#to openly love each other in a non-romantic or non-familial way

[am-i-the-asshole-official]

WIBTA if I asked my girlfriend for more physical affection in public?

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^ to recognize my post when it publishes

(TLDR at bottom but with much less detail obv)

I love my girlfriend very much. We've been together for almost 9 months. I am 16FtM and she is 16MtF. us being trans is relevant here.

I am a very affectionate person in general, I love holding hands and leaning on people and hugging and whatever. My personal brand of thinking about the world includes that idgaf about what other people think. My girlfriend however does, and doesn't feel comfortable with physical affection in public. I know a lot of this stems from her issues with trust, feeling of unsafety because of her being trans and queer (both out in a fairly liberal area), and general emotional issues. However, I really do need some form of physical affection in public, to the point where it's actually becoming an issue: when I feel bad (upset, sad, whatever) she gives me more attention and affection because she feels like I need it. Both of us have depression and anxiety (varying levels of each but still similar in some regards) so we understand it. However sometimes if I space out for too long and she notices she'll ask me if I'm ok. that's great! that's fine! the problem is that I've started subconsciously acting like I'm not fine when I am, or generally skewing more towards the sad side whenever she asks me, and I think it's because if I'm feeling worse I can get more affection. I've also taken more to grabbing her ass in public (100% CONSENSUAL, SHE LIKES IT AND HAS SAID IT'S OK) but I realized today that I do that only because its one of the only prolonged physical contact things that she's ok with in public (which ??? idk I'm asexual so I don't really get it) but I'd rather have a non-sexual way to show affection.

She's really affectionate when it's just the two of us or we're with close friends and/or family but in public, she's completely closed off and it makes me feel shut off from her too. It hurts and makes me feel bad.

I want to ask if there's something I can do to show affection to her in public that she would be comfortable with. Something like a quick hand squeeze or grabbing her shoulder or smth that's small and not inherently romantic but that way I can feel more secure.

TL;DR: my gf isn't super comfortable with affection in public (no handholding, kissing, hand kissing, hugging, leaning) but I'm very openly affectionate and it's driving a bit of a wedge between us because I need physical affection to feel connected to her. I want to ask if we can figure out a small way to be physically close (like a hand squeeze) while in public so I can be happy and she can be comfortable. I might be the asshole because she's very uncomfortable with people seeing us affectionate in public. We're both 16 and trans, out in our fairly liberal school.

What are these acronyms?

#aita #am i the asshole

[brujahinaskirt]

This is barely coherent as a meta post but I have to get it out because aaaaaah (!!!!) I love, i REALLY LOVE, how much Arthur loves Abigail.

Jack too, of course, but I don't want to lump them together for the sake of this post. I specifically love the non-romantic but deeply true love dynamic between Arthur and Abigail.

[yet another longwinded gush-essay under the cut...]

It's just so rare to see a relationship like this in media, especially games! They love each other without embitterment, without either of them secretly wanting to pursue the other, and without any tacit expectation of repayment (or hope of romantic feelings developing one day).

I don't dislike Arthur x Abigail as a ship in theory so much as I just love the nonsexual, no-debts, no-expectations unconditional family love and loyalty between them WAY more. Even Arthur's diary entry about how he regrets being too caught up on Mary to do the culturally/historically "right" thing and marry Abigail (especially now, after Jack is born/John runs off...) is, to me, transparently more about how much Arthur personally adores Abby & Jack and the hope they represent, and how much he wants to see someone do right by them, than it is about Arthur having some kind of hypothetical secret crush on Abigail.

All their interactions are so devoid of sexual desire or romantic longing! Hell, they're often annoyed with each other, the sort of teasing & snappy attitude that comes from knowing someone so well and being assured that a pissy day won't fray the relationship. I love the familiarity of that alone, but there's also just so much sweetness and genuineness in how Abigail asks Arthur if he's okay, in how she smiles when he comes to say hi to her and Jack, and in how openly she allows herself to sound really sad around him. There's so much care and selfless love in how she encourages him to pursue Mary (to follow his heart, like her) despite what the other women at camp say, and despite knowing that Arthur successfully fulfilling his dream of a life with Mary would assuredly end (or at least massively reduce) his ability to economically provide for Abigail & Jack and to be there for them physically.

aaaah!!!! There's so much obvious and unrestrained warmth and affection in how Arthur says "Hello Abigail." There's so much openly petty sulking when Abigail loses at dominoes to Arthur and equally petty bragging when she wins!! There's so much benevolent planning on her part to arrange for Arthur and Jack to spend time together just the two of them (even though Arthur makes an incredibly weak and see-throughable effort to sulk at her re: being nudged aside by John's return). And yet she takes so much care to continue incorporating Arthur into their weird wounded little family even after John's return. There's no hesitation in Arthur's frequent checking on Abigail & Jack (and making sure John isn't mistreating them) and helping her raise him (though critically, NOT as a father replacement, but as Uncle Arthur). And there's no hesitation when Abigail comforts Jack by reminding him that she and Uncle Arthur are always there for him, even if his father isn't.

AAAAAAH!! There's so much trust and concern between them, ending with Abigail's signature choice to trust Arthur by giving him the key, essentially choosing to trust him more than she trusted John, the man she's in love with. There's so much genuine fear in Arthur's eyes and reluctance to break her heart by giving her the news of John's apparent death/capture, even though he knows he has to do it, and there's so much unspoken understanding between them when he gestures to help her off the horse--and in her acceptance, as if she knows he needs to try to comfort her physically because he can't find the words to comfort her. (And yet, he does! He instinctively knows EXACTLY what Abigail needs to hear, a surehearted confirmation that John DID love her, something that Arthur himself has long doubted and worried over, but that he clearly sees Abigail needs to get through that awful moment without collapsing. He knew her deep-set fear, that John died without ever really loving her and it it was all for nothing, and provided her with the faith she needed to keep moving.)

Though Abigail loves John, no question, she doesn't yet trust John in RDR2. But Arthur? Arthur is the one she trusts. Abigail knows Arthur will never run out on her, and Abigail welcomes Arthur in as family (again, critically, as Uncle Arthur, not as a John Replacement) in a way he badly wanted & needed to experience but likely never would.

Rockstar could so easily have made Arthur into John's bitter, crusty, desire-driven rival for Abigail's romantic attention. That was assuredly perhaps the easier/more obvious/lower-hanging-fruit writing decision. But they deliberately made the choice to avoid desire as a component of their attachment to each other, they just leaned into the family devotion. Screw you Dutch, this is the REAL faith in rdr2, and that's goddamn beautiful.

aaaah i can't get over it

#rdr2 #arthur morgan #abigail roberts #red dead redemption #redmeta

[forgiveness-in-the-misery]

I think as a retrospective for myself that there are complications on “this show handled queerness as well as it could” vs “this show pretended to have any idea how to handle queerness and used the fantasy of queer romances to bait in audiences then shame them.”

Let us start with Hannibal which falls into the category of handling it as well as it could with the era and the network tv factor. We got to see a lesbian romance between Alana and Margo which is already a plus above some other shows. The relationship between Will and Hannibal is deep and complex and coded with the word friend as we see in shows like Our Flag Means Death, Good Omens, and Righteous Gemstones. The word “friend” does not ever deny or negate the intimacy or queerness between two men, because with Hannibal we constantly get blatantly romantic dialogue between the two men, their final moments are spent in a romantic embrace with Will’s head resting against Hannibal’s chest. They constantly refer to loving each other and outside characters state that they are in love with each other.

The show did not have a faux promise of a gay romance. The romance was there.

Gotham is a cluster fuck. Gotham on the other hand was the network show where two women are making out and having sex and you assume they are a couple, but the show itself and most promotion for it claims they have an almost sibling bond. They are just friends waiting for men they love. Then the other “queer” rep of the show comes primarily in the form of Oswald, a heavily gay coded male character with no romantic interest, until falling openly and loudly in love with his male friend, Ed. Of course this doesn’t play out but the interviews and social media team fucking went into over kill cramming the idea of these two men becoming a couple down your throat….until they stopped. Suddenly the actors back pedal claiming Oswald isn’t even gay, he’s a virgin so he doesn’t know what he is. Both men are given female interests who act like them and its awkward and forced and dies fast. The show’s final season introduces a bizarre homoerotic relationship between Oswald and an older man…. The showrunners proclaim that Oswald and Mr.Penn have a father/son bond, that Penn is like a father to him…..despite the fact Oswald literally has this man on leash and collar and yknow already has a dad.

The show returns to teasing an idea of Ed and Oswald and a romance only to find them awkwardly embracing and claiming a sibling bond instead as if two seasons ago Oswald didn’t want to fuck his brains out. Allegedly the network is the cause of all this, but I don’t accept that. You would learn quickly if the network would not allow gay romances and work accordingly with that instead of pushing some of the worst handled non romances I have seen in modern TV.

