#this is how I feel at family gatherings

[sysig]

Permission to headbutt: Granted (Patreon)

#My art #UT #Sans #Papyrus #Ft. something smol and I do on a regular basis ♪ #This could be Handplates or it could be classic Undertale I leave that up to you lol #I definitely picked up a lot of the style quirks lol - but there are some of the ones that I like myself! Like Papyrus' darkmode clothes lol #And Sans' shorts having the stripe in the front haha - little details ♫ #Realistically it probably is Handplates tho just based on where my head's at lol - I love the Handplates dynamic :D #Handplates #I talked myself into it! Pfft ♪ #I found myself relating a lot to Sans especially while rereading - I want nothing more in the world than for my siblings to be happy! <3 #So I gathered up a bunch of ideas of things especially me and smol do together and this was the most obviously cute one haha #Easiest to do! Tho I did still go a little extra on this lol #I'm trying to do more digital stuff ♪ It wasn't the best art day and I'm still a little nervous to jump right in :') #Not doing any sketches on paper beforehand feels weird but I guess it is thematic in a way lol #And I'm still pleased with how they turned out hehe #It really does feel nice to be drawing them again <3 #And doing silly sibling things! Hehe #I dunno how clear it is since it's so ingrained into how smol and I talk to each other lol family language! #One of us will literally just announce ''bonk'' and the other will prepare for/lean in for a headbutt haha #She is a tiny bit taller than me - it's not quite /this/ extreme but she does lean down for me! S'cute <3 #I like to think Papyrus would do the same hehe ♪ Let your lazy brother headbutt you! He can only reach so far! #On minimal effort anyhow hehe #It's just a fun way to be silly together ♫♪ #Also yes I did show this to her and she cosigned lol - ''Cute'' -smol

[hgrve]

hopper is trying to be a good dad to billy but it's an adventure

#billy hargrove #jim h #billy and hopper #*mine #hopper-hargrove family #i know there would be so many awkward silences in the beginning #also the thought of billy wanting to hang out around hopper but not knowing how to express that is so funny to me #so he just loiters in whatever room hopper is in staring at him #hopper misreading and thinking something is wrong #like maybe he scares billy or that billy is just super watchful around older males bc of neil #so he tries to give billy space #leaving the room billy wants to be in so that billy will feel more comfortable #but bc billy wants to hang out he just follows hopper and it turns into them just moving from room to room over and over #eventually el gathers her idiots and they all sit and watch a movie together

[okkennymay]

Speaking of said dad, he went on a lil mini 10 day holiday across the country to Perth to sight see nature and go on a boat ride to see some Orcas (he's retired, it's his way of getting out the house and not turning into an old man potato, and comes back with hundreds of photos of landscapes, plants and flowers and points of historical interests to show my Mum and I, with cool facts and stories in a slideshow~)

Unfortunately i was still sick at the time and didn't get the chance to join my mum in dropping him off at the airport, let alone the chance to give him a big 'ol hug before he left- so I drew him this 💖

You can't escape the 'Ken hugs.

#fun fact I actually have mild OCD when it comes to hugs especially with family members #sometimes they have to deal with me hugging them many times over until its right #and if I don't hug them before they leave I get anxious as hell #it used to be to the point of panic attacks- my brain would tell me because I didn't hug them they will die before I see them again #and they would never know how much I love them #Family gatherings are a hug fest- my family and their partners know the moment I bust through the door I must run the circuit #everyone gets hugged and neither of us have a choice in the matter #at least it's hugs and not something else like turning on and off the lights a number or times or closing and opening doors or some such #sure hug OCD sounds nice but when it's been like 5 minutes and 15 hugs it's not fun for either party-it's better these days but it took wor #or running out the door to your sisters car because the hug wasn't right and they're about to drive off and if I don't catch them in time- #-I'd cry for hours feeling dread and anxiety down to my bones until i end up sick and in bed- that's not so nice #the brains a bitch

[boycum3000]

