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pears-palette · 4 months
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My dad has a little gag he loves doing that involves me being trans (it’s fun- don’t worry).
So, my dead name is also the name of a food item (spelled different but sounds the same). We sometimes eat that food item- it’s a nice treat. His little joke is that he will only call that food “Dead Names”- which leads to hilarious instances of hearing my 70 year old father call out “Hey, I’m going to go grab some Dead Names while we’re here!” while he’s half way down the isle in the grocery store, or him coming home and saying “hey, I picked up a box of Dead Names while I was out! :)”
It just makes me so overwhelmingly happy that my old name is not something wrapped in grief. It doesn’t represent a loss. It is something we can smile about and remember even if it doesn’t fit me anymore.
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barrydeutsch · 1 year
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The Knife Cuts Both Ways A #PoliCartoon by Becky Hawkins and I. Transcript (and also some commentary and quotes and such): https://www.patreon.com/posts/knife-cuts-both-74955083 If you like these cartoons, please consider supporting them at http://patreon.com/barry - a $1 pledge really helps!
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transmonstera · 7 months
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be careful with digging yourself deeper and deeper into a hole of misery and self hatred because even when you stop digging you will still be in a hole. learn to climb any way you can. do not let them bury you.
[IMAGE ID: "transness is not quantified by how much you hate yourself but by how much you could love yourself" in white wavy text with a pink border. the background is light pink and decorated with hearts and stars of varying sizes in white and dark pink. END]
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babytelle · 5 months
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Do you like what I’m hiding? 👅
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Happy trans acceptance/awareness week everyone!
2022 has been rough but it's almost over and hopefully everyone gets lots of gender euphoria (or less dysphoria) this holiday season. You deserve it!
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werewolvesofseoul · 7 months
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goodnight to:
feminine trans men
masculine trans men
trans men who pass
trans men who don’t pass
trans men who don’t want surgery
trans men who don’t want HRT
trans men without body dysmorphia
hetero trans men
gay trans men
mspec trans men
multi-gender trans men
trans mascs in general
and all trans men who don’t fit people’s definition of “real men”
you’ll always be valid, even if you don’t feel like it or other people make you feel so you’ll always have a safe space on this page.
you’re always welcome here ❤️🏳️‍⚧️
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jackalpants · 6 months
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Sometimes it's useful to think of trans acceptance and trans liberation as two kind of separate things, coiled up around each other.
Trans acceptance is when I go "I'm a trans woman" or someone else goes "I'm a trans man" or "I'm non-binary" or "I'm this particular xenogender" and the people around us go "oh cool thanks for letting us know! We'll take that into account when it comes to how we address you and think of you." and it's just no big deal that this is who you are. Trans acceptance says you are the expert on who you are.
Trans liberation is when you go to the doc and go "hey for trans reasons I want this surgery and these hormones" and the doc goes "cool, that's up to you, here's a scrip for the HRT and here's the blood tests we can do to make sure you're not fucking yourself up and let's book you in for that surgery." And on top of that it's that if you've done these things OR if you've come out at work as in trans acceptance OR if your work suspects you might do these things or come out then they can't fire you for that. And on top of that it means no "legal sex" marker on your paperwork for any reason. Trans liberation says you belong to you.
These things work together, but while I want trans acceptance from the people I love, and I require trans acceptance from someone before I can trust them, I need trans liberation from the society in which I live. I owe trans liberation to you. You owe it to me.
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early-gray · 5 months
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The Owl House fandom really helped me with my trans acceptance.
Keep in mind I identified as transmasc/nonbinary myself at the time, and absolutely believed in trans rights, but I was still having a hard time seeing trans men as actual men and trans women as actual women.
Of all things, it was all the Trans Hunter headcanons and fanfics that somehow made it click in my mind. That if he were trans or not he would still be Hunter, and he would still be a boy.
Trans Eda headcanons helped too.
I think that’s the beauty of headcanons. They exist in this hypothetical space that allows you to see things from two different angles, reframes characters you’re already familiar with in new and eye-opening ways. Headcanons allow you to project marginalized identities onto characters that are already beloved by people of many different walks and beliefs. It’s like a foot in the door to get to greater acceptance and understanding.
Trans headcanons are making a difference.
Your blorbos are making a difference.
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savannahhidesnomore · 24 days
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Are u into guys?
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(Going to do something risky and answer an anonymous question! - hope this isn't a gateway to chasers! - but it is something I was planning on writing/sharing about soon anyway, a sort of update on things of this nature.) To answer the question, at this point all I can say is ... I think so?
To be honest it's something I have been thinking a bit more about lately as I've just had yet another birthday, and this one being single hit a bit different. I think cause I'm finally out and proud of who I am and happy with myself, I can actually finally see myself finding someone! I'm pretty sure I'm Bisexual. I know I'm more into girls, (is this a good time to mention I have a crush on my friend's sister just from seeing her FB pic...) but sometimes I think being with a guy would be good. I honestly don't know if I'm Bi or Lesbian (I know I'm properly attracted to girls) and I think I might be attracted to guys, but I'm not totally sure if I am or if it's a by-product of when I used to watch prawn as a way of dealing with my repression and feminine feelings ... I hope that makes sense. Without having dated guys or girls ever in my life it's hard to get a better fix on this part of me really. Still figuring a lot of things about myself. Been concentrating on transition more so than finding someone. I figure the right person will come along and at this point I don't have a particular preference. The main thing I want is a loving, monogamous marriage with someone I can share my life and faith with, and have a family with. So for now...
