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tenfluenza · 3 years
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awkward conversations
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huhnerhexen · 4 years
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all for the other ask set!
I just took my painkillers, so I'm really high and I'm sorry if this makes no sense, I'm trying my best...
1. Are looks important in a relationship?
- yes, but they're not the most important thing. I can look past appearance, but if you're ugly on the inside it'll never work
2. Are relationships ever worth it?
- theyre worth it every time! Even if they fail, you learn a lot about yourself and they change you for the better
3. Are you a virgin?
- no
4. Are you in a relationship?
- no, my partner of about three years and I broke up a month ago
5. Are you in love?
- I'm in love with myself, which is more than I can say when I was in that relationship
6. Are you single this year?
- yes
7. Can you commit to one person?
- yes; I'm like a penguin... I mate for life
8. Describe your crush
- that's easy, I don't have one
9. Describe your perfect mate
- soft and sweet, generous, respectful of my boundaries, openly communicative, like my grandpa!
10. Do you believe in love at first sight?
- no
11. Do you ever want to get married?
- yes
12. Do you forgive betrayal?
- in time and with an apology, of course
13. Do you get jealous easily?
- I used to, but I've done a lot of work since then and I don't anymore
14. Do you have a crush on anyone?
- other than myself? no
15. Do you have any piercings?
- I have a nose ring, my septum pierced, 3 earrings in my right ear, and two in my left
16. Do you have any tattoos?
- 11; a bumble bee, a cat drinking wine, my rat's footprint, my grandma's signature, a sloth, the pisces constellation, the aurora borealis constellation, squirrel nutkin, my grandpa's signature, Snufkin and Moomin, and a lavender sprig
17. Do you like kissing in public?
- a quick peck doesn't bother me, but keep your tongue in your own mouth
There is no 18 or 19 in this series of questions??
20. Do you shower everyday?
- I've been bathing more than showering lately, but I do wash everyday
21. Do you think someone has feelings for you?
- I don't, but that's none of my business anyways
22. Do you think someone is thinking of you right now?
- no, I don't think so
23. Do you think you can last in a relationship for 6 months and not cheat?
- obviously, I did that for 3 years. I don't cheat, it's wrong and it fucks people up
24. Do you think you'll be married in five years?
- maybe? I haven't given it much thought tbh
25. Do you want to be in a relationship this year?
- no
26. Has anyone told you they don't want to ever lose you?
- yes, and then they did
27. Has someone ever written a song or poem for you?
- no
28. Have you ever been cheated on?
- not that I am aware of
29. Have you ever cheated on someone?
- no, I would never
30. Have you ever considered plastic surgery? If so, what would you change about your body?
- I've had plastic surgery twice; once in the ninth grade to fix me jaw, and two days ago I had top surgery
31. Have you ever cried over a guy or girl?
- yes, and what a waste of time that was
32. Have you ever experienced unrequited love?
- no
33. Have you ever had sex with a man?
- yes
34. Have you ever had sex with a woman?
- no
35. Have you ever kissed someone older than you?
-yes
36. Have you ever liked one of your best friends?
- yes
37. Have you ever liked someone who your friends hated?
- yes
38. Have you ever liked someone you didn't expect to?
- yes
39. Have you ever waved someone you couldn't have?
- yes
40. Have you ever written a song or poem for someone?
- yes
41. Have you had sex so far this year?
- yes
42. How long can you just kiss until your hands start to wander?
- depends on the person, but awhile, I really like kissing
43. How long was your longest relationship?
- almost 3 years
44. How many boyfriends/girlfriends have you had?
- I've had 6 partners
45. How many people did you kiss in 2012/2013?
- I can say with 100% certainty that I have no idea; I can't even remember what I had for breakfast this morning
46. How many times did you have sex last year?
- I don't know, sex isn't something I count
47. How old are you?
- 21
48. If the person you like says they like someone else, what would you say?
- I'd ask them why, people love to talk about their crushes, I'd also encourage them to go after it. Just because I like someone doesn't make them mine
49. If you have a partner, what is your favourite thing about them?
- I don't have a partner
50. If your first true love knocked on your door with am apology and presents, would you accept?
- no, not yet. I'm not at a place to forgive Kai yet. I'm still working through and breaking down what they did to me
51. Is there someone you would do absolutely anything for?
- yea, my grandma
52. Is there anyone you've given up on? Why?
- I gave up on my dad's dad, Lane; he's just a genuinely awful guy and every time I've tried to extend an olive branch it's come back to bite me in the ass. He can be angry and miserable alone, I don't have room for that shit in my life.
