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#they just don’t care themselves
morallyambiguous · 2 years
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how lucky we are that, even crushed under the weight of sadness & grief, we are capable of giving love and joy to other people, and they are often more than happy to give some back.
#i think abt this alot but when i realised you don't have to be happy to bring other people joy‚ it made life so much more bearable.#for the longest time i thought happiness was something you could only spark in others if you experienced it‚ too.#i'd seen that phrase—you can't love anyone until you love yourself—and internalised it. not just with love‚ but with everything else.#i didn't feel much joy‚ love was rotted over with childhood anger & hopelessness‚ home was the body i couldn't escape from.#i didn't understand what it meant to be cared for until i was 16 & things finally started getting better.#but better just meant i didn't have an excuse anymore to be miserable‚ nothing distracting me from how i felt.#it's so easy to see people in groups‚ people laughing‚ people telling jokes & see that as your goal‚ your expected‚ your norm.#the trap 'happy people want to surround themselves w/ other happy people. they want radiant people. people for whom jokes come easy.#they don’t want someone who is always sad‚ who brings the mood down.' is an easy one to fall into. it is not true.#you can be sad‚ you can feel hopeless‚ you can feel unlovable‚ but it doesn't change the fact that you are necessary & wanted.#you do not have to be happy to spread happiness to others‚ you don't need to have to feel hopeful to inspire hope in others.#you can exist as you are & people will still love you because you are not your feelings or your perception of yourself.#i'm still learning not to see my sadness as something unforgivable i have to repent for.#but it's nice to know regardless of what im feeling i have the ability to make someone feel good‚ and what's a better feeling than that?#thank u world for making humanity so wonderful & giving. kisses#text.
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transmascissues · 2 months
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today, my coworkers’ refusal to see me as a man put one of our patients in a position where they felt unsafe for the third time. i’ve been at this job for less than two months total. i don’t even care about getting misgendered anymore, i just want the people we’re supposed to be taking care of to feel comfortable around me.
i work at a hospital where we have to supervise our patients in a lot of vulnerable situations. there are safeguarding rules in place for certain things that male employees aren’t allowed to be present for when it comes to female patients. and yet, the people training me and telling me what to do have repeatedly put me in situations where i’ve been forced to do things that the female patients aren’t comfortable with me doing. and because they have repeatedly failed to teach me the rules for doing my job as a man, i have no way of knowing when i’m crossing one of those lines unless one of the patients tells me.
i’ve had to watch a victim of SA stare at me in abject terror as my coworkers asked her to strip naked with me still in the room. it took several minutes for her to even be able to speak enough to ask if i could leave the room. i found out after that she broke down crying the moment i walked out. my biggest regret is that i didn’t realize what was happening fast enough to leave before she ever had to say something, because she shouldn’t have had to say it. i never should’ve been allowed in the room in the first place, because that’s not something male employees are supposed to be present for. but i didn’t know that yet, because i was training and i thought surely, they wouldn’t train me to do something that directly violated their own safeguarding rules. that moment was the first time, and it’s haunted me ever since, but it wasn’t the last time. not only did it happen for the third time today — it almost happened for the fourth, and would have if someone hadn’t spoken up to say they should pick someone else. i care for these people so deeply, it’s why i took this job, and i’m so tired of hearing the fear in their voices when they have to ask me not to do something i never should’ve been told to do.
i’m very used to the personal discomfort of being misgendered. i willingly deal with it a lot at work as well as in other situations, not because i’m in the closet (at this point in my medical transition that would be impossible), but because it’s such a frequent occurrence with my coworkers that we would never get anything done if i took the time to correct them every time. but to see it get to the point of causing such visceral discomfort in other people? people i’m supposed to be taking care of and keeping safe? that’s something else entirely, and i’m fucking exhausted.
and after all of that, some of them still look at me like i have two heads when they tell me what to do and i say “i can’t do that, only female employees can” because i’m learning now. clearly i’m already seen as a man by our patients, but my coworkers would still rather put them in an unsafe situation than just train me as a man.
