Being ADHD isn’t just ‘i dont have a filter, hahaha’
You don’t have a filter, let me tell you about having no filter.
It is blurting outthings you NEVER wanted ANYONE to know.
My adhd mother when watching tv with me - ‘i’m glad i got an abortion when i did becuase it was NOT your father’s’. We both sat in awkward silence after that.
My adhd brain, between classes looking at some x rated manga (we liked it for the story we swear!). A sex scene is on the page and before my friend could hastily flip the page i pointed at it and said ‘my brother made me do that.’ And immediately covered my face in anger and exasperation because i fucking blerted shit out AGAIN.￼
I was 17, it wasn’t some child not knowing it was right or wrong. I had purposely kept that secret for YEARS, and it was accidentally out in the open becuase i have no filter.
The way i think of mental illness or ‘disability’ like ADHD is… what normal people have, but just magnified.
You get distracted when the TV is on? I literally can not have a conversation with someone when there is a TV in my view, or a loud person, or something on my phone. I have to chose how to sit in restaurants so i DONT face a TV, but then i’m just constantly looking over my sholder to a show i dont care about just to see what it is.
You bounce your leg? Have you ever crossed your legs, bouncing both, and have ants crawling in your arms and it physically HURTS how much energy is being stored in your body like an over charged battery and you can’t do anything because you are in class or with the boyfriends family, so you run to the bathroom and have to shake your arms so violently that the feeling stops and punch your thighs to just get them too tired to bounce and pray to god your boyfriend will understand that sometimes when he hugs you and your emotions flux this energy happens and you have to shake your whole body like a dog and rub your arms with your hands to just rub away the underskin pain that is searing under your skin.
Everything someone feels or does is over exaggerated￼ when they have a mental illness or ‘disability’ (is there another word? I hate saying adhd is a disability). And it’s NOT a pissing contest and it’s NOT to say anyone has it ‘better’, but the point is that just because ’i do that too, everyone does’ does not mean you feel it or experience it in the same WAY.
So when someone says ‘sorry, i blert things i dont mean’ and your know they have adhd or autism or anxiety or depression, that is not the time for you to try and belittle what they feel, but just listen.