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Enneagram Types (Part 1)

The Enneagram system consists of nine core types, and each type can have a dominant wing, which is one of the adjacent types on the Enneagram diagram. The wing adds additional nuances and characteristics to the core type.

Here's a description of each Enneagram type, including their core motivations, fears, desires, and typical behaviors, along with information about their wings:

Type 1 - The Reformer: Core Motivation: Ones strive to be good, moral, and virtuous. They have a strong sense of right and wrong and seek to improve themselves and the world around them.

Core Fear: Ones fear being corrupt, immoral, or flawed. They strive for perfection and can be highly critical of themselves and others.

Core Desire: Ones desire to have integrity and to be right. They long for a sense of balance and order.

Typical Behaviors: Ones are responsible, principled, and have a strong work ethic. They tend to be self-disciplined, organized, and strive for excellence.

Wing 9 (1w9): The Idealist

Nines tend to soften the rigidity of Ones and bring a more peaceful and easygoing approach to their perfectionistic tendencies. They may be more patient, accepting, and able to see multiple perspectives.

Wing 2 (1w2): The Advocate

Twos add a caring and nurturing element to Ones. They may be more focused on helping others and may strive for perfection in service to others. They may also struggle with boundaries and a need for external validation.

Type 2 - The Helper: Core Motivation: Twos seek to be loved, wanted, and needed. They strive to be helpful and to win the affection and approval of others.

Core Fear: Twos fear being unwanted, unloved, or rejected. They may worry about being seen as selfish or needy.

Core Desire: Twos desire to be appreciated, valued, and loved. They long for connection and meaningful relationships.

Typical Behaviors: Twos are caring, generous, and empathetic. They often put others' needs before their own and seek to be supportive and helpful.

Wing 1 (2w1): The Servant

Ones bring a sense of responsibility and a focus on ethics and doing what is right to Twos. They may have higher standards and may feel a sense of duty in their helpfulness.

Wing 3 (2w3): The Host/Hostess

Threes add an achievement-oriented and goal-focused aspect to Twos. They may strive to be the best at helping and seek recognition and validation for their efforts.

Type 3 - The Achiever: Core Motivation: Threes seek to be successful, admired, and accomplished. They strive for excellence and are highly driven to achieve their goals.

Core Fear: Threes fear failure, being seen as incompetent, or worthless. They may worry about not measuring up to others' expectations.

Core Desire: Threes desire recognition, approval, and validation for their achievements. They long to be seen as successful and competent.

Typical Behaviors: Threes are ambitious, hardworking, and image-conscious. They often excel in their chosen fields and are focused on presenting a positive image to others.

Wing 2 (3w2): The Charmer

Twos bring a nurturing and helpful dimension to Threes. They may be more focused on building relationships and connecting with others in their pursuit of success.

Wing 4 (3w4): The Professional

Fours add a unique and individualistic flair to Threes. They may strive to stand out and be recognized for their uniqueness, bringing creativity and depth to their achievements.

Type 4 - The Individualist: Core Motivation: Fours seek to be authentic, special, and unique. They desire to express their individuality and connect with their innermost emotions.

Core Fear: Fours fear being ordinary, mundane, or without significance. They may feel a deep sense of longing and struggle with feelings of emptiness.

Core Desire: Fours desire to be seen and understood for their authentic selves. They long for deep, meaningful connections and to express their innermost emotions.

Typical Behaviors: Fours are creative, introspective, and often express themselves through art, music, or personal styles. They value authenticity and tend to have a rich emotional inner world.

Wing 3 (4w3): The Aristocrat

Threes add a focus on success and achievement to Fours. They may strive to stand out in their unique way and desire recognition for their individuality.

Wing 5 (4w5): The Bohemian

Fives bring an intellectual and introspective element to Fours. They may be more withdrawn and focused on gaining knowledge and understanding their complex emotions.

Type 5 - The Investigator: Core Motivation: Fives seek knowledge, understanding, and independence. They strive to conserve their energy and protect their inner resources.

Core Fear: Fives fear being overwhelmed, invaded, or inadequate. They may worry about not having enough resources or knowledge to cope with the demands of the world.

Core Desire: Fives desire to be competent, self-sufficient, and capable. They long for space and privacy to explore their interests and pursue intellectual pursuits.

Typical Behaviors: Fives are observant, analytical, and tend to withdraw into their inner worlds. They often have a thirst for knowledge and may have a few close, trusted relationships.