What We Do in the Shadows I still clump with Gotham because I see and have seen the exact same tactics with both shows. The poor handling of queer love is at this point the least of my issues with What We Do in the Shadows, at this point finding out the chairman of FX wanted the sixth season to be the end because Paul Simms fucked himself by turning Guillermo into a vampire for one second then undoing it because Simms wanted to just “get it over with” is hilarious to me at this point. waikiki was open about Guillermo’s final choice as either slayer or vampire would be the story’s end and Simms somehow translated it to mean “get this shit out of the way so we can write jokes about ball hair”. The show had potential overall and was heading in a good direction. Season four was so fucking beautiful I can write a ton of pieces on the beauty and tragedy of it and I despise Simms with an intense passion for spitting on that.

In terms of queerness and romance….Guillermo and Nandor as friends or platonic or family or lovers all work fine narratively. I just despise how the show always promoted the idea and tease of romantic love, only to eventually get to the point of Simms joking or not to ask “who wants to see that?” In response to the idea of two men kissing, treating a kiss or exchange of love confessions as if it is obscene and repulsive.

I think the wildest thing for me is when shows are more and more current and still fall into this pattern of promoting a gay romance that was never truly intended in the first place. Mostly I despise this because shows end up wasting a lot of fucking time they could spend on actual plot and character development instead of polls on twitter about if in this new episode a kiss may happen when they know it never will.

#hannibal #gotham #what we do in the shadows

[lumilasi]

In relation to the snow witch/cat lesbian duo, here are the said witch's dads. The first one, Marcus is AGES OLD character I've had for a decade that I still love a lot, and I actually didn't change his design from the old one almost at all? I simply drew him better now, thanks to having my drawing skills improve at least somewhat in the past decade.

Lethas is an amalgamation of an entire family of old dragonic deity characters squished together. I'll draw his dragon form sometime later.

...The font I'm using is kinda not matching for the fantasy vibe, but I really didn't feel like doing graphic design so to speak rn lmao

Fun Facts below:

Marcus is a Romanian noble in heritage, though local villagers rarely see him, and think of their count as bit of a weird hermit. Pleasant and polite enough, but odd.

Marcus doesn't have human staff, he uses his powerful ice magic to create icy entities that act as servants.

Marcus' Patron Deity is Jack Frost

Irina was abandoned at his doorstep as a toddler, and he was initially hesitant in taking her in, but saw potential in her already strong magic, and was admittedly kind of lonely living there alone

He and Lethas are in a mostly platonic, non-sexual relationship, but they do come off like an old married couple that bicker constantly, and clearly have a very strong emotional bond between one another.

Marcus is gay (and basically anyone who meets him can tell he's not straight, there's no way lol) and Lethas basically has no sexual/romantic drive whatsoever given the way his kind are born. (So he's Aro-ace if you apply human labels)

They started out as rivals, but overtime kind of become each other's only company (up until Irina showed up)

Lethas was actually frozen as a statue in dragon form in front of the Vasile castle for almost fifty years, and was released accidentally by Irina when she was 8.

She thought he was going to eat her dad, only to see the two start bickering and head inside for tea, as if him being frozen by Marcus for five whole decades wasn't unusual. (It was an accident, Marcus actually thought he'd accidentally killed Lethas and was relieved to find out that wasn't the case, even if he doesn't show it openly)

Lethas is a soul dragon, a being born from the lost souls of dead warriors perished in wars. All his weapons are formed from soul fire.

Lethas was born sometime around the age of the roman empire, though can't remember exactly when. Marcus is couple hundred years old, but he did spend about half of it on ice literally, hence he actually appears younger than he should. (Long story, he met Lethas because the dragon released him from ice accidentally)

Lethas breathes fire like average dragons, though his soul fire is immensely powerful and can't be put out in any other way, except essentially powerful exorcism magic or a soul eater's devouring of it.

Lethas immediately took into his role as the more strict and responsible dad, the first thing he did when waking up was to pick Irina up in his dragonic form and place her gently on the balcony of her room, patting her head, before turning around to bitch at Marcus.

The swirly pattern on Lethas' cloak doesn't just glow in soul form, but they move and swirl around too.

Split hair and coloring with Lethas symbolizes the duality of life in all its forms; life and death, sky and earth, fire and water, war and peace, etc. or that's what Lethas likes to claim anyway. Marcus suspects he just thinks it looks cool.

Marcus' coat turns into hues of blue and white when he fully activates his powers. The snowflake/star design on it is actually the center of the Warlock sect symbol for this world's Arcane Council (body that governs primary magic users, I.E beings whose main thing is magic, rather than the magic being result of being some sort of mythical being)

Technically, you're not supposed to remove parts of the symbol if you wish to utilize it, but Marcus didn't like the hostile looking spiky eyes surrounding the central star pattern, so he didn't include them + made the colors more to his taste.

#artists on tumblr #oc illustration #oc reference #dragon #warlock #lumi's art scribbles #lumi's chaotic creations #Night city parlor #The mage and the mobster #Marcus Vasile #Soul Dragon Lethas #my oc #old oc revamp

[arotechno]

November 2022 Carnival of Aros: Sentimentality

I am, perhaps ironically, a very sentimental person.

It’s a source of strife for me, as a nonpartnering aro. The prompt for this month suggested thinking about sentimentality in a romantic context, but I find that ironic—conflating sentimentality with romance isn’t something I want to do, at all. That belief, that there is no room for tenderness outside of romance, is the very thing that causes me such strife in the first place.

I’ve always been sentimental. I cried on my last day of elementary school because I was going to miss my bus driver. I’ve spent hours overcome with nostalgia for even the worst parts of my life, and waxing poetic about things that other people find meaningless. I’ve written love letters to friends like we were going off to war, even though we were going to see each other the very next day. I designed valentines each year for anyone who wanted them, I made my friends handmade cards and birthday gifts, I wrote a eulogy for my marching band career and cried when I realized I had grown apart from a very dear friend.

It’s never been about romance for me, or even love more broadly. It’s the kind of thing the world tries to beat out of you—the idea that even the most mundane things in our life should deserve to be treated with earnest tenderness and celebrated, rather than be met from an ironic distance, held at arm’s length. With platonic relationships, especially, we are taught as we grow older that such sentimentality should only be reserved for those we are romantically involved with, and that it isn’t appropriate anywhere else.

I’ve fallen victim to this in many ways, over the years. I have often been told that simple things are “not that deep”, that they do not deserve my nostalgia or my devotion. I’ve always rejected that, as I pride myself on caring deeply and openly about the things that move me, even if it makes others cringe.

But it’s harder when it comes to my friendships, as the guilt and shame I sometimes feel about being aromantic clouds my ability to express my feelings openly. I sometimes feel like my love is Too Much, or that I’m not feeling it or showing it right, or that it’s somehow overflowing and yet not enough all at the same time. I fear that my desire to treat my friends with the same unabashed devotion that one might reserve for their romantic partner will make them uncomfortable and drive them away, or send the wrong signals. It’s especially hard being non-partnering, as even in aromantic spaces many still conflate stronger or “deeper” feelings with a certain kind of partnership or a certain kind of love, and I’ve never been willing or able to categorize my feelings or my relationships with the people I care about in that type of way.

So I do not write love letters to my friends anymore, and I haven’t made valentines in years, and I don’t express my feelings like I maybe should. But I’m still a sentimental person; sometimes I look at my friends or my family or even a really beautiful sunset and am overcome with such a deep affection that I don’t know how to express anymore. So it all stays inside me, all stopped up with no place to go. And I’m not fond of that way of being.

I do think all of the people and places and things in our lives are worth getting sentimental over. It isn’t a crime to feel strongly, and I don’t think we should have to approach our own feelings from within a shroud of irony so as to seem cool or above it all. It’s fine if people aren’t sentimental, of course. We’re all entitled to our own way of interacting with the world. But I think we should be free to be sentimental about whatever and whoever we want, even if it makes other people cringe and roll their eyes.

I’m sentimental. I always will be, despite society’s efforts to purge it from me. I suppose it’s worth being proud of that, too.

#carnival of aros #aro #aromantic #nonpartnering #sentimentality #long post #op #oiiii i had so many deep thoughts about this and sat down to write and my brain just bluescreened #hope this is Anything

[fluffyhare]

My favorite tickle ideas and tropes 💙

Below are some of my favorite tickling ideas, mostly because I just wanted to get everything in one place for when I'm writing my comics, so this should give you an idea of what I'm planning if you're interested. I also included ones that I don't like at the bottom (please don't take those personally, I'm not here to yuck yums, it's just how I feel). I may add to this as I think of more.

This is sfw but the context is definitely romantic/intimate for the most part, so I'm asking that minors not interact with this, and if I see it I'm going to block you.