💀 GIRL BYEEEE

#also I dont know how to tell y'all this. nuns be fucking. #nuns BEEN fucking. many such historical accounts. like genuinely. #sometimes innocuously. and sometimes they were very much predators. a lot like priests - when you #gather a bunch of individuals together who are both deeply sexually repressed and subjugated in #other aspects of their life - feel morally superior to others - isolate them - and then give them power over others (usually children) gues #what? there's going to be corruption and predatory behavior. I fucking hate this post because WHY ARE U ACTING LIKE #NUNS ARE THESE SWEET INNOCENT LITTLE HOLY WOMEN. NUNS ARE FUCKING ROTTED. #90% OF THE FAMILY ABUSE STORIES I'VE BEEN TOLD HAVE BEEN ABOUT NUNS. they dont need your protection yall

[bumblingbabooshka]

If 'Resolutions' happened with Chakotay & Tuvok they would have made a beautiful home down there on that planet. It'd be Better Homes & Gardens material by the time they left. If it happened with Tuvok & Janeway it'd just be the captain running around barefoot chasing a monkey while Tuvok grew flowers and made comments about her not tracking dirt into the house after he just cleaned the floors.

#Chakotay & Tuvok basically get married down there but there's no discussion about this they just start acting like that #Meanwhile Janeway is just kind of slowly losing it while her surroundings get steadily cozier. How did you even make tea down here Tuvok??? #Tuvok who spent all day gathering herbs and starting a fire etc etc: Easily. #By 'basically get married down there' I mean that Tuvok accepts their situation pretty much immediately contrary to Janeway and focuses #on long term comfort and survival with Chakotay #It's still sad - especially for Chakotay who thinks he'll never see Janeway again (incorrect: Harry came to her with a plan #and she said 'I like your attitude Mr. Kim!' so they're rushing to the vidiians) but they're surviving...maybe even living #mostly their deal is focused on learning to like one another interpersonally #Meanwhile Tuvok with Janeway is more just trying gently to get her to calm down (she feels extremely guilty that this happened - #that Tuvok's never gonna get to see his family again) and they talk in depth for maybe the first time about the very real possibility #that this is it for them - on Voyager they at least had hope...but maybe that hope was an illusion the entire time...maybe- Oh! Chakotay's #here!! We're saved!!! #Chakotay #Tuvok #Kathryn Janeway #st voyager #voy #out of the potential pairings who's having sex first? #Janeway is playing don't starve & Chakotay's playing harvest moon & Tuvok is playing like...oxygen not included

[all-lars-bars]

I have a character pitch!

Former Little Sister who is now transmasc

#i was thinking he would be one of the little sisters Jack saved but didn't go the surface with him and Tenenbaum #bc parents right #so he just scavenges for what he can #but of course‚ they're already long dead by the time he gets to their old home #his former status makes him less susceptible to the negative mutations splicing can cause #he's still very careful about the plasmids and tonics he takes. he rather likes his sanity thank you #anyways over the years he's gotten interested in chemistry #to the point wear he's made his own kind of tranquilizer #which has the potency to keep a Big Daddy down long enough to gather some ADAM with the Little Sisters #no he doesn't harvest the girls #he may not be a little sister anymore but he still feels a sort of connection with them #they're the closest thing to family he has left in Rapture #how does he get the ADAM without harvesting them? uhhhh. just trust me bro #by the time tenenbaum returns and Delta comes along he has spent his entire childhood in Rapture #watched his former siblings grow up into Big Sisters‚ seen new Sisters forced into being‚ and has observed Lamb's rise to power #and he wants to do something about it #bioshock #bioshock 2 #bioshock oc #bioshock little sister #man i love making characters for silly little games i like

[cashweasel]

Themm<3 blorbo softness putting me thru it,, they’re committed to the newlyweds energy djdkskdj🥰

#ocs #I lied I’m so obsessed with them it’s not even funny I get physical symptoms from it #they’re giving family gathering after the honeymoon lolll #valen: being part of the conversation ❌ posing for pics ✅ #there’s also something both funny and iconic about a girl posing with a tattoo of her eyes on her man’s arms liek #go off iconic queen you made a man do that! permanently ink your face on his body #this was a wip I nearly gave up on but I was deep in the trenches I decided to finish it and the pose was cute #it’s crazy how much I draw them being in love considering they spent the majority of their lives together being not that lol #I’m ignoring it and choosing to focus on the happily ever after they don’t get in canon but get in the 100 aus I made them to make up for i #also happy early anniversary to my tragic little babies in exactly one month it’ll be 2 years of crying over them 🩷 #I love them so much they make me feel something #my ocs #art #my art #valen x gideon

[michyeosseo]

With your temperament? You've been treating me, your mother-in-law, as if I did not matter to you. Even today, people came to me with well-wishing remarks... you just sat there and sipped on your drink.