Wing 4 (5w4): The Iconoclast

Fours add an emotional depth and a unique perspective to Fives. They may have a more artistic or expressive approach to their intellectual pursuits.

Wing 6 (5w6): The Problem Solver

Sixes bring a practical and skeptical dimension to Fives. They may seek security and may be more cautious and attentive to potential risks.

Remember that individuals may vary within each type, and the wings offer additional dimensions to their core motivations. The Enneagram system is a tool for self-awareness and personal growth, helping individuals understand their patterns of thinking, feeling, and behaving.

Stay tune for Enneagram Types (Part 2)

xoxo J.

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Taylor Swift Songs as Enneagram Personality Types

The Enneagram is a personality test that classifies your personality in one of nine categories, each with different traits. Most of Taylor Swift's songs fall into two of the personality types: type 4 (the individualist) and type 9 (the peacemaker). The songs on these lists are mostly in album order - however, there are a few added onto the ends of a few of the lists that took me a little longer to place that come out of order.

TYPE 1: THE REFORMER

The reformer tends to be rational. This person is idealistic and principled - they live by their values. They are purposeful and self-controlled, and tend to be perfectionists. The songs I classified as Type 1's are songs that focus on the ideals in relationships and life. They're songs where Taylor has a purpose, and some of them tend to have more rational thoughts behind them.

Tim McGraw

Mary's Song (Oh My My My)

Fifteen

Untouchable

We Were Happy

Don't You

Last Kiss

I Almost Do

The Last Time

I Wish You Would

How You Get The Girl

Clean

End Game

The Archer

The 1

This Is Me Trying

Epiphany

The Lakes

Happiness

It's Time To Go

Mastermind

Dear Reader

TYPE 2: THE HELPER

The helper is a caring person who genuinely cares about other people. They tend to be interpersonal and generous. These people are people-pleasing, and can be possessive. The songs I classified as Type 2's are ones where she clearly shows caring for other people, sometimes to the extent of people-pleasing. She tends to be possessive in some of these songs, too.

Teardrops On My Guitar

Tied Together with a Smile

Stay Beautiful

Hey Stephen

Jump Then Fall

That's When

Sparks Fly

Enchanted

Stay Stay Stay

Begin Again

Run

Welcome to New York

Wildest Dreams

Delicate

Lover

Afterglow

It's Nice to Have a Friend

Seven

Marjorie

You're On Your Own, Kid

Glitch

Sweeter Than Fiction

Sad Beautiful Tragic

Ronan

Soon You'll Get Better

Safe & Sound

TYPE 3: THE ACHIEVER

The achiever is a success-oriented, pragmatic, and hard working person. This person is very driven and adaptive, and is very image-conscious. The songs classified under this category show how conscious Taylor is of her own image. They're the songs where she's trying to show herself in a positive light. These are the songs where she shows herself as a hard worker and just how successful she is, without caring about those who try to bring her down.

A Place in This World

Change

Superstar

The Other Side of the Door

Speak Now

Mean

Long Live

I Bet You Think About Me

Style

Shake It Off

Call It What You Want

I Think He Knows

ME!

Mirrorball

Gold Rush

Midnight Rain

Karma

Today Was a Fairytale

I Heart ?

You All Over Me

TYPE 4: THE INDIVIDUALIST

The individualist tends to be withdrawn and sensitive. This person is self-absorbed and dramatic, and tends to be temperamental. This person is very expressive. These songs are dramatic and temperamental, the ones where Taylor is bolder about herself - she is in the right in all of these songs, even when she isn't.

Picture to Burn

A Perfectly Good Heart

You Belong With Me

The Way I Loved You

Forever & Always (Piano Version)

Come In With The Rain

Mr. Perfectly Fine

Better Than Revenge

Holy Ground

Girl At Home

Blank Space

I Did Something Bad

Look What You Made Me Do

The Man

Death by a Thousand Cuts

The Last Great American Dynasty

Illicit Affairs

No Body, No Crime

Cowboy Like Me

Anti-Hero

Vigilante Shit

High Infidelity

Carolina

Invisible

Breathe

All Too Well

All Too Well (10 Minute Version)

My Tears Ricochet

TYPE 5: THE INVESTIGATOR

The investigator is intense and cerebral - they tend to think more with their brains than with their hearts. They are perceptive and innovative, but tend to be secretive and isolated. The songs classified as Type 5's are the ones where Taylor finds herself isolated and alone. A lot of these songs tend to be very intelligently written.