Things that drive me nuts as a ler:

- shameless lees

- shy lees

- lees that hold back a bit at first, and then laugh deeply and openly, like they have absolutely no control over how much it tickles and it's all they can do to laugh their heart out

- lees that do what I ask without fuss (put your arms up, put your feet in my lap, etc <3)

- lees that hem and haw about admitting they're ticklish or they want tickles, but not in a mean way

- lees that can say the word, UNLESS the prospect of THEM being tickled comes up, then they clam right up

- lees that laugh uncontrollably just to have fingers wiggled at them, before anyone has even touched them

- lees that blush uncontrollably

- "not there!" (god help me with this one)

- lees that can withstand tickles/stay vulnerable without being restrained

- BOTH lees that are openly excited to be tickled, AND lees that are very shy about it, but want it just as much

Things that drive me nuts as a lee:

- being clothed, but having the ler reveal my spots as they tickle them, especially if it is done SLOWLY, ie: "Oooh, look what I just found~" fhsfhdgfhdhfjdh

- nervous/shy lers who get more confident the more you laugh

- lers who are actually switches, using the teases on you that work on THEM

- verbal teasing verbal teasing verbal teasing

- "This is your favorite spot, isn't it?"

- "Everyone likes it right here~"

- "Not where? Here? Right heeeere?"

- Lots and lots of anticipation/lead up

- Lots and lots of playful banter/teasing outside of a tickling context before tickling happens

- Observant lers who notice things I like/things that make me blush even if I haven't vocalized it (or even better, things I'm trying to hide)

These tropes:

- Lers that use wordplay/idioms/puns while teasing, holy shit

- Lees/switches experiencing tickles for the first time, especially if it is an alien/non-human whatever who really enjoys both tickling and being tickled, bonus if they think humans are just the cutest things~

- Medical doctor/scientist who knows way more about human anatomy than you do (first as a ler, and then unexpected payback after, which they secretly enjoy)

- Unintentional tickles that have to be endured for necessity or social norms (medical exams, massage, etc)

- switches who dish out things they absolutely CANNOT handle and then get all of it back when their lee switches <3 (I call this the glass house trope). Bonus if they get teased mercilessly and are super shy about it.

- Super powerful entities/creatures who are outrageously ticklish, and are strong enough to stop the tickling at any time, but they don't because they like it <3

- Super powerful entities that use 2% of their strength to tickle a delicate, squishy human to pieces

- Intellectuals who think they are above such weaknesses, finding out that they are most certainly NOT

- people being surprised at how ticklish they are

- cheer up tickles

General ideas that I like:

romantic context

loving looks especially from the ler to the lee

candid discussions about tickling that involve a lot of blushing and playful teasing <3333

gentleness

open consent

a mutual understanding of how much each other enjoy the tickling/being tickled

Do not like:

- bratty lees (brattiness doesn't appeal to me at all, in any context)

- sadistic lers

- familial tickling of any kind (trauma, squicks me out very badly)

- non-con of any kind. mild cnc is okay, but I don't like it if the lee seems upset, uncomfortable, or desperate in a bad way, even in a cnc context.

- primarily foot focused

- s3xual tickling

- overwhelm/many spots being tickled at once (I prefer one or two, more is okay, but if it's everywhere, then I don't get a sense of how ticklish each spot is)

#tickling ideas #fluffychatter #tickle tropes #fluffylore

[acacia-may]

I most certainly will ask about your OCs 😤💖 Can I get Eros 3, Storge 5, Agape 1, and Ludus 1 and 2 for Lorelei Swallow please 👀

Aww thank you so much, friend! I'm so excited to have been asked about Lorelei. I need to write more about her one of these days and should probably talk about her more often... 😅 I'm trying to talk about my OCs a little bit more, so really thank you so much for this opportunity! Your ask made my day! 🥰

Also this game is really reminding me of having to take Classical Greek back in high school (it was not an elective and, unfortunately, I was never very good at it 😅) so it's nice to have the opportunity to actually do something fun related to that. 😁

Questions are from this OC 7 Loves Ask Game, and answers are below the cut. Thank you so much for playing and for asking about my OC! 🥰

Eros 3 -- How do they feel about public displays of romantic affection? Does it make them uncomfortable? How do they feel if a romantic partner kisses them in public?

Lorelei doesn't mind public displays of affection. She might get a bit giggly if her significant other kissed her in public, but she wouldn't feel uncomfortable. I do think she'd probably be a bit reserved about initiating PDA though since she's very concerned about and sensitive to others' feelings and really wouldn't want to cause her friends discomfort. In a non-romantic sense, she is very openly affectionate with her family and eventually her children, but I think when it comes to more romantic affection, she's sensitive to how that could make others feel uncomfortable so she wouldn't want to be super, over-the-top touchy-feely with her significant other in public. (Also, I think knowing that her eventual husband is very shy and reserved when it comes to this kind of thing, she's sensitive to that as well and, in that way, I just don't imagine that they engage in a lot of PDA. Maybe curling up next to each other on the couch or holding hands or even a quick kiss on the cheek or very rarely a peck on the lips, but they're just not going to be the couple that is all PDA in front their friends).

Storge 5 -- Is your OC able to love without necessarily needing or expecting reciprocation or reward? Or are all their relationships to some extent transactional? Have they ever loved another person unconditionally, whether a child or another adult?

Absolutely. I think this is really one of Lorelei's defining personality traits. She's a very generous, relationship-oriented and people-oriented person. She wants to believe in the best in people, and it doesn't really occur to her to view relationships in a more pragmatic or transactional way. I think this does leave her vulnerable to a certain extent in that there are people who would/could take advantage of her kindness and generosity (It's definitely a big worry for her cousin/honorary "little brother" David who tends to be a little more mistrustful and pragmatic, I think). But for Lorelei, I think she really is just naturally a big-hearted person. She loves with everything she has and doesn't expect anything in return. It doesn't even occur to her to put conditions on her love. At the risk of sounding cliche, she really does just follow her heart. It can be a little unwise or impulsive sometimes and she does run the risk of putting her trust in the wrong people, but ultimately, she loves unconditionally and is very devoted and loyal.

She was a little isolated so she didn't have the opportunity to make a lot of friends, but she does love her family (her Aunt and Uncle who are essentially her adoptive parents and her cousin, David, who is more like a little brother to her) and the friends she has had the opportunity to make (Henry, Finesse, William, Letoile, Most of the Golden Dawn, and eventually, the Black Bulls) very much. When she has children one day, she will love them unconditionally as well (and her beloved niece and nephews (David's kids) as well).

Agape 1 -- Does your OC wish to make the world a better place? How far do they see that as being their responsibility? What lengths would they go to in order to help achieve this?

I would say yes, but I don't think Lorelei thinks of it in such broad and idealistic terms as "making the world a better place." Since she is more much of a relationship-oriented person rather than a goal (or ideals)-oriented person, her dream is more to make the lives of the people she cares about better and/or to make her loved ones happy. It's not that she doesn't want the whole world to be better--it's just that her dreams and her way of thinking is much more immediate and closer to home. Lorelei isn't a magic knight, and it was never her dream to be one. She doesn't have a lot of ambitions or big dreams of making a difference to the whole kingdom or the whole world (like David), but she does feel very strongly about helping those who are around her and making a difference in her own community. In that way, her way of making the world better is through small, grassroots acts of kindness and making little but meaningful differences in the lives of individuals through being generous, kind, joyful, and helpful. She believes that even something as seemingly insignificant as showing someone kindness or trying to brighten someone's day, could make a big difference and impact and does make the world better, even if it's not on as big a scale as say what a magic knight would be capable of. In Lorelei's mind, not everyone gets the chance or opportunity to change the whole world, but that's okay because there are small things that everyone can do like being kind and compassionate to others that do help make the world a better place.

Ludus 1 -- Does your OC have any particular favourite chat up lines? If not for themselves then perhaps ones they have suggested to a friend? How effective do these tend to be?

While Lorelei is very in-tune to the emotions, feelings, and hearts of others, she is a bit oblivious when it comes to flirting that is directed at her, so I think if someone actually hit on her (even if they used an obvious line) she wouldn't quite pick up on it and would take it a bit literally. [i.e. If someone used the line "Did it hurt when you fell from Heaven?", she'd probably get confused and try to reassure them that she didn't fall and that she is okay, "so please don't worry"😂]. Cheesy pickup lines tend to make her giggle, in general, I think, and I think she must prefers when people just want to have a normal conversation and show a genuine interest in her and her company.

The go-to advice that she always gives David is just to be himself and speak from his heart. She gets a little bit frustrated with him sometimes and thinks his biggest problems arise when he pretends to be disinterested or tries too hard to be aloof or charming. She insists he'd have better luck in love (and wouldn't have to keep coming to complain to his big sister) if he would be a little more sincere. In her personal life, she definitely takes this to heart and tends to find someone who is awkward but sincere more endearing as a potential romantic partner than someone who is suave and charismatic but disingenuous.

