#those people can have their debates

[greenerteacups]

Hey GTC, I have always been such a fan of your Tumblr and your engagement with the fandom. However I must say that as of late, the questions you’re being asked most often are essentially variants of “Will X happen?” or “Will Y character do Z like in the book?” or even, “I’m noticing Theme A, will it continue in future chapters?”

A significant element of the fun that you’ve created for Lionheart readers is that we don’t know which elements and events of the JKR texts you’ll preserve untouched and which you’ll turn into the sixth and seventh year Lionheart storylines. I adore making my guesses to which parts of canon you’ll play with and which parts you’ll completely and utterly upend. Unfortunately, questions that ask about canon events in books 5-7 ruin so much of the fun.

Historically, you’ve used the Ask box to provide us with analyses of your own work and characterizations, but I feel as if recently you are often indulging questions about books 5, 6, and 7. I hate to say it, but I even feel that your answers veer into spoiler territory. I used to lurk your Tumblr incessantly, but since I’ve started to see this influx in predictive questions these past couple weeks, I’ve been avoiding the app.

It’s such a gift that we get to engage with your work on such a vibrant epistolary and interactive space as your Tumblr. I know that you can’t control what fans ask, but I humbly request that you please consider refusing to answer questions that ask you to ponder future events. Thank you for your tender care to everyone in the fandom. ❤️‍🔥🦁🧡

Hey, what's up, dude. I hear you. Sorry about that.

The problem is that the line between spoilers and not spoilers is totally subjective, and the line between "spoilers that are fine" and "spoilers that bother me" is also totally subjective. I don't know where you are on it, but we probably don't line up, and that's okay. I just don't know how I'd begin to sort out questions that one person considers "too much" from what someone else just thinks is fun analysis. My hard rules are as follows: I don't answer any questions about future ships, events, or arcs (and I get a lot). I haven't revealed anything that I would be unhappy to discover in a Tumblr askbox instead of a fic itself. True, I've dropped teaser/trailer stuff for 6 and 7, but to be honest, even looking over the stuff I've posted recently — I hate to say it, but I disagree with you. It isn't spoilers. Not to me, anyway.

But that's just me! There's no right or wrong answer here, it's just a coordination problem of how we can both cultivate social media experiences that make us happy. For instance: I like answering questions about my fic. It makes me happy to talk to people who want to know what happens. It encourages me and gets me excited to write about it, and I don't believe that any of the content on my Tumblr spoils what's going to happen. I don't really want to stop doing that, so I'm not going to. If that means you and other readers whose spoiler thresholds are below mine can't engage with my Tumblr, that's a natural consequence of us having different attitudes about media, and it was bound to happen. I'm sorry that that's the case, but it would bring me much more grief for you to injure your reading experience than it would for you to avoid my (largely irrelevant) e-journal full of random metatext. I love my fic, and I love my readers, you most certainly included; I do not, candidly speaking, love my Tumblr account. And for what it's worth, I absolutely do not think anything I've written on here is worth diminishing your experience of a story you enjoy. It wouldn't jive with my philosophy of literature and art.

So here's what I got: I'll continue tagging spoilers about past and current events as [#lionheart spoilers], and if a question makes reference to events not published, I'll use the tag [#prognosticating]. That way you can block the tag, and other readers can enjoy content that fits under their threshold of non-spoilerism. If our thresholds still don't line up, then I think the only solution may really be to block the [#lionheart spoilers] tag altogether. That's probably not the answer you're looking for, but it's the best I can do.

#greenteacup asks #I am doing the best I can #it's hard to get questions about what's going to happen because I do try to give tidbits if i can't answer the main point #just so people will have something? but it's rough to know I'm disappointing people on both sides #as is inevitable really. those who want to know more and want to know less. you will never make everyone happy #but also— if a creator isn't writing stuff you want to read #I suspect you already know at some level the answer just has to be that you stop reading #I sometimes debate if having a Tumblr is worth the stress of trying to manage an internet presence #I generally think it is

[mokeonn]

Before I go to sleep I leave you all with this piece of advice: sometimes you don't actually have to answer big political questions, sometimes you can just say "I am not smart enough to know that, I just know the small things I do to help." Like you can often times completely avoid making a fool of yourself if you just say you don't know.

