#toxic masculinity tw

[sins-of-the-sea]

//I’ve read somewhere that in Jewish law, pre-marital fornication isn’t exactly frowned upon?? It’s mostly when an married wife fucks someone who isn’t her husband that gets everyone really pissy. And some homophobia there, but Phi is bisexual, he’s not shaming his brother for sleeping with men on principle. It’s how easy he is and how often he’ll go through partners like tissue paper.

Maybe one can blame his prudishness on the fact he was abused by his stepfather in an attempt to get him to convert to Catholicism, so at some earlier points of Phoebus’ life, he was raised under a bit of Catholic mentality despite trying to be faithful to his Jewish roots.

I don’t know if Pierre was particularly horrible to Guy was because of latent homophobia, as Guy is the one with a more traditionally masculine personality of the two brothers. Or maybe despite Phoebus’ more compliant disposition in childhood, he’s seen as the more feminine of the two. I don’t know. I don’t know what are French Catholic attitudes of the time and it probably shouldn’t matter anyway because Pierre left when the boys were six. It’s too soon to say if he left the family behind because of toxic masculinity or homophobia, especially considering the attitudes of both are not the same in 1500s France.

#homophobia tw #religion tw #toxic masculinity tw #I have to REALLY remember that historical France (or even modern France) is NOT at all culturally the same #when it comes to Christianity in the United States #[Atz'lut v' Ta'avah] #[About Phoebus] #[About Guy] #abuse tw #child abuse tw #antisemitism tw

[one-abuse-survivor]

im suoer concerned for my younger cousin. hes only 2, and his parents didnt actually want him (an accident). they call him multiple names that are horrible, called him a wimp when he had his blood taken and cried after, they taught him the nword, going around asking, "what colour are they?" to a literal human being, and not an object, they call him a f*g and gayboy all the time, and even slap him upside the head just because. literally no reason. he gets no comfort from them, hes expected to cry it out and be name called when he needs the comfort. dude it hurts my heart so much. i dont know how to help him. i think im just being selfish, as ik if i tell someone, theres a chance he will be taken away, and i wont get to see him again. (my other cousin got taken away and i never saw him again). im 18 and going off to uni in a few months, so whilst i understand, id rarely get to see him after uni starts anyway, i just dont know if im making the right choice by reporting them as idk if it really is abuse or just "one of those thinga" ifyk what i mean. ive reported my own abuse and it was a year long process of my parents hating me more and more, and the social services doing nothing but condoning my parents' behaviour. im so concerned for his mental health but im worried the social services would approach it the same way they did with me, and just make it worse for him rather than help him. i also really dont wanna be found out for reporting them, my family already hates me as ive been "falsely accusing" my dad of abuse. should i attempt to do something? or just leave it as it is, as interfering could make it worse? another thing that is stopping me is a very weird theory. ive slept at their house before (like a few months ago) and they were the opposite of how they act now (and back then) when they come to my house. theyre way more patient, and loving and actually talk to the kids. the theory is that theyre putting it on to impress my dad. "boys should be tough and manly, girls should be in the kitchen and quiet" that ideal is my dads mentallity so it makes sense why hed want to act like that infront of them. when im with them alone, they do really seem to care about their kids and love them and want to help them in all aspects of life. unless theyre then putting it on for me when i visit, and being truthful with my dad. im sorry for it all being all over the place, and i keep switching 'sides', its just super confusing for me lol. is it okay if i get your opinion on it?

Nonnie, I don't have words for how vile your cousin's parents' behaviour is. They are verbally, physically and emotionally abusing and neglecting a toddler. My heart hurts so much right now too. No one should have to grow up like this. No baby or kid deserves to go through even a second of this.

I understand why you're conflicted. It sounds like an incredibly complicated situation, especially if you've also seen them treat your cousins with love and patience in other moments. I can't imagine how much harder this must be to deal with having been through abuse yourself. And you're right: there is a chance that social services won't immediately fix things and your cousin will suffer because of it.

I want to make it very clear that you should always follow your own intuition and perception before my advice, because I'm not in this situation with you. I haven't met your family or interacted with the social services where you live.

