A strong woman is a woman who is straining.
A strong woman is a woman standing on tiptoe and lifting a barbell while trying to sing Boris Godunov.
A strong woman is a woman at work cleaning out the cesspool of the ages,
and while she shovels, she talks about how she doesn't mind crying, it opens the ducts of the eyes, and throwing up develops the stomach muscles, and she goes on shoveling with tears in her nose.
A strong woman is a woman in whose head a voice is repeating, I told you so, ugly, bad girl, bitch, nag, shrill, witch, ballbuster, nobody will ever love you back,
why aren't you feminine, why aren't you soft, why aren't you quiet, why aren't you dead?
A strong woman is a woman determined to do something other are determined not be done. She is pushing up on the bottom of a lead coffin lid. She is trying to raise a manhole cover with her head, she is trying to butt her way through a steel wall.
Her head hurts. People waiting for the hold to be made say, hurry, you're so strong.
A strong woman is a woman bleeding inside. A strong woman is a woman making herself strong every morning while her teeth loosen and her back throbs. Every baby, a tooth, midwives used to say, and now every battle a scar. A strong woman is a mass of scar tissue that aches when it rains and wounds that bleed when you bump them and memories that get up in the night and pace in boots to and fro.
A strong woman is a woman who craves love like oxygen or she turns blue choking. A strong woman is a woman who loves strongly and weeps strongly and is strongly terrified and has strong needs. A strong woman is strong in words, in action, in connection, in feeling;
she is not strong as a stone but as a wolf suckling her young. Strength is not in her, but she enacts it as the wind fills a sail.
What comforts her is others loving her equally for the strength and for the weakness from which is issues, lightning from a cloud.
Lightning stuns. In rain, the clouds disperse.
Only water of connection remains,
flowing through us. Strong is what we make each other. Until we are strong together, a strong woman is a woman strongly afraid.
Marge Piercy, The Moon is Always Female: For Strong Women
all the hate towards soo hyun is unwarranted. and i'm not saying you're supposed to like her or anything, you can choose to like/dislike any character you want. i'm saying all the hate is being projected to the wrong place. based on all the reasoning for the hate i've seen so far (boring, underdeveloped character, arc revolves around ga on etc.) the hatred should be directed towards the writer.
the writer has done an excellent job with the gender role-reversals i have to admit, with ga on playing the role that’s usually written about women, thawing down the ice in yo han’s heart by acknowledging his anger and pain, teaching him to love, cooking for him etc., and sun ah being practically the female version of yo han, same intellect same ideals same charm; they’re two sides of the same coin. but when you really think about it, sun ah’s character essentially revolves around yo han too, just like soo hyun’s around ga on. soo hyun’s the female version of ga on, law-abiding, morally upright and all. she’s also stubborn with her beliefs. both women are in love with their counterparts. just like sun ah mirrors yo han’s complexity, soo hyun mirrors ga on’s simplicity.
but it’s not just them, chief justice’s character is also pretty flat, he has pretty much no other role except for being a parental figure for ga on. he’s only relevant when ga on’s in trouble. k’s character does nothing but tag along yo han, he becomes irrelevant as soon as cha kyung hee’s plot ends, in fact he says it himself that he feels futile and the writer makes sure that’s true by disposing of him right after (at least that’s what we know of so far). but there’s so much love for k on here? why is that exactly? we love him so much that we even looked up his name even though it’s not important enough to ever be mentioned on the show?
cha kyung hee’s death probably bothered me the most. also because i think death for shock value is lazy writing in general but that discussion is for another day. i understand that her death was supposed to be poetic justice and all with her never wanting to resort to weakness and running away yet that’s exactly how she ends up but really? after all her character went through? she becomes a throwaway plot piece? yo han’s failed chess move? to break apart yo han and ga on’s rapport? (disclaimer: i’m not saying suicide makes you weak. but that's exactly how the writer played it out)
in fact all the supposedly ‘strong’ women in this drama are reduced to their stereotypes in one way or another. we have the first lady, who i really thought played a bigger role in all of this (speaking of which, i love this theory and i hope the writer delivers and i’m terribly wrong about what i’m about to say) but the ‘big plan’ heo joong se has against cha kyung hee’s threats is the fact that he knows her son does drugs. but he doesn’t reveal this himself, he specifically calls the first lady to play mother (to a son, correct me if i’m wrong, but we haven’t seen or even heard of throughout the drama so far) and patronise cha kyung hee, another mother. (disclaimer again: being a mother is a very valuable role. that doesn’t negate the fact that it’s an overplayed stereotype, reducing a woman’s value in a life if she doesn’t have children/doesn’t raise her children right)
there's is so much internal misogyny in this writing and tbh i don't entirely blame the writer because i can see he tried. he did make an effort to make most of his characters interesting. but we as an audience shouldn’t be playing into this misogyny so easily, it doesn’t matter if it’s so common that we’ve become accustomed to it. you can’t blame a fictional character for living by the rules of their unjust and unchangeable world.