#simon says #to explain here and not in a reblog: #sometimes when you try to explain big picture solutions you're gonna sound dumb #you might not have done enough research #you might not have a rebuttal to a counter argument #you might not be articulate enough to explain why you think this #sometimes you gotta take a step back and give the simple solution. the one man solution #you do what you can to fight against the problem #you talk to people to help spread awareness and how to fight the bad problem #and you vote and invite others to vote for bigger steps towards solving the problem #like you can talk about theory and how you believe we need to do a huge drastic thing to solve and issue #but people will disagree and argue til you're blue in the face #they'll poke and prod until you mess up or lose your temper and use it against you #and you'll feel dumb and they'll learn nothing #sometimes the best thing to do is step away from the big picture and just say 'idk what the solution is I just know the things I can do“ #sometimes you gotta admit you're not a scientist/expert and you can't answer that #i used this while talking with my Dad tonight #he brought up our climate crisis and space travel as a possible solution #and I said I think that's just addressing the symptom and not the cause and we need to care for our Earth now #and he asked me what solutions I think would fix it #and knowing my incredibly smart Dad who is articulate and ready to throw rebuttles at a moments notice to play devils advocate #and my past experience in struggling in this topic with him before #i just told him I didn't know. all i knew is the little things I can and do do to help #and that hopefully by spreading the word and habits and encouraging others to vote for those bigger solutions I could help make a change #but all I really could do is the little things I have control over #and the topic became much less stressful about the little things we have control over #like planting native plants and recycling and adopting habits that are healthier to our planet #which was 100% more preferable to if I tried to give a big solution. because I would reveal i didn't have all the knowledge needed to argue #and my articulation would make me sound like a stupid kid who only thinks they know what's best #so yeah I basically suggest that if you dont wanna feel like shit after debating someone just step away from the big picture for a moment

[pilferingapples]

I feel like the real philosophical divide on that robot/clone poll is between the people having some sort of existential identity crisis about free will and Selfhood and so on, and those of us looking at our mortal shell and going 'who would build THIS on purpose'

#this is probably some big religious debate with a fancy name #happily for me I don't care about religious debates so I don't have to know that part #I can just call this philosophy 'Victor Frankenstein Was a Jackass'' #tbc I'm talking about those of us who want to see the design specs #vs people having some kinda Deep Thoughts about Humanity and Free Will and so on #Yo. Promotheus. Why am I allergic to carrots. #FIX IT. #(I know it's Prometheus. go watch the Critic )

[chthonic-cassandra]

It's interesting to notice how, as I've gotten older, I've gotten more and more intensely averse to using social media for any form of activism or debate whatsoever. Those belong for me in my offline life and I've found that drawing a clean line there has become ever more important.

#honestly being clear about this internally has been a major quality of life improvement #it's a little complicated because of course the relationships I have with people I know online are real relationships #and thus can of course involve disagreement and talking through those disagreements #but that's still a fundamentally different thing from activism or debate #I do still have to catch myself though about not posting things that seem to invite that kind of engagement #personal

[aroaceleovaldez]

because i like making lists and community resources i'm kinda tempted to make a list of riordanverse/pjo discords, since they can be difficult to find

would people be interested in that at all?

#pjo #riordanverse #i have a couple jotted down and im in like 3 personally #i have been debating making another one but the question is Can I Tolerate Moderating That #cause i moderate like four or five servers #also if people are interested - would the people who run those servers be interested #cause obviously i would not put any servers on a compiled list unless they agreed #but idk i just think it'd be nice to be able to make community resources in the fandom a bit easier to find #cause we used to have some stuff like that but because the fandom is on the older side a lot of the upkeep stopped for them at some point

[bihet-dragonize]

As someone in an interracial relationship, I fucking hate seeing most posts about them on this site. Because they're usual made by some liberal who saw people using "fetishism"/"cultural appropriation" incorrectly and assumed the issue was people of color being wary of interracial relationships and not the way people strip words of their meaning for (often times) petty internet drama.