That being said, this is my opinion, nonnie: it doesn't matter if they're loving toward your cousins sometimes. It doesn't matter whether their "genuine" parenting style is the one they show in front of your dad or the one they show when they're alone with you.

What matters is they've shown they're capable of verbally, physically and emotionally abusing their toddler. If you're capable of something like that, regardless of the circumstances, then there's little that will stop you from doing it again. Someone who truly wasn't willing to abuse their child would not do it, no matter how much they wanted to be liked by a family member. What's more: someone who wasn't willing to abuse their child would not want to impress an abuser.

Now, regarding whether you should report them, while there is a chance things will get worse for your cousin, I think you also have to take some time to consider if whatever may happen after you report them is worse than a childhood filled with abuse and neglect. Bad things might happen to him if you report, but the thing is, they are already happening right now. He's going through trauma right now every single time they hit him, insult him and leave him to cry. And I honestly think there's a very high chance he'll continue to go through trauma with his parents, because, as I said, people capable of being abusive once are more than likely to be abusive again.

I'm really sorry you've had so many problems with your family and social services. I hope things are better for you now and you're safe from your parents or on your way to being safe from them. I also hope my reply helps a bit. What your cousin is going through is indeed abuse, and his parents' motivations when hurting him don't negate the trauma he's going through.

Sending all my support your way ❤️ please don't hesitate to send me an update if you want or need to. Good luck with uni!

#ask #Abuse #Abuse tw #Child abuse tw #Racism tw #N slur #Slur tw #Homophobia tw #F slur #Abusive parents #Toddler abuse tw #Toxic masculinity tw #Neglect tw #Physical abuse tw #Emotional neglect tw #Verbal abuse tw #Sorry if my reply is also a bit all over the place—I wanted to reply quickly to this even if I'm not in the best headspace #Abusive father tw

[vanescos]

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[celluloidbroomcloset]

It's interesting that Izzy is the one who sees Ed's attraction to Stede first. Yes, Izzy is the closest to Ed, and he pays a lot of attention to Ed because that's part of his job. But it's clear from his voiceover at the start of "Art of Fuckery," and what happens with his character subsequently, that he's watching Ed very carefully for signs that he's slipping out of his Blackbeard persona, and more broadly, out of the performative masculinity that Izzy believes is the mark of a real man.

A lot has been said about Izzy's internalized homophobia, but it's a very complicated kind of homophobia - he doesn't fit the trope of the closeted gay man using homophobia to cover his sexuality. Izzy has no apparent problem with homosexuality - as Calico Jack says, it's more or less expected at sea. The form of his homophobia has more to do with gender presentation and sexual roles, not the concept of gay sex or attraction.

The two men on the Revenge he has the most immediate conflicts with are Lucius and Stede. To him, neither of them perform masculinity correctly, and both of them, in their own ways, refuse to participate in the masculine hierarchy he's steeped in.

Izzy's problem clicks for Lucius immediately, because Lucius is an out gay man who has undoubtedly met men like Izzy before. He's not ashamed of his sexuality or his presentation of it, and so he defies the hierarchy by explicitly refusing to participate.

Stede is more complicated because he's not out at all. Izzy calls Stede a "ponce" and a "fop," but neither word would necessarily imply that Stede's gay; being a fop is not equivalent to sexuality (though in "Act of Grace," Izzy's emphasis makes it clear that "twat" is standing in for a much stronger word). It is Stede's presentation of masculinity, his effeminacy, that Izzy finds repellent. Stede's not a "real pirate" (read: a real man). The idea that Ed - the man's pirate and the pirate's man - would be seduced by him upends Izzy's worldview and is something he feels he must put a stop to.

At the start of the "Art of Fuckery," Izzy's realization that Stede has "seduced" Ed is immediately followed by the stabbing scene, which Izzy overhears. I'm still not clear if we're meant to think that Izzy believes they're actually having sex on the deck, but regardless, it confirms the "seduction" for him.

This is the one clear time that we see things filtered through Izzy's perspective, with the episode literally starting with his voiceover. He's horrified by what he hears on deck, and the obvious sexuality connected to it, and he immediately insists that Ed kill Stede.