Yoon Hae Young and Choi Myung Gil as JANG SE-MI & BAEK DO-YI LADY DURIAN (2023) 1.01

#kdramaladies #kdramaedit #kdrama #durian's affair #yoon hae young #choi myung gil #아씨 두리안 #my reaction on the premiere being 연모라니이이이이이이 [wdym Affection???????] as if i didn't see their third teaser wildin' #semi-sshi (sitting right in the middle of a family gathering): ''well i just wanted to make it clear re: my actual feelings for her'' #so understandable when she's saying that to cmg #not sorry but she hands down beat every canned birthday greeting you got tonight ma'am #giggled at how at a loss doyi was trying to diffuse/deflect

[ask-firespiritcookie]

here here, so that fire spirit doesnt burn anything up, i present a picture i found on the internet:

bORB

Knight: I appreciate the thought, but his flames get more intense the more emotional he is. I'm afraid this picture has done nothing but make him more of a nuisance

Him being the way he is, is exactly why I rather he not be here in the first place.

I can't imagine anything keeping his attention for long anyway. He's bound to, sooner or later, make his presence known again. So I guess...

I'm only delaying the inevitable.

FS: haha! You know me so well.

Knight: Unfortunately....

Anyway, I'm making my way to the hall now. I can only beg of you to be on your UP MOST behavior, okay???

The King is joining us.

#cookie run #fire spirit cookie #knight cookie #family gathering #ask blog #ask 215 #((lmao what's up y'all #uh #yeah)) #((I feel like i'm beating a dead horse a;lfdsj;lak #I fail to stay consistent with this but I miss the characters to much to let go #I thought about them for way too long to not go through with my ideas #but things do have to end eventually #idek how many of y'all are active #i still want to get around to showing my story ideas bc that's what I love most #telling stories

[hatefulgf]

I should get high.😔

#arsonize.txt #like i feel bad bc it’s a family gathering but i can’t hide how i feel dbndndndnsnnsms

[winepresswrath]

I am haunted by Alecto the Ninth's potential to give me the awkward family dinner of all time. I can see it already out of the corner of my eye. With every glimpse my yearning intensifies, matched only by my fear that it would be too powerful and overwhelm the narrative and thus won't happen.

#if not for awkward family dinner then WHY is John rping family time with Gideon and Ianthe!!! #why the psychosexual dysfunction gang reminding us all that there are no takebacks on love? #why John wishing he was harrow's father and g1deon and Pyrrha feeling some kind of way about Gideon? #why is pash Gideon's cousin? #why is alecto john's ex-wife and harrow's first crush? #and pyrrha's lil bits all at once? #why Magnus making anniversary dinner and harrow's bone soup and Nona's book of family meals? #it has to be for the most excruciating food based family gathering of all time. #yes fine also for character development and some important thematic stuff #and an exploration of what it means to have a family and a place in a community & the contrast between how Gideon has always longed so #intensely for acceptance and a place in the universe where she can feel like her contributions are valuable and valued vs. #Harrow identifying so strongly with the ninth and her duty to it & the way she is its future because it's future was stolen to create her #and how what the ninth offers and demands is so monstrous and they can't escape it #they have to find a way to live with it- live with each other- if they're going to live at all #and how that's reflected in all the families we see #and we see this at its best with Magnus and Abigail and imo Pyrrha loving as best she can #but ianthe and coronabeth #palamedes and cam #oh man the eighth do we see it with the eighth #who are we to one another what do I ask of you what can I give you #see how I exist in the context of you; change that context and I become something new #and John and Alecto! he changes her so much. takes her out of her original place and purpose #makes her into something new. and he does it to himself #by doing it to her. and she changed him first. but still! it's terribly one sided #BUT MOST IMPORTANTLY FOR THE AWKWARD FAMILY DINNER OF ALL TIME

[tyrianlynch]

