#trad men

[christian-femininity]

Treat your wife better than you treat anything or anyone. That’s your covenant with God. That’s your first ministry. To love her the way Christ loves the church is a high calling. If you fail at that, you’ve failed at everything.

― Paul Washer

#christian femininity #christian marriage #trad man #traditional husband #traditional man #traditional woman #quote #paul washer #christianity #trad men

[honeyed-fawn]

I see so many people saying that they're gonna be homeschooling their children and I just wonder why? You can let your children go to school and still give them good values, and correct their learning at home so why not let them go socialize with other children their age, I think learning different opinions is very valuable

#tradfem #tradblr #trad community #feminine #femininity #homeschool #homemaker #homemaking #tradman #trad men #trad community do touch

[kweza]

the amount of non-virgin men on twitter fully expecting a perfect virginal housewife to fall over backwards for them is embarassing. if you find her, i hope she runs away because she deserves so much better

#trad men #media

[miss-rogers-all-american]

Advice for married couples:

Oftentimes you’ll see marriages fall apart out of seemingly nowhere, with one or more of the people stating that they were ‘unhappy’. I’ve noticed a trend in these marital collapses, and a lot of the issues seem pretty easy to fix.

The key advice here is; don’t get comfortable.

That may sound strange or even backwards, shouldn’t marriage be comfortable? Shouldn’t you relax around your partner? The answer to both of those questions is yes, absolutely. When I say don’t get comfortable I mean don’t let yourself stop putting in effort over the years simply because you got the girl or snatched the man.

For men there are a few key things I’ve noticed tend to cause arguments:

Lack of initiative

Lack of effort in wooing

Not leading the relationship

Offering solutions instead of listening

These are the main argument starters, and here’s why, they all communicate a lack of interest or a sense of complacency. For example, when your wife or girlfriend ask you to do something, and you don’t do it for months, or weeks, that communicates to her that you don’t listen, and that you aren’t dependable.

Take initiative, if you are asked to do a project, or run an errand or do a chore, don’t make her ask fifty times. Otherwise she’ll either; do it herself and resent you, hire someone else to do it and resent you, or you’ll finally do it after months and she won’t appreciate it because it was begrudging on your part. (Women are also less likely to desire sex when stressed out, if you want your wife to continue to desire sex, don’t leave her irritated because you didn’t do a simple task she asked of you- like loading the dishwasher)

When it comes to wooing, most men stop once they’ve got the girl. The romantic gestures, the compliments ,and zealous affection all usually stop. In my personally experience, this can really sour a relationship over time. It communicates to your girl that she is not worthy of wooing, that now that she’s tied to you she no longer matters.

Keep wooing her! Never stop chasing her! Women want to feel wanted and desired, compliment her, shower her with affection, occasionally bring her flowers or perform a small romantic gesture. Every woman will be different but oftentimes a heartfelt gesture, even if it’s picking up her favorite drink on your way home, can make a huge difference in her mood.

As far as leading the relationship goes, this may look different for everyone. The key here is once again, take initiative. Help with or take over decision making. I know for me personally a lot of my stress is alleviated by not having to make extra decisions on top of everything else I’m doing. It helps me to be more relaxed and bubbly. This can be big decisions, like making the final choice on a car, or it can be as small and simple as where to go for dinner or what movie to watch. Of course, you always want to take her opinions into account, but oftentimes making that final decision is really appreciated.

The last one is a key thing. It leads to frustration that often times can build and build until it boils over and an argument occurs. Instead of offering solutions when your girl is telling you about a problem, listen to her speak. Ask her if she wants a solution or a shoulder to cry/vent on.

For my ladies, here are the things I’ve noticed tend to be argument starters:

Nagging/ not being appreciative

Belittling or talking badly about your husband

Not taking pride in your appearance or only dressing up to go out with others

Not being affectionate or using sex as a weapon.

Looking at these, they might seem harsh, but these are the things that I have seen destroy relationships.

Nagging is admittedly a big problem for women, and in marriages it forms a sort of loop. The man doesn’t do a task on time or perfectly, the woman nags and needles the man, the man doesn’t want to do anything for the woman, the woman nags more and complains more, the man finally does the project to avoid nagging, the yelling usually starts her, and then the cycle resets. I’m my own personal experience I’ve noticed a huge difference in my father’s behavior since I stopped nagging and complaining. I’ll ask him to do something politely and emphasize that I need it done soon. He usually gets to it right after I ask, sometimes it doesn’t get done. When the task is complete, I say thank you and compliment him. He then is more eager to help me again. When I nag, he doesn’t want to help. My attitude changes his attitude. It’s the same for not being appreciative. If you don’t nag and you say thank you, your man will be more likely to help.