This is not a subtle show. The stabbing on deck is explicitly sexualized. Not only is Ed being "stabbed" by another man, he's being stabbed by an effeminate man. In Izzy's reading of the world, there are men who penetrate and men who are penetrated, men who dominate and men who are dominated, and those roles are aligned with masculine presentation. It would be fine for Ed to be stabbed by Calico Jack, a properly masculine man who understands the masculine hierarchy, but not by Stede.

Stede defies Izzy's categorizations by quite literally not understanding the role he's supposed to play in the first place. Stede's not humiliated by his shirt being cut off in "A Damned Man"; he says that he quite enjoyed it. Izzy's threats go right over his head in "A Gentleman Pirate" - he can't even remember Izzy's name. It doesn't occur to him to be scared or humiliated. He further upends Izzy's reading by treating Ed kindly. Ed can't bring himself to fulfill his role in the masculine hierarchy by killing (stabbing) Stede, and Stede sits down and offers him gentleness.

Stede throws Izzy's concept of masculinity out of whack by being an effeminate man who penetrates, a fop who seduces a "real man," and whom Ed sees no shame in asking to stab him. He's too fluid for Izzy to get a hold of. He doesn't just not participate in the performance of masculinity that Izzy wants from him; he doesn't even know that there's a performance going on.

Later in the episode, it's Izzy who stabs Stede, pinning him to the mast and re-establishing the masculine hierarchy - Stede is the one to be penetrated by a "real pirate." Then Stede just...breaks his sword. He did it on purpose. Izzy is effectively emasculated, but Stede doesn't even know it. He just knows that he "did it right."

What has thrown Izzy off is Stede's lack of participation in the masculine hierarchy. He doesn't know the rules that Izzy has been controlled by, and so he's not "doing it right." Being penetrated isn't inherently shameful. Penetrating isn't inherently about dominating or gaining power over. Stede's face when he stabs Ed is simply one of concern, because he's hurt him. He's not getting a sexual thrill out of harming Ed, and penetration doesn't equal power for him. Stede throws everything Izzy thinks he knows about masculinity overboard simply by existing.

(I think I've got more to say about how this all shifts in Season 2, and why that's so important to Izzy's arc, but I done wrote enough for now.)

#ofmd s2 #ofmd #our flag means death #stede bonnet #izzy hands #edward teach #gif #lucius spriggs #ofmd meta #tw: homophobia #ofmd season one #please please note that i'm not trying to make izzy into the big bad #this whole thing is so important to his arc #because he IS homophobic and he IS steeped in toxic masculinity and he breaks out of that in season 2 #it hurts him as much as it does anyone else #just in a different way

[raven-at-the-writing-desk]

am i dreaming

To all Ruggie stans, I’m so sorry 🤡 You did not deserve this…

***Warning: suggestive image referenced and toxic person mentioned below the cut!***

NOT INFAMOUS ASSHOLE AND MISOGYNIST ANDREW TATE’S TWITTER ACCOUNT POSTING A STOLEN RUGGIE YUME FAN ART AS A MEME 😭 AND NOW RUGGIE IS TRENDING BECAUSE OF THIS

By the way, this is the original post and the artist of the work he stole; please consider checking them out!! (The artist has responded to the stolen artwork with a quote retweet and a comment of their own.)

ADDENDUM: The artwork was stolen and posted on the artist’s birthday too??? They’re going through something this shitty on their special day… 😭 Let’s support them through this stressful time and beyond!!

Is this really the time line I’m living in?????