53. Is there someone mad because you're seeing/talking to the person that you are?
- no, the people in my life are incredibly supportive of me in all my endeavors and decisions
54. Is there something you will never forget?
- what a classmate and friend wrote to my mom once when she was compiling a big note full of all the reasons people care about me. "There's nothing they could ever do that would be bad". Those words have been etched onto my heart for 6 years
55. Share a relationship story
- I'll tell you about my grandparents, and how they were made for each other. My grandpa worked for CBC and so did my grandma, but they worked in separate buildings, and one night my grandma's friend says "Elaine, come out for drinks with me and some of the guys" and my grandma really doesn't want to, but she's a polite lady so she does anyways. She winds up sitting next to my grandpa, and they don't say much to each other but his friends keep bugging him and making jokes about how he needs to "get home to his wife" (he isn't married, but he fancies my grandma and his friends are just trying to make him work harder for her). They wind up leaving at the same time, and they walk home together because they lived a couple buildings away from one another. My grandpa assures my grandma that he isn't married, he tells her he's going home to Red Jacket, Saskatchewan for Christmas, but could he give her a call when he comes home? She says yes; and a year later they were married. They've been madly in love with each other ever since.
56. State 8 facts about your body.
- I have 8 less teeth than the average adult; my eyes are two different shapes; when I learned to walk it was with a slight limp so now I always have one; when my body is really low on estrogen I get incredibly clumsy; I have 2 holes in my jaw from where a surgical plate was removed; I'm deathly allergic to peanuts; my limbs are so long, my fingertips almost reach down to my knees; I have a small groove in my head from wearing headgear when I was a child.
57. Things you want to say to an ex
- you always went on and on about how I deserved better, and you're wrong. It's not that I deserved better, you just didn't deserve me.
I have so much pity for you, because you have to live the rest of your life knowing what Ostin did to your mom, you did much the same to me. You acted the same as the man who makes you so sick. You're disgusting for what you did, and I hope you regret it everyday of your life.
58. What are 5 ways to win your heart?
- listen openly to me, tell me things that happened to you during your day, sending me songs or poems or little trinkets that remind you of me, laugh at my jokes, vocalize your feelings about me
59. What do you look like?
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This is me and my roommate's cat, Anaan!
60. What is the biggest age difference between you and any of your partners?
- two years, he was 15 I was 17 and as soon as I learned how smol he was I couldn't get past it...
61. What's the first thing you notice in someone?
- their mouth, I lip-read so someone's lips and teeth is the first thing my eyes go to
62. What is the sexiest thing someone could ever do to/for you?
- oh gee I don't even know? Maybe take off my clothes for me, but like really slowly?
63. What is your definition of "having sex"?
- anything that gets the job done, y'know? wets the whistle
64. What is your definition of cheating?
- being physically intimate with a party outside of the pre-established exclusive relationship
65. What is your favourite foreplay routine?
- tease me until I want to kill you, and then fuck me until I can't remember my own name
66. What is your favourite roleplay?
- I don't have one. I did improv in highschool and doing any sort of "acting on the spot" makes me astral project back to that cringey time
67. What is your idea of a perfect date?
- one where it doesn't matter what you're doing, you never want it to end because you can never have enough time with the person you're with
68. What is your sexual orientation?
- queer!
69. What turns you off?
- people who are mean to animals
70. What turns you on?
- climate justice
71. What was your kinkiest wet dream?
- that will stay between me and the lord, thanks
72. What words do you like to hear during sex?
- none, if you can form words or sentences, one of us isn't doing our job right
73. What's something sweet you'd like someone to do for you?
- bring me flowers! No one has ever brought me flowers before
74. What's the most superficial characteristic you look for?
- probably wardrobe
75. What's the sweetest thing anyone has ever done for you?
- my sister moved in with me to take care of me while I recover from my mastectomy. I didn't even have to ask, she offered to do it
76. What's the sweetest thing you've done for someone?
My roommate and I had mice and squirrels living in the basement of our old house, and they ate and destroyed all of her old baby books and photo albums; so this year for Christmas I took all the pictures I had of us, and a bunch of pictures she had posted on her social media, and I made her a new photo book to preserve the memories she made these last few years.
77. What's your opinion on age differences in relationships?
- the older you get, the less age difference really matters, my roommate is 41 and her partner is turning 61 this year. I think so long as both parties are of legal age and consenting, do what you want. That being said, it gets iffy if the older party knew the younger person when they were a child; ie. Leonardo DiCaprio and his most recent girlfriend.
