential for several years and being constantly bombarded with others telling you you aren’t good enough does a thing to a person. About that off and on depression I mentioned earlier? BAM cyclothymia. Generalized anxiety disorder wasn’t a surprised, but what did surprised me was my diagnosis of not mild, not even just moderate, but moderate to severe predominantly inattentive ADHD. I’ve actually got the scores from the WAIS-IV I took to compare sections that are heavily impacted by ADHD and those that are not. The section least impacted by ADHD is Verbal Comprehension, on which I scored a 127. My other scores are the real kickers though (I sound old here don’t I…. fuck…. I blame having old parents): Perceptual reasoning: 96, Processing Speed: 89, Working Memory: 80.
Anyways, that was something of a shock. Today was my second day on the minimum dose size for Concerta, and….. I feel exactly the same. I might be a little more awake than usual? I’m also noticeably more tired around 6 pm, but that might just be that I have to wake up earlier now.
So anyways, that’s where I am right now. I’m sure this is difficult to read and I apologize for dumping my life onto this post, but I thought it would be interesting to hear some other peoples’ more detailed experiences, thanks for reading if you got this far.
TL;DR Honestly I don’t think I can really TL;DR this but basically, slightly worse version of stereotypical 18 y/o diagnosis of inattentive type
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Club Med Les Arcs Panorama France is hidden away from the other settlements in the buzzing ski area. Photo: Supplied
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Perched by its lonesome, flanked by snow-drenched slopes and giant Christmassy-looking trees, Club Med's newest resort appears, from an eagle's-eye perspective, a bit like a James Bond villain's lair masquerading as a top-secret science lab or medical facility. It's nothing of the sort, of course, but for snow bunnies and alpine enthusiasts, Les Arcs Panorama has a real licence to thrill.
More than three years in the making, this is a cool, cutting-edge, all-inclusive alternative to the traditional chalet-like resorts that sprinkle the French Alps. With 433 stylish rooms and suites, a clutch of bars, restaurants, pools, a spa and gym, it's also a beacon of 21st-century architecture, sporting a harmonious stone, timber and glass frontage, sleek curves and sloping roofs, and an interior full of nature-inspired sculptures and furnishings, high-tech features and lots of natural light. The resort is hidden away from the other settlements in the buzzing Les Arcs ski area, but still boasts direct ski-in, ski-out access to one of the world's finest winter playgrounds.
On top of boundless tasty food and drink and quirky apres-ski entertainment, a stay at Les Arcs Panorama includes a ski pass for the entire Paradiski region, which snakes across the stunningly photogenic Tarentaise Valley in France's Savoy department and comprises Les Arcs and neighbouring resorts Peisey-Vallandry and La Plagne. Linked by chair lifts, cable cars and funiculars are a staggering 425 kilometres of pistes (ski runs), 70 per cent of which are above 2000 metres in altitude. Generous amounts of white powder are common from December onwards and many pistes have inspiring vistas of Mont Blanc, Europe's loftiest peak.
A six-day Paradiski pass would normally cost €305 ($484) per adult, and €244 ($387) per child – something to bear in mind when weighing up accommodation options. Club Med does charge extra for equipment hire – skis, boards, boots and helmets – but guests are offered complementary skiing and snowboarding lessons for all levels, led by the charismatic English-speaking instructors of the ESF (French Ski School). Children as young as four can have free ski classes – one of the myriad kid-friendly features in a resort that strives to attract multi-generational families as well as active couples and solo travellers. I'm more of a "40 Year Old (Ski) Virgin" than 007, so the grade-A beginner lessons – which see me waddling like a duck and learning the essential "snow plough" braking manoeuvre – are a godsend.
It feels like a mini-triumph when I ascend the resort's "magic carpet" travelator and glide down its adjacent nursery slope without tumbling over. I gain confidence with every lesson, although, in fairness, there are more suitable places in the French Alps for complete beginners due to the lack of green (easy) pistes nearby. There are heaps of blue (average) slopes, however, some of which are green-ish in standard, plus red (difficult) and black (very difficult) runs for daredevils. In the resort's Arolla bar, where each night there are live bands, DJs, theatre shows and cocktail-sipping and partying, you'll hear guests chatting about Aiguille Rouge, a mountain run that drops 2000 metres over seven kilometres to the village of Villaroger.
My other half, Celine, who grew up skiing in the French Alps, refreshes her skills in the intermediate classes, before whooshing down some of the steeper pistes. At the end of every session, she returns with rosy red cheeks and a beaming smile. Boosting the resort's bonhomie are the apres-ski drinks, including genepi – a popular local herbal liqueur – and the GOs (Gentils Organisateurs), the multilingual staff who help fuel Club Med's famously fun, warm-spirited atmosphere.You might not want to ski – or snowboard – all day, and sometimes the weather will make that decision for you.