all i’m saying is that if we can learn to appreciate and love and cry over characters like k, we can do the same for soo hyun.
alright, i’m going to be real for a second - even though these sorts of criticisms are valid for the post season 5 era of the show, i don’t think bloom is in any way a badly written character for the original seasons, and certainly not a mary sue overall like a lot of people have claimed her to be
(No need to answer to avoid drama, saw your post about the comparisons and the BE tag and I need to vent)
I haven't watched TDJ but it baffles me that some are saying that the TDJ creators and the BE creators are in the same wave lenght. Because I do know about that "american prison" bit and how the female characters were treated. And to put that at the same level as the care, respect and research done by Kim Soo-Jin and the rest of the crew seems a bit...
(Again, not saying by any means that TDJ is bad but that the comparison doesn't seem to hold once one starts looking closer)
As someone who has seen both shows it physically pains me seeing people compare the two and saying they are alike, like I have so much respect for Kim Sujin so I very much agree with you in not liking her being put on the same level as TDJ writer.
The shows aren't even that similar imo, the only thing they have in common are having two male leads, one younger and older where the younger one suspects the older one and having a great OST other than that they are so vastly different in terms of genre and quality. Beyond Evil is based in reality and therefore is more realistic while The Devil Judge plays in a dystopia. BE is by far better written be it in terms of plot, characters and relationships (especially the (b)romance, it's so so so much better developed). Like there is so much more I could say but I'll keep it at that.
TDJ isn't horrible, it has its good parts, like Jung Sunah my queen who hands down was the most interesting and entertaining character in this show, but killing off three major female characters, one for literally no reason (but then her whole character was so unnecessary and I say that as someone who liked her) and two by suicide alogside other things just left a really bad taste in my mouth. I just think the show could have been a lot better than what it was.
The thing about both guardian and untamed is they have a similar partner dynamic.
Cold hearted stoic person of few words partnered with the talkative animated person.
We know this dynamic. We've seen it a hundred times before. There's a reason it's such a favourite. It helps expose each others flaws, bring out each others greatness and generally form a very interesting fascinating pairing.
But what I particularly liked about each of these two pieces of media is that
Kept under read more cuz it turned out longer than I expected.
How they never actually go and say one or the other is wrong. In fact each person in the partnership often works to cover up the others shortcomings and strengthen it together. There's no lecture on how keeping quiet is better for the mind or talking is better because its better to communicate. In fact in both, their personality is shown to be the product in part because of their upbringing, environment and their nature in general.
Which I personally found something really nice to watch.
When they come to save each other from whatever trouble the other one has caused there's no judgement.
When shen wei or lan wangji has to save their significant others from trouble there's no judgement. No I told you so. Or don't do this or that.
There's acceptance and doing stuff.
Shen wei and lan wangji are. Both people who think before they act mean while Zhao yunlan wwx react and often react explosively first thing causing them to get into unwanted trouble more often than not.
And flipping this the other way. When shen wei or lan wangji are quiet or don't quite participate in extravagant displays of affection or approval it's not looked down upon. It's more of a
Come on. I know you can do better then grimace at me. I know you're secretly happy inside.
What's I'm getting at is. Acceptance of people for who they are and not placing undue expectations for them to change.
There's nothing wrong with changing because completely shutting of your emotions is definitely not good. But there's a difference in what these two men(shen wei and lan wangji do at the end. Shen wei smiling more and trusting Zhao yunlan with his emotions and problems.
Lan wangji learning to accept his feelings, talk about his problems and hold on to wwx and loosen up.) but notice neither of them become completely different people overnight.
For the uses of men we have been butchered and crippled and shut up and carved open under the moon that swells and shines and shrinks again into nothingness, pregnant and then waning toward its little monthly death. The moon is always female but the sun is female only in lands where females are let into the sun to run and climb.
A massive thanks to @zeussim for allowing me to test your beautiful new collection, Scandalace <3 Honestly these are all such gorgeous dresses, but the MINUTE that I saw this Zinnia?! On that model??! All bets were off, I NEEDED this in my life, no questions. Sashea looks phenomenal in it and I can’t wait to actually get her married to somebody so that she has an opportunity to wear this!
Honestly, it was actually so challenging to photograph this dress from far away, because the details throughout the entire design are just... *chefs kiss* Honestly. You could stare at this thing for hours and still miss details. AND YET IT STILL RINGS TRUE TO MY MAXIS MATCH AESTHETIC TO THANKS FOR THAT. (don’t even get me started on the swatches, because you canNOT BELIEVE how great they are, truly)
Thank you again so much, Zeus, I really appreciate it <3 I’ll update this with a link once it goes live!
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