She tends to be pretty friendly so she'll chat with pretty much anyone about anything, but the quickest way to her heart is definitely to ask her about music, her family, or her beloved canary, Dot.

Ludus 2 -- Is your OC particularly skilled at flirting? Have they had to practice this or does it just happen naturally?

Lorelei is a very bubbly and friendly person which does make her very warm and approachable by nature and can definitely lend itself to flirting. That said, she is much better at flirting if she isn't thinking about it and is just taking a natural, sincere interest in this other person and is genuinely enjoying her beloved's company. If she purposefully tried to flirt, I can imagine she might psych herself out a little bit and end up more awkward than she would have been otherwise.

(A/N: She is nowhere near as awkward as Henry, however, so next to him she definitely looks like some sort of flirting master even at her most awkward 😁).

#black clover oc: lorelei #black clover oc #lorelei swallow #7 Loves OC Ask Game #thank you for playing! #oc ramblings #laura 🧡

[eposerta]

☾ ⋆･ﾟ:⋆･ﾟ below the cut are some plots that i think would be fun , or at least entertaining enough . open to all mutuals just ... idk hit the heart and i'll slide my way into your dms ! i 'd love to build on these dumb little snippets i wrote and most of them are fitting for platonic / romantic dynamics depending on the vibes .

main verse :the mentor  renata byun is in hiding , she's still trying to figure out who she is , what she's doing , and knows that she is supposed to hide from the angels , but doesn't understand why . main verse : the hunter / the hunted :  this character is one of the many hunting for renata for what she is , she may not know it right away , but it's a conflict ( there could be a platonic/romantic twist too )

main verse : the human who finds out her secret . ren doesn’t openly use her abilities , definitely doesn’t tell people what she is , but this person finds out and it can go in plenty of directions . any verse :  opposites attract .this can be romantic or platonic ,  ren is the more soft and kind type , but she needs someone who will remind her to grow a backbone , challenge her , and is also more the opposite of her in personality ( honestly i’m extremely weak for these dynamics for ren , because she can be super spicy , she just needs to be comfortable first )

apocalypse : fellow survivors , they likely don't know what ren is ( but they could ! ) , but if they do it could be fun to have them work together to try and fix things

college / criminal verse : close friends , they could have gone to college with ren before she transferred to be closer to home

crime verse : her boss . ren works for a crime family and perhaps they did her the favor of paying off the loan shark that was harassing her for the money her foster father owed before he passed away , and perhaps he has a beautiful arboretum / garden and considering how good she is at her job , it seems to be a perfect fit .

fae verse : the confidant - ren is a fae princess based on the ‘ spring ‘ kingdom . her position in the royal family has been kept a secret for her safety as her sister was crowned queen at six years old . this confidant is well aware of who she is , and they have a very close bond .

fae verse : the secret lover - with her secret close , this person could either be a part of her personal guard , who is well aware of her position or someone who has no idea who ren is to the kingdom , they could also be from another kingdom leaving them more in the dark .

hybrid verse : the hunter -  a witch turned into a vampire and virtually lost her mind , going on a murder rampage , this will likely cause some hunters to find & kill her . bonus points if they realize that maybe she can be snapped back to reality and function in a non murderous way.

royalty verse : see fae verse plots , except in this verse she is human - could be modern or any place in time .

sanctuary verse : the close friend - while ren was oblivious to everything going on within sanctuary , she did have a handful of friends ( most of them were children of equinox employees etc ) growing up . eventually , she would escape but perhaps they find each other again ( this verse is ship exclusive with @mythous )

witch verse : a guiding hand of sorts , this person is helping her understand her power , they could be part of the same coven , or whatever wolf verse : the hunter - this person had a hand in the murder of her pack , probably very antagonistic .

wolf verse : the new pack - having been on her own for some time , she’s found by a new pack and assimilates well . bonus points if someone from this new pack is the reason that she survived the attack on her previous one

#lil plot things #but yeah these are kind of basic but good starting points #but also not necessarily the only plots i want #i just wrote this up at a stupid hour

[faithandfairies]

Supernatural Musings; The Human Condition 2

I came across an interview question and answer from the Supernatural cast regarding Destiel that kind of made me want to clarify my own views on Destiel.

I don’t usually watch interviews/content of real people anymore just because they are real people and I prefer to deal with characters and their actions that I can interpret myself. I don’t really need actors and whatnot telling me how to feel about the things I like.

But I ended up coming across this and I think that this is important to address. 

People are...uncomfortable with the idea of Dean and Cas having sex. That is what it comes down to.

And I am not surprised. 

This show started out as every dudebro’s wet dream. I mean, fighting monsters (like in a video game) and being rewarded for saving the female damsel in distress by said ‘hot’ female damsel having sex with you. I mean, come on.

What turned that entire concept on its head was the introduction of Castiel. Because for a change when one of the brothers needed saving, it wasn’t the other brother who came to his rescue as had been the case up to that point. Turning the damsel in distress trope on its head.

And what’s more, Dean had never really had anyone looking out for him that wasn’t his brother who in his mind probably had to. Hell, he’d rarely had anyone looking out for him at all. He was the caregiver. That was his role.

Then, in traipses this angel who initially saves him because he has his own father giving him orders to do so, inadvertently pushing Dean into the role of Sam. And then this angel just continues to save him and show up for him and stay by his side even without orders from up high to do so as time passes. And as time passes it becomes increasingly obvious that this angel’s actions are very obviously driven by his love for Dean. And Dean reciprocates the love and trust and bestows his highest honor on Cas by season 6. That of family. And there’s sexual tension whether people want to see it or not. 

Fun fact, people who know they have found the person they want to marry/spend their life with often call that person family. In Castle for instance, in a romantic relationship between a man and a woman, that’s how you know that those two are it for each other. And if Dean and Cas had been a relationship between a man and a woman, it would have been confirmed romantic by the end of season 5, if not earlier. That’s the truth of the matter. 

[Technically it was confirmed romantic by the end of season 6 but it was always done in a joking manner that could easily slip through the cracks for someone who couldn’t/didn’t want to see it.]

The thing is that people cheapen Castiel’s love for Dean by only equating it to him wanting to have sex with Dean. And then immediately following it up with disgust related to sex between two men and with it these two men. Which saddens me.  Because it’s not just about sex. It’s about all the little ‘tropes’ that constitute a romantic relationship on-screen whether they ever even lock lips or not.

And I know I have talked about Dean and Cas possibly having sex. And me assuming they might have already. Even if it’s more likely that they haven’t. But I’ve talked about it because it’s something I wouldn’t mind. Sex is meant to be a celebration of love and it’s not the way all two non-related people who love each other would want to celebrate loving each other. Of course. But it is a valid way.

And Cas might want to sleep with Dean, he certainly seemed curious enough about sex, but the truth is we don’t know. And even if they did, with how reserved both Cas and Dean are, given Cas is an angel and all the personality traits that entails and the way Dean was raised, I would expect Cas and Dean’s romantic relationship to be quite reserved. At least in public. Who they are is why I’ve said before that I wouldn’t expect the romantics to take place completely openly in the forefront.

Of course, the show never confirmed Dean’s romantic feelings for Cas. We know that Dean loves Cas, but it was never confirmed that those feelings were romantic as well the way Cas’ were. And I think Dean spent those last episodes processing. That Cas loved him. The way that Cas saw him that was so different from how he saw himself. That Cas wanted him as a romantic partner. That he could have had a romantic happy ending with Cas. That he lost not just Cas but that shot at more if that’s what he wanted. And then he probably had to work through whether that was what he wanted. Because it’s entirely possible that he had feelings for Cas but never looked at them too closely. Or that he never thought about it because it never occurred to him that it was a possibility until Cas made him realize that it was. I assumed Dean returned those romantic feelings even if he was still processing that entire confession and where he stood in relation to it.

I think that Dean might want to sleep with Cas simply because Dean’s sexuality was such a big part of his personality from the start of the show. When everyone assumed he was straight it was established that Dean loves and enjoys sex and pretty much sees it as a celebration of life. Of course, we only ever saw him go for casual sex with women. But when it became apparent that Dean and Cas loved each other and it was suspected to be romantic, it meant that they were never going to be able to avoid the topic of sex in relation to Destiel. 

And also, when people ‘ship’ characters, sex and fanfiction are just a part of that. Fanfiction shouldn’t be read by those people who don’t want that relationship to happen. Because it isn’t for them. Of course, actually good fanfiction really only became a thing right around the time that Supernatural was airing and Destiel became a thing. So people already thought it was new and weird and then it also happened to center around queer pairings that didn’t or hadn’t happen(ed).

