#this has nothing to do with gender

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

being nonbinary in a world that refuses to acknowledge more than 2 genders is weird bc like. i've literally found myself thinking "what if i go on hormones so my parents misgender me but in a different way"

#just for variety. just to shake things up a bit. diversify my trauma portfolio #also it's weird for several hundred other reasons this is just what has been recently on my minds #also 'i don't necessarily want to present as a specific gender but i DO want people to be deeply confused about what they're looking at so' #I don't want to be MISgendered i want people to be so confused they give up even attempting pronouns #out of sheer psychological horror if nothing else #you've got neopronouns i've got NOOOOOOOO!!!!!!pronouns

[u3pxx]

wtf!!!!! klapollo yuri???!???!?!?

#sorry the fem!disco art has been giving me brainworms and it seeped into the klapolly dfgdhjd #hits fem!apollo with the butchification beam. anyways DFGHD #there is something near and dear to my heart abt nothing changing <- does that with their own gender #also pls do know that klavier would also wear that fit. in fact i might doodle that too someday pftt #sunnysiderambles #sunnysidedoodles #genderbend #<- blacklisting purposes #sunnysideattorney

[anachronistic-falsehood]

leans into the mic. "saying all men are trash in response to the various ccs getting outed as abusers is the wrong move and will harm male victims of abuse and sa" and "the reason these male ccs were able to abuse people and cover it up for so long is because of rampant misogyny in the content creating space and it's important to listen to the women coming out with their stories right now" are statements that coexist. btw

#whiskey yelling into the void #i’ve just seen a lot of people saying shit like ‘men suck’ and ‘it’s always men’ #as well as other people saying ‘this has nothing to do with misogyny!! it’s just a content creator issue not a gender issue!!’ #but guess what. it is a misogyny issue. but also it’s not at the fault of all men #these statements are both true. #we can acknowledge the horrible misogyny in this community AND avoid villainizing men in general #you don’t have to put men down to lift women up #and you ALSO don’t need to lift your fav male creators up over the victims just bc ur afraid ur favourite white boy will get criticized

[junotter]

All the jokes about Ken and horses are good but I just wanna say it's such a good parallel to how actual young men get swept into misogyny and the patriarchy.

Like they're told to believe it means men get to be cool and manly and have this power but with that comes extremely rigid commands of what they can be as a man and a cycle of self hatred for never matching those gender roles perfectly. Patriarchy tells men that if they just do exactly what is expected of them, then they get all the "cool stuff" that comes with. That doesn't work though when there's only a small group that actually gets that power, but men will keep trying to fit into those roles in hopes that they can.

In the end there are no horses or the myth men are told, it's just endless cycles of self hatred and ingroup fighting.

#barbie #barbie movie #barbie spoilers #ig #ive got a lot more on how barbie looks at feminism and the patriarchy cause god they did it #not to say there isnt faults such as very little conversation about intersectionality #but i can also understand the impossible task of talking about EVERYTHING in one movie #not everyone will be happy and thats fine #anyway i think something barbie did really well is fight this battle of both wanting so deeply to love (romantically or not) men but also #not dismissing the fact its mens job to solve their problems themselves #that even if women need to be the front runners of breaking the patriarchy men cannot rely on them to solve their own problems completely #also just god im so glad this wasnt a girl boss slay movie #women deserve respect and love and life regardless of accomplishment #we should not have to be ceos and presidents and world problem solvers to gain equality #i can also understand if nonbinary people feel left out/disconnected from the movie #but as always gender abolition and acknowledging the gender binary (ie the one societially impossed) go hand and hand 👍 #just incase cause idfk terfs dni the barbie movie is not for you #barbie literally states constantly that her gender has nothing to do with (non existent) genitals so f off

[sergle]

what I was talking abt earlier. we have fully looped back around and away from feminism, societally, whereas before it was very Feminism 101 to acknowledge that many parts of existing as a woman in a misogynistic society are painful and upsetting. not that being a woman is Inherently Negative in a bubble. but that living on this earth, in the conditions we're living in, is hostile to women. and that gender is a performance. that many of the Staples Of Femininity as accepted by society are things that you have to create and perform and mold artificially and aren't inherent, that COMPLAINING about day to day difficulties of existing as a woman is something that you're allowed to do. acknowledging these basic, again, feminism 101 things, that something tied to womanhood is more time consuming or more expensive or more dangerous Because Of The Problems. does not CREATE the problems. that when women complain about having to perform femininity, they are not, in fact, oppressing themselves. the call does not come from inside the fucking house. saying that you HAVE suffered does not fucking equate that you believe you SHOULD have suffered.