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But this is subject to change if/when I actually spend more time figuring things out.
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typophobia-hijinks · 2 months
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When a trans girl gets surgery is it called a trans-fem-ation
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mannyblacque · 1 year
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I watched this last night because I noticed Jordan Peele was involved. I was just expecting a fun stop motion animation movie.
I was not expecting:
Racially and ethnically diverse cast ✓
Positive trans portrayal ✓
Anti for-profit prison message ✓
Kick ass afro-punk soundtrack ✓
It makes my heart happy to see so much positive portrayals of diversity set to rock music by BIPOC musicians. 🙂
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aceisgay · 1 year
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I live an hour away from Colorado Springs.
I live forty minutes away from Boulder.
I live thirty minutes away from Aurora.
I live in Arvada, two minutes away from where John Hurley stopped a man from killing dozens in Olde Town before he was killed himself. I was there that day.
I lived In Fort Lauderdale, Florida when the shooting at Pulse Nightclub happened. I had just been there that past weekend.
I'm only 34 years old, and my life has been touched by so many shootings. But I'm lucky. I'm still here.
But there are many that aren't and it is not fair. They should all be alive. All of them. This country has many issues, but hatred is at the top.
When will it be enough? When will we wake up, and see the world that should be? Why must we see so much hate and death and vitriol being spewed at us, especially by those in power?
Black people want to live.
Disabled people want to live.
LGBT+ people want to live.
Latino people want to live.
Asian people want to live.
Jewish people want to live.
WE JUST WANT TO LIVE.
Why won't you let us?
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Yall have no issue calling Kanye "Ye" at his requesting, but the moment a trans person wants you to call them by their gender affirming name suddenly it's all "Too hard to remember" and "but I've always known you as [deadname]"
-fae
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It just dawned on me that, since I came out as non-binary and trans to my mom almost ten years ago, her attitude has gone from saying "you can call yourself whatever you want, but I had a daughter and I'm calling you what I named you" to her and my stepdad referring to me as their kid or son, always using my preferred name and pronouns, and my mom offering me her advice as a nurse and lawyer on where to get hrt and how to get my insurance to pay for surgeries because of our family history of breast cancer.
Like, my mom has always been pretty open minded to neutral about things like this, she's suggested before that she might be bi, she took me to my first pride, she's has been an ally to the LGB part of the community, so I'm glad that she outgrew the ideas about trans people that she had when I was younger. Basically she thought that trans people could only exist as straight binary trans men or women, and that they're basically full time drag performers, because she had only met two or three trans people before I came out and they were all older straight trans women who had previously done drag. She didn't understand what "non-binary" was, it wasn't in her vocabulary at all.
When I came out as non-binary, and later demi-masculine, she basically just thought it was another social label, similar to me being a juggalo. She saw me being non-binary as just shaving my head and having a phase, and really didn't take it seriously. She was under the impression that it would just blow over in a few months. Then it didn't.
I'm not sure if it's because I socially transitioned, because she got more information, because she just "got it", but eventually she got used to it and accepted it. She started using the right name and didn't make a big deal about it, even though she's been vocal since I was a 4 that she didn't like it (I changed my name to a longer, proper version of a childhood nickname but I still go by the same nickname). She stopped calling me "she" and her daughter, even to her friends. It was gradual, but she really got better with it.
Obviously not every parent is going to warm up to you being trans like my mom did. I don't think my dad would have accepted it if he was still alive. But there's hope. So if you just came out and your parents are still confused or not understanding of your gender identity, please don't give up hope. People grow and change, and hopefully you can look back in ten years and see how much your parents tried and grew as people, and hopefully your relationship with them is better. 💗
And if your parents are just shitty, I'll adopt you. I'm your mom now.
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babytelle · 5 months
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Would you dress me up or undress me?
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Quick positivity post for trans people who didn’t get more conventionally attractive after they transitioned!
Trans people who look ‘worse’ or ‘the same’ are wonderful and look great actually.
Conventional beauty standards are exclusionary and flawed, and shouldn’t be the goal anyway- the point of transitioning isn’t to ‘glow up’ by becoming attractive, it’s to become more comfortable with yourself.
Trans people shouldn’t be expected to suddenly become conventionally attractive as part of their transition anyway (look as weird and non-cis as you want! it’s your body!), and photos of ’ugly’ pre-transition people who look ‘better’ after transitioning should not be used to justify to cis people why people should be allowed to transition.
Look the way you want (or the way you pass), not the way beauty standards want you to look! The endless quest to become conventionally attractive is a trap and you don’t have to fall for it when you transition.
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