The post is even funnier (and stupider) because Ruggie, being a hyena beastman from the Sunset Savanna, is a species with dominant females… and Ruggie willingly does a bunch of housework (something Tate looks down on as “a woman’s job”)… and he’s from a country where women are strong and respected… AND THIS IS ALL HAPPENING RIGHT BEFORE THE RERUN OF VARGAS CAMP FOR EN?????? Bro, this was NOT the publicity Ruggie needed 😭

#twst #twisted wonderland #Ruggi Bucchi #twst en #twisted wonderland en #RUGGIE GET BEHIND ME #this is even more wild than the time Snoop Dogg posted a Pomfiore meme #tw // Andrew Tate #this man deserves his own trigger warning yes #disney twisted wonderland #notes from the writing raven #tw // misogyny #tw // toxic masculinity

[imallyoursssss]

put a pretty collar around my neck

tie my hands and legs

keep me on a leash

let me be your cute little puppy

#yandere #male yandere #yandere male #yandere boy #yandere boyfriend #yandere blog #toxic traits #toxic behavior #toxic masculinity #obssesive #obsessed love #obsessive love #obsessive thoughts #obsessive yandere #tw obsessive behavior #lovesick #obsessive love disorder #bdsmblog #sadist dom #dominate me #bd/sm sadist #psychopath #psychopathic abuse #abuse k1nk #yandere vent #possessive love #gore lover #yandere darling #yandere x darling #darlingcore

[goobtacular]

Be warned, longish mini essay about the Netflix Daredevil show from someone who hasn't finished season 1.

I think the similarities between Daredevil and Kingpin go hard. Both have very similar motivations and backstories. Ironically, Kingpin has a more traditionally good backstory. His harsh taskmaster was his father, and he rose to defend his mother, killing him in the process. But throughout the whole process, the torment of his father's rule, and dealing with the aftermath, he is in the company of his mother.

There is one thread throughout Wilson Fisk's life: he always has a companion. Not someone who can order him around, not always someone he can order, but always someone he is above in some way, and always someone who plays the role his mother did. Before he meets Vanessa, he has his assistant who chooses his meals, plans his itinerary, and is part of every difficult choice or conversation he must have.

Even Vanessa is, unfortunately, put into that mothering role, playing to the more traditional gender roles and even taking on the burden of the emotional turmoil his troubled past gives him. As long as he has his mother or a replacement, Wilson knows he's not a monster, and he can rationalize any sacrifice, usually on behalf of others. His decision to become a public figure is entirely out of his comfort zone, but also something he wouldn't have done if his assistant and Vanessa hadn't plotted to aid him in his turmoil. Functionally performing emotional labor on his behalf.

Daredevils, Mathew Murdock's, upbringing contrasts this. He had a loving, supportive father who had a violent career. Upon the death of his father to crime, he turns to another, harsher, violent father figure who abandons him when he gets attached. Every time someone fills a paternal role, they leave him. And there seem to have never been any takers for a maternal role. Instead, the influences on his life have always been highly masculine, sometimes soft, but always masculine.

In some respects, it seems as though Matt is a success story for toxic masculinity. He's a superhero and a lawyer, he's exceptionally romantically successful, he never lets anyone in, and he solves every problem as alone as he can with the strength of his body and his moral character. He suffers because of this, but even his downfalls still echo the toxic masculinity that's consumed his life.

But for all that, Matt and Wilson come at it from different angles, paternal and maternal, and they ultimately arrive at the same destination. They're both violent men trying to save Hell's kitchen through violent means. The only difference is the extremes they are willing to go to. And even then, Wilson is quite a bit older than Matt, and I'd be willing to believe a middle-aged Daredevil might kill.

Certainly, Kingpin's methodology is more classically villainous, but it is only Daredevil's superhuman abilities that allow him the moral high ground. They remove his ability to mistakenly target innocents, an advantage Wilson does not have.

It strikes me as interesting that the main difference between the two characters is what flavor of toxicity they were molded by: Wilson by a toxic level of support, by people egging him on when it might be time for introspection and pushing him forward when he turns inward and considers stopping. And Matt, by toxic masculinity, pushing him on even when he really should rest—not providing him the support he needed to heal from the trauma of his father's death or Stick's abandonment or even the emotional toll his vigilante career took. Forcing him to bottle everything up and 'stay strong' not to disappoint others, mostly Stick.