78. What's your dirtiest secret?
- I don't have one? I'm literally an open book... You can ask me anything
79. When was the last time you felt jealous?
- when an 8 year old girl came into the shop and told me her grandpa was taking her shopping for her birthday.
80. When was the last time you told someone that you loved them?
- on Wednesday, when I was saying goodbye to my grandma at the hospital (that sounds like a downer, she's fine, she had a knee operation and I went to visit her after work)
81. Who are five people you find attractive?
- LP, Ezra Miller, Joji, my ex boyfriend (they're mad cute, but they're ugly on the inside), Chris Fleming
82. Who is the last person you hugged?
- my mom, after she drove me home from the hospital and helped me get inside
83. Who was your first kiss with?
- a boy named Rhys, in the ninth grade. We were each other's beards before we even knew it
84. Why did your last relationship fail?
- a lot of different reasons; we kept fighting, they had no time for me, they wouldn't communicate with me, I had trouble trusting them, they sexually assaulted me and were hella manipulative, they forgot I existed a lot, there were a lot of red flags that we ignored until it blew up in our faces.
85. Would you ever date someone off of the internet?
- sure, I don't see why not!
Thanks for asking! Sorry it took so long to answer, I had to stop and nap a few times in between questions...
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im the daughter of an identical twin and heres the tea
Im not a twin. None of my siblings r a twin. The whole twin-parent-twin-kids shit aint true. This is backed up by the fact that in my mom's family every other generation had a twin, and my mom never had any.
They were crazy close before my mom met my father. like, total ride or dies. my mom debated breaking up w my father because he was so fuckin close to my uncle they were constantly around one another
My uncle, when he was young, had an intense brain injury that made it so he was almost brain dead. Ever since that not only does he look nothing like my father (idk why that is they have the same dna but they look nothing alike) but they couldnt be more different. If they werent twins i have no doubt they wouldve fuckin hated each other
Even though they arent attached at the hip anymore, theyre still so fucking close. I dont see it much but my mom talks about how they never go a day without talking.
When my parents got engaged, my uncle fucking raced to get married first. He sorta wanted to make it obvious that he didnt need my father, that he was somehow better than my mom, too, and he was mature. None of these were true, but hes insane so
I also technically have 2 dads and 1 mom, if you think about it genetically. If i took a dna test a'la mourey theyd both be my dad. Crazy.
(My mom says after one convo w my uncle that theyd know she hated him too much to have a kid with him, though. Tea.)
I dont think they have that esp shit??? My mom doesnt, either, but apparently they show up to events wearing the same clothes a lot. Like, they went to a dinner w family a few weeks ago and my dad showed up in khaki slacks and a cranberry polo, and when they saw my uncle he was wearing the exact same fuckin thing my mom lost her shit.
(Dad and uncle: accidentally wear the same thing my mom: didnt u grow out of this shit jesus christ)
My mom hates my uncle, and my uncle hates my mom. My mom doesnt like my uncle mostly because hes an asshole to her (because he is), and i think he doesnt like my mom because she took my dad away from him.
When my parents got married it became obvious that my dad's level of importance was this: my mom, me, my siblings, then my uncle. My uncle's list, though, always had my dads name at the top in bold font. Im not sure how this affected their relationship, but theyre still ride or dies, just with a lot less die.
My dad has been in the same monogamous relationship for roughly 17 years. My uncle has been through 5 marriages, the longest of which is the one he's currently in, 2 years strong.
They co-own a business, and my uncle basically stole a fuckton of money (like close to a million bucks) to make a house in southern kentucky on a river with a boat and shit. Hes still in debt to my dad. After living in this house for roughly 8 years he sold it because his new wife wanted to move.
He sold the house. That spent a million bucks to build. Fucking hell, man
Theyre both shit parents. Not in the way that they dont love their kids (my uncle doesnt have any kids but his ex-wives have) but in the way that their dad was so shit that they dont know how.
Theyre the youngest of 5 boys, and all of their older siblings arent the best. The only stable person is my dad, saying as he's never been divorced and actually cares for his kids.
I'm the oldest of 4 kids, and it seems like both my dad and my uncle want to have a semi-okay relationship with me, even though my uncle still doesn't like me too much saying as im a reminder how my dad 'left him'.
They both seem to have a white knight complex, too. That may be specific to them but yeah.
If you look at the big parts of their lives and/or personalities, theyre nearly indentical. Its only when you get into the details just a bit smaller than 'assholes' or 'educated white men', you see their lives are a lot more different than you'd believe.
U want any more info hit me up. Im not a genius but i do have some insight
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