But the way that the possibility of sex between Dean and Cas is talked about by people who really don’t want them to have it, is...so very creepy. And makes me want to take several showers.

And it brings me back to GAP: The Series. Because people who make queer content have historically made queer sex all kinds of creepy, when it really isn’t and shouldn’t be. GAP is one of the first shows I’ve seen where two people of the same sex are just allowed to like each other and feel good about liking each other. It doesn’t take itself too seriously and you really get to see those two characters feel their attraction to each other and kind of pause and go “Huh, that’s...unexpected” without it being creepy. 

But it’s always those people who don’t understand something who end up making it weird in their effort to make it fit inside of what they do understand or in order to give themselves permission to condemn it.

What it comes down to for me is “Think romantic Destiel exists. Or don’t. There’s nothing wrong with either point of view. We’re all out here interpreting shit however it makes sense to us. Just don’t make people feel bad about how they see things if the way they see things doesn’t hurt anyone. And may actually help some.”

#supernatural #destiel #castiel #dean #spn

[dragonsarecats]

What are your top 3 paired endings for each of the three lords?

Oh my god!!! Okay, okay, okay...I love so many of the endings that I'm gonna cut Byleth endings from the books to give them a bigger chance.

Let's start with Edelgard! Lysithea is an obvious choice I think, even if I prefer her as a deer, it does manage to be a pretty healing ending for the both of them. Not only does Edelgard manage to reform the system that hurt her with Lysithea's help, but she manages to recover some of what she's lost (her life span) and is able to devote her life to the work that matters so much to her. I additionally really like her ending with Dorothea. I think it's exactly the sort of thing both of them need to enjoy living in this new world. Dorothea, a world where a commoner like her and wheedle harmless frivolities out of the emperor, and Edelgard, to live in a world where she can allow harmless frivolities to be out of her control. The genuine admiration they have for each other is really clear here. Last but not least...I'm a sucker for her ending with Hubert! Although Hubert states clearly that his feelings for Edelgard are romantic, I personally enjoy that the ending leaves it up in the air. They're life companions, and I don't need much more explanation then that. While I enjoy Edelgard's ability to keep being emperor in the previous two, I do think there is something special about Edelgard being able to place down her crown and her and Hubert retreating into private. They deserve a rest. My honorable mention for Edelgard is Bernadetta's. It's hilarious and I adore them. If I was choosing one of these three options in a play through (not considering the endings of any other characters) I'd probably choose Dorothea's.

Onto Dimitri! Similarly to Edelgard I gotta put the Vassal ending in my top three, lol. I think Dimitri's ending with Dedue is incredibly sweet and also, very Faergus lol. It really means a lot to me that Dimitri's true, great ambition is to ensure Dedue's home is properly restored. Cannot believe they were buried together it genuinely is heart wrenching. On a separate note--I think it's very interesting that many of Dimitri's endings discuss his death. Speaking of, Felix! I love Felix and Dimitri's relationship, it's very complicated in a lot of good and bad ways. The inherent homoeroticism in knowing someone so well you can see the worst of them and are openly disgusted with them and how they hide (they're nice to you?? why bother.) it and yet to still, without fail, follow them when the "monster" sees the light of day. Because you always knew it was there and chose to follow it anyway. Their relationship is super interesting; really shows Felix has an unconditional love for Dimitri that just fucking burns him up inside. Love that for them. Last but not least--Marianne! I'm not quite sure if she's a niche pick or not, but, I really enjoy the quiet happiness they bring to each other in this ending. Marianne and Dimitri as characters have a lot in common and I like the idea of them finding solace in each other. Of these three if I was choosing an ending... probably Dimitri and Dedue.

Time for Claude! Despite being a non-traditional vassal, her status as one sort of automatically puts her on this list. This one is mostly here because of their support chains rather then the ending itself, which is cheating, lol. I think it means a lot that Claude talks about his family openly with Hilda von Goneril of all people, and it similarly means a lot that Hilda would openly work hard in order to ensure that when she and Claude get married she would help foster good relations between their countries. She and Claude are incredibly close and it's great to see the lengths with which two characters which such deliberate personas openly go against them. After Hilda is Lysithea. I'll be honest, Lysithea just has so many good endings, everyone really would change their life completely for her and they're correct. I enjoy Claude and Lysithea's ending because of the way it shows a clear difference in Claude and Lysithea's respective devotion to one another verseus their devotion in other endings. Finally, and unsurprisingly, Lorenz. I've talked about it multiple times, but I really do think the fact that Claude and Lorenz's ending is so comprising yet uncompromising is so inherently romantic? The way the Alliance no longer exists but Lorenz is still, symbolically, taken over Claude's role as the Duke and is uncharacteristically looking towards foreign democracy? The way Claude unhesitatingly leaves Fodlan directly in Byleth and Lorenz's hands, placing half of his dream into them and trusting them to help him fulfill it? The way they aren't equals but finally are? God, I love them. If I was picking one of these endings to chose...probably Lorenz's, tbh. A lot of poetic satisfaction in it.

Anyways, as I typed this out I realized my top non-Byleth endings were all very distinct from one another in how it affected the Lord? Although Dimitri's do all end with him dying, whoops. It's more evident in Edelgard and Claude who, are by nature, more radical then their blue counterpart lol. When playing the game, though, I'd definitely romance all three Lords as Byleth.

#fe3h #twila answers #claude von riegan #dimitri alexandre blaiddyd #edelgard von hresvelg #will say i am a huge fan of felix “widower at thirteen” hugo fraldarius #i don't even SHIP felix and dimitri!!! but they've certainly got something going on and it drives me insane!!! #what are they putting in the water in farghus all these people are truly insane for dimitri lmao

[bestastrologyblog]

How can astrology solve all love problems?

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Having open and honest discussions about your expectations for the future.

Finding common ground and areas of compromise.Accepting that some differences may be deal-breakers for the relationship.External factors: Sometimes, love problems are influenced by external factors, such as family or work-related stress. In such cases:

Support each other through challenging times.Set boundaries to protect your relationship from external stressors.Seek external support, like therapy or counselling, if necessary.

Falling out of love: If you or your partner feel like you've fallen out of love, it may be helpful to:

Reflect on what initially attracted you to each other.Consider whether the relationship is worth salvaging.Seek guidance from a relationship counsellor or therapist.Remember that every relationship is unique, and the solutions that work for one couple may not work for another. It's essential to communicate openly, be willing to work on the relationship, and, in some cases, seek professional help to address love problems effectively.Marriage problems can be challenging, but there are several steps you can take to work towards a solution and improve your relationship. Here are some tips to address common marriage issues marriage astrology free.

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[pluto-the-chinchilla]

I don’t think anyone will read this and I doubt I’ll get anything Pride related on the main blog in time for this month. I’m gonna share my OCs sexualities.

Ms. Enswell is a bisexual woman. She’s never dated a woman and she’s in love with a man, but she finds herself admiring the fem staff of the WVBA more and more as well as her classmates at her capoeira lessons. Her adoptive mother and father are very supportive, but it’s taken until now in her early thirties just to wear a pin. Her bio family was catholic and said abhorrent things about the community and even after getting saved from that household there was a lot of internalized hate. She’s never been cruel to others in the community it felt repulsed by them, but also felt ashamed at being unable to join them. She’s never attended anything Pride related herself because she feels like she hasn’t earned the right to count.

Nurse Shio is a straight ally, but her twin brother was gay. She’s at best a biiiit flexible but overall she’s just a humble ally who genuinely ti this day can’t understand the grounds for hate.

Blood Eagle isn’t sure if he would fall under bi or pan, but he’s also definitely Demi (sexual and romantic.) In order to get involved he needs the intimate history of talking, bonding, connecting. He’s not interested in dating, but if he finds himself connecting with someone it’ll consume his thoughts until he acts in it. He’s afraid of losing his individuality and his alone time. He loves people in small doses and wouldn’t know what to do with himself. He has been intimate with men, women, and outside of the binary but just hasn’t felt that click.

Toddy is pansexual. He just lives people and used to be prone to developing crushes regularly. When he was living on Hippo Island he tried dating a guy and girl each, but it was usually the highly revered non-binary Hippoans who astounded him most. As many people have already figured out, Toddy is hopelessly enamored with Heike Kagero. Toddy's not hopeful of ever having his feelings reciprocated however due to their communication and because he's well aware that he doesn't meet the beauty standards that Heike is used to from his own homeland.

Vivian Chatworthy is a transwoman. I was really elated about this one because it was in my head the entire time I was creating her, but I was afraid of being honesty about it for over a year. She's amab, did not have an easy upbringing at all. Her mother rejected her, her father could never truly understand her but tried to and even stood by her when he refused to kick her out of the house like his wife wanted to. She lost him to tragedy right on the cusp of adulthood, used the inheritance to take off to the states to reinvent herself... met the love of her life who, also didn't fully understand, but made more of an attempt than her father did and with information becoming more available over time she was more understood and was able to fully physically transition. It's not a well known fact about her, but she allows for it to just be an open secret. If you know, you know. If you know anything it's that she's loudly supportive alongside her husband and their LGBT child.