That's why I think, ultimately, neither should be doing what they're doing. Kingpin for, I think obvious reasons, he's doing just real bad stuff with vaguely good intentions, and Daredevil for less apparent reasons. He is doing good, and as Matt, I think his choices are solid, but as Daredevil, he's straight up using beating up people as a way to deal with his trauma. It's incredibly unhealthy and even if the violence doesn't take him out, he's still leaning on it to support him emotionally. I fear he can't stop, even if he wanted to. After all, if he did, he'd have to face his demons like the rest of us.

They're just two men running from their problems, and I guess I can't fault them for that. Wouldn't all of us if we could?

#long rant #opinion piece #i really like this show #i didn't really want to watch buts its a got a hold on me now #netflix daredevil #daredevil #mini essay #kingpin #matt murdock #wilson fisk #medium post #tw murder talk #tw parents #i can not for the life of me remember wilsons assistants name #i think thats on purpose though #toxic masculinity #toxic love #toxic parents #don't worry its not just a block of text #i formatted it and all that jazz #marvel #mcu #pirate this show its free #defender saga

[n1nthrule]

thinking about that exercise machine in narrator's apartment (especially from a genderbent au perspective) makes me sob. she's forcing herself to go through routine exercise to be appealing to Society and she can't even do it! fighting is symbolic of worshipping her own body and utilising it for her happiness and nobody elses!!!!

#fem fight club makes me so ill #i need david fincher to ocean's eight fight club it would fix the toxic masculinity/ representation of women issue so fast #fight club #tw insecurity #<- just in case

[ex0rin]

Hughie Campbell | The Boys S03E02

#hughie campbell #the boys #cara gifs #blood tw #injury tw #something something all the white in the scene being broken and bloodied because he's about to go down a bad path #wreck something good (himself) by going back to be butcher's little lapdog ANYWAY i have a fever disregard this #i just really like when hughie hurts himself tbh #also when he's useless and mad about it #justright dot gif #me with all my other faves: booo toxic masculinity #me with hughie: yes babygirl you give into that

[max-jagerman-asks]

Ok, you got this Max.

@willisjagerman mom should have sent over my address. Come find me and we can talk

#Max and Willie confrontation #hatchetfield rp #hatchetblr #michie #tw violence #tw abuse #tw gun #tw implied abuse #tw verbal abuse #tw homophobia #tw slur #tw toxic masculinity

[the-kuzusouda-hideyhole]

To me, a fundamental part of what makes Kuzusouda work as a relationship is acceptance of themselves and each other.

Both Fuyuhiko and Kazuichi seem to experience struggles with toxic masculinity, one way or another, with Fuyuhiko feeling shame over his short stature, baby face and love of sweets, and Kazuichi over-compensating for his social awkwardness (likely a result of autism!) by presenting himself to look more intimidating. These struggles would intensify if they were LGBT+.

While I personally headcanon Kazuichi as bisexual, I do think there's merit to the idea that he is gay and that his infatuation with Sonia is the result of comphet. He likely played up his crush on her for all it's worth in a misguided attempt to convince himself and his peers that he is straight – that he is "normal."

Fuyuhiko, meanwhile, would be so deep in denial over who he really is that he would lash out at anyone who's more confident in their identities, especially their queer and/or GNC identities. This is especially prone to occurring pre-character development, before he begins to have a more cordial relationship with his classmates.

Fuyuhiko and Kazuichi getting to know each other on a deeper level, and realising their shared struggles with toxic masculinity and internalised homophobia, would serve as an important step for them to overcome those issues and learn to love themselves for who they are. The process would be long and arduous, that's for sure, but it'd be worth it in the end.

I can just imagine the end of a fic or something where all this character development has taken place, where Kazuichi has returned to his natural appearance and Fuyuhiko has softened up a little more, and they're just happily snuggled up eating candy together. Actually, come to think of it, that sounds like a good idea for a piece of fanart...

#tw internalized homophobia #toxic masculinity #kuzusouda #kazuichi souda #fuyuhiko kuzuryuu #danganronpa #sdr2 #super danganronpa 2 #analysis #headcanons #queer themes #fanon

[5-7-9]

*Sigh* Just thinking about the way toxic masculinity affects Harvey. The way it’s common to associate the gentler word “strict” when it comes to abusive fathers. The way being an overachiever usually stems from this need of approval from their strict parents high expectations. The way he represses his alter who usually shows more emotions. The way Two Face only shows emotions through acts of physical violence. There’s also how Harvey Dent’s lawyer side has been inspired by a pulp hero, who was the very same type of hero Batman is, and isn’t Batman just the pinnacle of toxic masculinity!

