#to clarify i'm pretty sure i'm biromantic

[kingsmanassemble]

Got into the habit of saying "not to be gay" as a joke to my sister and friends (the only ones who im out to) and now i've started saying "not to be gay, but he's kinda hot" and then having to remind myself that's not the gay part sweetie

#into #it's just a natural response now i say it so often lmfao #oops #to clarify i'm pretty sure i'm biromantic #but like 70:30 women:men #i have very specific taste in men #and 90% of that is matthew baynton tbh #jokes but i'm big into him #so my type is predominantly tall lanky dorky guys with nice smiles and good senses of humour #sometimes shorter chubbier guys with a sense of humour and nice eyes or smile #and i'm into a lot of fictional characters but i'm p aure that's bc they're fictional lmfao #there are only 3 actual real life men i have ever been #not counting like childhood crushes #i'm much more flexible with women and i have no idea why that is #but there we go 😂 #very random #and none of you needed to know this but #also if anyone hates on me for being bi but using the term gay i'll end you 👍🏻 #about me

[a-spec-tacular]

Hiii! So romantic orientation is sorta confusing; I'm ace for sure. But I figured last year that I'm biromantic but now I'm not so sure. I get crushes (??) on like... lots of people but sometimes I'll think about kissing one of these people and I feel kinda eh. But sometimes thinking about it seems appealing. I just don't know.... Thoughts? (Sorry to bother)

No worries about bothering, that’s what we’re here for! Sorry this took so long to answer, though.

So, this is a common misconception, but aromanticisim isn’t about kissing- it’s about romantic attraction. You can be romantically attracted to someone without liking the idea of kissing, or without liking the experience of kissing. That’s just a personal preference; some people don’t really like hugging, or cuddling, or spooning, and that doesn’t say anything about their orientation. It’s just a personal preference. And like you’re saying here, it can absolutely fluctuate; like how sometimes people are in the mood for cuddling, and other times, they aren’t. 

I’m also going to take the question marks by “crushes (??)” to mean you’re not quite sure what’s going on there? Which I may be wrong about, but to clarify, there are different types of crushes as well, and the best way to look at it in my opinion is to work out what kind of attraction is behind it. I personally used to interpret platonic crushes (or “squishes”) as romantic crushes, and I know that can be a thing for a lot of aros. It’s not necessarily what’s going on, but something to look into and scope out for yourself if you’re not sure it’s a romantic crush already (and if it is romantic crushing/romantic attraction, and it’s happening pretty regularly, it’s probably not aromanticism. Though, you for sure know yourself better than I do, and there could very well be some things going on you aren’t putting to words here).

- Face

#aromantic #aromanticism #aro #actuallyaro #aro-spec #face #info #Anonymous