#traasks

[intersexfairy]

When I read feminist philosophy, I encountered a suggestion to look at human sex as a spectrum, with certain characteristics generally appearing together placing you closer to one end or another. Some of them encourage each other biologically, some socially/culturally. So for instance, higher levels of estrogen might encourage bigger breasts, thus they generally cluster, also with having a uterus and less facial hair, and identifying as a woman. Having many of the male cluster characteristics would put you further to the male end of the spectrum. This stayed with me. What I found appealing about this is that it doesn't put intersex people in a third, outsider category, nor separates male and female into fundamentally different opposites, it's just a bit more of this or a bit more of that. The other thing is that it recognizes sex changes, because you can acquire many of the cluster characteristics, for instance through hrt.

I'm not sure if I'm doing it justice here, but I am curious about what other people think??

yes that is very correct (at least as far as i'm aware)! and the idea of sex as a spectrum that all of us fall somewhere on is the crux of a lot of intersex activism. it shows that we're unfairly singled out and socially marked as wrong, mutated freaks of nature. when, in reality, we're just as natural as everyone else. we just have a different configuration that causes our sex traits to display themselves differently than others, or for our bodies to function differently.

it's the same core idea as in gender as a spectrum - even two non-queer women of similar status in society will have different experiences of their gender, similarly to how their bodies wouldn't work exactly the same in regards to hormones, reproductive ability, etc.

#asks #interasks #traasks #sex is a spectrum #gender is a spectrum #gender spectrum #sex spectrum #intersex #trans #genderqueer #queer #lgbtqia+ #lgbt+ #lgbtq+ #lgbtqia #lgbt #nonbinary #gnc #gender nonconforming

[neuroticboyfriend]

Julian is such a cool name, I’ve always loved it!

aw thank you! it's inspired by my mom's name. and i always thought julian was a pretty cute faggy kinda name lol. i've been told it fits me well. it has a kinda similar sound to my given name, so it also has a sense of familiarity to it, without being like. distressing.

#asks #anon #yaybox #traasks

[aj-the-satyr]

The Bird and the Bull

Galvir froze and reached for the knife in his belt at the rustle of clothing in the dark. No one was supposed to know this place existed, but something stayed his hand and instead he gestured towards where he knew a lantern was hanging. There was a gasp as the room filled with a soft blue glow and Galvir beheld who had discovered his hidden room

“Y-your majesty.”

She smiled awkwardly. “My apologies for waiting here in the dark but I couldn’t figure out how to light that thing.”

“Only I can, your majesty. You are lucky I chose light over my blade.” He tapped the hilt of the knife.

“At least then I would be with Evangeline.” She sighed.

Galvir frowned. “That explains your visit. You are not convinced by the findings of the watch.”

“No.” She shook her head. “The watch couldn’t find its arse with both hands.”

Galvir smiled at the ease the Queen spoke with in his presence. “We should stop meeting like this, people will talk.”

“Really? I paid a scullery maid to follow you for two weeks until I discovered this place. I want our talk to be as private as possible.” “You suspect the King?”

A short, harsh laugh. “No. He is content with his hunts and his feasts. It is the court I do not trust.”

“And our meeting would be noted.” Galvir rubbed his chin. “So tell me, your majesty, what can this humble poet do for thee?”

“Humble poet is it now? I thought I had successfully tracked the spymaster to the crown.”

“Poetry is an art that requires much information.” He smiled.

“Is that so? Then, poet, tell me what do you think of what the Watch concluded?”

“That they were led around like a dog searching for scraps. They are content to deal with drunks, thieves and hooligans than the machinations of those in power.”

She sighed. “I want those responsible held accountable. Does your…. Poetic expertise potentially hold answers?”

Gallvir hung his head for a moment. “It might. There are…. There is a…. A pair of adventurers that have made their name on solving the impossible and untangling the stickiest of webs.”

There was a rustle of clothing as the Queen shifted position. “Really?” She leaned closer.

“Yes, but…. I am remiss to attempt to contact them.”

“Why? They sound perfect? Are they too well known? Would their renown make their helping impossible?”

It was his turn to laugh. “Nothing so simple your majesty.”

“Then what?” “The things they get involved with…. They tend to get messy.”

……………………

“Left or right?” rumbled the black furred minotaur.

“What?” Dak looked around nervously. The minotaur held him down in the chair easily.

“It’s a simple question, really.” chimed in the bird man without looking up from the book they were engrossed in.

“Left or right?” rumbled the Minotaur again.

“I…. what? Why?” Dak sputtered and squirmed against the iron grip to no avail.