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donderwolkenblog · 6 months
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lowkey v scared of the fourth wall breaking happening around here suddenly and the ease with which we’re just.... making a v deliberately underground space v easy to find/access/learn about by the people we're writing about (!!!!!!)... like we’re not all doing something kinda weird lmao
#can we not like#talk about shipping or god forbid ao3 and hockey as a funny haha combo where any old reggo can hear and see etc#this is a car crash waiting to happen#i was there when that fourth wall broke the last time and i don’t think the fandom ever recovered#so much stuff was removed deleted just gone forever#because people couldn't just keep their fandom shit where it belonged#and it rippled all the way back to people who did know where to keep it but felt uncomfortable by the openness of others#and real talk if we stray too far from keep it secret keep it safe#i will delete my shit so fucking fast you have no idea lol#maybe making hrpf jokes where the players themselves can hear/see is hilair to you but it's not to a lot of other people#and they will be the one to bear the burden when the fourth wall gets crossed for real at some point#fandom suffers when it gets too public too easily accessible too funny haha#so like#you do you for sure but it's gonna end with the wasteland hrpf fandom was when it happened the last time#just imagine barstool finding out about ao3 imagine your fave players being asked about the fan fic someone wrote about them#it's going to harm creativity it's going to harm fandom it's going to harm potentially closeted people in the nhl like i'm so serious#this isn't funny to me it's very very worrying and scary and stressful#if you even care#also sidenote i’m not just talking about unlocked hockey twitter#that’s a cesspool for sure but like#it’s just as rampant on here and in many other spaces#just like please with everything you post where players can see or everythjng you wear where players can see or write where players can see#think for 3 secs who else you’re throwing under the bus when you have to explain it to them#as in to the players#just stopppppppp blurring the fucking line!!!
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luminousstardust · 5 months
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sorry but laura and marisha acting their hearts out every week and giving us the queer performance of a lifetime…. with the love AND the drama AND angst AND occasional fluff…….. literally roleplaying themselves to TEARS because they care about these characters so much gets to me so bad. as a wlw who’s lived through every iteration of queerbait and horribly shitty representation it just feels so good getting to watch imodna get together mid-campaign and not just at the very end so we get to watch them GROW with each other and NOT BE PERFECT and have ISSUES that come with their whole end-of-the-world thing but trying their very best to work them out because they want nothing more than the other to be happy and safe…………. yeah i’m never going to be the same again.
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wintrbears · 5 months
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I don’t really know what to say. This has been my fear since Seven and now it’s actualized. Jungkook said he wants to be an artist who can switch between k-pop and pop, and so I want to support him in that if that’s his dream. But at the same time, I can’t help but be disappointed knowing we’ll be getting an all-English album in which he had no part of the writing/producing process. I was disappointed Taehyung also had no part in the writing/producing of his album, but at least it was still Korean songs and they basically scream “Taehyung” even if he didn’t work on them. I don’t care about Jungkook’s songs so far having been about sex, and I don’t care about the contents of the upcoming songs. I have no problem with that. In fact, I have even loved the songs we got so far (Seven much more than 3D, but I digress). And I will probably love his album if we’re being honest. But even if I love GOLDEN, I don’t think it will erase my disappointment regarding the situation. Because Jungkook is the same person who made Still With You, Your Eyes Tell, Film Out, My You, and worked on so many other phenomenal songs that are some of my favorites in the BTS discography. As someone who listens to a lot of other pop artists, I can’t say that someone writing and producing their own songs is a dealbreaker for me because it isn’t, but BTS and it’s members have always been praised and set-apart because they do make their own songs. And it’s something I personally have always loved about them. I don’t want to call him lazy, or say he’s had plenty of time off to work on his own songs because he’s been working non-stop since he was 13 and I love that he got to take a break and do nothing. But, it is definitely a punch to the gut to see that track list. BTS has always made music because it’s what they love to do. And even though they always top the charts, that’s never the reason they make their music. But this album, and the singles so far, were clearly made to top the charts. And if that’s Jungkook’s dream then I will always support it, but I can support him and still feel disappointed and maybe a little heartbroken, too.
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lycanthropiclykoi · 28 days
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These “systems” from TikTok trying to make a SERIOUS AND ABUSIVE situation about themselves pisses me off so much. Nobody cares about YOU and YOUR FAKE ALTERS.
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thisgingerhasnosoul · 3 months
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So I went back and forth on whether I should post this or not, but after thinking about it, I’m putting out a PSA for fellow Jewish women that there’s a tumblr user who used to go by the name of gooblegobbleblobble but now goes by ibn-alfalaheen. He claims to be a Palestinian man wanting solidarity with Jews, but he’s a Hamas-apologist (you can go to his account and look, the posts are public), who made a weird sexual comment towards me, and outright stated to a friend of mine @hlmoorewrites that he’s specifically looking for a Jewish woman to… I guess get into Israel? It wasn’t really clear.
Either way here’s proof; I have no idea what he actually wants or if he’s even actually Palestinian, but whatever he is or wants, it’s creepy and weird. So if he contacts you, do yourself a favor and block him.
The conversation with @hlmoorewrites:
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Here's the conversation with me (which took place before this—I want to say late November), and also just keep in mind that I had taken a large-dose edible and was very, very high (if you look closely at the very first screenshot, you can see the exact moment my edible took effect):
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This was when I blocked. And I have to say, seeing him admit his goals in the other conversation, then looking back on ours now that I’m sober, this is honestly extremely disturbing. I ignored the alarm bells and laughed them off or agreed at the time, even though he made me uncomfortable, because I was really high and wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt. I shouldn’t have, it was a stupid mistake. This person is not for peace or solidarity. This person is a hindrance to it. Please block him for your own safety.