Francisco Featherweight is... my least favorite character. He's bisexual but almost kind of prefers identifying as gay. I'm not very interested in him, but he has a particularly difficult home life. He's a gay man into defying typical gender norms, he's into makeup and styling clothing from the womens section, he miiiiiight have a history as a male stripper, and his father is... cruel to him about it. He has a cruel family. His family openly lambast him online. He's having a good time with his fame but he has a bit of an attitude and can be entitled to things and people at time because he does feel he deserves things to go his way at this point in his life. He'll get better I think. Honestly just writing this makes me more sympathetic towards him.

One of Toddy's younger sisters turns out to be a lesbian later down the line (I'm pretty sure Tepache) whereas the other is straight and asexual.

And finally, Moira Ryan, Aran's twin sister... is a closeted lesbian who is deeply in denial. She dated Narcis Prince for over a year and it ended horribly - they do not like one another at all and are both very resentful of one another. It's an issue even Aran won't touch with a fifty foot pole. Moira is deeply attracted to some of the girls on the WVBA staff, but doesn't have a planned ship or a specific crush at this time. She's afraid of coming out because she doesn't want her parents to treat her the way they treat her brother. She still tries dating other men, entering relationships with male influencers who keep up with the WVBA, but deep down all she wants is just for a woman to hold her away from the general public. She's just ready for anyone to know, she's not even ready to be honest with herself. Aran of course has no idea and her dating Narcis feels more like a slight towards him, hooking up with his nemesis.

#Ask the WVBA spoilers - ocs

[honeyleesblog]

libra and cancer soulmates

Libra and Malignant growth Nature and Subtleties:

Two delicate spirits Libra and Malignant growth meet one another: the enthusiastic Libra meets up with the timid Disease. Could they at any point prearrange a romantic tale for themselves?

Find out beneath:

Libra and Malignant growth Character Qualities:

The image of the seventh indication of the zodiac is an adjusting pillar. Libra people are very reasonable and get a kick out of the chance to keep up with the harmony in everything under the sun they're worried about. Those brought into the world under Libra make a good attempt to satisfy their friends and family and disdain harming anybody, be it intentionally or unconsciously. They are benevolent, delicate, and non-critical individuals.

Malignant growth is one of the most mindful and accommodating sun signs. Conceived fourth on the zodiac graphs, Cancerians are family-situated and are drawn to homegrown bliss. They are liberal, deferential and love to play a sustaining job in the development of their friends and family. The greatest positive of the crab is that it offers all that to its friends and family without expecting anything as a trade off.

Libra and Disease Love Similarity

Libra and Disease are both searching for a viable relationship that is secure and a bond that is dependable. They find both these things with one another and subsequently, have an incredible compatibility between them as better halves. Libra's appeal and feeling of equilibrium draws in the timid and genuinely unstable Disease, though the benevolent demeanor and caring nature of Malignant growth isn't lost on the previous.

There are sure contrasts in their characters that might compromise the life span of their relationship. In any case, in the event that these variations are maneuvered carefully, they can develop as people through their similarity with one another and fabricate an imposing bond together. Then, at that point, the connection between the Libra man and Malignant growth lady might have an extraordinary opportunity to prosper. This will be comparable on account of the coalition between the Disease man and Libra lady too for they also can encounter an incredible relationship in the event that enough consideration is given to understand each other.

Upsides and downsides of Libra and Malignant growth Similarity:

Experts of the Libra Malignant growth Relationship:

Disease likes to fabricate a home, while Libra likes to deck it with wonderful material belongings. This makes them cooperate in a state of harmony and complete one another in the most regular manner. Both the signs enjoy connecting with their accomplices and in this manner, will exceed everyone's expectations to keep each other blissful and fulfilled.

Malignant growth and Libra will function admirably socially and structure a couple that is regarded and venerated in the general public. They are the two accommodating people and will in this manner comprehend and uphold each other's propensities of putting on a veil openly. The two of them will give their time and exertion into making their relationship capability no sweat.

Cons of the Libra Malignant growth Relationship:

At the point when the Libra and Malignant growth truly do participate in a contention, causing some disruption in all probability. The profound Malignant growth won't function admirably with the uncertain Libra in a battle.

One more issue with their struggles is that they emerge just when the two of them can't bottle their indignation or disdain any further, which is the reason, it transforms into an explosion of gloomy feelings. Both Disease man and Libra lady as well as the other way around will generally avoid battles, and will accordingly wind up remaining quiet about their resentment in many events. Consequently, when they really do have a conflict, things can leave hand before long and lead to an extreme emotion circumstance.

The close to home reliance of Malignant growth could likewise be somewhat hard to take for the Libra, who likes to stay adjusted consistently.

[fuckyeahisawthat]

I'm just curious (still learning) at what point after 1100 AD would Joe and Nicky been in actual danger due to homophobia? At what point would they have to start lying to people about the nature of their amazing relationship, just to stay safe? Thanks!

(This is in reference to this post, in which I skimmed over like 900 years of sociological changes in identity formation in very very broad strokes.)

So. Here’s the thing. As “western” queer people in the modern world, I think we highly associate safety with being able to be out of the closet. Can I kiss my partner in public or walk down the street holding hands without fear of encountering hate speech or physical violence? Can I tell my friends, family and coworkers about my relationship without fear of social ostracization or economic consequences?

But that’s a very modern perspective. Between “pride parade!!” and “we will definitely be murdered if anyone finds out we are lovers,” there is...A LOT of space for different kinds of historical queer experience.

So it’s not so much that Yusuf and Nicolò could be safely “out of the closet” in 12th century Baghdad but not in 19th century London. It’s not quite as far from that as you might think. But they wouldn’t have thought about it that way.

In the first few hundred years of their existence, the Islamic world was...full of contradictions when it came to homosexuality. You had a strong taboo against adult men being the receptive partner in penetrative sex, but you also had poets--like, the most famous poets of their times--writing tons of homoerotic poetry about desiring young men and boys, and that was normal and even celebrated. (If you’re familiar with the sexual mores of ancient Greece...lots of similarities here.) You had clerics writing about how there should be harsh punishments for “sodomy,” but in practice in everyday life very, very few people were ever actually disciplined in the legal system for something like that. And other forms of sexual activity between men, like kissing and various forms of non-penetrative sex, were just...not a big deal. At the same time there was kind of an unspoken “don’t ask, don’t tell” social contract around sex between men. Like, we know this thing is definitely happening, and we’re not going to talk about it, and that’s what makes it socially acceptable to continue happening. So you can have a society that in the written, religious record looks fairly intolerant toward sex between men; in practice is actually quite tolerant; where everyone sort of knows things about certain people, but where no one is really “out” in the modern sense of the terms.

At the same time, pretty much everywhere in the world at this time but definitely in the Middle East, casual touch between men was much more normalized. Two men holding hands or linking arms when walking down the street, sitting pressed up next to each other, falling asleep with your head on your male companion’s shoulder...a whole range of things that look decidedly snuggly to our modern gaze would have been totally acceptable between friends of the same gender, and would not have been considered sexual in any way. (This is still true in much of the Middle East today.)

So you can easily imagine a scenario where, like, Nicolò is lounging with his head on Yusuf’s shoulder, eating dates and listening to some saucy Abu Nuwas poem being recited, and then they go back to their private quarters and they have as much sex as they want. Are they “out”? Not really. Is anyone bothering them about how they’re living their lives? Not in the slightest. Do some people in that room see them and know? Probably, but that’s their private business and we’re not gonna talk about it. Frankly that sounds like a pretty sweet existence for a 12th century queer.

To be fair, they have a few advantages. They’re men, which means no one will really question them traveling together, without wives or families. They can easily say they’re friends or business partners and no one will really give it a second thought. I’m sure having to break off contact with their families was sad, but it’s also the case that there’s no one around asking when they’re going to get married to a woman and have children so we have someone to inherit the family business. It gives them a kind of freedom that a lot of other queer people around them wouldn’t have had.

I think once they meet up with Andy and Quynh, they do do things like pretending to be two married couples traveling together. But that’s more because of sexism, because two unmarried women traveling with two men who were not their husbands would turn some heads.

In Europe at the time, Christian theology is pretty not-into all kinds of non-procreative sex, but sex between men is not necessarily viewed as a worse sin than, say, masturbation, or sex between men and women out of wedlock. And it’s like, a category of sin that a lot of people are doing all the time, so if you were to confess such a thing to your local priest, you would be told to do penance but the consequences would be fairly mild. And many of the same things regarding casual touch hold true. Various rituals of kissing, including men kissing men on the mouth, are used as greetings, to seal contracts, and as part of mass.