And like every one of those posts are absolutely FILLED with white people giving their unnecessary ass opinions like "ugh not everything is racism" well sometimes it fucking IS and sometimes it takes more than just saying "I love you for YOU and I won't be racist, I prommy!" Sometimes you have to work to prove you care and that you will PERSONALLY work to unlearn the racist shit you were taught BY YOUR OWN CULTURE for someone you allegedly care about. AND THAT IS CONSTANT WORK. There is no point where you are no longer racist and when it comes to interracial relationships between poc (namely a Black/nonblack couple) sometimes you're gonna have to do your own goddamned research and come back later to talk about it.

And with the history of white/nonblack people regularly using Black bodies and relationships with Black people as a form of rebellion against their families/cultures (which is objectifying btw!) Black people in particular have every right to be wary of interracial relationships. Antiblackness is so pervasive we have to play a constant game of "Am I a fetish/teacher/object of rebellion?" with every person we date for fear that the person we chose to open up to doesn't actually see us as a person.

Like if you think people are using terms incorrectly-which I will not deny because some people ARE- then just fucking say that but these posts that make is seem like the reservations poc have when observing/being in interracial relationships is unfounded paranoia are fucking racist. And the white people fueling this shit are racist as well. It's not your fucking place to try and explain what is or isn't racism to us. Shut the fuck up FOR ONCE!

#Kia's post #Kia's og posts #yes you can reblog this but I'm not debating idiots #also yes all of this applies to me and my gf btw #the beginning of our relationship was ROCKY for multiple reasons but we worked SO fucking hard and I trust her and her family IMMENSELY #because THEY also started having those uncomfortable convos #so like this is not me on my high horse #this is me observing people who are putting in the fucking work

[zerodaryls]

it's so funny (read: sad) that if bigoted fuckheads didn't insist i was a woman simply by virtue of my body at birth, i'd probably be chill with she/her pronouns in addition to he/they. if my mom didn't insist i was her daughter, i'd probably let her call me that, and we could still have a relationship.

i'm nonbinary and 'gendered' words are hypothetically meaningless, but because there are so many people who are more interested in telling me who i am rather than lovingly and curiously letting me express my own sense of self, those words carry trauma.

there's no reason a nonbinary person like myself can't be a son and a child and a daughter. there's no reason a nonbinary person like me can't go by he, they, and she.

'she' is not a slur. 'daughter' is not derogatory. 'beautiful' 'pretty' 'gorgeous' 'feminine' are not insults.

to the contrary, they're parts of language that express certain facets of a multi-faceted human existence, like mine.

and i have this sad, mournful feeling that if it weren't for unloving, condescending people, i'd probably be down to be called any of those things alongside my usual masculine/neutral terminology.

but i'd rather die than let anyone tell me what i have to be called.

#i try to reclaim 'feminine' words for myself in private #calling myself 'babygirl' when i need to chill out. or saying i feel pretty. or going 'she needs help' when i'm struggling lmao. #but there's still so much fucking trauma in those words from the people who've forced them on me #who've snarled in my face that GOD made me ONE THING and ONE THING ONLY and that's a WOMAN (stepdad) #who've guilted me for taking their precious perfect daughter away as if i'm fucking dead (mother) #who've mocked me and everyone like me as if we're not the experts on our own sense of self (general transphobic public) #like. i'm not a fucking man. i'm not a fucking woman. i'm nonbinary. gender is absurdity as a concept. i'm done with it. #but being called a man or a son or a guy or 'he' or WHATEVER in that vein is fine and dandy because i've never had anyone say #'that is all you can EVER be'. or worse: 'that is what GOD made you to be and you have a ROLE to fill' #(christianity pls die approximately yesterday thanku 💖) #so yeah. idk. ranting yet again about Cis Audacity. #the complete lack of empathy. the lack of curiosity even. #the condescending bullshit. the 'i understand you better than you do'. the fucking AUDACITY. #i am the expert on myself. i am the ONLY expert on myself. period. no contest. not a debate. #i understand myself better than anyone else is CAPABLE of understanding me. #i could call myself 'she' and understand that i meant it in a nonbinary way. #in fact i could even see myself letting other trans people call me feminine terms at some point in the future. when i've healed more. #but cis people? probably not. they can call me 'he' or 'they' or they can fuck off & never get to know me because they don't wanna know ME #/end rant #any terfs/bigots that try to touch this post will be swiftly blocked and quite possibly cursed. have the day you deserve <3