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swordmaid · 4 months
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shri’iia mood board
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is-the-owl-video-cute · 4 months
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i think the most annoying part of dog food discourse is how many people will act as though proplan/hill’s/Royal canin diets aren’t extremely and prohibitively expensive and that THAT is the reason so many people look into healthy alternatives.
People complain about corn being in the first five ingredients on most of those feeds because, regardless of other factors here, that is not an expensive ingredient. But it makes up a large chunk of the dry food. So the dry food should be fairly affordable, right?
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Oh… with tax you’re spending about $100 for one 45lb bag of food where the third ingredient is wheat and the fourth and fifth ingredients are corn.
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Oh… well! It’s slightly cheaper! But the second ingredient is rice, third is wheat, fourth is corn, and then fifth is poultry byproduct. None of those are very expensive so this just must be the low end cost of dog food unfortunately. The vets recommend it so surely that means prices aren’t inflated, right?
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Oh? This one has similar ingredients with the only real difference being no corn? And it’s half the price?? Well surely that’s just a fluke.
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Oh. Oh no.
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This one even has CORN in it and it’s $20 cheaper?? Wow!
Like listen at some point I don’t care if your dog food has the ichor of the gods in it, I’m not spending $100 every five days if there are cheaper options with just as many “good” ingredients in it. If you think I’m a dog abuser because I can’t afford this overpriced garbage, that’s too bad. I don’t care. My dogs are perfectly healthy with the food I give them. Great weight and great coat. People giving dog food recommendations that aren’t those top three hyper-expensive dog foods aren’t trying to epic own those dastardly vets half the time, but I really don’t blame the ones who do lose trust in vets when the only heartworm protection they recommend lately are expensive triple-action brands like Simparica Trio that costs $120+ as opposed to the other heartworm protections that are only about $40-$60 on average, which is still cheaper even if you add on a $20-$40 flea and tick protection separately, and only recommend dog food that costs $85+ a bag even if your dog doesn’t have specialized dietary needs.
Those top three foods are GREAT at making competent prescription diets, I don’t deny that. I do still have to criticize the pricing of those prescription diets though because I have spoken to DOZENS of people who had to pull their pets off of a prescription diet and struggle to find something comparable because they couldn’t afford the food, and that’s terrible! These are not poor companies! Purina, Royal Canin, and Hill’s can ABSOLUTELY afford to lower their prices to make their food accessible to people who need it for their animals but they don’t. They probably never will. Because at the core they are run by greedy corporations. It doesn’t matter how many good nutritionists are on board if the company is run by people who put profits over customers and make the food impossible for people to afford.
#I keep seeing posts from people on both sides of this#and it is frustrating to see how many vets don’t seem to acknowledge#that a MASSIVE part of the dog food debate has and always will be#the inaccessibility of these three brands#because whether corn is good or bad or neutral for a dog#It’s a cheap ingredient#any meat byproducts are a cheap ingredient#wheat in any form is a cheap ingredient#rice is a cheap ingredient#they aren’t putting Diamond dust and gold flakes in the kibble it’s very accessible and affordable ingredients for the most part#and many comparatively smaller companies use very similar ingredients and make food people can actually afford#So yeah when people look at these factors it does make them distrust vets who will almost exclusively push expensive brands#and that’s where the distrust is coming from#it’s not primarily smug tiktok kids who think they know everything#it’s just people who have less money than you and get treated like they care less for their animals because of it lol#and people who feel scammed because anything veterinary is already expensive to the point not everyone can afford it as regularly as needed#the fact people have to give pets vaccines themselves to make ends meet because most vets charge so much just to walk in the door#is a sign of a larger problem#I criticize people who avoid taking animals with surprise sickness or injuries to the vet#but it’s not exactly hard to see why that isn’t even an option for a lot of people#people can’t even afford surgery on themselves if they’re suddenly injured out of the blue in this country#So I can’t pretend to be shocked they don’t have $10k squirreled away if something unavoidable happens to a pet#no one is entitled to an animal they can’t afford yes yes but a routine vet visit shouldn’t be $600-$1000 per animal sorry#give me a copay or something
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designernishiki · 8 months
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it’s kinda funny to me how that dumb scene in kiwami 1 of majima getting shot and left for dead in the harbor was basically just added as a half-assed way to explain majima not being around for a bit of the plot, but they accidentally(?) just made it seem like start of a chain reaction where majima ended up feeling slighted and heartbroken after being abandoned like that and then lashed out about it via smashing a big truck into the building kiryu was in. and yeah that isn’t inherently a romantic thing as-is but then they go and add the part where majima grabs a hostess and performatively hits on her as in-kiryu’s-face as possible, she says she’s already in love with someone, and majima lets her go immediately, no questions asked, making a big fucking point of it just to say see THAT kiryu? I appreciate when people are HONEST about their FEELINGS. people who won’t just BACKSTAB someone who CARES about them to save themselves. is that so crazy kiryu?? huh??? anyway make it up to me get down here and fight me right fucking now
