#tired is not a privilege

[borzoilover69]

heres your food im redesigning some other idiots for a lineup

#homestuck #hom3stuck #le jake #ultimate jake #terezi pyrope #rosebot #rose lalonde #dirk strider #i made him two chocolate bars tall on purpose #he lost height privileges in my eyes #im so fucking tired AUGH #borzoi art #terezis og outfit ugly af im sorry it tastes so bad #feel free to ask me questions abt this or requests #i will draw them

[yaoiboypussy]

“Well I’m a trans guy and I don’t think we experience that much struggles. You’re just being whiny.” - man who got on T at 16 and top surgery at 18

#.txt #trans #transgender #trans man #transmasc #lgbt #im soooo tired of ppl who think that their privileged experiences are the norm

[snovyda]

Just watched a documentary mini-series on how Ukraine was regaining its independence in 1991.

The way the US tried so hard to preserve the USSR. That goddamned "Chicken Kiev" speech from George Bush.

And then that ultimatum that the US would only recognise Ukraine's independence if Ukraine gave up its nukes and a significant portion of other weapons, because for some reason they thought only russia had the right to have them.

Ukraine did agree to this ultimatum. It signed that goddamned Budapest memorandum. The US and UK said they, along with russia, would guarantee Ukraine's safety. And then in 2014 Ukraine, having gotten rid of most of its military potential, got invaded by russia. And the UK and US did NOTHING. Then in 2022 russia escalated its war to all out genocide. Entire cities are completely razed to the ground, tens of thousands of people are killed, millions lost their homes, thousands are subject to torture and forced deportations. Only then the US reluctantly started providing help, which is MUCH appreciated, I must stress on that, but Ukraine still has to keep begging. For its very existence. That was "guaranteed".

And in the midst of this, a lot of USAmericans are like, "why would we care about these millions of people (that we gave security guarantees to) that are being subject to genocide when the roads in my town are bad and the streets are filled with garbage? They must all die because there is garbage on my street!"

#i am so tired i can't even express it #ukraine #russian invasion of ukraine #western hypocrisy #us centrism #us privilege

[lemon-tea-leaves]

If you're gonna go around talking about how invalid self-diagnosis is and how you should ALWAYS just go to a doctor because they're the experts, consider doing the following instead:

Reminding yourself that no doctor is infallible, and unfortunately there are shitty and VERY misinformed doctors out there

Advocate for the spreading of accurate information about the neurodivergence or illness or disorder or etc.

In that same vein, dispel myths and misconceptions about said Brain And Body Things™

Advocate for easier access to evaluation and diagnosis

Support people who have been medically gaslit in the past and just want to know what's going on with themselves

Support people who have had their life affected by their symptoms (despite not knowing what was causing them) and just want to know what's going on with themselves

Support people who just Feel something Wrong and just want to know what's going on with themselves

Just fucking support people and stop tearing others down because you're white knighting

There are people intentionally making a mockery of things like DID or being autistic, among other things. And there are people who mis-self-diagnose (usually due to research that isn't deep enough) and are fed misinformation which leads to them misrepresenting the disorder.

But there are also people who have the symptoms, looked into the symptoms, found something that matched the symptoms, and maybe FINALLY felt they had an answer when they couldn't find one because they didn't have the means or whatever the reason.

And you're telling them that they're making a mockery of a disorder because they wanted to find a reason. And it's because you associate them with the people on TikTok that you roll your eyes at. And it's fucking annoying.

TL;DR:

Maybe instead of being a dick about self-diagnosis, you could help set a path towards making it so people don't have to in the fucking first place.

(Also, as for my opinion on self-dx, self-dx with a good amount of research from verified accurate sources = A-OK. I'm saying this as a professionally diagnosed person who has had to self-dx in the past. I've been wrong about some things and right about others, and professionals have been right about some and wrong about others. But it helped to set me down the right path. I wouldn't be where I am if I hadn't.)