[zoobus]

What's the 'public domming' you got to do as a result of being good at school?

Maybe it would be better described as light public humiliation? My higher end classes would have us engage in informal and formal debate to better our understanding of the material and I while I was naturally good at making convincing, authoritative sounding arguments on the fly, I relished in making my opponents look stupid, I took excessive pleasure in the embarrassed faces and defensive backpedaling when they fell for verbal traps I'd lay out.

I don't remember exactly what I said, but I was once paired to debate this really cute girl and passively (but intentionally) coaxed her into making a really bad point, one that allowed me to insta-kill with a "so you're saying you think we should kill poor people hm" type reply and her face went shock -> confusion -> despair upon realizing that's exactly what she suggested -> embarrassed frustration. Stammering a bit before exploding "YES Mila I'm saying poor people should die!" before humphing back to her seat while the rest of the class hooted and hollered. Nothing felt as good.

Being good at school for me meant many opportunities to do this kind of thing, manipulating classmates and even teachers into saying the wrong thing so I could publicly own them. Weirdly enough, this did not make me unpopular.

#sounds corny as hell when you type it out lol #this is also why I hate that we have no culture of debate and persuasion like those moments were so fun because we took them seriously #No quipping or talking over people or making up strawmen. Give me your everything so I can return it to you. #But yeah I miss winding people into my spider's web I miss the looks of someone realizing they're trapped and i'm about to eat :(

[tearlessrain]

I love "mysteries" and "conspiracy theories" that have really obvious explanations. because like due to the fact that I enjoy the Watcher channel I get constant recommendations for other, worse mystery/ghost/conspiracy youtubers, and sometimes it will be something like "why do so many people go missing in alaska?? conspiracy explained!!" and I'm like. well first of all alaska is both a popular vacation destination and a fuck off huge expanse of wilderness that's very cold and hard to navigate and full of bears. but no you're right it's probably cults or aliens or something.

#also don't get me started on the mandela effect #you'll notice that pretty much all of them are small misremembered details #that all involve the preconceived associations wired into our brains being subverted #of course everyone thought it was berenstein because most names with that pattern would be and berenstain is a weird thing to be called #and the title was in cursive which is easier to misread #and of course people thought there was a cornucopia because the only time you usually see a pile of fruit is next to one #for like thanksgiving decorations and stuff #(and I can confirm that both of those things never randomly changed) #the first because my parents had a whole debate about it and my mom had to get out a book to prove to my dad that it was berenstain #and the second because I was an autistic child who happened to have some fruit of the loom underpants and I was fascinated by the logo #and it didn't have a cornucopia

[stardust-falling]

There is never an excuse to not use someone’s preferred name and pronouns. Unless they’re closeted around some people and ask you not to, there is literally no good reason to not just refer to them how they want to be. No one is being protected when you intentionally misgender a trans person, or when you insist on using a deadname— even if you “don’t agree” with the existence of trans people, or think that gender identity shouldn’t be treated the way it is in whatever way. You’re not standing up for yourself and you’re not standing up for others— you’re just being an asshole.

If your friend’s legal name was Katherine, and she told you “please don’t call me Katherine, I have negative associations with that name, call me Kathy instead,” then would you still insist on calling her Katherine because you don’t think it makes sense to use another name, even though you know it causes her significant emotional distress?

