#this is from one month ago

[dinnerbagart]

Cue Murders by Miracle Musical 3:00

#I storyboarded this after we met chopper #which can’t be that long from now since I started op like a month ago #art #fanart #anime art #digital art #one piece fanart #one piece #artists on tumblr #op art #op #zoro op #zoro roronoa #op zoro #one piece zoro #ronoroa zoro #roronoa zoro #zoro #chopper fanart #op chopper #tony tony chopper #one piece chopper

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[candyje11yfish]

ref sheets for luz & ami !!

#mari's art #btw the amity one is from a month ago #i wanted to post them both at once #the owl house #toh #the owl house fanart #toh fanart #amity blight #luz noceda #lumity #lumity fanart

[floccinaucinihilipilificationa]

#selfie bee #good evening friends!! how are you doing! C: #I'm very very sleepy I got a new ikea office chair and I build it all myself #I think it went okay! I don't think I pulled the back screw tight enough and now the back is a bit loose #I can probably fix it but I can also ignore it for the next 18 years #thats how long the old chair held up!! in germany it could now drink vodka and drive a car!! #not at the same time that is illegal! not at the same time!! (❁´▽`❁)*✲ﾟ* #but the day is not over yet my uncle asked me for a big art quest and I do not want to disappoint #he wants a muppet tattoo and asked me to draw it #my uncle has started to get tattoos a few months ago #as far as I know he has now gotten 3 note clefs 3 stars a flower and multiple birds #he also started getting piercings but so far I managed not to know exactly where #I think tattoos are super cool (´｡･v･｡｀) I wish I had a good idea for a tattoo but the last time I was very sure about getting a tattoo #it was heath ledgers face as the joker #at that point I was 12 and would not see the actual movie for two more years #a muppet tattoo is a way better idea!! he asked for the count van count! that is also one of my top 3 muppets ₍՞◌′ᵕ‵ू◌₎♡ #I always thought I knew a lot about muppet lore but since I started looking up muppet pictures I think there are still a lot of secrets #can the muppets from the Sesame Street actually leave the Sesame Street? #I think Kermit is both on the Muppet Show and on Sesame Street but he is also like the boss muppet #he might have special abilities #I hope you're having a good day friends!! C: #I think I'll post a Sherlock comic later this week #miss you!! ♥♥♥

[lonicera-caprifolium]

"That was a class-A surreptitious half a miracle..." 💫

#good omens #ineffable husbands #aziraphale #crowley #aziracrow #archangel gabriel #(jim) #I just realized I never posted this one from a few months ago #oops! #It was a lot of fun to draw though!

[ssalballoon]

bg3 aggie doodles (1 layer and a dream)

bonus: not from aggie but look at this microorganism gale

#this wyll is one of my favorite profiles i've ever drawn #the first 3 are from months ago oops #baldur's gate 3 #bg3 #wyll ravengard #lae'zel #shadowheart #jenevelle hallowleaf #my art #bg3 fanart #almost forgot to tag gale lol #gale dekarios #gale of waterdeep

[attyattlaw]

replacement pen just got cleared in customs so im gonna be drawing like a medieval scribe til it arrives

wips + side paracetamols bc im still sick

#trafalgar law #donquixote corazon #donquixote rosinante #one piece #i miss ink drawings maybe ill do inktober again this year #my scanner broke some month ago tho and im still trying to sneak buying a 4in1 from my mum as replacement #edit: got my scanner to work on my mac!!! so cleaner version goes here

[humans-are-tasty]

#my art #monkey d. luffy #one piece #dracule mihawk #sir crocodile #mihawk a little more moustachy and very OOC smile #the croc is from almost a year ago but i still find it neat #just normal drawings #hoping to draw less fanart and more original stuff this year. or at least really try to go out of my comfort zone #also plz no inappropriate comments about the croc #luffy and mihawk make good templates to experiment on. maybe cuz they're simple and shaped + wide brim hat #i seriously have a mihawk disease #i really like drawing low angles #i was looking at pics of tsurumi from GK and i was like mihawk could have a moustache like that #i think mihawk is the cutest guy in one piece. #April Edit: modified the luffy pic slightly. the shadow cutting off in the middle of his neck was bothering me for months

