#then i learnt about parasocial relationships and now i really don't care

[futuregws]

No but for real fans need to take a real step back and analyze their parasocial relationships with the drivers (currently it’s seems to be especially Charles & Arthur)

Fans are not part of their relationships!

We don’t know when they broke up, we don’t know when they started dating someone new and we shouldn’t even care if cheating was involved or not because we aren’t part of these relationships. And I get majorly sight-eyeing cheating but even then we still aren’t part of this relationship.

We only know what was or wasn’t shared on social media. And the things some fans dig up that border on stalking … 🙃

And since they don’t share every minute of they day, every meal, every grocery shopping trip, every time they went to the bathroom we only know a small part of their lives. And we really shouldn’t try to pry into their private lives especially their own personal relationships. Cause People really got too comfortable snooping around other people’s private lives. I even understand gossip, a bit of mindless gossip is fun (like the Alsonso/ Taylor Swift thing at the start of the season) but so many take it way too far and actually take some gossip as fact.

Also this specific kind of fangirls need to understand that they do not matter! I’ve read so many IG gossip accounts & their anonymous submissions going all „oh no Charles changed! He only cares about money! He’s no longer who I thought he was! He’s a horrible (insert current new buzzword they learnt)! See even his driving is suffering because he’s dating Alex!“

and more bla bla & than you have fans who meet the guy, other TP‘s, presenters, journalists and other actual important people praising him, saying that he’s a great sportsman, driver & person & and genuine friendly guy. But sure him dating someone new makes him a horrible person & that’s why he’s loosing races & will apparently loose his career 🙄

Yup. I understand being upset if the celeb you like so much cheats on their partner, bc cheating is disgusting, but it's different when you don't even know if cheating happened, they think it did bc of the narrative they created in their heads but when there's nothing to back that up and it's purely fictional basically, to then go and hate on people for it is on a whole other level of weird. And I feel like one of the biggest victims of this is Charles and what they call him ever since he broke up with Charlotte and got with Alex, and now it's shifting over to Arthur, Idk what people's obsession is with trash talking the Leclercs but geez do they need to get a fucking life

#Charles leclerc #arthur leclerc #f1 gossip #Older ask

[muffinsandpages]

I'm finally reading I was born for this, and I thought I'd write down my reactions because I wish I had done that with the other Osemanverse books. So... Here's goes nothing!

P 26 "I think he's attractive. Sort of averagely spsced out features [...] Bit like he was designed in a lab. I don't know, really. He looks like the sort of person I should think is attractive" wait wait wai, big aroace mood? I literally thought this thing about boys too many times!! Is Angel aspec?? (Eta: unconfirmed but she is)

The discomfort of your bff having another "best" bff is something I relate too much to.

Parasocial relationship here we go 👀

P43 "I don't really ever get crushes on anyone" and the whole thing about why she cares about Jimmy? She is me, I am her and she is ace :)

They. Left. The. Pub. Without. Angel??? What kind of people do that? (also, sadly relatable lol)

I know it's a dramatic moment, but Angel meeting Jimmy in the bathroom is so funny because the same thing happened to me at my first ever concert! It was a small venue, and I when I went to the bathroom after the meet and greet, on my way out I met one of the singers. I later learnt that she was having a very bad day, and maybe a fangirl screaming "Oh my Gosh" at her wasn't the highlight of her evening. It's been six and a half years and I'm still very sorry @lisacim :)

Ok, these boys have so much trauma. Like, so much. Someone please get them a therapist or three asap

Poor Piero is having to deal with six heavily traumatized teens screaming at each other... Underrated hero of the story

Unrelated to the plot but I love how "Jimmy Kaga-Ricci" sounds. idk why

P343: "Posh Girl. Did you dump the fuckboy?" (Thank goodness she did)

Thaaat's it! I thught there would be more, but it's alright. I loved it, probably one of the best written Oseman books. Also, it's very different from her other school-centered book. And it is my last Alice Oseman book for now, unless (until) she writes another (I still have the novellas and the short stories tho) (and the Heartstopper series!!)

Actual review coming soon (or not, probably not soon).