“Left is then.” The minotaur reached over with his free hand and grabbed hold of Dak’s left wrist.

“What?! What?!” Dak struggled “What are you doing?”

“Breaking fingers until you tell us who paid you. Since you didn’t choose a hand to start with I picked for you.”

Dak tried to move violently, shake himself free, but there was no use, the grip was solid, unyielding.

Slowly the minotaur engulfed Dak’s left hand in his own larger one.

“Please!” Dak sobbed. “They’ll kill me if I tell you.”

“They’re not here though are they? And Borvath here has…” The birdman paused and looked away from their book for a moment “About 102 bones to go through. You’ll talk, sooner or later.”

“Please! They threatened my daughter!” Dak slumped as much as the minotaur’s grip would allow him. “Please.”

The book closed with a SNAP. Dak jumped at the sound.

“Hmm….. I suppose that changes things. Borvath, let him go.”

There was a low rumbling but the minotaur did as asked. Dak spared no time in putting distance between them.

“I am sorry that you got involved in this mess, Dak. I wish you well.” He stood and stretched. “Oh well, time to follow other leads.”

“What other leads?” said Borvath glancing towards Dak, who recoiled as if struck. “He was it.”

“There are always other leads. Just like there are always other books.”

“Those things will be the death of you.” rumbled Borvath.

“So you say.” said the birdman as they left.

…

A short distance away Borvath rubbed his hands together before cracking his knuckles. “Well?”

Kokora tilted his head. “Far too easy, as usual. People always think of the thing they try to hide.”

Borvath chuckled. “And I’m the one they're always scared of.”

Before Kokora could answer a cloaked figure quite literally swept in front of the pair of them. Borvath slipped his hands to his sides, sliding on the reinforced half gloves he had for fighting. Kokora merely prepared his magicks.

“Hold” The cloaked figure held up his hands. “I am not here for a fight?”

“But clearly you're here for something.” said Kokora

“Do I have the pleasure of speaking to The Bird and the Bull?”

Borvath made a disgusted sound. “I hate that name.”

Kokora grinned. “But it is working.” He bowed briefly “Indeed you do, mysterious cloaked figure.”

“Good,” came the reply “The Queen of Fralldia requests you solve the murder of her favorite handmaiden.”

((Wow..... looks like I'm doing this whole writing thing again, huh? Who would have thunk?))

#Borvath von Traask #Kokora #D&D characters #My Writing #Bird and Bull #writeblr

[intersexfairy]

Are transmascfem and transfemmasc interchangeable? Or is there a difference between the two?

For example: somebody was transmasc first and then they were transfem? Or: somebody feels more strongly transmasc than transfem (while feeling both)?

Thanks!

They're interchangeable! But some may prefer one over the other based on their own interpretation, for the reasons you said.

Also sometimes I prefer transfemasc, to help prevent one from standing out over the other.

#asks #interasks #transfemasc #transmascfem #transfemmasc #transmasc #traasks #transfem #tmasc #tfem

[intersexfairy]

I was wondering if you could talk more about your transfem identity. I recently realized I'm "allowed" to be an afab trans woman and it was the biggest reprieve I felt from my anger and despair surrounding my body and gender for a long time.

It's hard to explain but, my transfemininity is about defying cis dyadic norms and allowing myself to be feminine in the body I'm in (or, trying to, at least). It's a fuck-you to the cispatriarchy and the people who hormonally reassigned me female. I don't need to change myself to be feminine (and sometimes a girl - but it's also about not needing to be a girl to be feminine). I can exist as I am and do gender however I want. It's gender and sex nonconformity.

It's also inner child healing, tbh. I was a very feminine and flamboyant child. I loved dressing up and playing model. But when puberty happened, between realizing I was a guy and the dysphoria on both sides (since it was a femininizing and masculinizing puberty), femininity felt increasingly off limits to me. I'd try to be feminine but, whenever I tried, I just felt. Wrong - not because I didn't like femininity but because, physically, I felt like a mistake.

So, masculinity has been my comfort for a long time. It's my safety blanket. I'm a butch, in practice. I do enjoy it, it does give me gender euphoria and pride (and its very cozy). But underneath it all, there's a femme, just waiting to be free again. I'm genderfluid and... sometimes I just want to look like a dainty pretty cis girl (while still being nonbinary and/or a man).

But I can't. Like, physically, I can't. Even when I leaned back into presenting femininely when they reassigned me, I couldn't shake my own androgyny... So ultimately, my transfemininity is a sense of peace where... I don't have to shake anything about me off. Femmes shouldn't have to change their bodies to exist.

