I’ve been crying over this ad for, like, 18 hours.
I realized “oh wait I used to work in advertising I bet I can find an article written about it with more detail”
I was right!
There is a bit more detail about the grandfather (it’s a good thing, and I’m not going to spoil it, read the article). It’s a small thing; I enjoyed reading it.
From the article: “We want everyone to feel free to celebrate the holidays, giving visibility to a reality that thousands of people face, including the LGBTIQ+ collective who seek a safe space to be and show themselves openly.” -- Úrsula Mejía-Melgar, marketing director for South Europe at Diageo
Hot take: I really like the older trans guy (has to be a trans guy) sees younger trans guy binding too much/messily cutting his hair etc. and adopting him as a younger brother and helping him transition. I don’t love it as much when it’s cis people cause it feels patronizing but I Love it when it’s another trans guy
I think a lot of the difference between when its a cis person vs another transmasc is that transmasc characters are so often the Only transmasc in the media they are in. like we are depicted as isolated and never as a part of a community, so seeing two transmascs interact + there being shared experiences and knowledge focuses more on transmascs from an inside perspective instead of "look at how Cool and Supportive this cis person is, they have in depth knowledge of binding that the transmasc character doesnt for some reason!"
Recently finished watching Dead End: Paranormal Park and I just gotta gush over it
In particular, the trans representation is so good. It feels very natural and well written, and avoids a lot of pitfalls that I feel a lot of trans characters end up with.
The part I appreciate the most personally is the fact that, throughout the entire show, nothing of Barney's past before he transitioned is shown. Nothing ever says his deadname, not even in a flashback where his transphobic grandmother is "saying those horrible things" to him. No photos ever show what he looked like pre-transition. Nobody ever misgenders him, not even demons.
The writers don't make a big deal out of him being trans, either - it's a perfect balance of making it feel like real representation, without making it feel infantilizing. The only time he outright says he's trans, it's to someone he's grown to consider a close friend, and he moves right along using it to explain a point rather than stopping to give a big explanation on what the definition of transgender is. It's just so refreshing.
All of this makes you really feel that the writers respect Barney's identity. It's a very comforting thing to see; if Barney was a real person rather than a character, he very likely would not want his past self shown off on TV, so the fact that it's never brought up and everything rolls along fine without it makes it feel so trans-positive.
Character in Media: Has very clear trans-coded traits such as a change of identity, a dead name/past life that causes stress when remembered, being outcast for being different, obsessive about their appearance, played by a trans actor, etc
Trans People: Damn, this character like me frfr
Cishet People: Uhm, actually they're never explicitly stated to be transgender in the media, so you're projecting. This character is cisgender and I am not projecting because I am unable to.
(Actual conversation I had with a "friend") (We do not talk anymore)
I love the "came back wrong" trope but from the opposite side.
Imagine you are dead. And then you are RIPPED from the embrace of decay into the world of the living again. Your memories are hazy and you don't recognize any of these people, but they act like they're close to you? Like they love you? So you try to get your memories back, to act like you belong here, but everybody tries to forget you died. And you can't. It is omnipresent. And just trying to grapple with that fact pushes the people who "love" you away, and they're incapable of understanding, and they're so confused, what's wrong N̶̄̀O̶͛͗T̷̉́ ̷͋͝Y̴̎̌Ȍ̴̈U̸̓R NÄM̴̃͑E̵̾̇? And you just need them to understand, you aren't that person! You aren't! You don't know who that person is! You don't know why any of this is happening, but they're unwilling to bend, they keep insisting you are that person, your memories will come back, everything will be normal again, and you want to scream and cry and claw yourself open to show them you're different. Your existence as a being wholly separate from whoever you "used to be" is a sin unto itself. All you can do is scrabble for life and to them, you're killing whoever they loved to do it.
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since this is currently kind of topical i feel like i should really recommend this Extremely good queer media analysis video essay by a small trans youtuber that i fortunately just got recommended to me by youtube! very well made and extremely thoughtful
Seriously: When do you ever just sit and think about the fact that Ian Katz of the Guardian (recently boycotted for its transphobia) and the BBC (routinely protested for its transphobia) was married to Justine Roberts of Mumsnet (a primary radicalizing hub for UK transphobia) for twenty-five years? Most people don’t! I didn’t, until I heard it from the poet Roz Kaveney during an interview. It got trimmed from that piece, and I have been trying to wedge it into different pieces ever since, to no avail. Sometimes, when I talk to other trans people, I will mention that a top Guardian and/or BBC editor was married to the founder of Mumsnet; almost always, when I mention this, I will find out that they didn’t know.
Here’s something else that happens when I tell a trans person that Ian Katz (Channel 4, BBC Newsnight, the Guardian) was married to Justine Roberts (Mumsnet) for 25 years. They will, without fail, make the following noise: Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. Then they’ll inhale a little, and then they’ll do a controlled little exhale. Then they’ll say yeah, that explains it. Or, yeah. That makes total sense.
This is what a mean by sloppy treatment by fans. Mutsuki's character had everything to do with being trans. He flat out states wanting to live as a man and the official manga translation uses masculine pronouns for him. He even uses a chest binder! Just because Mutsuki's abuse was the trigger for his gender dysphoria, that doesn't invalidate his trans identity. It's annoying how preop trans people constantly have their identities questions.
Yamato also refers to himself by masculine pronouns and Luffy and even KAIDO respects said pronouns. Yamato is a man.