#the sc energy of it all; SO true anon

[breannastewart]

did you see that tweet about how stewie seems frustrated and a bunch of seemingly liberty fans got mad about it? i don't think the person who tweeted it was wrong?

I know which one you're talking about, I liked it, but didn't bother looking at what anyone said because I rarely dive deep into what wnba twitter is doing anymore, so I went back after reading your anon and... yeah. wnba twitter is just like that. and even more so, new york sports fans are some of the most entitled and whiny sports fans on the planet, and I am signing this statement as a new yorker who lives in the city, and likes different new york sports teams. in an ironic twist the OP who said it is maybe the only person I have agreed with on multiple takes that's part of that SC groupie podcast thing. wnba twitter has taken a drastic turn when I believe one of them is in the right lol. and she was. there's nothing wrong with saying stewie's frustrated, if you have eyes and pay attention to her energy, mannerisms, etc, you'd see it. like I said the other day answering the other anon, I fully believe I don't think even she expected to have to handle so much of this on her own as she has. and they get mad like "the she should have stayed in seattle people will be loud now" and I hate to break it to these new york fans, who I can promise you are mostly bandwagons now anyway that they got a "super team" and it isn't about people being dumb and not accepting her personal reasons for moving closer to home, that I agree with, but from a strictly team and play stand point, that new york team is not special. as a stewie fan who is still a seattle fan, watching her with this group is barely different than her last two years in seattle and that is the comparison anyone with a brain is talking about. non existent bench, blown leads, new people brought in each of the last two years, sometimes relying too heavily on her. that all happened there. the difference is she didn't look nearly as irritated or frustrated because more often than not, they could figure it out and trusted one another and the atmosphere surrounding those teams just felt lighter even when things sucked. I do not see that in new york, and I do not see true accountability for it. you can't manufacture true chemistry and understanding of one another just because you want to put a bunch of stars together. there's a reason even me as a no one fan, did not pick new york as my team despite living here. they didn't pass the vibe check for me before all of the super team blow up, and they definitely don't now. but no one on wnba twitter has a brain, so. they'll just get mad and yell at you instead.

#if i said any of this on there too i'd be crucified. it's a cesspool #breanna stewart #wnba #answered #anonymous

[heloisedaphnebrightmore]

Hey,

It’s a rant - feel free to ignore. Tw: anxiety/insomnia

Still the mental exhaustion takes a toll. I haven’t exactly been diagnosed with insomnia but idk at this point. Is it the anxiety or insomnia idk.I’m just really exhausted! Like I know I wanna be in the med field so I’m prepping for my med school entrance. But then if I don’t get it - a back up plan I applied for B. Sc (in the hopes that I won’t get in coz I really don’t want to do B.Sc) but well I did and uni is starting from day after. And then there’s the exam in less than a month and abroad uni applications after that - it’s just exhausting and not only that it’s like what if I end up getting nothing - how long will I keep trying? Coz if I don’t get in med/abroad uni then it’s B.Sc and really don’t wanna do that. The worst is it’s taking away my mind from preparing for med school entrance and that’s making me anxious. It’s a vicious cycle.

Sorry this became a rant but I just kinda needed to tell someone.

- Anthony Anon

Hey lovely,

I'm sorry I took so long to reply, I was working on my formative assignment and I had to concentrate on that, but no, I won't ignore it.

I have added my reply below the keep reading option since it became quite long :)

Anxiety can be a side effect to insomnia, and insomnia can be a side effect to anxiety but they are not limited to each other. You can have both at the same time for very different or connected reasons. If you are anxious about your studies, it could very well be a part of why you are struggling to sleep though. Sometimes you exhaust all your energy with your studies and worrying over getting into your preferred uni, that it's overwhelming you. And frankly, sometimes it's a stupid thing to say that you have to be tired to sleep, because once you exhaust yourself, your brain goes into overdrive and actually makes it even more difficult for your to fall asleep which as a vicious cycle makes it hard for your to overcome your anxiety, because it simply adds one more reason to worry about.