like I could talk about this for hours. how braindead and one-dimensional the Takes are getting. "being a woman is looking in the mirror and going fuck yeah i'm a woman" damn. I guess any negative experiences you have by living in a misogynistic world... are your fault if you are anything but positive? "you don't actually want liberation" we've fully gone back to telling feminists "you WANT to be oppressed" when anything negative about our society is pointed out. it's not real until I say it out loud, I guess, and then I'm actually the one who caused it. if anybody expresses any unhappiness with how they're treated or the status quo or the language and culture surrounding womanhood and femininity. they've created it, right that second. they invented it just now. it wasn't a problem before somebody complained, right? also trans women aren't braindead zombies who just follow the flow of whatever cis women around them say. I am pretty fucking sure they are very much aware of pain, and are MORE than aware of the swirling torrent of misogyny and standards of femininity than anybody else. actually. and I am pretty sure someone complaining on tumblr that being a woman means always putting on a performance is going to make someone change their mind about transitioning. also "performing femininity" as a necessity to being treated well as a woman is not fucking NEWS to your Local Trans Woman. I AM PRETTY SURE SHE GETS THE CONCEPT. using trans women as a scapegoat for this braindead perspective on gender politics is spineless, meritless, and pathetic.

#how I feel about my gender is not the same as how I feel about the living conditions of my gender #when I saw that post I screenshotted here I literally sat w my mouth open for a minute #sent it to my friends and was like am I fucking crazy. is this what we're doing now #Forced Positivity and that there is no war in ba sing se and actually #you're ruining children's lives if you complain about misogyny on twitter #I don't HAVE to tell little girls about the downsides because they are already being mistreated #before they have even heard the word 'misogyny' let alone know what it means #you do not have to be fucking happy all the time about the cards you're dealt. #you don't live in a bubble where it's just you and your mirror and your pretty dress and nothing bad has ever happened to you #unfortunately bitch. we will have negative experiences that are in fact. part of the package of being a woman #and IGNORING them doesn't make them not exist. actually they will continue to remain status quo unless acknowledged #sergle.txt #I see so much rhetoric that is JUST old-fashioned gender ideals being presented with liberal language on tiktok #that is just telling women that womanhood is just being a girllll and loving pretty things and being kind and gentleeeee and nurturing #and not working and just like being wholesome and being happy and being a light in ppl's lives and just LOVING LOVING LOVING being a woman #so if for even one second. you don't love it. you are actually failing at being a woman #if you complain about the standards for shaving or putting on makeup. which used to be Baby's First Feminism online #that's actually just you creating problems. you're not supposed to acknowledge it. you're supposed to shut up and smile into the mirror.

[moons-epiphany]

i am very aggressively protective over nonbinary people who look amab because some of you are very quick to accept nonbinary people who look afab but shit on anyone else.

and stop saying "afab nonbinary" and "amab nonbinary" because we all know you're just treating us like "female" and "male" which, yk is the exact opposite of what nonbinary is meant to be.

treat nonbinary people like nonbinary people, nothing else.

#everytime i see i post abt “afab nby” or “amab nby” things another fairy dies #nonbinary #lgbtqia #genderqueer #gender nonconforming #transgender #trans #moons-epiphany #in some situations it's fine to specify afab or amab #bc afab people still experience sexism and may still get periods etc. #but when it has nothing to do with the post #then it's obvious people just want to say “female” or “men”

[cyber-seaweed]

this might catch me some heat but if chuuya and dazai didnt have that height difference there would be 0 question who tops lol.

#i hate feminized chuuya with my entire heart #him being short doesnt equal him being feminine #1. stop basing characters personality based on how they like 2 get it on #2. stop basing position hcs off of shit like height. its fetishy. #i have very strong opinions #skk #soukoku #osamu dazai #chuuya nakahara #bsd #edit: this post has nothing to do w gender explorations like FEM skk or trans hcs #i love that shit keep it coming yall #same w smut idgaf what yall make them do in bed man #i just haaaaate hate when ppl make chuuya into a damsel in distress type uwu bottom

[myfanfic-urfantrash]

Memory

Blade & GN!Reader

A/N: more vague potential romantic relations with Blade also a little sad?