The Outside

White Horse

The Story of Us

Innocent

Treacherous

Starlight

Nothing New

I Know Places

Getaway Car

I Forgot That You Existed

Exile

Peace

'Tis the Damn Season

Tolerate It

Coney Island

Ivy

Labyrinth

Would've, Could've, Should've

Beautiful Ghosts

Eyes Open

Evermore

TYPE 6: THE LOYALIST

The loyalist is committed and security-oriented. They tend to be anxious and suspicious of those around them. They are responsible and engaging. Taylor tends to be anxious and suspicious in a lot of the songs I classified as Type 6's. They're the songs where she's seeking security and comfort, but may not always be receiving it. Things are going wrong in many of these songs.

Cold As You

Tell Me Why

Bye Bye Baby

If This Was a Movie

I Knew You Were Trouble

The Lucky One

The Moment I Knew

Forever Winter

New Romantics

Don't Blame Me

This Is Why We Can't Have Nice Things

False God

August

Hoax

Question...?

I Don't Wanna Live Forever

The Very First Night

TYPE 7: THE ENTHUSIAST

The enthusiast is spontaneous and fun-loving. They are busy and versatile, but they tend to be a bit distractible and scattered. These songs have a lot of energy and are fun. These are the dance songs, the ones that make you want to move. This is the smallest list of the nine personality types. While a lot of Taylor Swift songs could fall under this personality type, most of them tend to fall under another type better, hence why this list is so small.

I'm Only Me When I'm With You

Forever & Always

Ours

We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together

Message in a Bottle

All You Had to Do Was Stay

Wonderland

Gorgeous

Paper Rings

London Boy

Lavender Haze

Bejeweled

Paris

TYPE 8: THE CHALLENGER

The challenger is a powerful and self-confident person. This person tends to be dominating - you're always aware of their presence when they walk in the room. They are decisive and willful, and oftentimes tend to be confrontational. The songs under this category tend to be confrontational and angry. Many are songs where she is feeling confident in herself. These songs tend to have a lot of energy, but aren't as happy and energetic as Type 7 songs.

Should've Said No

Fearless

You're Not Sorry

Mine

Dear John

Haunted

Superman

State of Grace

Red

Better Man

Out of the Woods

Bad Blood

...Ready For It?

Dancing with Our Hands Tied

Dress

Cruel Summer

Miss Americana & the Heartbreak Prince

You Need to Calm Down

Mad Woman

Betty

Champagne Problems

Dorothea

Long Story Short

Closure

Babe

TYPE 9: THE PEACEMAKER

The peacemaker is easygoing and self-effacing. They are receptive and really good listeners. They are agreeable and complacent, and they tend to avoid conflict as much as possible. The songs in this category are ones where Taylor is easygoing, calm, and agreeable. She tends to be open to listening to the other person's point of view in these songs, as well.

Our Song

Love Story

The Best Day

Today Was a Fairytale

Back to December

Never Grow Up

Everything Has Changed

Come Back... Be Here

This Love

You Are In Love

So It Goes...

King of My Heart

New Year's Day

Cornelia Street

Daylight

Cardigan

Invisible String

Willow

Right Where You Left Me

Maroon

Snow on the Beach

Sweet Nothing

The Great War

Bigger Than The Whole Sky

Hits Different

Crazier

Christmas Tree Farm

Beautiful Eyes

Curious what your Enneagram personality type is? Take the quiz here. Afterwards, see if you agree about the songs I picked matching your personality!

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The Helper

Hypatia brushed her dark hair from her eyes. The warm wind blew as if it would never end. She was tired, thirsty and bored. She should not have come to the market with her father, not today. Hypatia was missing revising the maps of Ptolemy's geography. At last her father had brought them from the Library.

The old slave Metellus was sick, but he had managed to bring her the scrolls. When Hypatia saw him coming in the morning she felt ashamed. As now when she saw him. Theon climbed the steep stairs. He walked almost as slowly as the old man next to him. Metelus was coming with him again.

What were the slaves really? Was it fair to give them that deal?" -Hypatia was uncomfortable. The slave was too much old. Hypatia watched the blue, weary eyes of old Metellus.

-Metellus -Yes, Lady. -Take a little of my water, please. The slave dennied. -Please, Metellus

The old man finally did it. He took a little of her water, brought for herself of the great fountain of the same market in her personal canteen.

-Father! Hypatia yelled, approaching him slowly. Metellus took his place after his masters, lowering his head.