[likeits95]

i think scott listens to tally hall

#fanart #digital art #procreate #art #scott pilgrim #wallace wells #scott pilgrim takes off #scollace #tally hall #scott pilgrim vs the world #kieran culkin #michael cera #scott pilgrim fanart #spvtw fanart #spvtw #these r in different styles because the top one is from like a month ago lol #OH! i also think he likes barenaked ladies #and maybe weezer but that’s kind of cheap

[doodledrawsthings]

finally locked down the creature form design in a way i actually enjoy drawing edit: repost because i forgot a drawing in the last one

#soss #shadow of shady shore #mak's art #oc #original characters #the colored drawings are from months ago the greyscale ones are new #edit: accidentally turned off reblog on this post #should be back on now

[pigdemonart]

Mi madre Hana 😤 i will kill everybody in this room for you!!!!!

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#tokyo godfathers #hana #gin #gin is great too but…… would liked him more if they didnt write him to do that one ☝️ thing #anyways SCREENIE REDRAW from month ago haha

[sad-leon]

i don't think I ever posted this?????

anyways- since i dont have much stuff to share recently, im digging out stuff from a while ago that I never shared outside discord

Fic: call me here (i will appear) by @callmehere-iwillappear

#sad•leonart #rottmnt #rise of the tmnt #rottmnt leo #rottmnt donnie #rise leo #rise donnie #call me here #this is from like..... atleast 8 months ago i think #i gotta reread this one when i get my spoons back #hi russ i hope you dont mine me posting this alsdkjflksdjf

[peridotite]

#all those were drafts from years ago. i amde this one this month o hmy god #bumbleby #rwby9 spoilers #rwby #rwby9 #my posts

[themaarika]

#gundam witch from mercury #suletta mercury #miorine rembran #sulemio #g witch #both of them are stupid #original post #i hope no one notices the change in quality and style #i drew the first part over a month ago and the rest today #and i didnt clean it up because i wanted to finish it

[introspectivememories]

too many of you guys think nico is the loser and not lewis for letting the divorce go on for so long. like they're both losers about each other. emotionally constipated idiots who can't talk about their toxic homoerotic friendship that imploded on itself like 8 years ago and are now making it everyone else's problem. yeah nico's on television or in beer gardens talking about lewis all the time but like every other month some reporter is like "lewis, what's your favorite moment in your career?" and lewis no hesitation is like "oh man, karting, y'know? everything was simpler then" and then spends another six months skirting around nico's name. like this whole thing they're doing in the media isn't some kinda extended foreplay for them. they're both still pressing on the bruise to make sure it's still there!!! every few months, they're literally just asking on public television, does it still hurt for you like it does for me? and like clockwork, someone will release new information about them or one of them will say something about each other (in my heart, he's still my best friend/yes... and teammate) and the answer will remain the same, yes, of course, always.

#lewis is unarguably more famous than nico. like i feel like this a fact. and yet every other day nico is in the press saying some crazy shit #about lewis. if i was famous i woulda shut that shit down soo long ago. my ex-bf is in the press talkin bout me constantly??? that feels #like such bad pr and yet!!! lewis has not done anything. why? cause he likes it!!! cause they've never moved on from the 1st moment they #broke each other's hearts. like this is genuinely insane. #im always so nervous to post my thoughts on brocedes cause so many of you were here b4 me and have a better understanding on them #and like being a wrong is like a death sentence to me but still please tell me if i got them completely wrong #i have a lot of thoughts on lewis and his reluctance to talk about nico... most of them being that one quote from emma #if i loved you less i might be able to talk about it more #ok obligatory disclaimer: a lot of this is hyperbole. i don't think that they're asking lewis that ? every other month #but there are like at least 5 interviews where he talks about karting like they're his most precious memories #so make of that what you will #and obv i don't know these people but as someone who's brain chemistry has been permanently changed by them #i think i'm allowed to not only project onto them but also make stupid little posts analyzing them #anyway yeah #f1 #lewis hamilton #nico rosberg #brocedes

[ultrawandit]

grrruhhhhhh naruhodo aahh naruhodo save menaruodo save me naruhodo s

#can you tell which image is from two months ago #evolution of the ultra w susato #im trying to get used to using one of those moniterless tablets its very fun but also very hard :( #my art #drawing #illustration #ace attorney #the great ace attorney #tgaa spoilers #ryunosuke naruhodo #susato mikotoba #herlock sholmes #gina lestrade #a small kazuma