Belittling or speaking badly about your husband/partner, is something I’ve noticed is a huge issue. It only causes you to feel more resentment and be more critical. It’s also not biblical, we should always strive to be kind and respectful when speaking of our other half. Whether or not he hears you, you should never air your grievances in public for all to see. Discuss your concerns gently and kindly with your husband, and ask him to do the same. Don’t attack him or be defensive. Try to foster a safe place for open communication.

As far as appearance goes, this is the same principle as wooing. I’m not saying you can wear sweatpants or no makeup, but make sure you aren’t being a slob and only dressing up to go out with friends or to an event. I very much like mixed fashion, I go between fifties dresses and modern comfy clothes. When I first started dating my boyfriend I wore mostly dresses, always had my makeup and hair done, and generally looked nice. I noticed recently that I had begun to dress down around him, a habit I definitely don’t want to fall into. So now when he comes over after work, I make sure that my face is fresh and clean, that my outfit is nice (even if it’s casual), I’ll fix my hair, put perfume on and welcome him home. I’m not saying you should greet him at the door like a stepford wife in heels and pearls, (especially if you work as well) but it doesn’t hurt to at least freshen up and greet your spouse with a smile and a kiss. You don’t want to communicate to your husband that he isn’t important enough for your to dress up or care for your appearance.

As for sex, alot of women use sex as a weapon. If they are irritated or didn’t get their way they withhold sex for days, weeks, or months (sometimes even longer) just as the Bible says that the body of our husband is ours, the body of the wife is the husbands. Don’t withhold sex as a form of punishment, it won’t work nearly as well as your think it will.

So for my married couples (or those who are courting and want advice), that’s my two cents. A lot of these issues simply create a loop of buildup, resentment, and argument, until finally divorce occurs. Don’t let your irritation create a cycle. Work through your issues with open and honest communication.

#tradfem #traditional gender roles #traditionalism #feminine #beautiful #femininity #orthodox christian #housewife in training #1950s #christianity #antiochian orthodox #greek orthodox #pro life #tradfemme #stepford wife #masculine #masculinity #trad men

[fightinglikeaman]

#real manhood #trad men #fatherhood #myuplouds

[luna-drinker]

As a christian woman I hate the manosphere and the damage it has done to modern men

#red pill #manosphere #Andrew Tate #trad men #trad man #alpha man

[fatherrichardmaxwell]

“Assume inspection position,” she heard Father Maxwell speak close to hear ear. He was standing behind her and his voice like a whispered growl ran through her body and awakened an irrational need in her to earn his approval.

Darling 21 bent over and gripped her ankles, with her hands wrapping around the narrowest point of her legs. She was naked under her plaid skirt and the position made her feel it even more acutely.

She felt the Father’s shoes tap gently against the inside of one foot and then the other. Darling 21 quickly obliged, spreading her feet further apart as far as she could while still maintaining balance.

“Slept well, Darling?”

Yes. Yes, Father,” she quickly corrected herself. She felt at once violated and soothed by his caring inquiry.

“Okay, let’s see how’s your grooming this morning.”

Every morning, Darling 21 would wake up ninety minutes before sunup to make sure she was groomed for the day’s inspection at dawn.

She felt the familiar yet always unsettling touch of Father Maxwell’s fingers on her thighs, close to her groin; his knuckles brushed against her labia so subtly she wasn’t even sure if they’d touched. It was a disconcerting feeling. His fingers felt her upper thighs first on one side and then the other. Satisfied that she was smooth, his fingers then brushed her outer labia. Darling 21 gasped quietly, swallowed hard and screwed hers eyes shut, awaiting judgement.

Father Maxwell’s fingers were satisfied with the smoothness of her labia, and he gave her clit the briefest of caresses in approval. The touch made her twinge involuntarily.

“Well done, Darling. good girl,” she heard his voice like warm honey in her other ear.

It made her feel relief and pride, for some reason.

“Okay, open your hands and get to class.”

With the hypnotic release word entering her mind, her hands snapped open from their locked position, and she slowly stood up. There were pink finger marks around her ankles as blood rushed into her feet. She also felt a rush of blood go to her head when she stood upright again. She had to stand still a moment to find her equilibrium.

Father Maxwell gave her a warm pat on the butt and she walked off to her first class of the day, spiked heels clacking as she walked down the hallway with head held high as they were taught always to do.

Darling 21 smiled to herself, glad that inspection went so well today, since yesterday’s inspection didn’t go so smoothly. She smiled wryly at the pun in her own head.

Things are looking up, she thought to herself. She entered the classroom and took her seat with her head floating in a cloud of happy thoughts. She sat down, feeling the cool, smooth lacquered wood of the seat under her,against her bare bottom and lips and smiled good morning at the girls next to her, knowing they too were feeling the same thing under their skirts. They were all in this together and that gave them a feeling of sisterhood mixed with a tinge of rivalry.