I’ve been improving a lot mentally lately and today my wife (best friend who I’ve lived with for 7 years) told me she’s divorcing me (moving to a city we both swore we’d never live in) and she’s taking the kids (our dog) and this is just further proof that god will never allow me to be happy or hopeful

#i know I sound dramatic but it feels like a divorce #my entire life revolves around her #she’s my soulmate and I’ve known her for a million lifetimes #I spend all day anticipating her coming home from work so we can spend time together #I schedule nothing on the weekends because weekends are for being with her #she’s come to every family gathering I’ve gone to for at least the last five years #she’s my entire fucking life and she’s leaving me #I’m gonna have to leave our apartment that we’ve been in for 3 years #I don’t even know how to make other friends because we’ve never needed anyone besides each other #and maybe we’re codependent and rely on each other too much but it’s never bothered us #and I always swore I’d follow her anywhere but she knows I can’t go where she’s going this time #I’m still so sick that I need my family nearby to help me so I can’t leave them #and my doctors are all here and I’ve spent years finding doctors I actually like #and I HATE where she’s moving #we lived there together for a summer and it was awful and she swore that we’d never go back there #and when she told me she’s leaving she didn’t bother asking me to come bc she knows I can’t #and I’m so fucking mad at her #I don’t know who I am without her and I feel like chunks of me are being carved out of my chest

[sixft0ver]

“Wait so you've never celebrated Christmas? Like . . ever?”

Her fingers traced the edge of one page, pausing as she took a moment to think, “I wouldn't say 'never', it's just—” She shook her head, though her eyes were still fixated on the book in her hand, “I've just never really felt a sort of enjoyment in those kinds of things. My family, er—mostly my father, he wasn't big on holidays . . . uhm, well . . . he was never really home a lot for the most part,” she closed the book whilst giving him a reassuring gaze.

“But, parties also count right? I've attended a few of them at work and they were fun i guess.” The ravenette puts the book on top of the coffee table, “Besides, it's not really any different than any other day would it? I get to spend time with all of you and that's what makes it special, no?” she smiled lovingly.

Kosuke couldn't help but frown a bit at her statement.

I mean, she's not wrong—but Christmas is supposed to be more than that right?

Christmas is about ugly sweaters, making snow angels in the park, feeling the cold breeze tickle your nose, cookies and the nostalgic smell of ginger and spices, getting drunk on spirits and eggnog, figuring out on what gift you should buy for secret santa, and most importantly . . . Warmth.

And it's not the kind of warmth you feel from the radiating heat of the fireplace, rather the kind when you're surrounded with the people you love. The sort of warmth that flushes through the whole of your body when you get to see smiles, hear cheers, and feel happy. Christmas is a time where you can give and share the love and appreciation you have for each other all through out.

The brunette placed his hand on hers, “Did you . . Have any unpleasant memories about it?” his voice was soft and tender, the feeling of worry enveloped his words in an obvious matter. Rai-Han looked at him with an uncertain expression before giving him a warm smile, “I guess you could say so . . I don't think I've had the pleasure in having a proper Christmas when i was younger. I do remember some good memories however,” she started to intertwine her fingers with his, her touch was gentle and yearning.

He observed her gesture, letting her take the time to speak. Truthfully, he loves it when Rai would tell more things about herself. And he truly loves for how honest she is whenever it's something that has effected her in the past or something that has stuck with her all her life. He could tell, from her voice, the way she talks, the way she acts adorably fiddles with his hand whenever she shares a part of her in a way that fuels his heart with endearment.

“My mother,” once again she smiled, though there was something different about this one. There was a kind of glint in her eyes, one that he had never seen before. “Holidays were wonderful with her. I loved spending time decorating the house and the little plastic Christmas tree we had cause we weren't able to buy a proper one at that time,” she giggled, reminiscing the time where she felt the pure joy and excitement. “I remember us taking a walk around the city as it snowed, seeing lights and decorations while dozens of people celebrate with joy. I remember how cold it was, my little hands were freezing even with the gloves. My mother would hold them in her warm palms and kiss each knuckle, then the cold would go away, just like that! Could you imagine?” Kosuke noticed how her smile grew each time she speaks of another core memory.