#asks #interasks #traasks #intersex #trans #transfem #transmasc #transfemmasc #transmascfem #transfemasc #trans girl #trans boy #trans woman #trans man #nonbinary #enby #androgyny #intersexuality #intersex pride #trans pride #queer #lgbtqia #lgbtqiap #lgbtia #lgbtiq #lgbtqi #lgbt #lgbt+ #lgbtq

[intersexfairy]

Hey friend this is the post I was thinking of about phalloplasty

(www.tumblr.com)/genderkoolaid/719614499032793089/the-funny-thing-about-hung-jury-is-that-the-guys?source=share

I hope it comes through! ((Also when pasting remove the () ))

oh thank you! i saw that post before but i forgot about it. i'll definitely look at the resources it has.

this is so strange to me though bc for the bulk of the 10 years I've known im trans, i thought i didn't have bottom dysphoria. i ignored that part of my body, or wanted it removed because "i didnt need it" (i used to think i was 100% asexual - i've learned i'm grayace instead). then i wanted meta, but didn't want phallo because "let's wait for it to get better" and i was scared of not liking how it feels (still am). but i still said i didnt have bottom dysphoria, just that meta would give me gender euphoria.

and then... ykno how some trans guys are like do i just find this guy hot or do i want to look like him? yeah, i got that but with.. ykno. dicks. but i still was denying it, and then i had this massive sex repulsion episode and i didnt know why... until i talked to my boyfriend (♡♡♡) about it and he helped me realize i *do* have bottom dysphoria and i *do* want phallo. 10 years... I spent 10 years suppressing that.

so yeah... just wanted to share to get it off my chest. but also i know i cant be the only one to feel this way. sexuality is hard as a transmasc... we dont deserve to suppress how we feel. and we may not even realize we're doing it.

#asks #anon #traasks #transphobia #internalized transphobia #transmasc #trans man #transman #trans guy #transguy #bottom dysphoria #gender dysphoria #trans #transandrophobia #transmasculine #phalloplasty #phallo #metoidioplasty #lgbtq #lgbt #queer #lgbtqia #ace #asexual #grayace #acespec #ace spec #ace spectrum #srs #gender affirming surgery

[intersexfairy]

are perisex people allowed to use the label transfemmasc? i'm perisex but really identify with the label due to being bigender and gnc so. yeah wanted to see what you thought

I've seen mixed opinions on it and I used to think they couldn't but. Now I personally define transmasc and transfem as a masculine/feminine experience of transness; and I define transness as any gender/sex nonconformity or variance. So I'd say yeah you can.

But I would honestly not focus on what labels you're "allowed" to use and instead just use the labels that make you happy (excluding cultural appropriation). We all define and relate to terms differently, and there's nothing wrong with that. If you focus on who you're allowed to be it's only going to make you miserable. Queer labels are made to help is express ourselves, not dictate who we can be.

#asks #anon #traasks #interasks #transmascfem #transfemmasc #transmasc #transfem

[intersexfairy]

trans afabs without uteruses also have the right to destroy a womb for eternal youth and power btw. want mine?

trans party where we string a uterus up like a pinata and take turns whacking it

#(also i would prefer if people didnt noun-ify AGAB terms whilst talking to me. i like “person who was AGAB” instead of “AGABs”) #anon #asks #traasks #afab #trans #intersex

[intersexfairy]

ty for making an "it's okay for trans people to be scared" post <3

youre welcome ♡ i keep getting angry at all the people bashing me for being scared and supporting others who are scared so i figured id just. say it

#asks #yaybox #traasks

[intersexfairy]

I'm an afab person but since I was in like middle school I've always felt like my gender would be represented better by having intersex genitalia. I know that wanting to "transition to intersex" isn't the phrasing I'm looking for but I have no idea how to express my dysphoria.

FYI I ID as nonbinary and use they/he/ze+zir pronouns

I get what you mean and thank you for like. For lack of a better phrase, being normal about this (I have gotten frustrating asks on this topic). But I know a few terms that might cover what you're looking for? You can find more/alt terms in the links.

Ambiguous genitalia

Sexqueer

Enbysex

Bisex

Sex nonconforming (SNC)

Varsex (short for Sex Variant)

Transsex / Transsexual

Just the names of the genitalia you want! Although, if you want something close to having both a "typical" vulva/vagina and phallus, know that... isn't what intersex people have (naturally).

I have mixed feelings about some terms under the varsex umbrella due to intersexism and some confusion about my own beliefs on what it means to be intersex/dyadic. But as long as you're mindful, I don't really care. Terms get redefined and expanded upon all the time anyway.

Also nice pronouns and gender :) I'm nonbinary and use he/ze/they pronouns too!