Medieval Europe also had a concept variously called passionate, romantic, or chivalric friendship--close relationships between two people of the same gender that could be long-lasting, physically affectionate, emotionally intense in a way we would today read as romantic, and (allegedly) celibate. Were some of these passionate friendships actually queer relationships with a sexual component that just wasn’t talked about? Probably. Were some of them what we would define as queerplatonic or homoromantic asexual relationships today? Probably. Is it even useful to try to stuff these experiences into modern relationship categories? Debatable. The point is...the borders between what was defined as friendship, romance and love were different. Two men who traveled together, slept in the same bed, shared resources, were emotionally intimate with each other, and otherwise entwined their lives would not necessarily have been assumed to be sex partners in medieval Europe. And (I think this is the important part) Yusuf and Nicolò would not necessarily have seen being perceived as passionate friends as “hiding” the true nature of their relationship or as assigning some lesser value to it.

In terms of how they are perceived in public, I think things really don’t start to change until the early 20th century. It’s a gradual process, but over the first half of the 20th century, more or less, affectionate touch between men becomes defined as “gay” and a mainstream (straight) masculinity that is concerned with defining itself as “not gay” emerges. Affectionate touch, and then any show of loving emotion between men, gradually becomes less and less acceptable, to a degree that probably seems absurd to two 900-year-old Mediterraneans. (The absurdity is really well-expressed in the van scene, which is literally like “Bro is it gay to [checks notes]...express concern about the well-being of the person you were just violently kidnapped with?”)

Like, on the one hand, you have queer people talking openly about their sexuality in ways that were not an option at earlier times in their lives. But at the same time you have to be careful holding hands walking down the high street now because someone might chuck an empty beer bottle at you. Must’ve been a real wild transition for them.

#the old guard #long post #joe x nicky #nicolò di genova #yusuf al kaysani #queers through the ages #asks answered #graceundersunshine

[captnjacksparrow]

Dear Sparrow, You have really amazing analytical skills and your detailed knowledge about the Naturoverse is just as impressive! It's always so interesting to read your posts and I value your opinion a lot. Now to my question... How would a realistic romantic relationship between Naruto and Sasuke look like in our eyes?

I'm not really interested in knowing who is seme and who is uke, but what their couple dynamic would look like? What would be their struggles? What would they talk about?

For example, what if Naruto wanted a family and Sasuke didn't. Would Naruto -as a Hokage- be hesitating on sending Sasuke on dangerous missions? What are their plans for the future?

Or how would they search for/react to/display/intimacy? Would they stay closeted (like they kinda are in Boruto XD)? Or would they be openly gay and live with each other? How would each of them react to homophobia towards them? I'm curious about your head canon! ♥️

Thank you so much for your compliments @itsmischiefsblog 😍😍😍

But you asked the wrong person!!!! LOLOL.... I’ve never read any SNS fanfiction so far  to even base my headcanon upon (except for 1 which had just 3 chapters and I just started 1 very recently)

But,

I can say you one thing. 

As you know very well that I treasure SNS ship a lot, A LOTTTTTT..... So I won’t just compare this ship with anything so easily. And if I do, which means it’s really worthy. I came to ship SNS only because Naruto and Sasuke’s interaction always reminded me of this other Ship I loved a lot before watching Naruto. 

And after finishing Naruto, I came to this conclusion that If Naruto and Sasuke were allowed to be together, then probably they will display their love very similar to the other Couple I loved. Because culturally they share the same value and the world is Ancient. Just like Naruto series has Chakra, they also have Spiritual Energy in their abdomen. 

And also, the Couple shares the same dynamics with SNS... That is, One is a  Bright, Cheerful, Messy, Prank loving Bubble and the Other is an Unexpressive, Stern, Elegant, Intense loving Heart-throb.... 

Oh by the way, in this Dynamics everything is similar to SNS except for One.... What happens if Sasuke stayed in the Light Path and Naruto went to the Dark Path??? What will Sasuke do for Naruto?? 

If that interest you, then this series will be for you.

I suggested this series to another SNS Blogger Friend of mine @seraphina-herondale ❤️❤️❤️❤️ Now she is Brainrotting and Gushing over this couple so badly.... Because they are very similar to SNS and has more Fluffs, many subtle Intimate moments and extremely good chemistry....

If you want to know my Head Canon.... You have to watch this series and I am sure you will never regret it!!!

Not to mention, Just like SNS has SNS toys, pens, mugs, perfumes and many other merchandise.... That couple also has a lot of merchandise and is extremely popular. It was based on a BL Novel and got adapted into Anime as well as Live Action Series... Live Action is what I am talking about.... It also has a Chibi Version of Anime as well....  

Novel has all the ‘Hot’ contents towards the very end.... But Live Action has passed that couple off as Soulmates because of Censorship... But still the Show Creators had found a round-about way to make the couples Marry on-screen indirectly in our plain-sight.... LOLOLOL...  Just like how Rikkudou Sennin made an unofficial Marriage for SNS.... 

If you ever decided to give this amazing series a try.... I suggest you to start with the Live Action, then Novel, Anime, Chibi-Anime.... In this particular order... Because Live Action has no Adult Contents and so Pure just like in Naruto Manga.... It will really make you gush over them a lot and then if you want to really know how they ‘Get together’, you can read the Novel linked here..[Link]

That series Name is The Untamed (Chen Qing Ling),based on the Novel named Mo Dao Zu Shi, available in Netflix, Viki Rakuten or in WeTV app. Please don’t google or Youtube to spoil yourself.... Just Go straight to Netflix and Watch it.... 

Anyways, I would like to provide you some Teaser in order to show you the similarities they share with SNS .... Just only few.... there are a lot actually...

BONDED UNDER THE MOONLIGHT

Both couples Bonded under the Moonlight... Actually The Untamed Showrunners mentioned in their interview that they decided to capture that scene under moonlight to provide a ‘Romantic Effect’..... LOL... Am sure Kishi must have thought that way way back in 1999..... 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍

GOOD MATCH

Both the characters are so happy over the fact that they found their ‘Match’.... ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

WHO AM I TO YOU?

The situation is mindbogglingly similar... Naruto asked that Question when Sasuke is trying to avoid him and going towards that dark path.... This person also asks this same question when the other person was avoiding him and going towards Darkness....😔😔😔😔😔😔😔

OUTSIDERS

Both the respective characters, after getting into the Darkness, actively trying to push their Light.... By using the same term.... ‘Outsiders’..... Ooooof!!!!! 💔💔💔💔💔💔💔

I AM TAKING YOU BACK TO...

Both these characters represents Light... They want to take their Bae into the place where they live.... In Naruto, it’s Konoha (Leaf Village).... In The Untamed, it’s Gusu (Cloud Recesses)

CRADLING MY BAE

Aren’t they adorable, warm and tender????? 

YIN AND YANG

Just like how Sasuke represents Yin in Naruto.... The Person who is very similar to Naruto represents Yin in The Untamed.

Aren't they all similar????

So, Please don't google about this and try to watch it without any spoilers because the plot is equally captivating as our Main Characters’ chemistry.... Lots of Angst, Tears, Brotherly sentiment, Brother-Sister Bond, no annoying Female Characters.... And Don't just watch it for the fluff stuffs because the story and romance is like Yin and Yang... You really have to pay attention to the story to understand their Bond. 

First 2 episodes might be hazy... because the story is Non-Linear... But don’t drop it.. Starting from Episode 3 you will really get into the Flashback and then later you will understand what First 2 episodes are all about... 

So, Yeah!!!! The Tagline itself touts them as Soul Mates... 

This is my Head Canon about the Adult version of SNS... And the Actors are really handsome and talented enough to portray our Naruto and Sasuke in a Soulful Manner with such Tenderness. 

After watching this series, even if you have a shred of doubt that Naruto and Sasuke may be Brothers.... it will all fly off to the trash Can because, the show clearly distinguished how Brothers would Act around each other and how Soulmates act in a subtly Romantic Way. I wish those Antis watch this series and understand the meaning of Soulmates & SNS... That’s only my wishful thinking...

[[I am not saying one ship is better than the other ship.... All I am saying is One Couple resembles the Other and I love them in my own way, equally]]

The Main Couple in The Untamed are Officially Gay (in Novel) and Soulmates (in The Live Action Series). If they are Gay and Soulmates, then so is SNS.  