“And I remember one time where we went out to go to the bakery . . Ahh, the whole store smelled like sugar and spices,” Rai-Han closed her eyes in bliss as if she could actually smell the indulgent scent of baked goods. “We eventually bought a cake and went back home. My cheeks were all red from the cold hahah! My mom told me i looked like a little tomato,” she laughed light-heartedly.

The brunette looked at her with a lovelorn expression, caressing her cheek whilst grazing his thumb over it tenderly. “I can see she's very dear to you,” he smiled, earning a soft nod from the ravenette. “Very . . . She would've loved to meet you, I'm sure she'd adore you.” Hearing that made kosuke's heart grew warmer, “Coming from you,” he paused, moving a strand of hair from her face, “Then I'm sure that's true.”

Rai-Han smiled for the nth time, but it quickly faded after she remembered what she had said before, “Sorry If I belittled your own preference of celebrating christmas. I used to enjoy it too, loved it even . . I . . I find it hard to find that sort of love through these events anymore cause . . All that mirth, that joy, left the same day I . . Lost her,” her voice grew quieter as she spoke, earning another frown from the brunette.

“Was it, lonely?” he asked as the ravenette took time to answer, before shaking her head in response, “Not really, uhm . . Well it was the first couple of years, but, I grew used to it. And, you could say I've changed my perspective a little. I went out, met some people,” she paused, her gaze shifting towards his ruby netras, “And I found you.”

His eyes widen briefly in shock, quite intrigued by her response.

‘Found’ . . Others would've preferred to use the word ‘met’, but Rai-Han described it in a way that indicated that meeting him was not only an experience where she found her significant other, but also likely the fact the was able to found herself through him. Her lips curled into a sweet smile, “And I think I'll look forward to this Christmas with you.”

Winters were no longer cold for Rai-Han, and she would hope that this warmth will linger till spring would bless her once more.

@shuuryuhei

#holidays are coming around #i don't celebrate christmas. but i do miss the feeling of gathering with my big family at every year end.. #we haven't done that for nearly 3 years since my father's passing. i do wish i could have the opportunity to spend time with them again <3 #and i think Rai would've felt the same about it #she never really got to properly celebrate christmas #for the first few years of her life up until she was five her father never brought up to celebrate holidays #he was forced by his family to stay home and watch the child. forced to be a decent father at least #and those few years would just be like pure hell as always #but as she got older her father would be out of town for holidays and would go home after new years #and that was the only time she and her mother would be free from abuse #but ever since her mother passed. holidays really have no meaning to her anymore #even with the extravagant balls her grandmother would hold in the Yoo family residents— #she was only there to be her grandmother's selling tool to other aristocrats #this blurbs takes place after kosuke and her started dating #kosuke being surprised how rai said something along the lines of ‘Oh I don't spend the holidays’

[x-bongus-x]

hard not to feel like theres something seriously wrong with me when my sisters never invite me to anything even though they regularly talk and spend time with each other. im that family member thats just not wanted around. is it because im awkward, weird, silent, boring and stupid? or is it something else?

#how do i even get back into something resembling a friendship with them? i feel like i've lost my chance #i've fucked up with something i must have #my older sister doesnt even speak in my direction at family gatherings #my younger sister still talks to me but prefers the others company #vent

[thenwethrowitonthefire]