#interasks #intersex #asks #traasks #nonbinary #varsex #enbysex #sex nonconfomring #transsex #transsexual #sexqueer #queer

[intersexfairy]

STOPPPPP STOP BEING TEANS TRANSGEWNDER STOP IT JOW N PLEASE FUCKC DNNDJDHDJJSA

why would i do that when i can become the cutest boy girlthing to ever live!! i love being trangenner.

#asks #anon #graybox #traasks #trans #trans pride

[intersexfairy]

comphet was coined by terfs yet a lot of trans lesbians also use it. for that anon: stop cancelling useful terms

yeah. i personally like the alternative term (that i cant remember) better, but im not gonna chatise someone for using the term comphet. but i will call them out if they're using it under terfy and otherwise queerphobic rhetoric.

#asks #anon #traasks

[intersexfairy]

more like transblender *makes you a milkshake*

aw thanks!!

#asks #yaybox #traasks

[intersexfairy]

transgender? more like transFriender :)

so true!! 💙💗🤍💗💙

#asks #anon #yaybox #traasks

[intersexfairy]

you're so cool and i appreciate your posts so much so i figured i'd rant to you (positively) about my gender if that's okay because i know you said xenogenders were super cool so i wanna talk about my gender!!!!

my gender is like if a femme divine being of the stars and a butch sun god had a beautiful queer child- it feels like the divinity of both the night and day realms portrayed as a butch and femme consciousness, and it is like having stars in your eyes in skin! it feels like a meadow of red roses beneath the stars, and is related to starcrossed love aesthetics, like telling your lover how much you love them beneath the stars, you and your lover(s) becoming constellations next to each other in the sky, and it's really sweet and serene, like a soft lullaby playing as the stars twinkle! it is ethereal in the gentlest of ways, like a wisteria tree and a willow tree swaying in perfect harmony, a pastel rainbow rose floating amongst the stars of a pastel twilight sky, the magic of fireflies illuminating a willow tree at night, the beauty of soft, golden candlelight lulling you to sleep, and it's also like a quaint, quiet book shop, softly candlelit, sleeping peacefully beneath the stars! it is really peaceful and it calms me so much and i love it! im genderqueer in the deepest way, it means so much to me and i just love getting the chance to talk about it :))))

oh my god that's so beyond beautiful !! <3 thank you so much for sharing this with me, it legit made me tear up. i love queer joy. i really do. and i'm so glad to hear you appreciate my posts, especially since i've always appreciated yours too (you're cool!)!

if anyone else wants to go on a joyful rant about their identity in my ask box, feel free!! i literally. could read asks like this all day for the rest of my life (energy permitting). <3

#asks #mogai-sunflowers #mutuals #?? right yeah? #memory machine broke #traasks

[intersexfairy]

The terms TME (trans misogyny exempt) and TMA (trans misogyny affected) are strange to me bc I feel like it lacks a lot of nuance, especially in regards to intersex people. These labels are just slapped onto AMAB trans fems and AFAB trans mascs, and I really don't think it's that simple. I'm intersex but AFAB technically speaking, however, I honestly feel I have experienced quite a lot of trans misogyny throughout my life. I was bullied my entire life as I was seen as a "boy pretending to be a girl", and was treated as such by everyone around me. I still get people often confused by my gender and assuming I'm a trans woman, and treating me very poorly. I regularly get worried about my safety and abt getting assaulted due to all this. Yet i am technically AFAB. Idk your thoughts on these terms, but it's been on my mind a while now. I just think experiences aren't as simple as slapping a label onto someone purely due to their assigned sex at birth.

Yea, I basically agree. Im struggling to explain my thoughts right now, but I don't like how a lot of trans terms are linked to AGAB, or how ASAB is often ignored (except when dyads bring up the abuse of intersex infants while arguing with bigots). Or how forced (re)assignments occuring later in life are completely and utterly ignored.

Gender and sex are complex social constructs, and because of that I personally define transness as any deviation from the gender/sex related expectations that are forced onto someone, at any point in their life. If you're transgressing norms, you're free to be trans in my book.

Like. What we've been assigned definitely shapes our experiences, and results in differences in experience compared to those with a different assignment. But it isn't the end all be all, or mean there can't be important similarities.

And above all, I'd rather define my transness by my actual identity and expression, rather than who people tried to force me to be. I'd like to be perceived less as who I'm not, but more as who I am. But bigots judge me for both - through their perception and my reality. Being trans and intersex makes that complicated.

I dunno if any of this made sense but yea. Nuance. Important.

#rambled a bit there #i hope what i said makes sense #asks #anon #traasks #interasks