Conditions can be temperamental and fast-changing at these altitudes, with snow, sleet and mist quickly replacing sunny blue skies. Thankfully, there's plenty to savour inside the resort, which was unveiled in mid-December and typifies the upscale direction in which Club Med is heading. Founded in France in 1950, the company was bought by a Chinese consortium in 2015, with ambitious plans to add premium new resorts to the near-80 seaside and mountain "holiday villages" dotted across 26 countries.
There's an increased focus on five-star spaces – or, in Club Med parlance, 5-Trident (the company's logo is a trident). While Les Arcs Panorama is a 4T resort, it has a fancier 5T section, with 24 suites – each 70-74 square metres in size and handy for four people – and La Belvedere, an exclusive lounge for suite guests. Its main draw is the "free" champagne and the 400-square-metre terrace, which has a Jacuzzi, and a wonderful 180-degree view over the Tarentaise Valley. Suite guests also have their own private ski locker room.The resort's regular "superior" and "deluxe" rooms – and the cosy lounge-like public areas – are rather chic, too.
Accessed with digital bracelets, our "superior" room – A1754, 24 square metres – has scenic mountain vistas and a vibrant feel, with curtains, cushions and blankets shaded in pink and gold – a colourful contrast to the white walls and bedding, and the walnut wood furniture. There's a separate toilet and bathroom with branded "joy-inducing" soap, gels and shampoo. Some rooms have balconies and many are separate but can be interconnected – convenient for families who wish to holiday together yet still have some privacy.
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Adults are free to do their own thing by day as there's a range of dedicated kids' clubs, from four months to 17 years old (fees apply, though, for under-fours). Included is a special family-oriented restaurant, Bread&Co, in which children "invite" their parents to dinner, take their orders and play interactive food-themed games. For most meals, the majority of guests flock to the White Stone, the enormous main restaurant, where there's a variety of seating, from snug booths and outdoor terrace spots to huge round tables, and a buffet that is always extensive and enticing. Expect everything from healthy salads and fishy temptations to pan-Asian cuisine and authentic Savoyard produce such as cured meats and deer stew, as well as Gallic favourites such as Charolais beef and foie gras. Most dishes go down a treat with the complimentary wine, which is mostly from the Savoy, Rhone and Provence regions.
Desserts include more than a dozen flavours of ice-cream, delectable tarts and a chocolate fountain that is virtually impossible to walk past without poking in a marshmallow on a stick. For a la carte dining and table service, make a reservation at 1790 Gourmet Lounge, a refined speciality eatery where you can also enjoy late breakfasts and lunches buffet-style. In truth, it's easy to overindulge on all the wining and dining here, but unlike many all-inclusive resorts, at Club Med Les Arcs Panorama, you really feel like you've earned the right to tuck in – especially if you've been on the pistes all day.
FIVE MORE THINGS TO DO OFF-PISTE
GET FIT
From stretching and zumba to yoga and pilates, guests can enjoy instructor-led classes, and also make use of the gym's cardio and weights equipment and heated indoor and outdoor pools.
TAKE TO THE SPA
Not part of the all-inclusive deal, the resort's branch of Cinq Mondes, the prestigious Parisian spa, offers a plethora of treatments, from 20-minute massages to five-day pampering packages.
WALK AND HIKE
While snow-shoeing is an exciting winter option, Nordic walking and hiking is brilliant in summer (June-August) once the snow has mostly melted to leave the resort's surrounding landscapes lush and green.
VISIT BOURG-SAINT-MAURICE
Take the funicular down to this charming historic town, which has aromatic fresh produce markets and typically quaint Savoy architecture. See savoie-mont-blanc.com/en
TASTE CHEESE
Nestled on Bourg-Saint-Maurice's outskirts, Cooperative Laitiere de Haute Tarentaise is a pungent factory offering educational tours plus tastings of Beaufort, a delicious alpine cheese made with cow's milk. See fromagebeaufort.fr
TRIP NOTES
Steve McKenna was a guest of Club Med
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Air France flies to Paris from Sydney and Melbourne, code-share with Qantas or Etihad. See qantas.com and etihad.com Trains from Paris to Bourg-Saint-Maurice take about five hours. See en.oui.sncf
STAY
A seven-night all-inclusive winter stay (December-April) at Les Arcs Panorama is priced from $2365 per person. A summer stay is priced from $1700. At Club Med, all children under four stay free. Weekly hire of skis and boots are priced from €179 ($287) for adults, and €110 for children. For snowboards it's €189 and €124. Book the Easy Arrival package (no extra charge) and your equipment will be waiting for you in your locker. The nearest airports to the resort are Lyon and Geneva – both about a two-and-a-half hour transfer by road. See clubmed.com
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