Shout-out to everyone who survived a "fun" easter with the family

#fucking hell #it started with finding out my dad smoked in my car when I picked up my sister #who was equally dreading the day #my mum turns into the world's tensest and judgemental presence. worsened by my aunt #then hell for autistic people (of which there are multiple present) #multiple deaf people means one uninspired conversation that isn't interesting in any way. #combinations of passive aggressiveness and people not saying a thing because they can't participate. voice volumes too damn high #weirdass food situations. Very full table. so many smells. #this goes on for over an hour. wishing for literally anything but being there. soul crushing. #then you still have to sit in that room for 2.5 hours. it just goes on and on. #my autistic deaf dad physically looks like how I feel. my mum and aunt keep piling on top of him to demand his mental presence #i leave the room once (to get my phone to show pictures to my uncle) and am immediately followed upstairs by my mum #who demands I don't leave the room (What's next. following me when I need the toilet?) #me and my sister are so bored we start throwing paper planes and fake fighting. #Which amuses the bored and the deaf #but of course my mum and aunt have opinions and this is not allowed. only soul crushing boredom allowed #they complain to each other over it while aggressively doing dishes #finally it ends because my mum and aunt start insisting my dad should go to bed if he's 'that tired'. *sprinkle on some additional ableism* #still sitting through a conversation about allergies one of my sister's friends has. my mum preaching that people should take that seriously #(meanwhile i had to cook for myself for 9 years because when my allergies were really bad no one bothered to check if i could eat something) #me and my sister go sit upstairs to discover our mum has made things we care about vanish in her room #and made things appear that should not be there #I've washed the interior of my car and hope the smell will go #you think it's over after that. but woke up with the realisation that even more things have disappeared from my sister's room. #i can't remember a time when things left outside of my room didn't disappear #I don't know why we do these family gatherings at all. no one has fun on days like that. #the housing crisis isn't making these things easy. my sister is losing her place to live again as well #she'll go hiking for a month and then work on a campsite over the summer #maybe I'll go house sitting again. idk. #can't make commitments a few months in advance like that because I'll cancel everything the second Sparks announces anything important

[rosicheeks]

Unfortunately relatable. I grew up in the church and have a lot of Christian trauma from that. I show up for special occasions for my parents… sometimes. But it’s uncomfortable from the moment I step through the door. Bigoted pastor, the self-righteousness disguising the prejudice, the political comments from the altar. Shots at young people left right and center as if the hell on earth wasn’t caused by the same older generation 90% of the congregation belongs to..

I miss being young in the choir and the youth groups and not struggling with it. It’s wild to look back at the younger version of me who was unshakeable in his faith and honestly just saddening.

I was texting my sister today about it and she said

“I 100% think ALL of us have a ton of religious trauma and everyone else in the family just doesn’t realize it cause they’re still drinking the kool-aid.”

I ran out of tag room and didn’t want to delete any 😭 seriously not lying I could write a book about all my thoughts and experiences

#I relate to all of this so much #and it’s so sad how many people truly have religious trauma #I still find myself lucky and privileged cause I know there are stories MUCH worse than mine #it’s really hard cause my parents still think I’m a Christian #honestly at this point I have no clue what i am #even if I end up still being a Christian that doesn’t help or heal all of the years of church trauma #but the hard part is still acting the part for my parents #growing up I always tried to fit into the good Christian girl mold #cause I know that’s what my parents wanted and I didn’t want to disappoint them #but once I started smoking weed and they found out? it went all downhill from there #their perfect angel fell from heaven #and I feel like ever since I haven’t been really their daughter…. I’ve just been living on the outside looking in to everything #it hurts looking back at all the years I spent brainwashed into believing that was the ONLY faith #it genuinely makes me sick to my stomach thinking about the fact that I went to a pro life rally #the thing I was talking to my sister about was how mental health was never talked about in the church #when I started dealing with it and went to my parents or the pastors or any adult really and told them what I was dealing with #wanna know what the first thing they would ALWAYS say? well have you prayed about it? the way they treated mental illness was that it was #YOUR fault cause God is punishing you for something…. that you need to pray or go to church so then God will eventually take it away #and the thing is I don’t necessarily blame my parents (which kinda sucks cause I want to blame someone) #but honestly it’s just the environment they grew up in too… like I’m 99% sure my dad has dealt with depression his entire life #but won’t get diagnosed or anything cause they always believe faith has something to do with it #which makes me incredibly sad cause I just think about how much my dad has suffered and how he didn’t need to #^^ I was typing this out when I was late to my family gathering hahaha but then I think my sister called or something so I had to stop #sorry this post is all over the place - I swear I could write a book about religious trauma #yesterday went ok surprisingly but today? TODAY is going to be so much worse #sure I’ll make a post about it later but I guessssss I should go to bed now? it’s 2am and I have to get up at 5:45 🙃🙃🙃🙃🙃 #and I have a fuuuuull day of fun Christian festivities while I’m dealing with all of this bottled up and unresolved crap from my past #please don’t get me wrong I love my parents and like I said I don’t blame them - they did their best #it just really sucks wondering what my life would have been like if I didn’t grow up in the church or in a super religious family #I wonder if when I told my parents I was depressed if they would have instantly brought me in to get help