I know exactly what you mean. I didn't get into my preferred uni and it didn't even depend on me. Because of covid, they cancelled the course which made me throw a tantrum. But love, try to focus on one thing at a time. There's no solution to this, these are trying to times and unfortunately it will make you even more anxious. If I were you, I would try to focus on prepping for the med school entrance and leave the rest for later. I know it's not that easy, you can't just push the rest of your plans in the back of your mind, but worrying over what-ifs will make you feel even worse. Try to prepare for your exams and whenever your mind wonders, push the thoughts away. I know it sounds ridiculous but it worked for me so it might just work for you. Imagine it like physically pushing your thoughts away, like a camera where the focus is off and you have to adjust it. Whenever your mind wonders, shake your head if you need to, massage your temple, drink a glass of water, distract yourself for just a moment and then focus back on what you were doing. Don't let yourself wonder.

I have to tell you though, these are only personal experiences, so I'm not sure if they will work for you, since there are so many different people, but it is worth a try. You shouldn't exhaust yourself further or you will just feel even worse and you can't let that happen.

I really hope you will feel better, love, but most of all, I believe you can make your dreams come true, just don't let your focus waver. I'm rooting for you, darling <3

#Heloise's inbox #tw anxiety #tw insomnia #Anthony Anon

[slytherinicequeen]

since you said you're fine with anonymous confessions:

i don't know that this is a confession so much as a rant, but here we go. i feel so stressed all the time, about everything. i feel like i'm going to break because everyone expects so much of me. my parents don't understand everything i'm going through and they think that it should be easy for me to excel in school, study hard, and be happy all the time. but i can't. i'm not okay, and everybody keeps making me feel like i don't have a right to feel sad. i've got too much work, and my parents make everything sound worse, and they're super invasive too. they don't even know that i have two tumblr accounts, and if they did, that would be the end of me, really. i just want to huddle up in the bathroom and cry. everybody is so shitty to me and they think that life should come easy to me, since i'm "only a student" but they just don't understand! nobody does! and they're making me feel like it's wrong of me to feel this way. they tell me i have everything and i'm just lazy and ungrateful but i really am trying, i swear! it's just too overwhelming for me. maybe i'm just too weak. i'm sorry for this long essay, i don't have anyone to talk to, and everybody i dare to talk to makes it sound worse, makes me sound worse, or is just plain mean about it. i hope you can respond to me, it would really help to hear some kind words. i love you and your blog and i hope you're staying safe. take care.

- love, anxious anon. <3

Dear anxious anon, 

Darling you are not alone, I am going through the exact same thing. Multiple times I had to stop and go “did I write this to myself drunk? wait, no of course not, I don’t drink”. My point is what you're feeling is natural. Everyone goes through it and that doesn't make the pain bigger or smaller, it just puts it into perspective. 

Excelling in school, studying hard and being happy are all linked. You just cant do the former 2 if you aren't happy and if you’re not doing well you’re not happy. Now how do you get out of the circle? Be happy? Easier said than done.

Parents try their best. They nag, scold and harass but they do so thinking they're helping. It doesn't make it any easier knowing that, but it makes it easier to ignore and slide past.

I'm 19 years old and I'm not allowed snapchat, Instagram, tiktok any of the likes. Now, I've sort of settled down but I used to rebel. I got SC without my parent's knowledge and I started snapping anyone who was online because I just wanted to use the app, I didn't care what for. I used to be online mostly at night, 1 am and the sorts.

And a 17 year old girl with no respect for boundaries just wanting to break rules. You can imagine the sort of people I attracted...

You're going to want to rebel and you're going to want to release all of the pent up tension which is why I would advise you that when you're in a safe space and a clear mind decide what it is that you want to invest your free time on. Don't do so on a rush.

Once you make these rules for yourself, stick to them. No one needs to know and you don't need anyone's validation on whether you decided right. Two tumblr accounts sounds like a good place to start but make sure you don't invest all your energy on it because you don't want to look back and point at something you enjoyed and see it in a negative light.

Now all the people telling you that "you’re just a student" and "things will get so much more worse, what will you do then" can just fuck off. You don't need that kind of energy. You don't need those people in your life. Some will be people you just cant cut off like family and that's okay. Decide to yourself that you will NEVER give them a moment of your mental space. Let them drone on and on and LISTEN but never absorb anything they say. For every jab they throw at you tell yourself one thing you like about yourself or how that's not true.

For every person in pain there is another in greater pain, that doesn't make your pain any less. This will be the greatest challenge you face for now and you will tackle it as such. You do not have the experiences of 40 year old white man nor do you have the innocence of a 4 year old child. You are you. And YOU will tackle what YOU are going through.