#day.docx #actuallydid #actually did #actuallydissociative #actually dissociative #actually autistic #actually autism #actually adhd #dissociative identity disorder #other specified dissociative disorder #autism #autism spectrum disorder #adhd #attention deficit hyperactivity disorder #i am so. fucking. tired of this shit. #i am incredibly privileged to have been able to get help #ESPECIALLY being black and AFAB #and having cfs—a disorder which doctors often don't understand—makes me particularly passionate about it #bc a lot of doctors do “well you seem fine. you're just tired? have you tried more physical activity?” (lmfao) #either do something about it‚ however small it may be‚ or just fucking stop #it's getting old #it's BEEN old

[r-2-peepoo]

Coriolanus Snow and Anakin Skywalker are perfect examples of really interesting characters who had every chance to do the right thing but repeatedly chose wrong even though they were surrounded by good people, all because they had one person whispering in their ear and convincing them to be selfish and to hurt people instead. There is no point where they have to do what they do, it’s their choices that make them compelling.

They’re also both incredibly controlling over the women they claim to love but are quick to try and physically harm them when they realise that they’re actually human beings who will not blindly follow them. It’s very clear they were possessive, not actually in love. To sincerely love is to respect someone’s agency and neither of them were capable of that.

Another trait they both share is that, despite being layered and well written but fundamentally flawed characters who turn to evil by their own free will, if you cast an attractive actor to play them, there are always going to be people who blindly ignore the entire plot just to defend them and justify their actions. Being a victim of abuse or oppression does not excuse you from being a perpetrator.

#‘anakin and vader are different-‘ #i am under your bed #the entire original trilogy is rendered utterly pointless if that is the case (which is most certainly is not) #cant even blame george lucas for this one bc it’s still so obvious #anakin CHOOSES to return to the light bc of luke. it was always him and this was always about his choices. #whereas snow is just committed to evil lmao #tired of anakin’s pretty privilege #notice how they both had a best friend and a love interest trying to convince them to be better? #snow had sejanus and lucy gray and anakin had obi wan and padmé #anakin skywalker #coriolanus snow #star wars #the hunger games #tbosas

[tickfleato]

something that makes me insanely smug is when an app tries to force me to log in or watch ads and i simply remove its permission to use cellular data and turn off my wifi. can't show me ads without an internet connection bitch.

#got tired of trying to draw in the notes app so i installed medibang #and it tried to force me to log in which pissed me off. so i took away its internet privileges #tick biz

[littlecutiexox]

As soon as my last interview is done, I'm treating myself to new gym shoes and The Hobbit book

#im so tired #im over interviews #ive had like 15 now im mentally exhausted #i know im coming from a privileged area of being able to say that and getting to even have interviews is something im really grateful for #especially with how annoyinlgy frustrating it is to even get to the point of having interviews #but im excited to not have to worry about this after friday when i make a decision #its been 4 weeks of STRESS #at least friday i can relax finally

[thee-radio-host-is-a-kookaburra]

it’s honestly exhausting and really mentally destroying to face transandrophobia in the real world, see articles on how i’m just a brainwashed autistic girl, be told i’m an attention seeking fujo, get called slurs, be afraid to use the bathroom in fear of being assaulted, be called both a predator and a victim by terfs and transphobes, get told how evil i’ll become when i transition, constantly afraid of being clocked, be treated as both a lost girl and/or a dangerous man whenever it’s convenient for whatever argument is going on, etc etc etc etc etc…

and then i come online to get away from it all and am greeted with posts saying things like “cuntboys don’t face discrimination”.

#it’s so mentally draining #transandrophobia #queer community be normal to trans men challenge #anti transmasculinity #constantly afraid of being killed by cis ppl only to see my fellow trans ppl wishing death on me #god i’m so tired #some of you guys genuinely need a wake up call #hey. they’re KILLING us. okay? KILLING us. they don’t care if you’re a radfem as well as a trans person. okay? #different experiences =/= one group has it better other has it worse #so many of u guys have drank the radfem “all men privileged no matter what” kool-aid and don’t even realize it #cb slur

[redysetdare]

every time i see a post that is like "ughh why cant we have aspec characters who aren't aroace for once" I have to do a double take like "is the aroace rep in the room with us right now?" because genuinely....where is all this aroace rep y'all are complaining about? Why cant i find it yet it's apparently the only aspec rep we get?? You admit that TV never says the word aromantic so where is the aroace rep. So far I've pretty much only seen canonically asexual characters and not much else buddy.