Intentionally deadnaming and misgendering someone because “it doesn’t make sense” or “you don’t agree” makes you just as much of an asshole as that. Changing the language you use to refer to someone hurts no one and helps them immensely. Intentionally misgendering someone just makes you look like an asshole and, quite frankly, stupid as well.

If you want to have an actual debate about the ethics of trans healthcare or whatever, the least you can do is actually respect your opponents. Fundamentally, respect for one another is key to proper debating. But no, you don’t want a debate, you just want to beat people down.

#caught a glimpse of some terf bs #like #ffs you can argue all you want about things you feel are genuinely a threat to your safety #like I get that!! a lot of those thoughts and fears are coming from trauma!! #and it’s not easy to unlearn! #I would be a lot more sympathetic though if there wasn’t the constant use of dehumanizing language and blatant lack of care #but well that’s just how it is #anyway even if there WAS a legitimate concern #refusing to refer to someone the way they’re comfortable with doesn’t have anything to do with it #even if there IS concern to be had over puberty blockers/HRT for minors/etc #misgendering a trans kid isn’t protecting them #even if said kid DOES decide they’re cis later on doesn’t make it okay to refuse to acknowledge their current identity #and if you want to claim you speak for/care about those you see in your mind as ‘women’ (afab people overall) #then DON’T FURTHER ENDANGER TRANS MEN BY CALLING THEM WOMEN/BEHAVING THE SAME WAY AS THE ABUSIVE #TRANSPHOBIC FAMILY MEMBERS OR PEERS WHO DRIVE TRANS MEN TO SUICIDE!!! #respect people’s right to self determination #learn to treat trans people with respect (by referring to them the way they ask you to at the minimum) #THEN try having a debate #but it IS NOT A DEBATE if you’re just punching down #transgender #transphobia

[walker-lister]

I just have to remind myself sometimes that no matter what anyone else says, the way a piece of media makes me feel and the positive impact it has had on my queer identity is valid, and that tearing myself apart thinking I have to defend it or questioning my own place within queer communities is not at all important when compared to the almost tangible sense of 'rightness' that piece of media helped me to feel about myself.

#just something i've been pondering the last few days #kind of like no matter how much people debate or i suppose theoretically deconstruct media featuring queer stories #the most important thing is how it makes a queer person feel #and I do think it is of course a good thing to ensure queer stories are executed with respect and authenticity #but there's this grey area in fandom spaces in which people may have found rep from a 'unreliable' source i suppose #or something which is queerbaiting- sherlock springs to mind for example yet if people have been able to explore and nurture their own #queerness through that media does that therefore mean their experience is invalid? i don't think so #and my worry is the more we focus on theory the less we focus on emotion and therefore the actual queer experience itself #and sure theory can inform the queer experience and ensure the media is a 'healthy' site of queer identity formation and identity aid #but at the same time scorning or being rude to those who have found certain media an aid is not the right approach to be taking #especially as queer experiences are so wide ranging that one person's idea of 'good' representation is someone's else's of 'bad' #and that unless a piece of media is clearly offensive in its portrayal of queer experience there has to be some benefit of doubt #I think we're still in a period of progression in media espc tv where queer creators are coming to the fore of their own stories #and we've got to 'live and let live' a little about where people are finding sights of queer validation and joy #and perhaps this a naive and simplistic way of thinking but i think queer people can either recognise when something isn't the best rep #but was helpful for them anyway and therefore in a way confer 'ownership' of the media to themselves in how they engage #or there is variety in queer experiences represented in media so that perhaps not everyone finds a 'site' of rep but that does not #therefore invalidate it or make it 'bad' representation #this is just my opinion and it'd be hypocritical for me to not now mention this is only formed from my own queer experience lol #so i'm not trying to tell anyone how to feel or anything just something i'm pondering

[adriles]

watch. I SHall slay each mighty foe who meets me in combat, (Falls face forward in the river scamander ansd is violently swept downstream)

