#there's the unfollow button. i'd prefer you not interact with my content if that's your stance.

[rpmemes-galore]

A fellow resource blog mun has recently been chased off the platform and is in an extremely poor place mentally due to horrific harassment..  it’s a seriously screwed up situation, and I send them my best.  and if you’d like to offer them some love and support, there’s a wall of text set up to send them good vibes and kind words.  the link to it, as well as more information on the situation --- worded better and more concisely than I’m able to here --- can be found over on their blog.    @stitchrph

#also this is a perfect time to state that if you think its ever okay to #dox someone or harass them in general or even just send nasty anons to someone you don't like #there's the unfollow button. i'd prefer you not interact with my content if that's your stance. #not a meme #genuinely hoping stitch feels better soon and is hopefully able to come back in their own time #i know i really enjoyed a lot of the resources they created and their blog has been a bright spot on my dash #both here and on my own rp blogs

[linkedsoul]

No offense but that whole "tumblr sucks y do I stay here" trend of posts is so grating on me. Then I realized I was part of the problem. I found the solution, quickly unfollow, actively look for blogs that don't want to start shit. Instead of complaining repeatedly and getting more people involved and making myself frustrated, use the block button don't give them my time. People who don't want to change won't. If you wouldn't mind tagging those type of 'tumblr is awful' posts I'd appreciate it

Short answer: no, I don’t mind doing that. I’ll probably tag it as “discourse” or “tiring discourse shit”.

Long answer: 

Well, honestly, I do the same. I stay away from the blogs I don’t want to see, block people and tags that I prefer never interacting with, etc. That’s the best way to go when you want to stay clear from all the negativity you can find there. You’ll notice I don’t reblog that kind of “tumblr is awful why do I stay here” posts often, because well…. I know why I stay here. Tumblr exasperates me sometimes, but if I wanted to leave, I would have. I’m staying here for the good sides of this website. 

But sometimes, when I see those posts calling out to some trends and behavior you can find on tumblr, and especially in fandoms, I just relate. (Like the last one I reblogged, and I assume it’s because of that post that you messaged me.) Because I’ve seen this happen, I’ve had fandom experience ruined because of that, I’ve seen people ruining other people’s reputation over fictional ships or discourse, I’ve seen fanfiction writers and artists losing their passion or hating their own work because they were harassed, I’ve been afraid myself of fandoms I used to love because of a sudden arrival of antis, because I don’t only like the “pure” ships.

And just, generally, sometimes I see artists receiving anon hate and death threat without any reason. I’m even expecting myself to receive some, at some point, that is to say.

So when I saw this post, I related. It’s not the entirety of tumblr that is like that, thankfully, but harassing people and sending anon hate over fictional ships (or for no good reason) seems to be so… natural for some. In posts denouncing that kind of witch hunt, purity culture, you will always find someone answering to it as in “yes but those shippers deserve it!!!”. And amongst those people, I’m sure lots of them would reblog suicide hotlines. They would want to prevent suicide, of course…. but would wish for some people to die or commit suicide, just because they hate or disagree with those people’s fictional ship.

Staying in your lane and away from negativity is great. I’ve done that since day 1. Negativity takes huge tolls on me, so I stay away from that. But even then, I’ve still stumbled upon issues on tumblr, like that anon hate problem, and I’m sort of wondering if one day someone will decide they don’t like me because…. whatever reason, and send me death threat or false accusations. If one day someone will decide I ship the wrong ships and try to trash my life, ruin my reputation, make me commit suicide. Not because I want this to happen, but because it has happened to other people who didn’t ask anything and didn’t give any bullies the time of the day, and it’s kinda hard to block someone you don’t even know exists yet.

Following the people who don’t start shit and staying away from negativity is easy when you don’t post content, because you’re not at risk yourself. When you start posting content, however, you risk attracting people who don’t have the same views on some issues, or just attracting the wrath of people who just don’t know what to do with their life.

So yeah. I kinda rambled there, but even staying clear from negativity, I still manage to encounter that mentality of “sending death threat and harassing people over fictional stuff is okay”, while obviously, no one’s gonna go like “I’m not reblogging the suicide hotlines because I don’t want to help anyone”. 

I see what you mean, but those posts “complaining” are, when I reblog them, more about raising points on issues here, issues that I have encountered, that have affected me or people around me and that can still affect me no matter how hard I try to stay away from them. Complaining might not change a thing, but that way, people who started following me but don’t agree with the point raised in those posts can unfollow and block me as they want. It’s a win-win.

Sorry for the long rant. I’m tired tonight. Your post kind of made me feel like a lecture, as if I didn’t know better myself than to regulate my content and my dashboard, while I already do, and have done so since the very beginning, but it’s still not foolproof. Maybe it wasn’t your intention to do so, and I just misunderstood. I’ll tag those kind of posts from now on, anyway.

#linked rambling #please ignore #i'm just tired #tiring discourse shit #there i tagged it #it's not really discourse tbh #don't worry that kind of post won't happen often #linked answers