#text #half the time i think these ppl see other aspec ppl saying that x character feels aroace and then they take it as canon rep #instead of an interpretation of the character which likely was never meant to be written as aspec at all #because majority of people don't even know what that is #this isn't me saying that we shouldn't have aroallo or alloace rep btw #this is me complaining about people throwing aroace ppl under the bus because apparently we are 'hogging' all the representation in media #and it just reads as people being aphobic towards aroace people specifically and it drives me insane #you can ask for more aroallo and alloace characters without complaining and shitting on aroace characters???? #like bro we are all on the same fucking team. we are all trying to get seen and understood. we all want to see ourselves in media #stop fighting like one of us is somehow way more privileged than the other because 'you have x rep' #we all have crumbs my guy. just because someone else is getting crumbs doesn't mean that its your crumbs being taken. #idk i see so many posts like this and it makes me feel so unwelcome in the aro and ace communities #im tired of aroace people being used as a scapegoat that you can target to pretend like you're punching up #when in reality you're just committing friendly fire against people who are on your team #i miss when the aro and ace communities used to like... work together as a big aspec community #now ppl r way too focused on separating them and acting like they have nothing in common and don't have the same goals #and both communities now tend to put a lot of blame onto aroace people because of stereotypes we never had control over in the first place #it's exhausting #like the aphobia is coming from inside the house #i didn't go through the ace discourse on tumblr to deal with this shit.

[pocketsizedquasar]

it would be really nice if ppl harping on transmascs for talking abt anti-transmasculinity (or even, gasp, giving a name to it!) actually listened to the experiences of transmascs of color (particularly Black transmascs), disabled transmascs, fat transmascs, etc. etc. instead of centering the hypothetical thin, white, cis-passing able-bodied trans man they have in their head who they use as the benchmark for all transmasc experience. any of the beliefs about how transmascs aren’t targeted as much, aren’t hated by terfs, face less violence, aren’t treated as predators, are simply “invisible” by default (rather than being deliberately erased and buried), etc wouldn’t be happening if people just listened to transmascs saying over and over again that yes, we do experience these things, yes, these harms do happen to us. you wouldn’t believe we don’t face those things if you listened to us.

anti-transmasculinity is a whole and unique experience, multifaceted and intersectional, and it involves the continued and deliberate erasure of transmasc folks and our struggles and the violence we face, and the lumping in of violence against us as “violence against women.” anti-transmasculinity is not a counter or an “opposite” to transmisogyny; they are interconnected struggles — transfem & transmasc are not opposites! the existence of anti-transmasculinity does not mean that transmascs have it “worse” or “better” — honestly, judging oppression by such metrics is unproductive and unhelpful. we have more to gain from engaging with each other and understanding how our experiences mutually connect with one another.

#quasartalks #lgbtq #queer #trans #transphobia #anti transmasculinity #transandrophobia #there are So Many trans folks of all kinds — transfem transmasc neither etc — who are doing wonderful work theorizing about & writing abt- #-anti transmasculinity and transmisogyny and their relations w each other. and w other systems like racism and ableism #going from those spaces to see people uncritically repeating things like ‘trans men / mascs have male privilege’ or ‘aren’t oppressed for- #-being masc just for being trans’ is just. so tiring. #half a dozen trans men have been violently targeted in the last month — some of them killed #stop saying this doesn’t happen to us. stop helping them bury is. #us* #if u clown on this post i will block u <3

[mintharasthrone]

please just get rid of the fucking rainbow at this point

#drop the t #gender critical #the b and t both hate gay people and have pushed us out already but we get blamed for their crap #i saw a post yesterday that was framing gay people as privileged nasty unwelcoming bullies to bis and every other fauxsexual #genderist on a “gay” page im so tired #when will it stop #when i went downtown i saw the rainbow flag halfed for the stupid nb flag / trans flag / black and brown #stop with your fucking flags #the bi flag is really meant for having pride for being attracted to the opposite sex a PRIVILEGE it's so insulting to act like bisexuality #is oppressed not just ur ssa which you rarely are serious about with your 95 percent het marriages #the b&t always speaking over and stepping on gays needs to stop #transphobia and biphobia both aren't real make your own community if you hate gays so much

[unforth]

I. Hurt.

And I was hurting anyway, I'm pretty down this morning, but this hurt came from an outside source, and affected me in a way I'd honestly not have expected.

See, we bought Nimona last week. After seeing the movie, my kids wanted to read it. And I ended up reading ahead, and I just finished it.

Bonus content at the end, it said, and I was like, oh, an epilogue to the epilogue maybe? That'd be nice. I don't love bittersweet endings, I'd rather...