#Go ahead and add this to Batman and Twotwo’s similarities #Batman beating Two Face is a metaphor for masculinity becoming too toxic! #But at the end of the day Batman is still somehow better??? Right… #Just the correct toxic masculinity is fine 🤪 #tw child abuse mention #tw parental abuse mention #Two face #dc two face #harvey dent

[terrence-silver]

Would there ever be an instance where Terry cries in front of beloved?

Yes.

But, one has to understand; first and foremost, this is a man who we could easily say worships a cult of strength. Who was a former military man and Green Beret in the Spec. Ops as far back as the 1960's and as such, adopted all the toxic, stiff upper lip, complicated and macho army ideals that come with such a title --- a young Terry couldn't even cry when his friend got shot in front of him without his commander telling him to suck it up. ---- Shut up, Silver? Remember that? That this is a man who learned martial arts in Korea, a culture already rather distanced from the Western understanding of individualism and free showcasing of emotions and furthermore, that he's done it under an immensely strict Sensei. A young Terry undoubtedly also wanted to distance himself from being seen as a Twiggish, green, somewhat clumsy soldier, going as far as overcompensating straight into cruelty. That this is a man who was born somewhere in the mid century, in a time when a young boy was simply told to 'Suck it up and be a man. Quit being a pansy.' --- we have no way to confirm this, but I truly doubt Terry Silver's father encouraged Terry to be in tune with feelings. Furthermore, Terry Silver was in the cutthroat corporate world of the 70's and 80's and being cold as a spritzer where sensibilities and even morals were concerned? Well, it was just a given if you wanted to survive and thrive in that environment. Softies don't make the cut. In fact, softies don't last long at all. With all this context in mind, it is reasonable to understand just why Terry Silver doesn't cry, or more precisely, doesn't do it in front of just anybody, thanks to a mix of innate male socialization, discipline, trauma and the like. Because. Men don't cry. Men can do just about anything but cry. The sharks are out there and they'll smell you'll blood if you only allow yourself to be wounded. After all, 'Ow' isn't an acceptable Kiai in this dojo, right?

But, would he do it in front of someone he has a perfect trust in?

The trust he wont be viewed as lesser? Weaker? Punier? A failure?

I think it is possible for Terry Silver to cry in front of a loved one but only under the strict condition that this loved one would is an assured thing in his life. Firm and as certain as a rock. That it is assured that they'll either never leave him or simply cannot, because I can envision Terry treating being seen, caught or shown to cry a bit like the Mafia treats an Omerta, or a vow of silence. Hilarious comparison, but it's the truth. It comes with a price. A big, hefty price; him deciding you're worthy of catching him at a moment of absolute weakness. It is like being initiated into a brotherhood you can never disengage from again. You witnessed him at the most vulnerable state he could possibly be at and in a way, its over for you. You're eclipsed. Trapped by it. Terry trusting you has its dangers and risks. Even being caught dying is somehow more honorable in Terry's eyes, so of course he poises the weight of such a sight as getting teary eyed with just as much baggage, if not more. I mean, the only way you could ever leave him now is for him to break you so you'd take this secret to the grave with you. The secret being that Terry Silver can cry like any human, otherwise, it is humiliating that such a fact could find its way to the outside world through you, where it is beyond his control. What would you do with this information? Are you to be left unsupervised with it? Are you going to blackmail him? Make fun of him for it behind his back? Can his need for control allow him for you to be trusted with it, running around willy nilly? No, no, you'll stay firmly by his side forever, where he can be vigilant of your every move. Where he can greedily lap up and claim all your empathy only for himself like a rare gem, refusing to share with the world. That's the only way he'd ever conceive of allowing you to see him this way, because otherwise, it makes no sense.