September edit: hi, my review is here! ✨✨

#i was born for this #iwbft #book #bookblr #angel rahimi #osemanverse #jimmy kaga ricci #the ark #rowan omondi #lister bird #alice oseman #heartstopper #bliss lai #ace #lgbtqia book

[rebeldesthings]

i think i actually completely understand you tbf - I've felt like this too and it's really not something that's necessarily specific with the person he's with now, but considering it does seem a little more serious (idk) its always going to be a little scary on our parts hoping that connor is with someone who matches his energy and the amount of love and care he puts into the relationship. at the same time, I do think its amazing that connor feels that kind of love again you know? not in the one-sided way but rather in the way that connor is letting himself actually fall. its pretty obvious he's terrified of actually putting his feelings on the line and with growing up I think he's learnt to be very cautious with it so I think that if he's investing so much of himself it just shows that he's loving in a much freer way and making some amazing memories with this guy. its also so different because I think they're both really private about it and idek if that person has social media? its a bit hard to imagine someone doesn't in this day and age so kind of makes me wonder if he's been super cautious with it or deleted, but it does show he's aware that connor might be a public figure but he's really private about these things. as a sidenote: its kind of crazy that the way that person treated him in the past not only haunts him but lowkey us too - in a parasocial looking out for him way lol...but you're right I wasn't a fan of how he treated him during and at the end of that relationship either, but they were both young and it was clearly a lesson for con. if anything, I think him liking his grammy post shows how far he is from being in that loving mindspace, but rather just seeing it as a huge achievement from a past friend? sorry, this has been very rambly but just sharing some thoughts :)

Wow, you totally nailed it! It's like you read my mind and said exactly what I was thinking. I usually struggle with expressing myself through text, so thanks a ton for being able to put my thoughts into words!

Please don't ever apologize for sending me your rambles. I love reading them because I enjoy hearing y'alls opinions too!

#ask

[blue-shaded]

I've recently realised how... bad one of my friends are with parasocial relationships. She's obsessed with so many uh.. not great celebreties or CCs, and any times I've tried to tell her about stuff they've done she's jist blatantly ignored me or even made fun of me for caring.

For ages now she's been obsessed with specifcally Leonardo Di Caprio and getting mad at me when I just don't find him attractive. After awhile of her pestering me about him I said he was a nonce and she shouldn't be obsessed with a creep like him (he only dates REALLY young women, around 20 and then coincidentally dumps them when they get over 25 or something like that). But she completely ignored it and still gets mad at me for not liking him.

The same thing happened more recently, she's started obsessing over Jacksepticeye, boasting about buying merch and all that. I tried to ignore it because I dont exactly love telling people that their comfort creators are actually shit people but she kept going on about him all week so I tried pointing out some stuff he's done, yet again I was ignored.

She's also... weirdly brand loyal and has made some ableist comments (she apologised for them but they've really stuck with me, like she literally called me special when i was infodumping about an obscure topic). I learnt about her weird brand loyalty after I was talking about how Subway Surfers has been canonising a ton of queer characters and how that made me happy, she called me weird for it so I compared it to other companies. I mentioned how Disney is ACTIVELY homophobic and what was her response?

"Um.. I'm literally wearing a mickey mouse top under my shirt haha"

Im honestly so glad im going to college next year so wont have to deal with her, these past few weeks of study leave just made me hate her the more I hung around her.

She's also judged me before for not liking a guy in our year after he said some real shitty things and is literally friends with someone who is in the group of people who harrass me for being trans.

Fuck this person and just tell her you don't want to be friends with her anymore. Let JSE fans rot in their own echochamber. This one is no difference. If your friends steer to the path of bigotry that's fucking sayonara to them.

#jacksepticeye

[lizzardcorn]

I have just decided,,,,,I am listening to fall out boy again, thank you so for coming with my on this journey😌😌😌

#rat rambles #fall out boy #i was so spent feeling guilty if i liked them and i went so long for just not listening to them #then i learnt about parasocial relationships and now i really don't care #fuck panic at the disco though #like i thought for the longest time pete wentz was a big fat nonce #but i mean i guess he isn't? #idk i read a Reddit post (what you do when you need to know if an artist is problematic) and like meh i don't /really/ see a problem with i #idk¯\_(ツ)_/¯ #either way i do be listening to this ain't a scene it's a good damn arms race while listening to this lmao