-Why did you bring him, father? He´s enough old-whispered Hypatia in his father´s ears.

Theon smiled.

-Are you contemplating the significance of slaves? Hypatia shook her head, taking his father for impossible.

But Theon stopped in silence. -Yes, you're doing it -his smile grew more and more- you feel sorry for Metellus. -So it is-she said -It is good to know that there is some subject on which you reflect besides Ptolemy, my daughter. - You have not taught me to look like that?

-That's right, I did, so I beg you to take a slave for you. That's why we're here, Hypatia.

-But...-Hypatia looked around. She saw the merchants lower the dresses to the slaves to show the buyers their breasts, and to these as if they were statues without feeling anything. Hypatia also saw the men, exposed as if they were horses, with their mouths open, and their backs gleaming.

The slaves were treated like animals.

-I couldn´t -she concluded denning with her head, shaking it like if she would be horrified.

-This is not a map, Hypatia. I understand that disrespectful must seem to you. But you're already old enough to know that there's also stargazing, daughter.

-I know, father, but it's ... inhuman.

-It is what is expected of us, what we need, Hypatia. Tell me how old are you?

She fixed her eyes on him, asking the same question. -I'm old -Not philosophized now, Hypatia -I'm seventeen, father. -And what is expected of you?

-To buy an assistant.

-Then do it. That´s all.

Theon shook her daughter's shoulders under her red dress, and her headdress fell apart.

-Excuse me, daughter- said his father, giving her the bag with the coins. Then he saw the fatigue of Metellus. Even he had a heart.

-I will wait for you at the fountain -All right, father

Hypatia went to the slave station.

A woman was screaming disconsolately. She was a woman from Syria or some nearby province because of her olive skin and her accent. She was overweight and was holding on to a little boy who, without moving except for the pulls of the woman and the foreman, drowned silently under great tears.

- Leave him , witch! You have already been sold-the merchant ordered the foreman to be removed from there.

-No Please! Do not turn me away from my son! Davus, Davus!

The little Davus was silent, crying.

Hypatia watched the scene as if she wanted to dispel the moment in one of her rolls. As if she wanted to write everything she had seen, felt, heard. And then she would read it and reflect on it. Surely it was written in heaven.

Hypatia watched the boy turn around, and cling helplessly to the bars of his wooden cage.

As if it were a dream, she passed by slowly, determined to put an end to the spell that that dramatic scene had hypnotized her.

He felt the boy's big eyes climb up the bars.

-No, gods. Do not look at me, do not look at me- thought Hypatia with terror. She was afraid that if he did it would be too late.

Her heart broke as her coins fell to the floor of her bag when the child looked at her.

Hypatia felt all the pain retained by the boy in his face, in the tremor of his little arms, his small legs.

Hypatia bent down to pick up her coins awkwardly. She felt the interested look of the child on her. It was obvious that her brief clumsiness had distracted him from his pain.

Hypatia went to the cage. -What is your name? -Davus-said the boy looking at the woman with a sweet look. He cleaned his tears slowly. All was so sad, intriguing and disturbing at same time. He seemed an old guy, broken and defeated for live.

He felt how she was scrutinizing him, looking for something he did not recognize. But he knew that she was a good woman. Her long, loose, disheveled black hair was so different from her mother's ... Davus tried to find in her that momentary replacement that every child would have sought, slave or not. Hypatia knew it. But it was late for that.

In addition Davus watched her expression fascinated, lost in the own admiration that the young woman seemed to feel for him.

Davus was silent, crying. Hypatia watched the scene as if she wanted to dispel the moment in one of her rolls. As if he wanted to write everything he had seen, felt, heard. And then I would read it and reflect on it. Surely it was written in heaven.

-How old are you, Davus? -Five- he said-but I'll serve six ..

-He has seven, ma'am- said the merchant-the perfect age to mold him for what your house needs.

-I want an assistant. The person must be obedient, neat and clean -she said- I do not have time to teach anyone, I need someone to obey so alone.

The merchant was an ungainly and unfriendly man. He spat rudely and pushed Davo towards her, until his small face plunged against the bars.

-It's fine, I'll take him! Hypatia said. She paid the merchant, and he let the boy go with the woman.

-Are you ok, boy? -Hypatia touched the boy's shoulder -Davus?

But Davus looked back one last time. Hypatia observed the love of a child for its mother, and its heart to bend. But for some reason Davo was stoic. She bore with only six years what she herself could not bear.

Hypatia would remember that moment every day of her life.