Nothing's for free, right? Terry's tears and the sight of them certainly ain't.

They come with the price of you being tied and, in a sense caged.

And for a man who is deeply traumatized?

That feels sensible, logical and safe.

#terry silver #kk3 #cobra kai #tw; toxic masculinity #tw; male socialization #tw; military machoism #tw; trauma #tw; wartime trauma #crying #terry silver x reader #terry silver x beloved

[chuthulhu-reads]

[ID: Four panels from Trigun Maximum. The first shows Knives, as a child, blank-eyed and chewing on his thumb. He's been doing it long enough for it to start bleeding badly, blood trailing all the way down his arm and past his wrist. The second panel shows him typing with his other hand. The third panel has pulled out to a wide image of the bank of computers that he's working at, alone and in the dark. The fourth panel shows him smearing the blood from his thumb down the left side of his face, while tears pour out of his right eye. End ID.]

KNIVES. KEEPING EVERYTHING INSIDE IS NOT GOOD FOR YOU OR SAFE FOR ANYONE AROUND YOU. There's a horrible twisted echo of a child sucking their thumb or biting their nails, but to a degree where it looks like he's ripping his thumbnail off, which is giving me the MASSIVE ick.

I used to think he was crying and doing this because he was reading Tessla's case files, kind of morbidly obsessed with what happened to her and fortifying his own hatred for humanity, but now I think it might be that he's writing the virus that'll ultimately crash the fleet. If that's what he's doing here, showing him not just crying but self-harming suggests that he's feeling very conflicted about his plan to wipe out the fleet, that he knows what he's doing is a horror... but he's doing it. He's decided that he has to do it, that he's the only one strong enough to do it, circling the drain of his own mind with the self-justifying logic that he has to do it because he can. Even if he's crying and tearing himself open while doing it. Under those circumstances, and given the sheer scale of the murders he's about to commit, what can he do but double down and insist that he was right all along afterwards?

...Literally anything else, kiddo, I am begging you to go hug your mum and talk about your terror of humans instead of self-harming while planning mass murder PLEASE

#Trigun #self harm tw #this series is secretly about how men should talk about their feelings #toxic masculinity icon Knives sublimating all of his emotions into anger #and literally devouring women on the basis that he knows better than them and it's for their own good #Knives 'bodily autonomy but for me only I think' Savarem

[faramirsonofgondor]

Having Jamie forgive his father is just so incomprehensible to me. Like????

1. He didn’t need “let go of his anger” because he wasn’t really angry in the first place??? He was fucking terrified and depressed and traumatized???

2. Even if he was angry, he had every right to be. His father was literally an abusive asshole.

I can understand the whole not letting anger rule your life or decisions shit but that’s not really what Jamie was doing in the first place.

3. His father never even apologized?? Like I understand that some people just forgive others without an apology or anything… but in this case it’s just pushing a very unhealthy narrative to the audience. Like abuse survivors are just supposed to forgive and reach out to their abusers just because??? Like wtf???

4. There was literally no reason for Jamie to forgive him in the first place. Forgiving him wouldn’t fix the root of Jamie’s issue which was that he was anxious about his fathers presence and trying to deal with the trauma his father gave him. Forgiving his trauma wouldn’t ease his worries or erase his trauma. Because at the end of the day, even if Jamie forgives his father, it doesn’t mean his father has changed.

5. Despite the fact that his father got sober and seemed to not be physically abusive with Jamie anymore, he is likely still an emotionally and mentally abusive piece of shit. Like being an alcoholic doesn’t make someone sexually abuse their kids? The emotional and mental abuse that accompanied the physical abuse Jamie went through was grounded in toxic masculinity and ideologies about how men shouldn’t be “soft”. You cannot tell me that being sober would suddenly change James’ beliefs about this. Perhaps he might’ve had to go through therapy as a part of getting sober, and maybe he could’ve worked on changing his toxic mindset, but I honestly doubt it.

As someone with abusive parents, I understand why Jamie would want to forgive his father, and why he would want to reach out again. What I don’t understand is why the writers chose to portray the narrative that they did. It just leaves a bad taste in my mouth.

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