#I think on another level he was sorta saying like ‘hey kiryu. you’re making it extremely clear that you don’t trust me and my intentions#and I’ve been trying to show you- over and over again- that I’d do just about anything for you and your safety#but I can’t just let my mask fall off in front of everyone- I need to keep up the unpredictable morally grey wildcard act for both my sake#AND yours. because disguising my helping you as crazy random violent outbursts and weird stalker behavior#is the only way I CAN help you. do you think it would go over well with shimano or literally anyone else if I was outright helping you out#of the kindness of my heart and fondness for you? stop being so fucking dense and look past the crazy wacky nonsense for a second and#maybe you’ll realize that all I do at the end of the day- really- is help you and put my own life and reputation on the line for you.#I am an honest guy when it comes to my real values and when I told you I wouldn’t let anyone kill you unelss it was myself- I meant it.#I’ve taken a knife and a bullet for you now. can you REALLY not see through the act yet? am I REALLY that unpredictable when you think about#it?’#that was a longer explanation than i intended but. it was difficult to put into words#I basically feel like it could be read as him implying kiryu shouldn’t backstab the people who put themselves on the line to help him#and/or pointing out that he’s never actually done kiryu dirty and has stuck to his word protecting him in the ways he can#trying to say yeah all this is a crazy act and all but when it comes down to it you Can trust me#it really makes sense when you think about it that he’d have to help kiryu/show affection towards kiryu in unpredictable convoluted ways#at that point in time because. I mean. there’s a reason he was the only person who showed up to welcome kiryu when he got out of prison#and that’s because A) he sticks to his word and his loyalty to people he cares about and B) no one else had the balls or the batshit insane#mask to wear to ward off anyone asking real questions like majima did. because ANYONE associating themselves with the supposed#patriarch-killer was a HUGE NO-NO at the time. someone important showing up for kiryu and welcoming him back outright could’ve caused#all-out warfare probably. except majima. because majima was dedicated and smart enough to use his widely-feared wildcard persona#(that everyone tended to view as incapable of having any Real agenda to worry about) to his And kiryu’s advantage#does that make sense??? I feel like it makes a lot of sense if you get it to click in your head#kazumaji#majima#kiryu#yakuza#kiwami 1#yk1#rambling
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caitlynmeow · 3 months
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she’s so lesbian i love her
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chipistrate · 5 months
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Gregory and Vanessa are both the kind of people to sacrifice themself for each other tbh
3 star fam contemplating how to trap the Mimic and Vanessa is about to offer to lure him in, when Gregory suddenly runs off and quickly returns with the Mimic chasing him like a wild animal and Vanessa and Freddy are like “GREGORY WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU DOING????”
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olivers-cocoapuffs · 6 months
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me staring at the “how I feel about certain ships” except ships with Peter or Severus in them are automatically in the hate section, affirming that you all think that “bad guys” don’t deserve love which is why you headcanon them as aroace which is harmful to the a-spec community for a million reasons
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ashes-forgotten · 1 year
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Everyday I sob over the funny nightmare kids,,,,, the moment when Six finds the raincoat is the moment where the player realizes she is, indeed, Six. The little menace you played as in the last game, this is the same kid. You know her. Little Nightmares II takes place before the first game. At least as she is at this point, Mono knows Six, too. He knows her better than anyone has. Better than anyone ever will again. Six knows Mono better than anyone ever has, better than anyone will ever again. And the song that plays is called *True Colors.” I love to think that this represents Mono for the first time really realizing who Six is… and accepting her. The reverse being true as well. By this point, these two know each other’s tricks. They’ve gotten to know how the other thinks, they’ve survived *together* and they know who the other is because of that. It’s just this beautiful moment where for the first time, these kids get a quiet moment to just… look at eachother. To *really* look at eachother. To look at how far they’ve come together, what they’ve been through, what they’ve done. For the first time, they really see each other as they are.
And they accept each other.
They go on together, just like they have before.
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I’m never gonna shut up about their friendship, it makes me CRY.
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cometrose · 7 months
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the only family headcanon i will accept for neuvillette & furina is a loser younger sister and loser but hides it better older brother dynamic but y’all wouldn’t understand
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multiseb21 · 4 months
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🚨MY DELUSIONS ARE DELUSIONING AT UNPRECEDENTED LEVELS🚨
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