#there are ways to be firm without being rude abt it. and lookin at both sides there's ways to not be either guilt trippy Or insulting abt it

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((okay. hmm. it's obvious i haven't been here a while so i may not have the whole story but i have a Few thoughts on this. wrote this right after i woke up so it Might not be coherent or explain everything the way i intended it to, so feel free to send in an ask for clarification. no promises i’ll answer it tho, because i kinda don’t want to get more involved in it than this.))

#i'll agree that shipping canon abusive relationships in a way that romanticizes it is bad #what i don't agree with is bullying and sending mean anons to each other about these things? havent seen all of them and #i haven't checked the dates but im sure this has been going on before last night. i reblogged that post for awareness; not as a signal to go #harass people over this on Both sides of the issue. which i Assume might happen simply bc i run such a big blog & more people have now seen #the post. and yeah lmao im disappointed in you if you take part that way. there are kinder ways to explain your point. #ones that don't involve hurting people's feelings about it. explaining Why something is wrong because sometimes people aren't Trying to be #bad people; they may just be misinformed and. yelling at them? isn't going to make them learn anything other than to fear backlash #rather than genuinely considering their actions and deciding on their own after gaining a more informed opinion; whether what they were #doing really is okay or not. we're in the kindergarten fandom. not an actual kindergarten; & personally i guess i'm not a fan of Anyone just #being rude to each other no matter who's in the wrong. no matter if the other person is purposely doing uncomfortable things or not; in no #situation is it necessary when you can just state your point and move on #i'm not defending the act of shipping that ship; everything there is to say about it has already been said to which i agree #just the way this information is said at some points makes me kind of. eh. :/ #i don't jump into fandom drama usually but like. no one decides whether we deserve kindness or not based on our actions #there are ways to be firm without being rude abt it. and lookin at both sides there's ways to not be either guilt trippy Or insulting abt it #if they change their mind then great!! if they're still doing the problematic thing even though they aren't ignorant block em and move on #okay that's it im done here #we all do dumb shit and make mistakes. i've made huge mistakes and hurt others when i was 14 and i've grown up since then. #give others a chance to grow up too #oh and i'm applying what i said above to this kind of stuff in general. not specifically the actual situation that happened recently #|| Some Dumb College Kid || OOC. #tw; drama #tw; discourse