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Blade doesn't remember what happened last week again, this isn't the first time nor will it be the last. You don't make a fuss over it, gently reminding him about the past weeks events to him as you sit by his side flipping through some documents.

His eyes are distant but you can tell he's listening with minor interest though his eyes squint as he does. It's all vaguely familiar but the memories so far away after his recent Mara flare up. But you understand his mind while not broken is fractured so much it's hard to keep memories whole.

Though you wish he did remember more, you're happy he remembers you even if it's just scattered pieces.

How he always seeks you out even if he doesn't remember your face half of the time.

How he lets you into his space and ramble away even if he won't recall what you've said.

How he protects you, keeping your enemies attention on himself.

How he finds you during your most vulnerable moments and keeps you company though he can offer little comfort.

It's alright if Blade doesn't remember because you do. You remember, you'll always remember for him and treat him as you've always have regardless if he'll never recognize you completely.

#gender neutral reader #honkai star rail x reader #blade and reader #blade x reader #I am on a Blade trip I saw his hecking picture expressions though that has nothing to do with the fic he's just cute

[flamemons]

Izumi is not het-passing

#digimon frontier #abril can draw sometimes #digimon #shitpost #izumi orimoto #i realize it looks like takuya and kouji are trading money bc one of them lost a bet but that wasn't intentional #i just thought it would be funny if they were doing something completely unrelated and arbitrary and never elaborate on it #although it doesnt seem like a great gag if i have to explain it in the tags SSJDJDJSKSKKS #maybe itd be funnier if they were holding like a hammer and an egg #or a knife and an apple #SHIT i shouldve just drawn them sitting with their hands on the table and holding knives. seconds before disaster #wait but that would take away from the joke ignore this ignore this #itd be funny if after their adventure izumi decided shes a lesbian like the Boy Gender has nothing of value to offer her #thats a joke but the frontier squad definitely has the vibes of the weird non cishet friend group at school

[mantisgodsdomain]

Scrolling through OC ask memes is very funny sometimes because a good handful of them have questions that... we don't think apply terribly well.

Yeah, they're a bug, tattoos are a bit complicated. They can't swim because they're an insect. Their ancestry is Cricket and their blood type is green. They don't know what a car is.

#we speak #its extra funny when a significant number of questions are dedicated to dating. your guess is as good as ours we arent keeping track #bau could be dating half the explorers association for all we know #we Have Not kept track #we're looking at a romance and relationships meme right now and its like. we do not think of these things for our ocs 99% of the time #we dont think they would know what monogamy is #we also don't know how to quantify gender in a species that only has One gender (dune cricket) #we are out of the norm but ALSO we swear this is like “youre trans if you identify as a different gender than you were assigned at birth” #like my man. we realize we're out of the norm but we CANNOT give you a solid answer to that question. nothing is binary enough for that #we cant define what sexuality this character would be in human terms we can't even define if a pairing with them is gay or not

[nobodymitskigabriel]

Personally I don't actually see Sam as a woman in a literal sense and I understand the term "woman-coded" isn't totally free of baggage but to me it's more about being boxed and perceived in a certain way that colors the pattern of treatment he experiences by the narrative that feels allegorically gendered. Especially since they're often applied to him without his desire which is very similar my own experience with gender as well. Like just the ways that monstrousness is treated when is manifests in sam versus dean are SO different and it feels fair to analyze them in a gendered way e.g. demon blood sam being physically restrained and locked up, sam being solely blamed for something that was objectively multiple parties fault; moc dean continuing to roam free during his descent into violence, everyone's expected to believe him when he insists that he's fine. This is obvious not a feminist debate or analysis it's just one interesting lens to view the character imo.

#sam being raped on its own has nothing to do with the woman thing and he's not the only man who was sa-ed #and obviously this show does have a huge misogyny problem which deserves its own attention #i obviously dont think sam is the face of feminist tv analysis i just dont see fluid gendered interpretations of media #as something that should be “off limits” or inherently problematic when they've been around for like ever #sam winchester

[dennisboobs]