You're absolutely beautiful and you're strong. I know that because you're beautiful in the way you care and beautiful in your words. You're strong because you know that you'll get through this, otherwise you never would have messaged me. You’re strong because otherwise you wouldn't believe that there was still the potential for things to get better.

Take care of yourself my love 

BR

Message me any time you need, Ill send you my mail and we can talk whenever you need me

#anonymous #send asks #BR asks

[dojae-huh]

sometimes i think that if it weren't for jaedo dating, SM would likely be capitalizing on their dynamic and maybe even planning for a future duo-unit with the two (even now, with only a few "crumbs", jaedo is still a very very popular ship) and I'd think they would go for a jaedo duo over even the dotae dynamic. while dotae have an undeniable close friendship and have worked on multiple songs together, written by taeyong, there's yet to be a sole dotae song officially released. i'm curious if sm will ever create an official dotae subunit because despite their voices and roles playing well with each other, sm is one to keep the visuals into consideration. sm does have a history of playing up friendships and capitalizing on it (super junior D&E for example) but when SM forms groups/sub-units, height always seems to be considered. D&E (donghae and eunhyuk), tvxq - unintentional as it were, EXO-SC, EXO-CBX, all of similar heights to make for a visually pleasing/aligned?? stage. i believe the formation of CBX (chen, baekhyun, xiumin) was because a dance trainer commented that a stage/performance between the 3 (all of similar height) would look nice? so i guess the point of this ask is to ask what you think the odds are of an official subunit for dotae? jaedo unit seems like it would have been SM's go to, similar heights, popular duo separately and together, matching voices, and jaehyun can even rap, but alas, it would be much harder to hide any evidence of jaedo if they were actively promoting with just these two.

Another anon

So Jae is 3rd and Doie 11th... Imagine how they would be powerful together. And somehow the company still don't use it 😗 Hehe, I'm curious why xd

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Was it EXO-SC that was formed because the members came up with the proposition? Irene and Seulgi have different height, so are TaeTen, but both duos can dance well together. 

It’s true that both DoTae songs were released with inclusion of other members, but the important thing is that the tracks were released. Moreso, Yestoday had 5 versions, it was approved very early on. Normally SM artists have to submit their lyrics to compete with the professional songwriters. And our Taeyong gets to release two songs he wrote while he was still a trainee. It’s not a small thing. 

The way I see it, Taeyong just have to say he wants the duo and an EP, and his wish will be granted. Maybe without the money for promotion, but SM does sponsor projects/artists that don’t bring money for the sake of music and creativity. Taeyong has weight in the company, the time will come when he will realise it. He writes lyrics, produces, records lots of “practice” stuff that we don’t hear. His opinions and ideas for choreography, rap are taken into consideration and applied. 

Both 127 and SuperM will have to tour the moment it becomes possible. Therefore, any duets will have to wait (although Ten promised us TaeTen in R pt2). 

Remember, SM has got two new young CEOs, one used to work in A&R, he worked on Cherry Bomb and other songs for NCT. LSM has comeback with energy and new ideas. SM hires many very young musicians (as young as 15 y.o.). NCT team pays a lot of attention to the fandom and gives us what we want (Boss unit, Sun&Moon, the otter and the deer for +2, etc). The future is promising. 

[its-moopoint]

You know i think there will be a reveal not like what we expect but something quiet and slow that's just under the radar when one day all of us shippers would be 'oh wait omg they are together' like all the receipts are all true they really were just fiercely protective of their privacy. So watch the space carefully and keep on happy shipping. It's nice and light and positive in the shipper's corner and I guess you reap what you sow. All that good energy will bring out what we envision for SC

Such a wonderful lovely message anon!!! If that’s the case it will be awesome. Can’t wait for that to happen or that day to come, though shippers corner would be anything but quiet, it will be all like “OH MY FREAKINNNNNNNNNNNGGGG GODDDD!!!!” “HELLL YESSSSS FINALLY!!” “ KNEW IT! I FREAKING KNEW IT!” “DIES. AM I DEAD?!” Well you get the picture ^__^ Patience is a virtue and mine keeps playing hide and seek, but I will find her and together we’ll wait on the lido deck having a hot chocolate. Thanks for stopping by *hugs*

#SamCait #Anonymous