#scamander #book 21 #ADRILES NATION hello. this is the reminder that as it is march. i will now be preparing for april fools day #a day on which i change this account and make it themed for another iliad character #so i shall ask. who would yall wanna see #im debating between hector and helen #for context #past ones have been agamemnon big ajax and menelaus #ill accept any suggestion tho #just likely not patroclus or automedon. those r too on brand i think #maybe antilochus? i feel like he also meets the vibe but can differ enough. idk tho #but u get the picture #so glad people are agreeing with the achilles fell in a river and got his shit fucked thesis #another classic joke on adriles.tumblr.com #i love it so much im just gonna make a tag for it actually #achilles falls in a river and gets his shit fucked

[remythologise]

2023 fujoshi wrapped

you got baited 24 times

you debated the difference between queer-coding, queerbaiting and censorship in the comments section 4 times

you revisited fanfiction for 7 hit ships from the 2000s

you got blocked 5 times for tagging paragraphs of old man yaoi ship meta on unrelated text posts

you played 585 hours of video games for a combined total of 10 minutes of gay subtext and/or sex scenes

you judged a BL manga or light novel by its cover 948 times

you told 39 friends to watch 3 gay tv shows that are 'actually really really well written and enjoyable and not just gay' and 0 of them did

#respectively: 1) my new boss is goofy. and I enjoyed it. 5 stars. would get baited relentlessly again #2) literally like. is anything queerbaiting but supernatural and maybe parts of sherlock. up for debate. anyway I still can't believe #someone called GAME OF THRONES queerbaiting. I'm still reeling from that. #3) Oh You Know. #4) I can't believe I found out paragraphs of tags annoys people. sorry for being alive on the Paragraphs of Tags blogging website I guess. #(this is because they now show up in notifications I know. I have been trying not to post like. Personal Lore as much like I used to. #trying to keep it related!!! :( sorry for annoying people... it's just how I've always blogged...) #5) disco elysium is the joke here but the hour count really. let's be real. bg3 #6) I do have a pretty good accuracy rate on whether a BL is going to be good based on the front cover art alone honestly. you can just tell #7) AND THIS IS ONLY ABOUT DEADLOCH AND IWTV WHICH I STILL CAN'T BELIEVE SO MANY OF YOU HAVE NOT WATCHED #do NOT get it twisted. 6) is about THOSE two shows. and also black sails eternally #kira for ts #bored at work. ama

[ozymoron]

reading posts that come across my dash and sitting for a minute to debate with my mental disorder if not reblogging this will mean a hell portal will open beneath my feet and i will suffer for eternity for my lack of action or if its all good and i can just scroll on by (its usually the hell portal thing)

#⚠️ #personal #having ocd makes making moral decisions so fucking hard for no reason #cause ill see a post thats like info or seems important and like i can tell its that kind of post just by skimming it st first and somethin #clicks in my brain that just tells me if i dont share that post everyone will know and think im a horrible person #regardless of what the actual post is about #i need like a handbook on how to make proper moral decisions #cause like yeah i do care about things i try to share stuff about things i care about and believe are important but sometimes i dont have #the energy to read long as posts and my brain twists it to make it out that people will know and i am the bad guy #idk my ocds telling me even saying this makes me a bad person #the fact i even struggle with this #sometimes i think im not built for social media but really i think social medias not built for people like me #maybe i should get help for my ocd but the idea of describing all the shit going on in my brain to someone just makes me feel scared #cause like i dont know when to draw the line at making something a problem i should actively have a hand in helping #how much is too much when do i stop #<- in regards to my own mental health like the mental exhaustion that can come from it i hope this makes sense #like some things you gotta invest like emotional shit into and like sometimes im just tired and i come on here and im faced with one of #those posts and i just have to debate with myself what the fuck im supposed to do #this is more a me issue than anything i need to sort this shit out with some mental health professional or something #cause like i dont want to have people think i dont care about these things i do and ik pressing reblog takes like no energy but idk man #im not even sure if some of the shit i reblog is cause i care or is just an ocd compulsion #i feel like most times its both #i cant help but think im the problem here i want to be on social media its just so draining having my mind repeatedly hound me for not like #showing enough care (reblogging more posts) about a certain issue online #idk im so tired of it all im so tired of my mind i wish i didnt have ocd #vent #so funny right after i posted this i scrolled down and one of these posts was rigjt beneath it and the debate happens all over again #lord i need to get out of here