...no, it's not the conclusion.

It's CHRISTMAS.

In a book that'd had no religion that I noticed up to that point, BOTH bonus extras...were Christmas.

Ya know, usually it doesn't bother me. Usually I just suck it up. I think it helps that I was raised around mostly Jews and people who, if Christian, it didn't matter much to them. I'm from the Upper West Side of Manhattan, the descendent of Lower East Side immigrants, and while the world outside was brutal - my grandfather was a World War 2 veteran and among the soldiers who liberated Dachau, I can't remember a time when I didn't know that most people would look the other way if people like me were slaughtered wholesale - my bubble was safe, we were accepted, we were insiders.

I honestly can't think of another time I've interacted with a piece of media and felt so immediately, instantly knocked across the face by OUTSIDER as I just did when I excitedly turned the page to see what these fun extra bonuses were...and it was fucking Christmas.

I didn't even read them.

I'm honestly. So disappointed.

I don't have a thick armor for this kind of hurt. I'm Jewish, and as an adult living outside my old UWS bubble, that's often meant I've felt like an outlier, but I've hardly ever had this feeling where I was welcome to something only to be suddenly, violently shoved out the door.

And I've heard nothing, n.o.t.h.i.n.g. but praise for this book. And on another day, it might not have bothered me. I've never really felt like I had to fight to be seen, especially since I'm tremendously secular. I mean, I've celebrated Christmas my entire life, for starters.

But why. Why was this fantasy setting suddenly Christian? Why was this the touted extra content? Why is THIS special, when the areligious world established to that point was apparently not special enough?

I can't say yet if this ruined the story for me. It's far too soon. But I'm *intensely*, viscerally let down, and...I hurt.

Christians...maybe stop doing this shit.

#unforth rambles #im not sure how to tag this #i dont want to tag fandom since its kinda anti #and i dont want to tag antisemitism cause its not really #and i dont want to tag microaggressions cause thatll just show my privilege that ive been lucky enough to not have this feeling more often #but seriously WHAT THE FUCK #im genuinely considering rereading just so i can see if it was always christian and i just missed it until then #because its so fucking ubiquitous that it slides right off #but i dont think it was!!! #WHYS IT GOTTA BE CHRISTIAN WHAT THE HELL #and why have i never heard this mentioned surely im not the only person to notice this #maybe it was less jarring for people who rwad along with the webcomic #since these were extras released along thw qay #not shoved in the back of the book like in the print edition #i dont fucking know #i just know i hate it #this special fun thing could have been anything #and instead it was for one specific segment of the audience #and thats honestly so unnecessary and kinda yicky #dont you guys every get tired of making everything about your fucking dumb holidays you stole from other cultures #give me back passover i demand you turn over easter as a reparation

[lavender-0-menace]

i relate to L Lawliet because i too would throw off a murder investigation if the main suspect was hot enough

#light has pretty privilege and that’s an important part of death note #i’m tired of pretending he’s a master criminal the man was dumb as hell and it worked because he’s hot and manipulative #l lawliet #lawlight #death note

[nudibutch]

okay official leash cuteguy pic set

#ill take hotter ones later im too tired to put on my jockstrap rn #and my room is a mess still #slug.me #turned off rbs cause yall fucking lost privileges.

[psychic-waffles]

what stage of the collapse of the nhs is it when your nhs gp tells you the best course of action is to pay for a private gastroentorology appointment to get the instruction they need to refer you for nhs testing, because they know there isn't a snowballs chance in hell of getting an nhs gastro referral accepted 🙃

related: i have an print shop and a ko-fi if anyone wants to buy some art or has some spare change ❤

#i'm just so tired #so so tired #like i'm incredibly privileged that the private gastro is even remotely an option but this is still utterly shit #fuck the tories fuck anyone who has ever had any single thing to do with screwing over the nhs #and fuck the first gastro i saw last year who didn't listen to me and immediately discharged me without any testing whatsoever #health stuff #nhs #uk

[luthienne]

age limits on young artist programs & competitions should be illegal on account of i hate them and not everyone is able to pursue singing full-time straight out of undergrad/grad school. some of us need a little more time :(

#idk like the amount of privilege & luck you need to pursue a career in opera is unreal and i keep trying anyway #maybe this is the year i just pivot into folk singing and let go of opera idk. i'm tired #opera tag #to be deleted