When she got home, she assigned the child a small bed next to her own bed that she improvised on the floor next to Metellus with straw, quilts and a pillow from the slaves.

- Why do you want him to sleep here? Theon looked at the boy, stupefied.

-Because he has lost his mother, father. And he is only six years old.

-I see. He will be your work, Hypatia.

Hypatia then understood the great responsibility. The child's safety would be yours.

-Davus- she said-tell me about your previous owner.

Davus then looked at her, then started talking.

- My mother worked in Sicily for the wife of a Roman legacy, he was my father - said the boy.

- Do you know how to read and write Greek?

-Yes, Lady-said the boy

-Good. Tomorrow we´ll start with my papers about Ptolomy-she said making a gesture to Davus that he knew very well. He helped her take off her sandals.

-You are a talented boy, i can see it-she said, opening the courtains, and going to have her usual meeting with the moon and the stars.

Davus followed her, barefoot like her on the cold marble floor. He look around. Her entire room was reduced to a large bed, the curtains and numerous round and geometric figures. Meters, rules.

The new mistress was a scholar. But also. Why was she so strange?

Davus followed her, not knowing what to do and that was when he saw her. Rolled on the floor, with arms and legs open.

-Come on, Davus-she said The boy approached slowly, looking up.

-You see? Those points that are next to the moon, those of light? -Yes, mistress-said Davus next to her

And then, a question turned on his kid´s mind.

-Is my mother there? -Oh yes, she´s -said Hypatia-and she will be always. All how happens to her, to me, to you is already written in the stars, in the universe.

Davus saw her obsession, the true object of desire that would live inside that young woman all her life. Besides, Hypatia had the sweetest, most kind face Davus had ever seen.

The first thing he remembered about her years later was the kindness with which he treated him that first night in Alexandria.

Davus sat next to the philosopher.

- Your name is Hypatia? -Yes, but you should not pronounce it, boy. You're not here for that-she said-remember your place, Davus. -Yes, mistress.

Hypatia´s voice was the most feminine and beautiful voice that Davus had heard. Hypatia made something as unpleasant as what she had just said to be complacent.

Davus smiled. So slightly that Hypatia did not recognize him.

From then on, the boy's life was easier.

Each day he accompanied his mistress to the great library and held her material in class.

Even when she had to go to class at the house of an unpleasant and lazy child named Orestes, a few years older than Davus, he felt uncomfortable.

He observed the straight and perfect nose of Hypatia lying on the map, showing the places where Aristotle had pointed out the stars, and the other child, Orestes, absorbed in her presence.

As much as Davus. This was terrible for him. With each attention of Hypatia to another kid, deeply inside Davus started to feel a twinge of jealousy She had been like a mother the day she met him, how could she comfort so many if she did not have children? What if the Hypatia would get married and giving birth to more children, would forget him? Would she want more to a spooky husband than to his faithful slave?

Years passed, and Davus began to sleep in the slaves' room. The domus was not his place, but he was next to Hypatia as if he were his shadow. With the confidence that the years gave it was Davus who dried her naked after her bath, who ordered her papers while she slept, who bought her material when she became a teacher, and who went with her to her classes.

The presence of Davus along with Hypatia was known as a kind of shadow in Alexandria. The scholar did nothing without her faithful lapdog according to Orestes. But she felt the devotion of Davus, blindly.

Hypatia did not feel what this devotion had become. In the fire within the heart of the quiet young man, who listened to each of her theories in the classes as if he were deaf to any other sound, and watched her for hours and hours without stopping while she wrote and he pretended to sleep.

Inside Davus the girl had disappeared, to be only the mistress Hypatia.

Outside, the Christians in the parables were the only ones who stole his attention from their mistress. They talked about a good man, who dressed like Hypatia and who taught all kinds of men without discriminating against anyone because of their position. Was Jesus like Hypatia?

For Davus, yes, that's why he saw in her that blinding divinity that gave her beauty, the figure of her body that now that he was sixteen years old seemed like the work of an artist. Something to touch, something to be desired.

Hypatia was his teacher, his mentor, his guide. Without her there was nothing for Davus. For that he would hate Orestes or any man who could have her, take her pretty far, letting Davus without a work, a company, a relative. His friendship with the other slaves, with Master Theon did not matter. Only her.

But there was no place in her except for her objects, her theories that even slept repeated, when Davus escaped to touch it as if it were a relic during the night. For Ptolomy´s ideas.

-Hypatia ...

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