#sns #sasunaru #narusasu #sasunarusasu #chen qing ling #the untamed

[queer-and-dear-books]

Title: The Charm Offensive

Author: Alison Cochrun

Genre: Fiction | Romance | Friendship | Drama | “Reality” TV | LGBTQ+

Content Warnings: Homophobia | Biphobia | Racism | [All from one character]

Overall Rating: 9.9/10

Personal Opinion: The Bachelor but make it gay. No, this doesn’t mean one guy dating multiple men. This means the bachelor falls in love with his male handler and they embark on this thrilling, romantic ride of an adventure while on the show. Every moment made my heart swell in the best way possible and in the end, I had fallen for Dev and Charlie as well. As I’m sure you all would too. Them and their found family of queers.

Couple Classification: Dev Deshpande X Charles Winshaw = Nerd X Prep/Nerd

Do I Own This Book? I want to. One day.

Spoilers Below For My Likes & Dislikes:

Likes:

- Okay, I’ve only recently seen the appeal of reality TV with my brief fall into Big Brother. That being said, I still loathe the Bachelor franchise. I hate the heteronormative, toxic, female VS female storylines that they push and I hate the attention-seeking drama hogs that are cast every season. That is why this book is amazing. It completely subverts all those tropes by having an incredibly diverse cast and crew. I mean, we have the bachelor himself, the prince in this case, Charles Winshaw. He’s a tech mogul with a hot body who has severe anxiety and OCD. He’s also on the ace spectrum (probably) and gay (although he was repressed and didn’t even realize it). His love interest is his openly gay handler, Dev Deshpande who is desi and is suffering from depression. We have Jules Lu, Chinese and bi. We have Parisa Khadim, pan and brown. We have Skylar Jones, black and ace, with a non-binary partner. We have Ryan Parker who is the queer white guy. We have Angie and Daphne, the final two girls in the competition who are both queer! (Lesbian and bisexual respectively) And it was just so amazing watching this journey as Charlie and Dev fell in love and became this found family with everyone else.

- Charlie and Dev are just so adorable. They’re so patient and understanding with one another. When Charlie had his panic attacks, Dev was by his side. He never judged Charlie for his “quirks” and he paid so much attention to Charlie that he learned his coping skills like tapping out “calm” in morse code or breathing three times. He didn’t need Charlie to tell him those things. He just did everything he could to calm Charlie and accommodate his needs to make his experience on the show as pleasant and tolerable as possible.

- Likewise, when Dev had his depressive episode in Munich, Charlie stayed. When others left and were pushed away like Ryan and Jules, Charlie chose to stay. Because Charlie knew what it was like to push people away when all he wanted was for them to stay. And he was there for Dev every time. They knew when the other one was spiraling and instinctively went to look for one another when they were on set and it just made their chemistry so great to witness. It’s no surprise that literally all of their friends knew they were together.

- I love how this book strongly advocates for therapy and talking about how you don’t need to have your sexuality figured out at any specific point in time. For Dev, he was five. And for Charlie, he was twenty-eight. Both are okay and valid. And I love that they made each other feel valid. And for Dev, who was so afraid of being seen as not Fun Dev for going to therapy, I am so happy that Jules, Skylar, Parisa, and Charlie all talked about their own experiences in therapy to make him feel valid too.

- Okay, Dev flying Parisa out to be with her best friend on his birthday and Charlie flying out Leland Barlow, Dev’s favorite pop singer, to do a concert in Cape Town, South Africa, was just so sweet of them both! It made me feel so giddy too, just seeing them have fun at that concert especially after that big fight they had. Like Dev knew he was a dick and Charlie still did this for him all because of the depressive episode. I want a sugar daddy that will do that for me.

- And Charlie reading Dev’s entire script and loving it and telling Dev that it needs to be sold even though it’s about brown men falling in love is just so adorable and validating? I love that so much, especially as a writer. And the fact that Charlie realized his feelings after reading it was just so, so great! And the way he realized that his OCD wasn’t triggered when he was close to Dev and only Dev was just so sweet. Ugh, they’re just so fucking sweet!

- Their respective best friends are so funny and confident and I adore them. Jules and Parisa knew that their best friends were fucking and set them up at almost every turn. Parisa especially is hilarious and just brilliant. She was ready to sue Ever After for discrimination and became their new head of HR. She gave Charlie condoms, lube, and vividly drawn diagrams of anal sex. She is a queen on every level. And then we have Jules with that “practice date” idea and also pretending she couldn’t be his fake girlfriend so she can push the Dev/Charlie agenda.

- I knew that that ending was going to happen. I knew that they were going to slap all of the footage that they could find of Charlie and Dev together to create the first ever gay season. But just seeing the storyline the editors made actually play out was just so amazing. And getting to see Dev’s reaction for all 12 hours of it was just so pure. And the fact that Mark Davenport just rolled with the punches with his hosting and was essentially a huge fan of them finally just coming together was adorable! Because when Dev burst out on stage to apologize and also profess his love to Charlie, it honestly almost made me tear up. I wish it was real so that I could’ve watched it live.

- Dev’s boundless energy (when he’s not depressed) is so adorable. When he was happy and running through first-class on the airplane, when he was talking about falling in love in a boat, when he wanted to take photos of his version of Charlie to keep for himself, when he was arguing with producers for Charlie’s sake, I can absolutely see why Charlie fell in love. And when Charlie was drunk and talking about how Dev is the most beautiful man in the world and deflecting every gay man’s advance because he wanted them to know that Dev deserved to be loved far more than him, it just meant so much to me as someone with self-confidence issues too.

- Angie and Daphne are just so cool honestly. I love the girl power friendships on the show. And Angie is just a delight in general.

Dislikes:

- The only reason why this does not get a perfect score is due to a personal issue. I have beef with Dev. His reaction being to leave the show and ghosting all of his friends was just wrong. He could have just looked at any of their texts and realized he should’ve watched the show earlier. But no, he isolated himself. And for a guy trying to focus on his mental health, I just want to say pushing all of your fucking loved ones to the curb is not the way to do it. I am glad they all confronted him about it because fucking hell, I’d be so mad at him. And I’m glad he apologized to Charlie. But yeah, if Jules and Parisa beat the hell out of him, I would not have blamed them for that. He really ditched them all and his lovesick mentally ill lover too. Fuck. And his parents were watching Ever After and they just didn’t think to encourage him to watch too? I get they (and his therapist, Alex) were all trying to respect his boundaries but FUCK. Three whole months of radio silence and Charlie sent him a whole ass voicemail basically pouring his whole heart out and I just hated him for a solid four pages.

- Fuck Maureen Scott. She was the showrunner and she was just a monster. She really said, “I can’t be queerphobic, I hired all these queer employees.” And in that same breath, demonized Angie, a black bi woman. She said their next princess couldn’t be bisexual and that’s just so wrong. I’m glad she got fired and I’m glad the next princess ended up being lesbian. Let’s fucking go Daphne! I am actually less mad at Maureen than I am at Dev and the rest of the crew for never even trying to stand up to her in the past. Granted, they didn’t have the privilege and power that Charlie did as a cis white man with money but still. Well, at least Skylar admitted that they’d been complicit for too long. Charlie really pulled a power move at the end though when he got them to reedit and overhaul everything.

- I don’t know how I feel about Ryan. I do get why he broke up with Dev but damn, he really did act like a dick in the beginning. He didn’t even own up to it. He just let Dev be depressed and made no real effort to care about him. He claims he cares about Dev and didn’t want Dev to be in the closet for Charlie but he does not know how to be even a little empathetic toward people. He’s insensitive and abrasive and I wish we saw more of his caring side earlier.

- Fuck Megan too. And Delilah as well. And Maureen for sending them into Charlie’s room for that altercation. And also sending in that one boyfriend to just deck Charlie in the face. But I do love that we saw Charlie grow over the course of the show through that. He couldn’t speak up for that girl when her boyfriend was calling her slut but he spoke up against Delilah calling Megan “crazy.” And he later stood up to Maureen when literally no one else did. He had severe anxiety and he did that. He stuck to his morals and stuck to the love he had for Dev and I respect that so fucking much. Especially after all that Ryan said about him. I think that was the point Ryan realized that Charlie really was good for Dev.

- I’m still mad at Dev.

- Also a bit at Charlie and Dev for not getting together sooner. Like, I get why they couldn’t but the fact that they wouldn’t admit it wasn’t just practice sooner is just so mind-numbingly stupid to me. You’re telling me everyone else around them realized they were in love and they were out here just fervently making out and then going, “He doesn’t feel the same.” Then again, both of them somehow grew up thinking that they didn’t deserve love. Charlie I get after everything he’d gone through with his bigoted brothers and close-minded father and smug dudebro co-worker Josh Han. Dev, I get a lot less. So I am once again mildly mad at Dev. I just wish he would’ve reached out to Charlie or watched the damn show! I mean, I get why he refused to watch but his parents could’ve at least told him about the edit he was getting!

- I’m still mad at Dev for icing out Charlie like that. Charlie was just the sweetest  person and Dev just… UGH. But they were back together in the end and I am glad they are. I just wish the road to getting there hadn’t been so stupid.

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