A slim fortysomething Sister was standing before an LED screen wall in front of the class.

“By a show of hands, how many of you girls know your purpose in life?” She asked in clipped tones.

#tradfem #bd/sm relationship #cnc free use #mind conditioning #trad men #tradgirl

[nowthatswhat-icallyoutube]

#submission #gay #homophobia #trad catholic #trad men #trad wives #Youtube

[simpleman193]

This was just too good. Had to reblog!! 💪🏼🎩

#simple man #manliness #traditional manhood #christian manhood #traditional man #chivalry #simple life #traditional gender roles #tradblr #gentleman #monogamy #get a wife #wheyfu #fidelity #faithful #mere christianity #Godly men #healthy masculinity #trad men #christian masculinity #goals #ideals #values #men of value

[elumish]

I saw something a while ago about paranormal romance/why choose books being basically trad wife fantasies, and I have so many thoughts about that

#elumish blogs #i can't find it now #so if anyone knows the tweet? or post or whatever #and wants to link it to me #it would be much appreciated #i have read hundreds of these books #i have read so many of them #i have so many thoughts about the way they present things #and it's about relationships but it's more about things like so many of the men basically being part of paramilitary groups #and the idea that extrajudiciously murdering criminals is good #and women are constantly under threat but also can be healed by the power of love #etc etc etc #so many thoughts #those books are the equivalent of that video of the white lady barricading her house because her husband left for the day #(when i say those books i mean A Certain Type of those books) #i have written one of those books #and i promise you that it is not a trad wife fantasy

[thurstongrey]

#traditional peanut #trad #style #mensfashion #vintagestyle #tailoring #preppy #ivystyle #ivy league #vintage #mens style #1960s

[tornapartbythorns]

Trad males will be like "women's depression skyrocketed as soon as they entered the workforce" and just completely ignore that a shit ton of housewives in the mid-20th century were hopped up on valium and became raging alcoholics to cope with their bleak domestic reality. And also, since when have these dumb trad fucks ever given a shit about women's mental health?? 🙄 These men can claim to care about women's depression, but they would have their wives lobotomized just as the same their grandfather's if they were able to.

#radblr #radfem #radfem safe #radical feminism #radical feminists do interact #radical feminist theory #men are shit #men are evil #trads are idiots

[zdezintegracja]

Bela Lugosi is alive

#bela lugosi #bauhaus #trad goth #gothic #80s goth #post punk #darkwave #goth music #goth man #goth men #gothic movies #gothic subculture #goth subculture #goth #gothgoth #goth goth #goth icons #horror #old movies #peter murphy

[i-used-to-be-an-anti-feminist]

I see so many well intentioned women talking about how modesty is important when it comes to men's objectification of them. Like, they will condemn men's lust, but say, "but we have to do our part too." I just need you guys to understand that there is literally no amount of clothing you can wear to keep men from sexualizing you. It sucks, but it's true.

I dress very modestly by the typical conservative Christian standard... Loose clothing, long dresses/skirts, nothing low cut, etc. Usually the only skin I expose is my forearms, neck, and face... But I am not exempt from being sexualized. I can't tell you how many times I've heard stuff like, "it's so hot when women leave things up to the imagination" and "I love your librarian/teacher vibe, it's so sexy." Men sexualize nuns and muslim women, who are completely covered. No woman is exempt from this.

Why is this important? So you can stop blaming yourself for men treating you like sexual potential instead of a person and hold men accountable for their own willful inability to control themselves.

To the Christian women, you are not responsible for men choosing to lust after you. Lust is a choice. I am same-sex attracted, and when I find myself attracted to a woman, I simply choose not to fantasize and lust after her. Men are capable of the same, they just like to shift blame.

As a Christian, I dress modestly as an act of humility more than anything else, but I know there is nothing I can do to control the sinful actions of men. Please stop blaming yourselves.

#hold men accountable #feminism #christian feminism #modesty #femininity #wwnf #my post #womanhood #church #christian lesbian #dress code #dress code violation #trad #traditional femininity #christian woman #Christian womanhood #side b lesbian #side b christian #side b #modest clothing #toxic masculinity #biblical womanhood

[an-intermission-of-sorts]

Pov I rembered that water color is my favorite medium.

(A Lil cute piece because I feel like javert can not handle genuine happiness and just starts crying (I am projecting))

#les mis #les miserables #les miserables fanart #jean valjean #trad art #javert #inspector javert #jean and javert #gay #these gay old men make me wanna sob

[fatherrichardmaxwell]

Can’t fight biology. You can argue with your intellect but you can’t win over your biology.

#feminism #tradfem #trad men