"people hating new tumblr jokes is so stupid and funny lol" well maybe people arent fond of being bombarded by untagged unreality for a month straight. maybe people are angry at this current trend for a reason. maybe people are sick of unreality never being taken seriously and dont like that they have to log into a minefield of untagged posts that could potentially trigger them. the same thing happened with that "its me or the ps5" post and people were made fun of for hating that too. like fuckin cmon now man
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not rbing the actual post because i dont wanna be a dick in op's tags when the post was likely a joke but speaking as someone who was in a poly relationship where everybody (including me) struggled with decision making: this dynamic actually sucks in real life lol. what tends to happen is one person gets landed with making all the decisions and taking charge of situations because the others are too 🥺 indecisive 🥺anxious 🥺uwu to do it. and it isn't fun actually! it isn't quirky or cute when you're the one who has to actually DO everything. even if you like taking charge, it eventually gets tiring when you HAVE to do it because the people around you don't have a spine.
this applies to every kind of relationship really but one of the best things you can do for the sake of the relationships you build is learn how to say "yes" to things, aka make decisions. and that's a hard thing to do! it's hard to assert boundaries. i still struggle with it because i tend to think "oh no what if the other person just isnt speaking up but they dont want to..." and assume it's my responsibility to read everyone's minds. but. it isn't. if someone doesn't tell me they want to do something else that's on them, not me. and similarly, if i don't speak up to say "actually i'd rather do a different thing", it's not the other people's fault for not knowing that!
anyway the idea of being in a poly relationship (or any kind of dynamic with people, friends or whatever else) where someone is so uncomfortable with making decisions for themselves that they rely on all of their partners to do it for them is uhhhh my personal hell and i had to be a bitch about it for a bit. that's all.
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lol wasnt trying to prove u wrong i jst thought u might not be aware and i know some ppl dont like rbing fetish art so i jst wanted 2 let u know in case. not sure how looking at an artists public pixiv page is 'snooping' but ok then. as long as u enjoy the picture its fine. i wasnt trying to attack u or anything but i guess tone is hard 2 convey via tumblr ask.
Sorry I will admit i got really angry for no reason i m extremely fucked in the head right now so yeah. But i also have been thinking about how weird it is that not just you, but all of us that use the internet , are unnaturally good at spotting hidden fetish art, and i think its weird. Like isnt it weird that so many of us have been exposed to fetish art so often that we;re primed to look deeper into an innocuous drawing and reveal its true origins? idk if im getting this point thru text i think i mightg make a video about it because i hold two contradictory beliefs: 1 is we shouldnt be This good at spotting hidden fetish art and it says something of the current trend of information and internet that we're all so good at spotting sexuality in otherwise harmless images. And 2 even if it is fetish art, is that a big problem if its not harming anyone?and if it is fetish art, that shouldnt make the art automatically gross and perverted if it otherwise is an innocent drawing. Does this make sense? Like "So what?" kind of thing. How like yes, it is horny, which changes the context of the picture, but we shouldnt like, automatically discard their efforts just because theyre a bit of a pervert. AND 3 (iforgot about this but remembered while typing) How even though we're primed to recognize potential fetish art, we shouldn't be so quick to label everything with the origin of the fetish as fetish art (see: any drawing with a foot; No, the anatomically correct line indicating an armpit does not automatically make it armpit fetish art; going into any youtuber who makes fart jokes and seeing the comments be all "this is a fetish isnt it")
Ok this post is long enough hopefully i got my point across sorry anons *kiss*
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tbf i am pretty sure op of that post is being sarcastic and over the top to demonstrate why "no cishets at pride" is actually silly? i think? that was the tone i got but i could be wrong
idk! maybe i did get the tone wrong but my point still stands. plus im sure there are others rbing it who are sincere.
anyways, im not big on exclusion. i think it can def slip my mind how discouraging like "oh fuck cishet ppl no cishets at pride" bc i have such a tendency to think of the stereotypical cishet who isnt close to the community
but its important to fight that bc u can be cishet and still belong in the community or close to the community. which. idk was my point-- i got bothered bc exclusionist rhetoric is like... it's pointless, it doesn't matter, and it's focused on division and rejection when such a big part of being queer is accepting yourself and others for who they are. its like. the queer community should be welcoming to those who love the community, because that's what it's been about. like. being ourself and taking care of eachother because no one else is gonna do it.
and this isnt like a fuckin... "omg nooo be nice be acceptable queers" approach. like yeah go make some noise and fuck up those who want us dead and gone, but dont start pushing out the people who want to be here, yk?
WHICH IG DOESNT REALLY MATTER TO SAY IF OP WAS BEING LIKE. FACEITIOUS OR WHATEVER BUT IDK THE TONE WASNT CLEAR FOR ME.
EDIT: bc i got another person addressing me not picking up on the tone i guess
it wasnt clear! it wasnt clear and i see exclusionist shit a lot and im passionate about these ideals. unfortunately it happens. i understand like "oh it was satire" but it wasn't clear because there are people who have made similar jokes in earnest.
like idk lesson learned quit being aggressive on the internet, whatever, my bad.
but like! im. not sorry for not picking up on the tone when it's the internet, and i could throw a rock and hit someone who would say some shit like that in earnest.
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Btw outside of nsfw txts (like jokes n shit) n suggestive jokes n imagery n such im not rbing nsfw here anymore n deleting some old stuff that i did rb! Stuff on my blog info isnt changing just like. Idk id rather not have that here anymore feels weird to not curate a diff space for it.
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