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indianasexuals · 6 months

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Last week @rajindianace was invited by the Pranay to talked about the Asexual spectrum at Josh Talks Live

We're happy to see that now a sexual orientation which was least talked about for decades, is claiming visibility in the field of Queer activism.

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#asexuality #asexuals #queer #lgbtq #lgbtqia #loveislove #indianasexuals #indianaces #aceweek2023 #asexualawarenessweek2023 #thisiswhatasexuallookslike

#asexuality #aces #lgbtqia #asexual #acespec #ace_meet #queer #arospec #indianaces #aromantic

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ihateliterature · 2 years

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There are little shits in every community

I have to keep reminding myself that. And every time I do I remember my first ever really bad interaction with another asexual

It was 2020, around B!anca D3vins' death. Discourse was fierce bc Yasmin Benoit made a post showing condolences on the anniversary of her death. Mainly because Bianca send her pictures to #ThisIsWhatAsexualLooksLike like 2 days before her death? I think so. So the case hit her pretty hard

Anyway, there came the discourse. At that point in time I was 17, for the first time on twt and really naive. Like, I didn't want to block ppl because I thought it would be unpolite

Being an asexual on twt during that time was... something, to say the least. And I was particularly uncomfortable with the way other aces kinda put B!anca in their deck of arguments against aphobes and I was a bit grossed out by that

I remember seeing one person (older than me if I remember correctly) doing it and I kinda just lost it and told them smth among the lines of "hey, I think using the death of this kid as a gotcha is shitty and also speculating on a dead minor's sexuality is a real dick move" and.... I got called a bootlicker and blocked

And that did hit pretty hard, because I've never seen another asexual treat me like that before. So it was a heartbreaking experience

But I learned 3 things from this:

1. Stop being dumb, block like your life depends on it

2. We all have our jerks

3. Discourse is a terrible thing. It's not like fandom where I could argue with someone over theories or interpretations or adaptations. No, the queer discourse has real stakes and it takes away people's judgements. People that have been hurt in the past will look for revenge and protect themselves using any weapon they can find, sometimes forgetting the golden rule "sometimes the pixels are tied to real people with feelings"

So yeah, that was a lesson I needed to learn. Mostly I'm just glad the poor girl left the discourse realm, let her rest

#asexual #asexuality #asexual discourse #twt shenanigans

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aces-nrw · 2 years

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Habe gerade herausgefunden, dass #ThisIsWhatNonBinaryLooksLike seit mindestens Mai 2017 auf Twitter existiert? 🥰

Das bedeutet, dass dieser Hashtag einen anderen, berühmten Hashtag (ThisIsWhatAsexualLooksLike) mit fast exakt dem gleichen Wortlaut um einige Jahren predated?

#ThisIsWhatNonBinaryLooksLike #International NonBinary Day #aces nrw #lgbt #lgbtqiap #lgbtqia #nicht binär #nonbinär #non binary

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frauenfiguren · 11 months

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23/2023: Yasmin Benoit, 10. Juni 1996

Sie rief den #ThisIsWhatAsexualLooksLike und International Asexual Day ins Leben.

By Snotbubble25 – Own work, CC BY-SA 4.0 Schon früh – mit 9 Jahren – wusste Yasmin Benoit, dass sie kein Interesse an Sex hatte; kein ungewöhnliches Alter für die Auseinandersetzung mit der zukünftigen Sexualität. Später entschied die Britin aus Reading, Bershire, auf eine reine Mädchenschule zu gehen, im Glauben, im gleichgeschlechtlichen Umfeld würden Beziehungen und Sexualität eher selten…

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#aktivistin #aktivistys des intersektionalen feminismus #asexualität #diversität #frauenfiguren #kalender #misogynie #rassismus #this is what asexual looks like #yasmin benoit

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itgetsbetterproject · 2 years

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During #BlackHistoryMonth, we're honoring queer youth MAKING history! When it comes to asexual activism, Yasmin Benoit is leading the charge. She says her purpose is to “make things a little easier for asexual and aromantic people - specifically Black people on those spectrums.” 🖤🤍💜 Follow: instagram.com/theyasminbenoit