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#the reason cisswap lesbian macden does nothing for me is bc i get my dose of lesbianism from canon charden <3 #i say it (jokingly) all the time but i think if the sunny fandom was more open to charden y'all would have more fun #everything ppl do with macden to make it ~more fun~ is literally. already there with charden #macden is a lot of fun in its own way but if i want butch/femme lesbians i have charden already-- #this is literally why i ship both. if i want to fuck around with gender i can throw charden together #if i want to fuck around with weird codependent loser roommates i can throw macden together #they have different dynamics and both bring different shit to the table #also idk such a massive part of dennis is his (often unapologetic but still stifled) more 'feminine' gender expression #so making him a cis woman who likes being feminine is like. yea. that sure is. cis woman dennis. #as someone who has an extremely complicated history w expressing femininity or anything that is even seen as being remotely femme #it doesn't grab me #the genderfuckery is not there #but TRANSBIAN CHARDEN???? YEAAAAAH #i think mac being so focused on upholding traditional mascilinity IS a very interesting dynamic to have next to. you know. dennis. #wheras charlie could not give less of a fuck #i think gender exploration with macden would take a completely different form but still be extremely interesting for both of them #but there's a lot less initial acceptance and a lot more hiding on den's part #especially if the two are in a relationship #because mac coming to terms with being gay took so long so dennis being at all feminine or even transfem is like #mac needs to do. more introspection #which is an entirely different set of issues to charden gender exploration where like #charlie being nonconforming. not shaving. not caring abt using she/her pronouns. being nontraditional in every way and not giving a fuck #would be absolutely fucking absurd to dennis who is very conformist after she comes out #and would probably be content to conform to whats expected of her as a woman with mac IF she did manage to come out at all #bc dennis would have to actually manage to come out. instead of hiding the fact she's trans > looking at carmen and the way mac treated her #i think both paths have additional challenges and that's. you know. whats interesting. #is cisswap den butchy? does she hide her masculine interests? is denise transmasc...?? #cisswap mac being butch is like. you know. nonconforming so it doesn't quite do the same thing as canon mac either #mac being Traditional and catholic and having to push past homophobia (internalized and externalized) to be himself is. pretty huge #would cisswap mac be a tradwife. like. thats sort of the equivalent

[br1ghtestlight]

actually when ppl do bob's burgers genderbends and they give louise dog ears or make her hat blue or something i immediately lose 10 years of my life

#her hat being pink has NOTHING to do with her gender and same w/ them being bunny ears #even if you're arguing “if louise was a boy she wouldnt want to be seen wearing bright pink ears!!!!” like be for fucking real rn #you KNOW that's not true. i get they're trying to make her genderbend design unique or whatever but it's lazy and uninspired #also plays into the dogs = boys thing which is just kinda funny #if dogs are boys and cats are girls what gender are rabbits? nonbinary?? #txt #bob's burgers

[beanghostprincess]

power couple except that they dress exactly like the gay flags

(i color picked the flags from their outfits this is fascinating)

#a lesbian and a gay can be in a romantic relationship if they're gender enough #enby lesbian x enby gay for the win #honestly these two would agree on the abolishment of gendered terms in general #ngl i did this just for the colors and it has nothing to do with my headcanons #but i love them so much they're very dear to me #saboala #sabo one piece #one piece koala #sabo #koala #one piece #lesbian #gay

[shehsart]

Dabi really is too much for the dudebros because he has the personality of a traumatized woman in her 20s

#let a girl be crazy #this is a safe space for crazy girls #I'm blocking anyone saying he was psychotic as a kid #thats. a. normal. response. to. abuse #crazy girl is a mood it has nothing to do with gender #dabi

[sinclairstarz]

the mischaracterization of byler is so weird bcs for a while it was like “oh mike is big manly alpha and will is tiny yaoi femboy” but then people were like “oh thats wrong” which is good but then they were like “its wrong bcs actually will is big manly alpha and mike is tiny yaoi femboy” and. its so weird to me like neither of them are either of that what are we doing. i thought we were past the whole “man and woman” stereotype gays like. theyre allowed to both be guys who like stereotypical teenage boy things like video games and scifi movies and theyre also both allowed to be unathletic loserdorks like. its ok. they are allowed to not be one dimensional gay characters that fit into the heteronormative mold.

#‘oh hehe buff byersss will would carry mike all the time’ #what r we doing. #u need to be honest with yourself. #will ‘shoveled four (4) grains of sand and stood to the side while they lifted the car’ byers? #his ass walks the mile and always stays at the end of the line during kickball #this has NOTHING to do with me referring to mike as a she sometimes literally back off #shes just a silly teenage boy ok #nobody gets mike wheeler on this site i think #anyways #this is all rooted in narrow-minded homophobic deas of sexuality and gender #byler #mike wheeler #stranger things #will byers #harpersays