[katyspersonal]

#personal #internets #at this rate I've unfollowed both of the kinda.. 'controvercial' blogs I've been following #since there was a good chunk of actually good takes about how bad media is now and society and braindead internet 'activists' that- #-had it too good in their western countries and NEEDED to invent the reason to bully and excile people #could honestly resonate with it despite some other posts causing genuine pain. but mostly about terribly handled media #like you know that thing when corporations do terrible ass rep to pretend that they care for minorities #or artificially fabricate online backlash against their new actors to show investors that people show interest for their product because- #-of all the clicks on their article? #like discussion of this kind sorta keeps me sober #as a person with BPD I get contaminated by opinions VERY easily and as an autist I will believe everything if it is put together 'logically #that's why I HAVE to be exposed to every possible opinion so I am forced to make out my own rather than being swayed anywhere #but at this point those blog became kinda.. bad? like they don't just have 'opinions' but they hate just to hate #but now my dashboard and recs are full of exclusively things I can fully agree with and I am scared that it will rot my brain #like.. emotions are always the same. where is the 'wait WHAT' effect? where is anger? where is self-reflection? #but ALSO I realized that 'those' blogs are no better than those western 'warriors' I despise and they become narrow-minded too in the end #they advertise themselves as 'open to debate' only to always sway debate into trying to win and not into actually discovering the truth #I cannot trust any side because they're all narrow-minded and hostile but I cannot trust people without any side because- #-they're fence-sitters without morals that side with the winner #is there a secret third thing? like is there a way to not take a side but to still HAVE ideals and opinions? #my problem is that if I am not exposed to people that trash everything I value I forget why AM I valuing [a thing] to BEGIN with #and that won't do will it

[jacksprostate]

dunno what that users on about... people on tumblr put way too much attention on the unnecessary

GOOD LUCK ON NOT FRYING YOUR BRAIN BOSS 🫡🫡

- SUPERFAN ANON BACK AT IT AGAIN

Eh I was a little annoyed but ultimately I just kind of feel bad for that person, it takes a lot of shit being fucked up for you to be a wholeass grown adult arguing to the death on tumblr + believing in a sort of catholic 'suffering means I'm moral' thing as a way to make yourself feel better about what feels unchangeably cruel about your life. It's why I was like, no I'm not gonna continue this. Not healthy for either of us.

#sfa #i also have a tendency to debate people on a relatively soft level for myself #but it ends up feeling very charged for others #partially because I talk a whole lot #but also because especially on here #there's so much encouragement of assuming the worst of people who even vaguely disagree with you #highly defensive reading etc #it's really sad #something I had to actively teach myself not to do as much too #tumblr is bad for your growing brain lol. terrible habits #taking a step back and realizing shit 1. is not that important 2. the other person is a person not the embodiment of stupidity or evil #3. you almost certainly have tons of shared ground and both people are taking positions they feel are the most beneficial to those they care #about. idk once you really work on keeping that in mind it all just seems way less intense and all a bit dumb #i usually try to avoid arguing with people for this reason but my initial second response was a little hopeful maybe we could have like. a #cool little discussion #and then i saw the 2nd post and i was like ohhhhhhhh its like this #mm. #anyway #yeah people generally arent your enemy and you can have disagreements over pretty huge things but it doesnt mean theyre evil or literally #satan or whatever #and when you realize all that polarization is a lie #idk stuff like this is just such small hotcakes #thats also what made me stop. that person seemed like desperately way more invested and i sort of just felt bad #rambling now......... #anyway i should've just not engaged and it's a reminder for next time. i love discussing stuff with people but this platform does not #usually house people fully capable of that #also thank you i am indeed trying not to fry my brain #honestly even just limiting myself to making comments instead of aimlessly reblogging stuff has helped me engage with this better #f fc is the only thing ill rb... even then i must have comments via tags.. etc #little rules for myself. its a good idea i think