#itgetsbetter #ace pride #asexual #ace #aromantic #blackhistory #lgbtq #lgbtqia+#thisiswhatasexuallookslike

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yasminbenoit · 2 years

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Yasmin Benoit Makes History in Asexual-Themed Lingerie Campaign

“At the forefront of the Asexual visibility movement is British Model Yasmin Benoit, who you’ve most likely seen online looking incredible whilst making ace-history. As the creator of #ThisIsWhatAsexualLooksLike, their work often brings light to many asexual misconceptions and shows you that being Asexual doesn’t look just one way. To celebrate Asexual Awareness Week, Yasmin has made history by collaborating with Playful Promises to create the first-ever Asexual theme lingerie campaign!” - Unite UK

What is a common misconception about asexuality that you wish to debunk?

A common misconception that I try to challenge when incorporating activism into my modelling is this pervasive idea that there's an asexual way to look or dress. It's a message I've received ever since I started being more open about my asexuality - people would say that I 'didn't look asexual.' Because I was a young Black girl, because people thought I looked nice, because I put some effort into my appearance.

There's this belief that if you're not sexually attracted to anyone, then it's either because you're sexually unattractive and no one would want you, or you should make yourself sexually unattractive, as not to attract any kind of attention. It can be quite a dangerous mentality, because it means that asexual people looking attractive is somehow extra provocative and trigger more aggression in others. This strange, frumpy asexual stereotype can make asexual people feel like they can't experiment with fashion and express themselves through it the same way as everyone else can. I don't think your sexual orientation needs to determine the way you dress.

What is the significance of having an asexual lingerie model?

Lingerie is associated with sexuality, it's seen as being a sex-positive thing and it's associated with embracing your sexuality. It's also associated with feeling sexy for other people. I think having an openly asexual model who loves lingerie, but not for sexual reasons, shows the many ways that you can appreciate these kinds of designs. It also includes asexuality within a sex-positive space, which I think is really important, as we're often left out of those because of the assumption that we have no sexuality, no sexual interests, or that we're inherently anti-sex.

It's also really significant for me personally, because queer people - particularly queer racial minorities - are taught to dim parts of ourselves to stay palatable, employable and avoid stigma in our respective industry. Being openly asexual isn't necessarily going to please everyone or make them want to work with you, it can have the opposite effect. To have the chance to to blend the theme of the asexual flag into the photo shoot for a well-established lingerie brand is amazing. I haven't seen a lingerie brand ever do that before, so it's great to be part of a historical moment. I hope it makes other asexual people feel seen and empowered.

How does lingerie help you express yourself?

I've always had quite an unusual style, I don't like limiting myself to anything. Growing up interested in alternative and gothic subculture, I always saw things like corsets, stockings, big boots and things like that as being integral parts of a cool outfit. I also used to be really into video games and professional wrestling, where the women were always wearing something very akin to lingerie and kicking ass doing it. I guess it made me associate those looks with being powerful, and it was something I wanted to incorporate into my own style. So when I wear it, I feel like I'm channelling that energy. Lingerie is the closest thing you can get to a straight-up superhero outfit without going full Comic-Con. Unfortunately, you can't walk around every day in lingerie but photo shoots give me the opportunity to experiment with it and feel like I'm capable of back-flip-karate-kicking a giant man out of an arena.

What advice would you give to someone who identifies as asexual and is yet to “come out”?

Other people's reactions to you aren't a reflection of you, it's a reflection of what they don't know. There's a chance that people will completely get it and accept it right away, and there's a chance that they won't do that, but the latter doesn't mean that it's hopeless. It takes some people a while to understand. I also recommend that asexual people yet to come out prepare themselves for doing it often, as it isn't the kind of thing you just have to do once. It can be helpful to have some resources you relate to on hand, as people sometimes understand and accept asexuality more when they can see that it's a genuine sexual orientation that other people experience, not just a random word you heard on Tumblr one time. Finally, it's important to know that coming out isn't essential. You don't have to share the intricacies of your sexuality with anyone, not everyone is entitled to that information. If you don't want to use a label or tell people about it, or if you just want to keep it on a need-to-know basis, that's your right too.

How do you wish asexual people were more included in events such as Pride?

For me, it isn't just about including ace flags in the corporate side of Pride, it's expanding our idea of what Pride is and how the asexual experience relates to it. Asexual people have always been part of Pride, we might not have experienced the same systemic oppression as other identities, but we have the similar experience of having a pathologised, stigmatised identity which has lead to us being taught that there's something inherently wrong with us. It's something we have to unlearn and Pride is all about embracing the parts of your sexuality that our society has taught us to be ashamed of. I wish that we could expand our understand of queerness outside of who wants to have sex with who and how. That way, there would be less debate about asexual inclusion and it'd happen organically, and people would put the same effort into representing the asexual community as all the others. Personally, I'd love to be able to do what I did in 2019 when I opened the first asexual bar at London Pride without our inclusion sparking questionable think-pieces about whether or not we should be allowed to be there.

Where do you want to see the Ace community in five years time?

I just hope that we get out of this weird groundhog day that we've been in for like...twenty years. Sometimes it feels like we're making progress, and we are, but at a much slower pace compared to other identities. The way we discuss sexuality has expanded a lot but it hasn't become very inclusive of asexuality yet. The kind of questions that I get as an activist now are strikingly similar to those I saw asexual activists getting in the early 2000s. We're still in a 101 introductory stage as if this orientation is some kind of new fad. I hope that in five years time, we're way past that and asexuality is more normalised. Then we can get into more interesting conversations and incorporate asexuality into how we understand sexuality in general, which will surely benefit everyone.

#yasmin benoit #asexual awareness week #ace week #asexual #asexuality #thisiswhatasexuallookslike #this is what asexual looks like #playful promises #asexual awareness

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aliceplz · 3 years

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I almost forgot to post it on Tumblr! A little late but I proudly scream who I am.

#happy pride 🌈#asexual #proud of myself #thisiswhatasexuallookslike #ace pride #prode month #lgbtq #asexual artist

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chase-ing-shadows · 4 years

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Ayyy guess whos late aNd has too many house plants

#my stuff #oh god its me #Acevisibilityday #ThisIsWhatAsexualLooksLike #asexuality #asexual #oh god my face #house plants #plants #im late oh no #i didnt see the tag okay #i didnt know it was today #er yesterday

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thequietdingus · 4 years

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I apparently missed #AceVisibilityDay. Better late than sorry? 💜🖤🤍

#p #ThisIsWhatAsexualLooksLike #AceVisibilityDay #Ace #Asexual #asexual visibility day #biromantic #panromantic #I don't know what it is about this stupid filter but I love it so much #my face #me

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jewelsimmercc · 5 years

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People who are hating on @simandy It’s just a selfie. Just because someone post one doesn’t mean they’re insecure and looking for validation. Y'all seriously need to get over yourselves 😒

#thisiswhatasexuallookslike #imma delete this after #help me😭#selfie4simandy

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nonebananary · 4 years

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https://www.instagram.com/p/B6NCCUsJMRV/?igshid=hqg2w8mcmjvf

#dragartist #halloween #dragking #queerart #queerfashion #queerartist #nonbinarydrag #nonbinary #nonbinaryfashion #thisiswhatasexuallookslike #aromantic #makeupismyart #myfaceismycanvas #dragonabudget #makeupart #avantgardemakeup #F∀ILUЯE #my face

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indianasexuals · 4 months

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Calendar of the year.

2023 was full of activism, community building, love, sadness, sense of belonging, and struggle. Although in terms of activism this year was not very hard but at the same time wasn't easy. We met with new family members, new allies, new enemies as well. But that's how it works, right?

We really hope that next year will bring happiness to the whole Asexual Community. Thank you for being a part of this year.

Have an ACE upcoming year everyone! 💜

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#asexuality #asexuals #indianasexuals #indianaces #asexualawarenessweek2023 #aceweek2023 #thisiswhatasexuallookslike #acespec #demisexual #greysexual #sapiosexual #queer #lgbta #lgbtia #loveislove

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jessi-sails · 4 years

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